Saturday, 31 January 2015

PLAY BY A DIFFERENT SET OF RULES


The only thing that stands between a man and what he wants from life is often the will to try it and the faith to believe that it is possible...
Richard M. De Vos, Billionaire Entrepreneur.

If you think more in critical terms, you will observe that your mind does not have to work very hard to believe all the negative stuff you think about yourself. It is an easier trend to believe you are not good enough, not able to trail- blaze, not to be accepted and all of those negative thoughts. 

You see, most of the improvements in your life come from changing the negative beliefs or thought patterns you have about yourself and your potential. Personal growth comes from changing your beliefs about what you expect you can do and about what is possible for you. 

The supremely confident person thinks, beliefs, and expects with every cell and fibre of their being that they will succeed and win in life. Self-doubters always expect to fail or lose or they simply stay neutral and accept what ever life offers to them. That is not the life of confidence. The call to be confident demands that you choose a path and decisively affirm that you will receive nothing short of that. Yes! Yes!! Yes!!! That is the confident person.

A lot of people do not like it when you are confident. Especially when they know your "history" and how they used to come to your aid. They feed you with negative affirmation and you have not bothered to ask yourself why? They want you to become cynical like them. They want you to lower your expectations so that you won't become disappointed. They make statements like "come on you need to be rational, you need to face reality, that is the way it works here, your expectations are too high, face the fact bro/sis..." 

People have defied the norm and have broken standards. People have achieved unfathomable greatness against all odds and if you listen to their story you will notice a consistent antecedents of confident affirmation even in the face of road blocks.

Friday, 30 January 2015

QUOTE FOR THE DAY

NO REGRETS...
BECAUSE GOD KNOWS THE BEST...

DEALING WITH THE NEXT-LEVEL CHALLENGE


I believe it's the heart desire of vision driven people to advance and make progress in specific areas of interest. As we cultivate these desires in our hearts, it is important that we get ready to yield to the experiences that comes with a next -level increase. 

We celebrate our victories when we have our heart desires met, but on a second thought, those hearts desires have generated a next level challenge which we have to deal with at different points. For instance you were trusting God for a child, and now the child has come, you have celebrated the answered prayer but you have reduced hours of sleep, you are a bit stressed out, sometimes you wish you could hand the baby over to your mum and have some good sleep you know. The idea is this, the desire has been met, and the challenges are there to train you as you deal with them. 

My younger brother who has been enthusiastic about studying in the UK after going through the rigorous processes is now living  his dreams and has to deal with the challenges of attending classes every week day, reading long academic papers, doing critical writing and analysis, meeting deadlines,  dealing with the weather and everything that has to do with his new experience. 

The essence of this piece is to give us heads-up about the challenging component that comes with our next-level increase to enable us internally, emotionally and spiritually get ready to learn from that reasonable ideal. 

Rise above the norm!!!

Thursday, 29 January 2015

WHAT TIME IS IT?

Hello friends, hope you all are having a great year already. Just few weeks ago, we wished our families and friends a happy new year- with high expectations.  And few days from now, we will say bye bye to January and we will usher in another month. The year is already one month gone. What have you achieved so far? Are you still lying down all covered up in dust? You haven't stood up yet? Are you still crying over those spilled milk? Are you still lost? 

Whatever you may be going through, I want you to know that time waits for no man.  And while you are still there wallowing in self pity,  your mates have gone far, already achieving their set goals. There's still time for you my friend. Stand up and dust yourself up. 

There's greatness inside of you. Why not spark up that little light in you. You have cried enough, regretted enough, blamed enough. Now, it is time for you to do yourself some good by setting up your life. Get up and move my friend. 

When you have not invested your life, you will attract poverty. Arise and shine for your light is come!  It is time to set the ball rolling.  

Wednesday, 28 January 2015

BASING YOUR DECISIONS ON VALUES


A friend of mine boldly told me that her mother said, "To live long you must be selfish". I pondered over this statement for a while and i wondered why and how such line of thought could spring up from a motherly figure. I am not being judgemental but then  I thought about It and as much as I could relate to that but I would like to share my analysis and paradigm.

Possibly she might have had her shares of disappointments, heartbreaks, betrayals and an a consistent negative response to her genuine motives. However this piece is neither to agree nor disagree with her opinion because most often than not we are shaped by our experiences and choices.   

As much as I respect the underpinning rationale behind her assumptions and choice of dealing with her experiences, it is ideal to understand how much our rash ideologies and actions affect the people around us. Responding to the issues of life from the stand point of how it affects us alone can push us into formulating irrational concepts and maladaptive behaviours that pattern our lives even as we transfer such ideologies to our younger generation. That might not be the initial motive but it happens any ways.
   
Paul speaking to the church in Corinth admonished like minds with gusto and explained how the lawful nature of activities and interest doesn't connote its tendency to edify. Our approaches to life circumstances might sound like best fit or best practice in our eyes, but totally out of touch with values that build a purpose driven life. 

A lot of folks have become the victim of irrational approaches of dealing with hurts and ill treatment. Don't join the bang waggon to react negatively because you have been mistreated because friend, that action might impact negatively on the next person. I heard a friend say that if you want to revenge, dig two graves because you might fall into it.

Friends, let us see life beyond what affects us because selfishness is the smallest way to live life. Your life begins to gain positive influence when you look beyond yourself. Selfishness speaks the language of "me, myself, and I". Align your thoughts, actions and decisions to influence rather than deprive. Impact your world with the right values against all odds. 

Despite the law of flotation, fishes swim without drowning; The law of gravity not withstanding eagles soar; You are born to win irrespective of the challenges of life.

Conquer your world!!!

Tuesday, 27 January 2015

YOUR INTENTIONAL PROGRESS PLAN


It takes a glowing bulb to attract night insects, just let your light shine and kings of all climes will locate you. Their coming to you is not limited by space, location or geographical propinquity; it takes your radiance to attract them. Shine all you can, that’s all you need to do.

Playmaking Techniques

BRAINSTORMING Creating Ideas 

EXTRACTING DRAMATIC POTENTIAL FROM THE STIMULUS MATERIAL Using given things to create and include in the performance 

RESEARCHING Searching for ideas to turn into scenes 

IMPROVISATION From the research and brainstorming creating scenes 

REHEARSING From the scenes, practicing what you have done

BLOCKING Running through the performance learning the order 

CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT After practicing and running through work on the characters

ROLE PLAY Playing other characters to work on your own 

SCRIPTING Make sure that each person knows what they have to say each time.
EDITING Work out which scenes don't really have an impact, and scrap them.

REFINING Putting the final touches on the scenes

REFLECTING Watching Back on the performance.

EVALUATING Writing about what worked and what went well in the performance. 

Culled from allthewordsthatinspire@gmail.com

WISDOM FOR LIVING

YOUR MIND SEES FARTHER THAN YOUR PHYSICAL EYES. DO NOT MAKE YOUR MIND A DUMPING GROUND. MAKE IT A FRUITFUL GROUND. YOU CAN BE WHO YOU WANT TO BE WHEN YOU CAN SEE IT WITH THE EYES OF YOUR MIND. 

NEME...

Monday, 26 January 2015

WISDOM FOR LIVING

"A MAN WHO HONOURS HIS MOTHER, WILL GIVE HIS WIFE A LIFE OF ROYALTY. SO WATCH OUT HOW HE TREATS HIS MOTHER". 

DO NOT JUST EXIST.....LIVE


A lot of suggestions showed up regarding the definition of the word "Exist". Some perceive it to connote "having an objective reality or being" others think it means to live, especially under harsh conditions. I quite agree with the later definition because I have seen a lot of people who walk on the surface of this earth that are just existing. They have given up and have accepted the situation as their "fate or destiny" as the cases differ. They argue about politics, sit down for hours engaging in meaningless conversations, discuss their issues, not objectively to profer solution but to continue from where they stopped in the blame-game defence mechanism. Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with discussing who the next president will be and the possibilities of giving you a better democracy, but friend, there is a life that is bigger than that. 

The glory which you seek unfortunately isn't transferable, but it's within your power to generate it from within. 

Life is beyond you merely existing and it's time for you to start living. You might say that you are alive and well and you have a good job and family is doing well and all of that so this message isn't for you. Think about these; is there something in which you derive fulfilment from you have stopped doing maybe due to your busy schedule? Are you happy with the kind of job you are doing? Are you just on the job or are you maximising your talents and special abilities? Are you watching things happen or are you contributing to making them happen? Is your spouse thanking GOD for the gift of a special "You" or has he or she joined the queue of those that have regrets in marriage? Do your children feel the impact of your parenting style...the love, the corrections, that kind of training the Bible spoke of? Are you still struggling with that habit? Have you been unable to let go of that ugly experience and move on.

The kind of life designed for us is to be lived from the full to the overflow, but we cannot enjoy that kind of life when we practically "exist".
Live! Live!! Live my friend! 
The life wouldn't work until you work it. Stop waiting for the glory to come, generate the glory from inside you and shine bright as the light you are. 

Aspire!!!

Sunday, 25 January 2015

REFLECTION


How would you rate your ability to control your emotions, to pause before acting or reacting? How would your friends, children, or work colleagues rate your emotional control? 

Has someone deeply offended you recently? How did you respond? Were you magnanimous? How would you respond differently if again given the same circumstances? 

One of the highest forms of magnanimity is forgiveness. Is forgiveness a consistent part of who you are as a person? 

When life comes at us hard, sometimes a portion of properly placed humor can help us to adapt. Have you learnt to laugh even in the midst of challenging moments?

Saturday, 24 January 2015

QUOTE FOR THE DAY


YOUR PAST IS NEVER A GOOD PLACE TO VISIT. IT IS WISE NOT TO TAKE A PEEP INTO THE PAST, BECAUSE THERE IS NOTHING GOOD TO FIND THERE, ONLY DOUBTS, FEARS, GUILTS, MISTAKES. 

NEME...

CAN ONE POSSIBLY HIDE ONE'S SUCCESS?

Happy weekend friends. Just to share with you a little conversation I had with a colleague yesterday. Read below:

Enkay: "I have come to realise that when you are happy and successful in your marriage or career or you are succeeding generally, people (friends) are not genuinely happy for you. But when u have a lot to complain about, advisers will be flowing in left, right and centre. I feel it is safe if one keeps some of those things going well for one with one and loved ones and do not make it so public for people to see". 

Here's my response:

Well... the truth is "a gold fish does not have a hiding place". So your success always announces you, no matter how hard you try to hide it. Then I ask, what do you do? Just be wise and hide yourself and all your successes to GOD.  Then and only then will you be safe! 

Do you think my colleague is right? Do you think am right as well? Please share your thoughts.

Friday, 23 January 2015

LADIES, WHY DO YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED?


Do you want to get married because:

You are of age?
Your mates are getting married?
You want to run away from your parents strict discipline?
You want to have sex freely without feeling guilty?
You need a man to support you financially?
You are being pressurised to get married?
You cannot face some challenges alone?
You are lonely?
You are not getting any younger? and alot more wrong reasons

I believe these questions are very familiar. But I would like you to pause and reflect. Marriage is an institution of enjoyment not endurance (of pains, sorrow, bitterness to mention but a few). You need to get it right as to why you really want to get married, but definitely not for the above wrong reasons. 

GOD is the originator of marriage and the perfect match maker. So it will be wise if you consult HIM. Your marriage must be ordained by GOD before you can be assured that nothing can and will ever go wrong no matter what. 

Time to reflect!

A STORY BY LI YUNG KU, AS TOLD TO MANUEEL KOMROFF


One day, when I was about five, I told my grandfather a lie. It was not a very black lie. My grandfather asked our gardner to bring a long ladder and place it against the front of the roof. When the ladder was firmly in place he said to the gardner, "Our boy has taken to leaping from housetops. The ladder is for him to use when he so desires. "I knew at once what this meant, for one of the proverbs in our distinct was: "A lie is a leap from a house-top."

"I brooded in silence. It was awkward to have the ladder before the front door. I began to fear that it would be there forever if I did not do something.

I found my grandfather reading a book and I went quietly up to him and buried my face in his lap. "Grandpa," I said, "we do not need the ladder any more."

He seemed very happy. He called the gardner and said to him: "Take the ladder away at once. Our boy does not leap from house-tops. " I will never forget that incident.

Deceit breeds tension whereas honesty builds trust. Whether in word or in deed, if we have integrity our intent cannot be to deceive.

Excerpts from Everyday greatness by Stephen Covey. 


Just go ahead and tell the truth. You will feel freer, better, and more in charge. Neme

Thursday, 22 January 2015

DID YOU KNOW THAT PROBLEMS FEAR ACTIONS?


The problems you encounter do not define you. What matters is how you deal with these problems. Your ability to face your problems and conquer them makes it easier to handle challenges. Most importantly, you must identify what these problems are, because "you cannot fight what you are not aware of". Problems fear actions. These problems will remain until you take necessary steps (actions) to bring them to an end. Be determined to face your problems head on!  

Please share with us how you were able to defeat your problems.

WISDOM FOR LIVING- LOVE



LOVE IS STRONGER THAN SICKNESS. IT IS STRONGER THAN DISEASE. IT IS STRONGER THAN POVERTY. BUILD YOUR DAILY AGENDA AROUND WHAT YOU TRULY AND CONSCIOUSLY LOVE.

Wednesday, 21 January 2015

VALUE YOURSELF


I marvel at people who say " I do not have a price tag. I do not expect anything in return. I just want to live my life". And I really wonder where they got this mean idea from. If you do not have a price tag, then anyone can afford you. You are not valued. You can always be used and dumped. You will never be appreciated. That ideology of not expecting anything in return simply means you are not sure of your own self and as such you do not regard yourself. We are living in a world whereby you are treated the way you present yourself. If you are not treated with love, respect, appreciation, then there is every possibility that you might have marked yourself down! It is never too late to get back on. You must love yourself first before you can be loved by anyone else. By so, you will know when you are not getting the right treatment, love, care, affection, appreciation. Life is too beautiful not to be appreciated and live happily knowing that you are worth loving. Do not buy any idea which says you should not expect love and care and good will in return when you give them. That is a lie that keeps bringing you down. It is very unnatural not to expect. Shake it off, and put a value on yourself and you will see that you will only attract people with great values who will love and respect you. When you value yourself, it will be hard for someone to devalue you.

You deserve!!!

WISDOM FOR LIVING- THE BEST GIFTS


THE BEST GIFTS DO NOT ALWAYS ARRIVE IN SILK. THEY ARE MOSTLY DISGUISED. 
NEME..

Tuesday, 20 January 2015

THE ESSENCE OF QUALITY



In the race for quality, there is no finish line. David T. Kearns

Who doesn't like the feel of quality? Whether it comes from a well-made car, a fine woven piece of clothing, a well carved furniture, a stable building, a delectable meal,  an intricate technological device, a precise musical performance, a finely tuned work team, or a form of appearance, quality has an appealing feel. 

In all of the desire to either deliver quality or sustain it, it also has its price as demonstrated by some persons in their various fields of fulfilment. 

Johnny Carson who for thirty years tickles the delights of enormous television audiences. His smile and laughter were obviously contagious as nightly he relieved listeners of their days stresses. But while he made he made it appear so effortless, in "Here's Johnny," we learnt just how hard Johnny worked to maintain his high standards of quality. 

The quality of what we produce or the services we render as an employer, employee, entrepreneur or a small or large business, is simply a reflection of the resources you invest in production. If you have the culture of delivering excellent and quality services, people will naturally trust your products and become more comfortable with relying on the brand promise of your firm. This doesn't have anything to do with how big or small the firm is, it has everything to do with your style of delivery and the reassurance you being to the table. 

As much as I enjoy variety with regards to my hair do, I will always go to a particular place to braid my hair because of the feel, the treatment, the care and most of all the quality of service I will receive.

Therefore, as you set out to render service to your potential customers, raise your quality base, add something that will make your customer or client want to come back. And most of all, let it come from within you and timely because fake attitudes are easy to identify.

Dare to be!!! Photo credit : Woodsy

Monday, 19 January 2015

WHY COUPLES NEED TO KEEP WORKING ON THEIR MARRIAGES



Many marriages struggle when one or both spouses start to show destructive behaviour. This happened with Karen and me. We got married at 19 years old. Neither of us had a clue about marriage. We blamed each other for what was wrong with our marriage.
But blaming doesn't help in a destructive marriage. The only way to fix it is by recognizing the behavior and correcting it. 

There are four basic reasons people become destructive.

The first is ignorance. Some people just don't know any better. This was the case with us. We didn't know how to succeed in relationships. When you grow up in a broken home, you don't have a successful marriage to learn from. Your only models are failed marriages and unhealthy relationships.
We've never met any couple who got married in hopes of getting divorced. That's crazy. But so few people have the resources to succeed. That's why our ministry works so hard to teach people about marriage. We want to provide them the tools to move past their ignorance.

Destructive behavior also comes from past hurts. All of us have pain in our past. Maybe it's a self-esteem issue or unforgiveness. These unhealed hurts impact how we relate to others and can damage a marriage.
We have to deal with this pain by being honest. We must admit it by saying to our spouse, "I'm hurting." Left in the darkness, shame and pain can be a breeding ground for the devil. We have to expose them to the light of God's healing and then take responsibility for our actions. We must forgive those who have hurt us.

Bad friends and negative influences also cause destructive behavior. 1 Corinthians 15:33 says "evil company corrupts good habits." If you spend time with people who lie to their spouses, cheat on their marriage, and consider divorce an option…then you will do the same things. Your friends predict your future.
Attending church is one of the best ways to avoid this pack mentality. No one is perfect in church, but it's a place where all of us admit we have issues and have decided to let Jesus handle them. At church, I can surround myself with a group of friends who want me to do the right thing.

Finally, defensiveness causes destructive behavior. The marriage researcher John Gottman has learned to predict divorce accurately based on certain characteristics. One of those traits is defensiveness—not allowing a spouse the right to complain.
When someone is trying to tell you something about yourself, defensiveness slams the door shut by saying, "You're the problem, not me." Emotionally healthy spouses can be told anything. Functional families can say anything to each other. Defensiveness destroys this kind of intimacy and good will.
What about your marriage? 

Examine your relationship for these destructive behaviors. If you recognize ignorance, past hurts, negative friends, or defensiveness, take responsibility for it. Give it to God. Ask Him to help you change that behavior.
The result will be a much healthier marriage.
Blessings.

Destructive Husbands and Wives | Marriage Today | Jimmy Evans. 

Photo Credit: Scottsynde

WISDOM FOR LIVING


YOU ARE NOT ASSIGNED TO EVERYBODY.
YOU ARE NOT ASSIGNED EVERYWHERE.
YOU CANNOT SOLVE EVERY KIND OF PROBLEM.

...MIKE MURDOCK

Sunday, 18 January 2015

WHY WE NEED TO DRINK WATER



Water is the main component of the body composed of between 55 and 78 percent water. We enjoy great health benefits when we consume adequate and regular quantity of water. As an added advantage to its tasteless, odourless, and colourless state, it has zero level carbohydrates, calories, fat or sugar which makes it the most health liquid to be consumed. 

Further more, the institute of Medicine has determined the adequate intake of total beverage per day to be about three litres or 13 cups for men and 2.2 litres or nine cups for women. This recommended quantities obviously highlight the very need to ensure the regular intake of water to keep the body well hydrated for proper functioning of every cell in the body.

I will share with you some of the research based and realistic health benefits of drinking water.
One of the obvious benefits we have enjoyed is that it aids in proper digestion of food and prevents constipation because it improves the functioning of the gastrointestinal tract. When adequate water is consumed, you boost your metabolism and helps proper breakdown of food, helps your digestive system to work well and promotes regular bowel movements. 
In clinical trial, scientists found that drinking two eight-ounce water prior to meals can help suppress appetite and helce support your weight loss efforts. When you drink a lot of water, it fills your stomach and reduces the tendency to eat more.

Furthermore, adequate consumption of water has numerous benefits. Ensure you drink water regularly in order to enjoy a healthier life. Remember your health is your wealth.

Inspire!!!

Saturday, 17 January 2015

QUOTE FOR THE DAY


CHAMPIONS SPEND THEIR TIME BUILDING THEIR DREAMS. EVEN WHEN CRITICS ATTACK THEM.

NEME.

Friday, 16 January 2015

QUOTE FOR THE DAY


DO NOT EXPECT TO HAVE A HARVEST WHEN YOU HAVE NOT PLANTED ANY SEED.
        NEME...


Thursday, 15 January 2015

LADIES...THIS IS A GOOD MAN


I cannot agree less... This is a must read.


Maya Gunawan's Photos

QUOTE FOR THE DAY


YOU CAN GET IT IF YOU REALLY WANT. BUT YOU MUST TRY. TRY AND TRY. YOU'LL SUCCEED AT LAST.

GOOD BETTER BEST....

I can vividly remember one of the songs we sang in our primary school days "good better best, I shall never rest, until my good is better, and my better best." I know a lot of you can resonate with that song, and I can imagine you smiling as you take a quick stroll down memory lane, remembering the way you as u sang the song along with friends and matched down to class after words of admonition from a significant order in school. 

I can tell you that as at then, those words and songs were more of daily ritual because you have to be part of the assembly and morning devotion as the case may be. They barely made sense to me as an enthusiastic, playful child obviously because my mental astuteness could neither understand the degree to which it was relevant at that tender moment in my life nor apply it to my everyday life. 

Significantly, as I most often than not, in retrospect, I bask in the thoughts of the words that I heard as a little child and it's amazing to know that I still hear those words till today...the only difference is in attitude, personality, and delivery style of the instructor.  

I was working on a new project I picked interest in a couple of days ago. I was so excited when I produced my first result in baking for the very first time. I used the picture as my display picture. I went ahead to share with siblings and some like-minded creatures and amazingly I got some applause and encouragement.

I woke up the next day, enthusiastic and ready  to try new ways of doing the same thing and surprisingly the childish song sprang from my spirit...I started singing "good better best, I shall never rest, until my good is better and my better best." Few minutes later, I busted out in laughter...never mind what I remembered.

Friend, you can never get out of life the good, the better, and the best of yourself and the works of your hands if you stay complacent, fold your arms and expect a DHL delivery from heaven.

Life will only give to you what you decisively decide to have no less of. 
The world is yet to see the best of you emerge only if you can dare boldly to respond fully to the demands of your abilities.

Let your light illuminate the world.

You deserve!!!

Wednesday, 14 January 2015

QUOTE FOR THE DAY


ANYTIME YOU GET DISTRACTED, THERE IS A HIGH POSSIBILITY OF LOSING SOMETHING; KEEP YOUR FACE LIKE THAT OF A FLINT!

REAGAN CHAMPION..

LET'S QUIT THE JUDGEMENT SERIES


As we live life, it's important to put into cognizance the way we treat and respond to people whether they are engaged in the right activities, or their actions are off tangent with the right principles. 

Here's a modest proposal: Make up your mind that for the rest of this year, you wouldn't judge your friends and people around you no matter what you experience with them or what you see them express, rather, offer to help the right kind of help that will salvage the circumstance. 
Buying into judgement blurs your heart from seeing the good in people who are designed to contribute meaningfully to your life assignment. Take note of your thoughts and the things you say. Be completely aware of the times when you are being overly critical, and ask yourself why you feel that way. Are your thoughts rooted in reality, or are they coming from a place of fear and insecurity? Once you notice yourself being judgemental, you can take actions to reverse this self-destructive behaviour.

it's a simple fact that people spend significant amount of time together tend to pick up each other's behaviours and characteristics. If you have friends or acquaintances who are harshly critical to themselves and other people, chances are you will begin to do same. Therefore it's important to sieve people you associate with because you might not even be aware of the level of influence you are yielding to. 

Compassion is the key to breaking the pattern of being overly judgemental. See the good in people and if you need to offer advice, do it with clear motives without an undertone of judgement.

Let your light keep shinning!!!

Tuesday, 13 January 2015

ATTITUDE TUNE-UP


1. Count your blessings daily, and give thanks.

2. Get proper rest and exercise, and start eating healthier.

3. Do not let petty office or school politics have power over your personal or professional success. Monitor what you hear, what you read, and what you say. These three components determine the outcome of your life.

4. Set aside personal time with family and close friends.

5. Help someone in need. It helps bring out your true spirit.

6. Feed your spirit daily; read and listen to inspiring books and teachings.

7. Discover the motives that motivates you, and remember, motivation is not permanent.

8. Reflect on your victories-things you've forgotten that were special. Rekindle the fire that helps you turn your right attitude into actions. 

9. Create an upbeat, positive greeting that builds enthusiasm for you and everyone around you.

10. Develop a clear vision, lock into your purpose and passion, and set goals with deadlines.

Monday, 12 January 2015

50 REASONS TO EXERCISE

We all know the importance of exercise. Read below some interesting reasons exercise is beneficial to our healthy living.



Tridosha Wellness's photo

QUOTE FOR THE DAY

WHEN YOU ARE SCARED OF SOMETHING DIFFERENT,  JUST TRY IT. TRY IT.

Sunday, 11 January 2015

QUOTE FOR THE DAY


REVENGE DOES NOT SOLVE PROBLEMS, RATHER IT DESTROYS...PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, SPIRITUALLY AND EMOTIONALLY! 

REFLECTIONS



We create our own breaks as we take responsibility for our life-and that includes working hard and speaking up for ourselves.

It gave Betty Ford no advantage to blame others for her problems or make excuses. Do you ever catch yourself blaming your problems or limitations on others, genetics or your environment?

Maya Angelou did not allow adverse circumstances drive her life and attitudes. Do you let circumstances drive what you do in life, or do you create your own circumstances.

Chuck Norris showed initiative and created his own breaks by standing up for himself and promising to do better. What level of initiative do you demonstrate when times are tough?

Pause and Think!!!

Saturday, 10 January 2015

Friday, 9 January 2015

DOES OPPORTUNITY COME JUST ONCE?


I grew up hearing this saying "Opportunity comes but once". In fact I was always scared whenever I heard people use this saying or when someone said it to me. One day, I realised that this saying is not true...or will I say I stopped believing in this saying. This saying has led a lot of people into terrible mistakes. People choose to suffer and smile and endure a lot of pain because they would not want to miss the so called opportunity. And I ask, does opportunity come just once? Kindly share your thoughts on this subject.

DISCIPLINE


Life is  tons of discipline- Robert Frost.

Taking charge of your life requires discipline. Bottom line is that, it's quite a huge task to completely and consistently yield to discipline. This fundamental component that plays key role in your level of success demands the mental stamina to overcome empty passions and faulty habits. It also requires the fortitude to resist the push and pull of many temptations that otherwise lure us towards meaningless sideshows. But more than anything else, it demands a relentless focus on what priorities.
It's a fruitless venture to live carelessly and allow fate to determine the outcome of our lives. The three dimensional areas we have looked at within the past few days work together as we deploy them consistently. Taking responsibility,  being courageous and disciplining yourself to focus on activities that are meaningful will most likely pay off materially, structurally, and otherwise.

As we do the necessary, sometimes we will be faced with obstacles from opposing choices-choices that go against our essence and value. This vivid example is demonstrated by Joe Paterno in "The Man Who Said No to one million dollars. One of collegiate sport's most accomplished coaches, certainly much of Joe's success can be attributed to the discipline he requires from his athletes, both on and off the field. But those who know him best know that an even greater portion of his success is to be attributed to the discipline he demands on himself. 

Therefore the onus is on you to keep your face like that of a flint. Decide to limit the extraneous variables that tend to cause an impediment on your schedule. Every incoming call is urgent but not important. Write down the vision, make it clear and allocate resources of time, mental energy, spiritual development towards set objectives.

You deserve!!!

Thursday, 8 January 2015

A MOTHER'S INFLUENCE


Mothers have great influence over their children, and this huge influence plays a key role in determining the outcome of a child's life.

As you may be aware, most people who we celebrate as authorities in their field gave credits to their mothers for being their primary source of motivation and inspiration. Look at the likes of: George Washington, who was the first president of the United States of America,  we are told that his mother was pious; Sir Walter Scott, who was a Scottish historical novelist, playwright and a poet, his mother was a lover of music and poetry. But it were not so in the case of Nero Caesar. He was a Roman Emperor. He was one of the most despicable characters on the stage of human history and one of the most infamous men that ever lived. He was cruel and merciless, and we are told that his mother was a murderess. This list goes on.

"A mother's life is like a mirror with which the children look  at themselves"(quote from me). When you look into a mirror, does the person on the other side of the mirror impress you?  That is how a mother's life is to her children- when the children look at the life of their mother,  it is what they see her do that they will emulate- whether good or bad- it's as simple as that. If it were not so,  how be it that when children are well behaved, disciplined and generally good, people give credits to their mother, but if otherwise, the mother is blame? This is a responsibility only GOD has answers to and it cannot be questioned. 

That is why a mother figure is important in the growing up of a child or children. As mothers,  let us wake up to this call and know that we have a big role to play in ensuring that we raise Godly children who will give glory to GOD and make this world a better place. 

Mothers need to be careful with the information they feed their children. The children know and absorb whatever they learn from their mother.
It could be character, honesty, temperance, kindness, hard work, love, positive attitudes or meanness, bitterness, hate and any negative attitude. An adage says"It is the world you let your children into that they will grow into.

Wednesday, 7 January 2015

HAVING COURAGE


Courage is the quality of a confident character not to be afraid or intimidated easily but without  being incautious or inconsiderate. There is a connection between courage and wisdom. Most importantly, courage can be displayed in heroic, visible ways, or in quiet, private battles we fight when attempting to conquer inner fears. 

In the journey of life, courage plays a very key role in helping us advance even in the midst of threatening circumstances. However, our display of courage not only reveals our state of heart but exposes our content of character. 

A couple of people have displayed courage in heroic and seemingly small or insignificant ways, because our stories and life experiences  have formed us to a very large extent. 
Having a deeper "yes" burning inside gives us the courage to fight and defeat fear and run towards "something better," including our dreams and the principles we stand for. 

REFLECTIONS:

Think of a specific situation in which you are currently involved that required courage. If you were to visualise yourself being courageous in that situation, what are some specific words you might use or actions you might see yourself exhibiting?
What are some of your common fears? What action have you taken to bring them down?

The essence of maturity is the ability to balance courage with consideration...that's where wisdom comes in. Is your courage tempered with good judgement and tact, or do people find your boldness obnoxious?

You deserve!!!

Tuesday, 6 January 2015

QUIT FEAR...TRY SOME MORE!


Hello There.... This week marks the beginning of a woking year in 2015 because  most organizations resumed from the christmas and new year break. 
As I interfaced with a few persons with regard to plans and anticipated goals for the year, amazingly the feedbacks I got were very different given the divergent ideologies, perceptions and faith levels of folks. Apparently, some are excited to hit the market place, while some are filled with fear....of the the unknown, fear of failing...again, fear of fear of making mistakes, and exude anxiety-filled comments.
They are neither encouraged nor inspired for reasons or excuses they have decided to hold on to. They do not even know where to start because they are overwhelmed by circumstances around them...bills to pay, intensive work to juggle with, habits that haven't been dealt with, shaky relationship, questionable motives of people who come around...and all and all and all. 
However, in the midst of all these, the profound truth about fear is that it has two meanings: Forget Everything And Run OR Face Everything And Rule..The choice is ours! Fear is a terrible thing and you cannot afford to let it take the best of you this year. There are so much at stake to be explored and achieved.
The year is still fresh and the land is green. Fear can never let you see the possibilities of attempting, let alone winning. I know that feeling of not wanting to leave your comfort zone because you do not want to try something and lose. But the truth is, if that thing is worth winning, why not give it a try some more. Most of the successful people we know did not just become successful, they were once called "failures", but one thing was significant about them. They refused to let fear stand in their way of trying some more. From my experience, one of the ways I was able to conquer fear was "To take a decisive action.  
When I was wallowing in fear and did not know what to do, I felt like there was nothing left to achieve or try out, I finally realised that I was only a "decision" away from my quitting fear. Then I knew that the fear I felt was only a mirage. It never existed, even though I felt it did. Once you make a decision to succeed, you must commit to doing whatever it takes positively to make it happen and refuse to take no for an answer. Anything can be achieved if you set your mind to it and not let fear tell you otherwise.

Monday, 5 January 2015

TAKING RESPONSIBILITY



I believe that every right implies a responsibility;every opportunity an obligation, every possession a duty.
Nelson Rockefeller


When life doesn't go the direction we planned or we inadvertently make mistakes, it is so easy to make excuses, blame every circumstance associated with the event, assign blame to parents for not paying our bills, argue that the circumstances were flawed and all of that. But then, we only make progress in life to the extent that we take full responsibility for the choices we make and the turn out of activities. 

When we make the choice to take responsibility for our lives, we be on top of our game and put forth the initiative necessary to create out own circumstances. 


Sometimes when I share my experiences in the journey of creating my own life circumstances, some folks tend to marvel at how the events connect perfectly, very timely and in tandem with anticipated results. That's what you experience when you take responsibility for your life by making adequate plans, exploring opportunities around you, asking relevant questions in order to gain clarity, moving with confidence, making the right confessions and above all, having faith in God and in yourself which gives essence to the efforts you make.


Betty Ford's (former first lady of the United States), brave and revealing description of her battle with addiction which took place at a time when such personal confessions were publicly disclosed. Although she resisted any suggestions that liquor had contributed to her illness, all she could confess to was over medication of legal drugs prescribed by doctors. But then she made it at the end because she took responsibility for herself through her openness, genuineness, and example. Thousands of people have followed her footsteps and "made it" as well. 


Being responsible is a safer place to be than playing the victim and making excuses. Say "NO" to excuses that have limited you from exploring the beautiful life that you have. 


Say "NO" to doubts and move with confidence towards the visions and dreams. Don't interpret life using your five senses, look beyond what you see and transcend.
You Deserve!!!

Sunday, 4 January 2015

TAKING CHARGE


Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there. Will Rogers

The search for meaning inspires us to create a blueprint for the contributions we want to make in life, a daily standard against which we can chart our course and measure progress. But the reality is that nothing of substance will happen until we take charge of our life and accept responsibility for bringing our dreams into fruition. These efforts require fearless discipline and focused energy on what matters most. 

Principles that enable us to take charge of life include:

Responsibility

Courage

Discipline

Join me in this ride as I discuss them in detail in my subsequent updates.

Saturday, 3 January 2015

MIND WHAT YOU SPEAK. ...PART ONE



I remember as a kid, my mom pasted some wise sayings in our room and she made me and my siblings memorise them everyday. One of those articles said "what you speak is what you are...be positive". As children, we had little or no knowledge about what my mom was trying to do, nor did we understand the meaning of those wise sayings even when she tried explaining them to us. But one thing was significant,  my siblings and I were excited reading and craming those articles on the wall, which later on became a great help to us. We literally started being mindful of how we talked because of that particular saying..."what you speak is what you are...be positive" even when we did not have a full understanding of what it/they meant. As a result, we realised that "you are what you speak". 

Have you noticed that; those who speak most of prosperity have it? those who speak freedom have it? those who speak health have it? those who speak poverty have it? those who speak sickness have it? This is the law of nature- called "law of attraction". The Bible says, "out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.  What you feed your mind with or the way you feel is your point of attraction. You are a magnet, and the truth is you will continue to attract more and more of what you speak into your life or any situation. What you feel affects what you speak.  The more reason you must surround yourself with positive people. Remember "Iron sharpens iron". If you feel poor, you will attract poverty and if you feel rich, you will attract wealth. If you feel unhappy,  you will attract more unhappiness. If you are a cheat, you will attract a cheat(s) ( remember the story of Jacob and Laban). It is just as simple as that. 

In this new year, it is what you speak that you will get. Choose to speak only words that will edify you, encourage you, motivate you, increase you and help you pursue your dreams. Do not give room to negative feelings which have big control over what comes out from our mouth. Hear what my best scripture says; Numbers 14:28 "As surely as I live, says the LORD,  the very thing I hear you say to my ears, that shall I do". So start speaking your way through! 

Friday, 2 January 2015

IT IS TIME TO DREAM




Someone ones said, That life ends when you stop dreaming and Hope ends when you stop believing... How true! You can never attain that great height if you have never thought or dreamt of it. The same as a farmer, he cannot expect to have a harvest without sowing. Dreams are like seeds. They give birth to opportunities which later produce great success. In this year 2015, I want to let us all know that we have all the time to achieve whatever we desire if we can dream it. The mind is a place where your destiny is birthed. That is why you must guard your mind with only the things that will help you attain that great height you desire(good thoughts). Dreaming invokes more energy, more initiative and more happiness. When you dream, you are half way to achieving your desired goals. Show me a man without a dream, and i will show you a man without purpose. For example, if your dream this year is to have that "single friend" who will stand by your side even when hundreds are against you, you have set a target for yourself. You are now driven by a purpose, which is why you do not need to crowd yourself with friends you are not sure of. You will be careful of the people you let into your life. Having one great friend is a gift anyone who deserves it can ever have. So friends, this is the best time for you to start dreaming. There is no better time to dream than now. 

The good thing about dreaming is: 

It will help you channel the rest of your life for the year and beyond. 
It will help you sieve off the chaffs. 
It will help you strategise. 
It will help you stay focused, meaning that it does not matter what negative poses at your face as long as you have a dream.
It will give you energy to move on. 
It will make you choosy, meaning that it is not every offer that you will accept.
It will make you responsible. You will no longer be "anything goes".

Show me a man who dreams, and I will show you a successful man. Cultivate your mind into dreaming the things that will help you achieve a great 2015. Even if you have lost hope, wake up. It is just the break of dawn. It is not late to have a rethink. It is only dream that can make a man come into a strange land with only a suitcase and later become very successful in the same land! As for me, my dream is to conquer 2015 in every ramifications. So friends, it is time to dream! Happy New Year once again!xxxxx

Thursday, 1 January 2015

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!



Happy New Year friends.  I have been looking forward to the year 2015. I have an exceptional thought and views about the year 2015 even right from when i was a kid. I am so excited to see this year. There is something unique about this year. This year is convincingly great. You cannot afford to entertain any form of doubt. Have you heard any promise concerning this year?  Have you been prophesied to? Do you have plans and visions for this year? Whatever your thoughts are? Hold on to the promises GOD has made to you concerning this year. Because as for me, I am very sure that this year is great. Let your mind be focused on the word of GOD.  Do not try to do anything on your own, that is where you will get it all wrong. The Bible says you should trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.  So if you must succeed this year in all that you have set out this year, make GOD your only source.  There is nothing too hard or too insignificant that you cannot bring to GOD in prayers. Tell HIM everything.  Talk to HIM about your needs. HE is our ever present help. 
Be happy friends. Be excited.  Be expectant. Be watchful.  Be prayerful. Be good. Be well.  
Happy excited great successful 2015 to you all. See you at the top!