Tuesday, 31 March 2015

DID YOU KNOW THAT WHERE YOU ARE DETERMINES WHAT GROWS INSIDE OF YOU?


Have you noticed that when you are in the midst of some friends, you are excited and happy, laughing at different jokes? You also notice that with some friends you share knowledge and ideas, you are lifted and enligtened? Where as, with some friends,  you are moody and the little faith in you gets drained and you are left empty, you are suddenly angry and cannot even explain why. This only tells you that where you are determines what grows inside of you- weeds or flowers, strengths or weakness,  joy or anger and hatred. 

If where you are isn't favouring you,  all you need do is to move away from there. The truth is, whatever you desire for yourself in the nearest future starts with the decision you make now. Stay away from negative people, environment. 

Have a strong will to say no to bad seeds that will eventually grow into thorns.  When you are with the right people, the best comes out of you and the worse part of you dies. 

Some people have stayed long in violent relationships that they have given up on the joy and happiness of a sweet relationship.  No matter the damage that has been done to you,  at least you are still alive to make a difference for yourself and future. Your success is always linked to a "place".

Refuse to settle for the less my friend.

HAVE YOU DISCERNED YOUR GIFTS?

WHAT YOU TRULY LOVE THE MOST IS A CLUE TO A GREAT GIFT INSIDE OF YOU. DISCERN, ACKNOWLEDGE AND EMBRACE IT AND PLAN YOUR LIFE AROUND IT. LET THE TRUE YOU BECOME STRONGER AND NEVER TRY TO BE WHO YOU ARE NOT. YOU CAN NEVER FIND FULFILMENT BEING SOMEONE ELSE.

Monday, 30 March 2015

EARNESTLY PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR CHILD(REN)...

Dear Parents, always pay attention to whatever your chlid(ren) wants to tell you,  no matter how busy or tired you are. By doing so, you are letting your children know they come first before any other thing-yes children are that sensitive. They will hold you in high esteem and will not hesitate to let you into their world.  They will share their feelings and thoughts with you and as their role model, they will always expect you to tell them the right thing to do. 

Most parents made the mistake of shutting their children out all in the name of discipline.  But that sure is a wrong way to discipline a child. Listen earnestly to what your child is saying,  because if you do not listen to the little things when they are little,  they will not tell you the big things when they are big. Every single attention you pay to a child matters alot in forming him/her. 

Let us be wise.

IT IS VERY IMPORTANT THAT WE KNOW THIS TRUTH....

When you become famous, people suddenly would want to celebrate you, identify with you or even become part of your life.. not knowing how many hurdles you had to jump to make it to the finish line, the sleepless nights while the whole world were asleep. But, be sure to know how very important it is that you do not to forget the few that stood by you when no one else did. 
Keep this truth in mind.  You will need it.

Sunday, 29 March 2015

SOMEONE SENT THIS PIECE TO ME...I HOPE WE LEARN GREATLY FROM IT. BE INSPIRED!!!!

A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said: "I am blind, please help." There were only a few coins in the hat. A man was walking by, he took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the boy's hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by could see the new words. Shortly,   the boy's hat got filled up, yet people could not stop giving the blind boy more money.

Later the same day, the man who changed the sign earlier, came by and the boy recognised his footsteps and asked, "Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?" The man answered him "Yes, I was, I said what you said but in a different way. "I wrote: 'Today is a beautiful day; but I cannot see it.'" 

Both signs told people that the boy was blind. But the first sign simply said the boy was blind. The second sign reminded people how fortunate they were to have their sight. 

Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective? 

Be thankful for what you have. 
Be creative. 
Be innovative. 
Be positive

We all have alot to be grateful for, no matter the situation. Leave the past behind and strive to be better with the help of GOD. Face the future with boldeness and with a great convinction that things can only get better. Keep your faith alive by feeding it with GODS word! That is the weapon you need to conquer your inner fears!  It is a beautiful thing to see a person smile. But even more beautiful if you are the reason for the smile!

QUOTE FOR THE DAY

DO NOT MOVE AWAY FROM THE ESSENCE OF WHAT GOD MADE YOU. UNDERSTAND THE IMPORTANCE OF YOUR UNIQUENESS. 

Saturday, 28 March 2015

WHAT IS YOUR SELLING POINT???



I love the popular song by ice prince where he played a judge and asked contestants to exhibit their abilities and talents. Whist he sang the song, people demonstrated and exhibited their differented  unique and individual talents which were their selling points . They were in the end recognised for their different styles, talents and gifts. This is an important part of life: knowing your selling point as a person and utilising it to the full. Yours could be dancing, playing instruments, writing, drawing, teaching, coaching and many more, but whatever your selling point is that makes you stand out, USE it to the FULL and I bet you're not only bringing glory to GOD but you will also enjoy great satisfaction and find more fulfillment in life and encourage/inspire others.

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

When you do not let your woman know how valuable she is to you, you are only giving room for her to be valued by another. Cherish your love and she will make your interest her priority.

Friday, 27 March 2015

REFLECTION

HOW MANY TIMES HAVE YOU MISSED GODS' BLESSINGS BECAUSE THEY WERE NOT PACKAGED AND PRESENTED AS YOU EXPECTED? DO NOT SPOIL WHAT YOU HAVE!

Thursday, 26 March 2015

HERE IS A WORD FROM STEPHANIE COKER, A TV PERSONALITY- SOMEONE OUT THERE NEEDS TO GET ENCOURAGED BY THESE POWERFUL WORDS....


Stephanie Coker is a media personality, an actress, a model. This morning she took to instagram to reflect on her journey to success and how it was not an easy road, but she scaled through without compromise.  Powerful and highly motivational. She wrote: 


"We are often in a hurry to get to where we want to be in life, that we forget what we have endured to get to where we are now. I look back at my journey over the past 3 years and although I am nowhere where I want to be, I am grateful for all I have achieved. I remember when I just moved to Nigeria and was staying with family in ebutu metta, there was a certain man who I had several meetings with to develop a business idea of mine at the time. All was progressing well till he eventually turned the pages and approached me with his desire for me. He changed his rapport and even offered to buy me a flat in banana island so I could be more comfortable and settled. As tempting as such offers could be, nothing in life is free. Everything has a price and I’m proud to say that price was never my pride. Anyway, what I’m trying to say is no man/woman should determine your destiny. You may be offered all the worldly possessions but all these things expire, the bags go out of season and the cars depreciate in price. I would rather not have the latest designer bag than have a man gossip about my pride 2 years down the line". #justsaying #womenofvirtue #determination #pride #stephrockss".

Photo credit : linda ikeji

LOVE YOUR.........AS YOURSELF BY J'ODIE ( SINGER, SONG WRITER )


I came across the status update of one of my friends
on Whatsapp and it read "People I truly love don't love me
back - that's sad."
Now, don't be quick to say to this person, "That's life, get over
it!" As tough as life can be, we somehow have the capacity to
love, be kind and generous. The status update struck me and it
recurred to me that many people don't have enough love
for themselves. We want to love other people, but we forget we
need to love ourselves FIRST.
It's not too early in the year to talk about this, because
someone out there got heart-broken yesterday...someone got
separated from a spouse...someone lost a dear friend...someone
was told "I hate you!" 
Since we can't necessarily control what happens in life, we can
learn to love ourselves and that love will help us sail through
the, sometimes, harsh weather that life may bring our way.
Fall in love with yourself: be patient with yourself; be kind with
yourself; say good things to yourself; don't abuse your body -
it's the only one you'll ever have on earth; improve on yourself;
pray for yourself...
Somehow, things will fall in place when you learn to love
yourself. Somehow, you'll know "I should be closer to Jack, not
John, because so, so, so and so." Somehow, you'll understand
yourself better. Somehow, you won't need a million people to
adore you in order to be happy, because you would be content
with the little light that shines in your heart...a growing light.
Somehow, you'll get better at loving yourself and guess what?
I dare say most people want to be friends with people who love
themselves. And, you'll be in a better position to love "your
neighbour."
It's not going to be so easy when you start, but when you learn
to love yourself, it will make life more fulfilling for you.
I love myself - it took a loooooong while. Now, I can't help but
share, so people round the world would experience the beauty
that the love for one's self brings.
With so much Love. 

Insta/twitter handle: @JodieGreat


THE TECHNOLOGY SYNDROME. ....HOW FAR?

A while ago I did a back track on how we lived and functioned before the emergence of technology; how people kept communication lines open through writing letters and posting them which could take a couple of weeks before the recipient gets a hold on basic information. Come to think of it, people still functioned, they lived life without bothering about phones or any form of gadgets because there was nothing to worry about in that regard. 

Given the emergence of technology, primarily the use of phones, there has been a gross diversion of priorities and the way things are done which has also left it's dent on our values, systems, and procedures. Although  the more things change, the more they remain the same, I am of the strong opinion that we have wrongly harnessed the benefits of the use of phones. Regardless of its benefits which helps us to keep communication alive, it has also communicated wrongly to a lot of people who have allowed their phones to displace a lifestyle that corresponds with the right ideals. 

As you may be aware, the birth of technology has given rise to the manifest in the incidence of pornographic indulgence which is a debasement of moral chastity. The affinity between couples has been compromised as they drift towards other relationships because they can "secure code" the phones as they advocate for a personal private life even in the midst of consolidated marital relationship. Stimulus that dents our relationships are operational in easy and different formats...just as easy as downloading an unhealthy application that feeds the dirty habit you are struggling with.

In all of these, I think we have made a choice...a choice to allow ourselves to be influenced the way we have been given the conventional use of technology. I'm not anti-technology as I have benefited from it because it helps me share my thoughts with you as well as tough lives significantly. It's time to say "yes" to the right actions, and debunck  actions that move us in opposite direction to our God-given purpose. 

The right choice is as easy as the wrong...

Dare boldly!!!

Wednesday, 25 March 2015

QUOTE FOR THE DAY

NEVER MAKE PROMISES YOU CANNOT KEEP.  TALK IS CHEAP, BUT LET YOUR WORD BE YOUR BOND. 

THIS IS SO HILARIOUS....

A psychiatrist visited a California mental institution
and asked a patient, "How did you get here? What was
the nature of your illness?" He got the following
reply.
"Well, it all started when I got married and I guess I
should never have done it. I married a widow with a
grown daughter who then became my stepdaughter.
My dad came to visit us, fell in love with my lovely
stepdaughter, then married her. And so my stepdaughter
was now my stepmother.
Soon, my wife had a son who was, of course,
my daddy's brother-in-law since he is the
half-brother of my stepdaughter, who is now,
of course, my daddy's wife.
So, as I told you, when my stepdaughter married my
daddy, she was at once my stepmother! Now, since my
new son is brother to my stepmother, he also became my
uncle. As you know, my wife is my step-grandmother
since she is my stepmother's mother. Don't forget that
my stepmother is my stepdaughter. Remember, too, that
I am my wife's grandson.
But hold on just a few minutes more. You see, since
I'm married to my step-grandmother, I am not only the
wife's grandson and her hubby, but I am also my own
grandfather. Now can you understand how I got put in
this place?"
After staring blanky with a dizzy look on his face,
the psychiatrist replied: "Move over"

QUESTION FOR THE DAY.....

Dear Nemerulez Blog lovers, I woke up to this morning and this question popped into my head: 

"If you had the power to change just "one thing" in the world,  what would that be?" 

I thought I should share it with you all, because i know you'd have a lot to change if given the power. So please share your thoughts.....

It's a very great day... Be alive, Be happy and Be highly expectant!!!!


Tuesday, 24 March 2015

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

DO NOT JUDGE THE BOOK BY THE COVER. YOU CAN NEVER IMAGINE WHAT GOES ON BEYOND THAT "PERFECT APPEARANCE".  LEARN TO APPRECIATE YOURSELF AND WHAT YOU HAVE AND ALWAYS PRAY AND MAKE EFFORTS TO GET BETTER. DO NOT USE OTHERS AS A YARDSTICK TO MEASURE YOUR LIFE. 

BE PATIENT WITH YOURSELF....A MUST-READ PIECE BY ONE OF NEMERULEZ BLOG LOVERS, J'ODIE (SINGER , SONG WRITER)


Once upon a time, I and my dad were seeing a movie and he
highlighted something quite funny, but true. He said, "These
actors just
wake up and fight all day - they don't even shower, eat, work,
pay bills, but fight: worst of all, they almost never get tired."
That is a typical description of an average "action film".
Unrealistic as it is, many of us subconsciously have such
superhuman
expectations of others and even ourselves. We do not look
forward to planting, yet we want a bountiful harvest and we
want it
immediately too. Most people hate to toil, but want to be
celebrated. I must confess: I am one of them. I think it is too
early to claim
the expression "was one of them" on this issue, since I am still
un-learning this rather unfulfilling lifestyle. But this is not
just about
learning to love the work part of harvest, it is about learning
to have healthy expectations of one's self and others.
This takes me back to when I was a freshman in the university.
I admired those who knew how to type without looking at the
keyboard. I wanted to know how to do it, so I made a few
enquiries and found out I could learn from home with just a
training CD
and, of course, a laptop or PC. A friend gave me a trial version
of the training program on CD and I told myself I was going to
make
the very best of it.
Then the journey began: I remember starting with only
characters on the mid-row: 'a', 's', 'd', 'f', ';', 'l', 'k', 'j' - in
that order and with
specific fingers meant for each. It was a program and I was
willing to follow through. I practised the exercise for the period
I was
meant to do so. Then gradually, two more letters were
introduced and more were added in bits and bits, which took a
lot of time.
Honestly, I did not "feel" like I was learning anything. I
wanted to know how to type very fast and accurately and I
wanted it to
happen NOW (at that time). But whenever I had the urge to
skip and run ahead of the program, I reminded myself that I
wanted to
learn the skill properly and once learnt, it would be a valuable
skill that would have come to stay. So, I patiently followed
through,
even though I did not exactly enjoy the rather unseen progress.
One day, it struck me - I had made progress! I had started
typing a few words on average speed and that's when I
realised I had
been making progress each time I practised, even though I did
not feel it. This encouraged me to stick to the program much
more.
My little dream came through - at last. But since I used a trial
version, I did not learn all I would have - if I had used a full
version,
such as mastering the numerals... but that is a story for
another day ;)
I was patient with myself and learnt how to type properly,
after being diligent, in my own time.
It is true that some people have faster learning abilities, but
I'm sure there are some things you catch up faster than those
people
you secretly admit are more "intelligent" than you. How do you
even know they are more intelligent or efficient than you?
Sometimes,
our deductions are not accurate, so let us just focus on
OURSELVES. We have to always remind ourselves that we are
not competing
with anyone. While it is good to be inspired, learn how to draw
the line between "being inspired" and "being envious". If
inspiration is
a mango seed, when planted, it will grow into a mango tree,
then yield mango fruits in its season - no one will mistake it
for a corn
plant. And if envy is a corn seed...
Great things start small - so does great evils. Let's be wary of
what we plant in our hearts, so that we would enjoy its fruits in
the
end.
Though life seems to be more fast paced than ever before,
patience is still a virtue. Its tree yields healthy fruits on the
long run and it
lasts and lasts and lasts!

Insta/twitter handle: @JodieGreat

Monday, 23 March 2015

STILL GRATEFUL.... STILL THANKFUL....

Is it possible to enjoy a benefit so frequently that you begin to overlook its depth and impact in your life? Take a moment to think about what a typical day looks like for you and even without being very sensitive you will point out a variety of activities you engage in almost on a daily basis. Most of these activities have become part of us such that we don't need to trust anybody or even ourselves or exert so much energy of any sort to execute them. A friend of mine uses the expression "that's not a prayer point" to let me know that the task ahead is so minute that it can be done with less demand on intellectual dexterity. 

It's important that as we enjoy the daily benefits that come in the most simplified forms, we don't forget to remain thankful for them. Imagine you got up late this morning because you slept quite late given the antecedents of events over the weekend. You are getting ready for work, need to drop children at school, have a meeting at the office you didn't really prepare for over the weekend because your little girl was running temperature which you obviously needed to attend to her, and also take care of domestic needs. 

As you are driving down the major road, you look through your rear mirror and see this gigantic truck coming behind you with speed, you look ahead of you and the traffic is gradually building...all of a sudden you heart begins to beat faster than its normal tempo...I think at that point, there is only one thing that matters to you...at that point, you have just one desire which overrides the urgency of the meeting, the questions that haven't been answered, the needs that haven't been met, the un forgiveness we have held on to, the guilt and every form of energy we have built and discharged...at that point, your greatest desire is for the truck to gently slow down behind you and when you have a moment you can change lane.

But come to think of it, what makes you think the truck won't run over you? What makes you think the tiny breaks will be able to hold the car from coming any closer? It's a combination of the faith and trust that we have. But wait a second...the truck finally stops and you are fine again...but you are not necessarily thankful...why? Probably because that's what you expect the driver to do. But what makes you think the driver is in the right frame of mind to do that? 

We need to be more thankful and grateful for the things we have and the experiences we have been exposed to. Don't become so used to enjoying the routine that it becomes of less importance to you because your attention is focused on bigger expectations. Let our daily expression be about appreciating what we have while we trust and anticipate goodwill at different stages of life. 

Live life in crescendo...

Saturday, 21 March 2015

LEADERSHIP IS NOT A PURSUIT, BUT A RESULT. DO YOU THINK YOU HAVE ALL IT TAKES TO BE A LEADER?


True leadership is one hundred percent influence through inspiration. The principal pursuit, therefore, for those who desire and aspire to become effective leaders must be the answer to this question: "How do I inspire people around me and that is the source of inspiration? 

The best way to approach and appreciate the practical application of the definition of leadership as communicated is to start the process at the end of the definition. You will note that the process begins with an individual's discovery of a personal purpose that, when captured, ignites a conviction. This conviction generates a vision in the person's heart that stirs a passion. 

The force of this person's  passionate pursuit of the vision inspires others, who are stirred to join in and cooperate with the vision. This ultimate effect is called "influence" and results in the followers acknowledging the individual as a leader. 

If inspiration is the key to legitimate influence and thus the source of true leadership, then, again, inspiration should be the pursuit of all true leaders. How do leaders inspire others? What is the source of inspiration? These are the most important questions of leadership, and when you have found the answer to them, then you will have begun to discover your own leadership potential.

MEN, DO YOU KNOW THAT YOUR WIFE IS YOUR "ACCESS CODE"? FIND OUT HERE...


The bible says, when a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing and that he obtains favour from GOD. This means that when a man gets married, he automatically becomes favoured both in the sight of GOD and man. That is where you see a man who didn't have anything before getting married begins to succeed and get better, and the rich ones get richer. Well as sweet as this sounds, this promise comes with a price. Oh yes, it does! Of course, the promise does not include men who cheat on their wives,  treat them badly,  ignore their wives wise counsel etc. Yes someone might be saying "oh no Neme,  I know of men who treat their wives badly and yet they are doing well. The truth is, there is always a day of reckoning for those men. Have you not heard of "from grace to grass"? Or stuff lke "this man used to be very wealthy? And more?  That is always the case. And like the Bible says, we should not envy the wicked when they prosper,  because they will come crashing down. 

So dear friends, If you have a wife, trust me, she is your access code to greatness only if you know how to activate "the code". Do not treat the wife GOD has given you badly and expect to find the favour GOD talks about. The very moment you married your wife, you signed up for being responsible to her. So if eventually your sweet wife has turned bitter, then you might have to find out where you missed it. 

I wish you all the best!!!!

Friday, 20 March 2015

QUOTE FOR THE DAY

IN A RELATIONSHIP WHERE THERE IS MUTUAL RESPECT, SHARING, HELPING AND SUPPORTING EACH OTHER BECOMES VERY EASY.

Thursday, 19 March 2015

THERE IS NOTHING TRENDY ABOUT BEING DISHONEST...

Hello friends,  here's a short piece for your edification...

Dishonesty has become the order of the day..in relationships between spouses, friends, colleagues, siblings and so on. People feel it is trendy to be dishonest,  after all, who knows if am being dishonest, they'd say. But the truth remains, what you do in secrets, our maker sees them all. Let our yes be truly yes and our no be truly no. It pays to be honest. Do not follow the trend or feel you're not getting paid for being honest. You'll surely get your reward. An honest person usually gets rewarded, by GOD. Stand out from the crowd. There is nothing trendy about being dishonest. 

Wednesday, 18 March 2015

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

In marriage, be open and sincere to one another.  Don't play hard with your partner. Do not handle marriage like it's a one man's show. It is a union of two hearts that beat as one. Treat each other with love and respect.

DO YOU KNOW THE REASONS YOU ARE NOT LOSING WEIGHT EVEN AFTER YOUR WORK OUTS?

A lot of people work out for different reasons, either to lose weights or to keep fit and stay healthy. I hear some of my friends say they have tried all sorts of work outs/exercises, vigorous, aerobics, but they tend to gain more weights and as such they are discouraged to keep working out. Okay, the usual me would always like to research to find out facts.  So, here are some of my findings of what you SHOULD NOT DO and I hope this will help you deal with the issue of not losing weights even after putting too much efforts at the gym house. 

Do not skip your breakfast, meals or use diet pills.

Do not rely on exercises alone to lose weight. Ensure that you eat healthy meals and  stay away as far as you can from junks.

Do not use exercise as an excuse to eat more. I see people grabbing  snacks and drinks immediately they leave the gym house. That would not give you the result you seek.

Do not change your routine exercises. 

Do not starve yourself. Ensure you eat a complete balanced diet with more vegetables and fruits.

Do not substitute water with soft drinks. Water is your best option if you want to fight that weight or stay away from fats.

Consistency brings results...Be motivated and don't give up!!!






Tuesday, 17 March 2015

QUOTE FOR THE DAY

ALWAYS SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO WILL TELL YOU, "YES YOU CAN DO IT" AND NOT PEOPLE WHO WILL TELL YOU HOW HARD IT IS TO ACHIEVE.

DO YOU KNOW THAT THERE ARE SOME VEGETABLES THAT PREVENT BREAST CANCER?

We all know that health is wealth. Most times as a result of our busy schedules, people tend to pay less attention to their healths. without good health, how would you then enjoy your wealth? So yesterday, I was able to find out in one of studies that some vegetables prevent breast cancer and I thought I should share with you. Here are a few veggies that prevent breast cancer: Sorry I do not have pictures, but I promise they are all familiar to you.

Cabbage

Carrots

Tomatoes

Spinach

Broccoli

Cauliflower

Collards 


Monday, 16 March 2015

A TRUE LIFE STORY SENT TO ME BY A NEMERULEZ BLOG LOVER...THIS IS SO TOUCHING AS WELL AS AN EYE OPENER..

Rita has  been dating Lloyd for the past 11 years. They met at the university and everyone, including Rita was convinced that Lloyd was her future husband. After they graduated, Rita was fortunate to get a job, but Lloyd did not. He job hunted for so many years without results. Rita was there for him and they were surviving on her salary and she never complained or made him feel less of himself. 

Finally, after so many years of joblessness, Lloyd got a job, a very good one with a fat salary. They looked happy together and everything seemed to be working out as envisaged, until Lloyd broke up with Rita, just a day before his wedding with a lady he just met. Rita slumped and fainted on hearing the news of Lloyd's wedding with another girl. It took a while before she was revived. Lloyd, told Rita that he was sorry to hurt her, and he was going to pay her back all that she spent on him. (Really??? this is heartless!)

Right now, Rita's situation is very critical and her family and friends fear that she could harm herself and as such, she is under a very close watch. She cries all day, and tells everyone how she  had wasted a whole 11years of her life and how she turned down so many suitors just because she felt without doubts that Lloyd was going to marry her. Some of Rita's friends are planning to interrupt the wedding to get back at Lloyd. 

What would you advise Rita to do? And do you think it is wise for Rita's friends to interrupt the wedding? 

Sunday, 15 March 2015

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!!!


Although the song we sang childishly "who sat and watched my infant head, when sleeping on my cradle bed, and  tears of sweet affection shed...my Mother" didn't communicate as much meaning as it does today, the value of a good mother transcends cradle bed metaphor. 

The combination of having a mother stand by me and being a mother impacts a great deal on my psychic and leaves me on a balanced rational platform to communicate the relevance of a Godly mother. 

Happy mothers day to all the mothers who have truly lived out the essence of motherhood through consistent grooming that sets a child on the right path towards a fulfilling life. Most of the time, our mothers seem to control our lives in so many ways they are not even aware of; this behaviour is manifested on the premise of the genuine care and will for us to make the right choices in life. 

As we celebrate the motherly figures in our lives either as a wife, or mother, or legal guardian, our part of the process is to reciprocate their good will by praying and supporting them in simple and complex circumstances.  

This good will message is inclusive of mothers who have made terrible mistakes in the cause of events with regard to the way relationship with their children turned out. We celebrate you as you take the bold step in rewriting the wrongs and making the necessary adjustments that will set the ball rolling in the right direction once again...even if you don't succeed in correcting all wrongs, it will be seen that your courage has overruled your fears.

Happy mothers day to all mothers across the world...from Africa to America, to Asia, to all parts of Europe and the world at large.

Saturday, 14 March 2015

QUOTE FOR THE DAY

IF YOU CANNOT TELL YOUR FRIEND HOW YOU FEEL, THAT PERSON IS NOT YOUR FRIEND. 

HELLO FRIEND, YOU NEED TO GET CONVINCED ABOUT A GREAT DESTINY....


Each time I watch National Geographic Channel, I see different living creatures live and take control of territories and saturate the environment with their presence which you can feel from quite a distance. Another important behavioural pattern which is very common is about their style of association. Apart from the fact that it's a catastrophic circumstance to find sheep in the midst of a coalition of Lions, it's a dent on the ego of the Lion which leaves the sheep in a helpless state....very helpless. 

Another interesting thing about the sea creatures like the fishes and dolphins is how they manifest and entertain viewers in a habitat that is uncomfortable for a lot of creatures. Fishes are created to function in water irrespective of the storm and change in weather, eagles are designed to soar and move into higher torrents, the child of God who knows his right in Christ is meant to record continuous winnings irrespective of the challenges of life.  

One of the things that will make you experience consistent win is when you discover the environment that is critical for the display of your abilities. This environment comprises of a clear understanding of your interests and how those interests can be converted to value. There is something in you that will benefit the world around you which hasn't been tapped into. It's easy to commonize it and have more value for an ability or dexterity that someone else has. We can never appreciate the fullness of who we are and what we have been richly blessed with if we continue to shift our attention from discovering ourselves to mundane activities.

Haven't you taken time to point out the complexities that stand you out even without uttering a word? That's a confirmation  that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. You might have noticed that people are careful when they deal with you...they might call u sensitive, or probably use an adjective that doesn't resonate with your perception about you, that is a good opportunity to see a part of you which hasn't been tapped into. Convert that finding into value by looking for a need it will solve...on that premise, you never can tell if you are on your way to building a fortune 500 company. 

Every component of who we are is critical to addressing a societal and cultural need...everything rises and falls on what we are looking at and how we see these things. Your life is destined to experience untold increase irrespective of the storms of life. Haven't you noticed how eager and efficacy with which the cloud empties itself when it's saturated? That's how mighty the fall of your life circumstances will be if you keep holding on to the right confessions that are in sync with the provisions available to you are a child of destiny.

Don't give up on yourself...Go for goal...

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Friday, 13 March 2015

HELLO FRIENDS, I HOPE YOU WILL LEARN FROM THIS MARRIAGE BUILDER. BY JIMMY EVANS


I want to share with you an excerpt from my new book The Right One: How to Successfully Date and Marry the Right Person. I also encourage you to forward this Marriage Builder to your single friends or family members and consider getting them a copy of the book. It is full of practical answers to the most critical questions people face regarding their future. Visit therightonebook.com for more details.

Clearly-defined roles and expectations are critical to keeping peace in a relationship. They not only keep the home running, they alleviate confusion and resentment between married couples.

Roles serve two purposes in marriage.

First, they serve to fulfill each partner's basic needs. Though it's true that no two people are alike, and we all have our own unique traits and personalities, men and women are hard wired with distinctly different needs within a marriage. And though these needs differ in importance from person to person, I've found them to be universal to every relationship between men and women.

The four primary needs of women are: security, open and honest communication, non-sexual touch and affection, and leadership.

And the four primary needs of men are: honor, friendship, sex, and domestic support.

I have counseled married couples for over thirty years, and I have yet to see a relationship where this didn't hold true. Men and women are designed by God with very different physical and emotional needs, and the roles we perform in marriage must serve to fulfill these differing needs.

Second, clearly defined roles help fulfill the basic functions of marriage. In real terms, they make sure that the daily tasks of running a home get covered. Falling in love is often filled with unicorns and rainbows, but being married means someone has to mow the lawn and do the laundry.

Roles are like the pistons of the marital engine. In order for the relationship to run smoothly, all the pistons have to fire in sync.

And the functional roles you play are adaptable to your own specific gifts and personalities. In a traditional marriage, the husband often works outside the home while the wife takes care of the children, then they each have specific chores in order to keep the house running smoothly. Maybe the husband will do the lawn work and keep the garage clean, while the wife takes care of the housework.

Feminists may balk at this stereotype, but that's how men and women have traditionally defined their roles—at least in past generations. But these are not hard and fast rules, and today things are very different. I know couples who have completely reversed roles in their relationship and it works well for them.

In some homes, the wife may decide to work outside the home and the husband might stay home and take care of the children. Maybe the wife is better at yard work, and the husband enjoys vacuuming. It doesn't matter what you do, or how your roles are defined, only that you take time to clearly define them. Otherwise you may find yourself arguing over menial tasks, like who is supposed to take out the garbage, how the plants will get watered, and who keeps the house stocked with groceries.

Often during pre-marital counseling, I will ask these types of specific questions and the couples learn for the first time that they have completely differing expectations regarding their roles in the home. They will discuss it and come to a workable compromise. Five minutes of discussion has likely saved them from five years of arguing, simply because they took the time to talk it through and come up with a workable solution.

Most of us come into marriage with very specific ideas about who should do what within the marriage. And these ideas were usually formed by our own experiences in childhood. Talk about how you imagine that things will be in your home, and how your potential mate feels about these things. See how similar—or different—your ideas might be.

Marriage is designed to work as an honoring partnership, without competition or dominance. In marriage, men and women are completely equal, but still different by God's design, and we each have specific biblical roles to fulfill.

Blessings,


Jimmy Evans

A BEAUTIFUL PIECE FROM A NEMERULEZ BLOG LOVER...SOFT WORDS TURN AWAY ANGER.... ENJOY IT..


A Professor was teaching.
He asked his students, 'why do we shout in anger?
Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?'
The students thought for awhile.
One said, because we lose our calm.
But why shout when the other person is just next to you?
Asked the professor.
Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice?
Why do you shout at a person when you are angry?
The students gave some answers but none satisfied the Professor.
Finally he explained,
'when two people are angry at each other, there is a distance in their hearts psychologically.
To cover the distance,
they must shout to be able to hear each other.
The angrier they are,
the stronger they will shout to hear each other through that great distance.
Then the Professor asked,
'What happens when two people fall in love?
They don't shout at each other but talk softly.
Why?
Because their hearts are psychologically close.
The distance between them is very close.
The Professor continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens?
They don't speak, only whisper and they even get closer to each other in their love.
Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all.....
So next time you shout on a loved one, know that you are creating distance between your heart and that person’s heart. Experience says a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

Enjoy every moment.
"Life is easy".
Don't make it complex.

Thursday, 12 March 2015

A GREAT LESSON TO LEARN FROM THIS STORY SENT TO ME BY ONE OF NEMERULEZ BLOG LOVERS....WOW

Excellent message:

It was their anniversary, and Funke was waiting for her husband Kunle to show up.

Things had changed since their marriage, the once couldn't-live-without-each-other cute couple had turned bitter fighting over every little thing. Both didn't like the way things had changed.

Funke was waiting to see if Kunle remembered it was their anniversary!

Just as the door bell rang, she ran to find her husband wet and smiling with a bunch of flowers in his hand.

The two started re-living the old days. Making up for fights, then was the plan for champagne, light music, - and it was raining! It was perfect timing.

But the romantic moment was paused when the phone in the bedroom rang.

Funke went to pick the phone  up and it was a man who spoke. "Hello ma'am I'm calling from the police station. Is this Mr. Kunle Adeoye's number?"

"Yes it is!"

"I'm sorry ma'am; but there was an accident and a man died. We got this number from his wallet, and we need you to come and identify his body."

Funke's heart sank.!!! She was shocked!

"But my husband is here with me" Funke said.

"Sorry ma'am, but the incident took place at 2 pm, when he was boarding the train."

Funke was about to lose her mind.

How could this happen?!

She had heard about the soul of the person coming to meet a loved one before it finally leaves for eternity!

She ran into the other room.

He was not there. It was true! Kunle had left her for good!!

Oh God! She would have died for another chance to mend every little fight! She rolled on the floor in pain. She had lost her chance! Forever!

Suddenly, there was a noise from the bathroom. The door opened and Kunle came out and said to Funke, "Darling, I forgot to tell you my wallet got stolen today".

LIFE MIGHT NOT GIVE YOU A SECOND CHANCE. SO NEVER WASTE A MOMENT WHEN YOU CAN STILL MAKE UP FOR YOUR WRONGS!!!

Let's start making amends with parents, siblings, friends, and many others whom we have offended, or who may have offended us or d one dat put tears in ur eye..

Have a wonderful life with no regrets!👍

I LOVE THIS POEM. SO REASSURING.... THANK YOU DOCTOR FOR THIS WONDERFUL PIECE...

Why not begin your day with a closer walk with Jesus.  In fact today why not take a.......

Morning Walk

Amidst the dew of early dawn,

I took a morning walk.

And along with me, I took a Friend,

For I felt a need to talk.

I unburdened both my heart and soul,

And spoke many things:

Of plans gone wrong, of failure's pain,

And how to live with shattered dreams.

My Friend just listened quietly

And uttered not a word.

For it was His time to listen,

And my time to be heard.

His sympathetic ear brought peace,

As we walked this earthly sod.

And I learned to trust life again,

On my morning walk with God.

Poet, Barbara Cagle Ray

Wednesday, 11 March 2015

QUOTE FOR THE DAY


Success is a decision. Your success begins immediately you make up your mind to succeed.  Suddenly, mountains will begin to be your playground. Yes you can! Neme...

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

If you continue to be a "people's pleaser", you will remain their slaves. Because everything about your life will depend solely on their opinions, directly or indirectly.

ARE YOU TRULY THERE FOR YOUR FRIEND?


Life is not all about you trying to get it all.  It's about going all the way...going the extra miles to reach out to someone.  I hear friends say, "am so busy,  I actually had you in mind but I keep forgetting to call" and so many seemingly reasonable excuses.  If actually that person had been on your mind, isn't it as simple as putting every other thing on hold and reaching out to the person.  The truth is, no matter how busy or tight your schedule is,  no matter the deadline you must meet, know that those things can never be as important as having someone who will be there when the world comes crashing down on you.  I always believe that you must love people and use things, but it is too bad to know that the world we live in now is all about using people and loving things. To have someone to lean on In trying times is a precious gift.  Do not take that friendship for granted. There is always a day of reckoning and as the scripture says "do unto others what you wish them to do unto you.  Let's cherish our "good" friends because,  they are very hard to come by. If you are lucky to meet a true friend, treat them right and do not take them for granted.  Do not strain a good relationship by taking one for granted. There is always a limit that one can go....True Friendship is golden!!!

Tuesday, 10 March 2015

HELLO NEMERULEZ BLOG LOVERS, WOULD YOU LET IT GO OR WOULD YOU KEEP IT?

THEY SAY "A BIRD AT HAND IS WORTH MORE THAN THOUSANDS IN THE BUSH". AND I ASK, WHAT IF THAT BIRD GIVES YOU SO MUCH TROUBLE, WOULD YOU STILL KEEP IT AND DEAL WITH ITS TROUBLES, OR WOULD YOU LET IT GO AND WHY?

Monday, 9 March 2015

Sunday, 8 March 2015

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

The more you challenge the word against prevailing circumstances, you begin to experience results. What doesn't challenge you doesn't change you. 

HAPPY WOMENS' DAY!!!!


I CELEBRATE ALL THE WOMEN. WITHOUT WOMEN, THE WORLD WILL BE EMPTY. IF YOU HAVE A WOMAN IN YOUR LIFE, BE IT YOUR MOTHER, YOUR SISTER, YOUR GIRLFRIEND, YOUR WIFE, CELEBRATE HER. WOMEN ARE THE BEST CREATION AND THE BEST GIFT ANY MAN CAN INVEST IN. WHEN YOU TREAT YOUR WOMAN RIGHT, YOU WILL MAKE YOUR WORLD RIGHT.

HAPPY WOMENS' DAY. I CELEBRATE ALL THE WOMEN WHO HAD FOUGHT AND WON, WHO FAILED AND BOUNCED BACK TO BECOME EVEN STRONGER AND BRAVER!!!!

Saturday, 7 March 2015

CHILDREN LEARN FROM WHAT THEY SEE, NOT WHAT YOU SAY.

I can imagine the look of surprise,amazement and a sense of humour when you see your little toddler carry our some actions that are obviously associated with adults. She picks your phone, takes it close to her ear and tries to mutter a few words...then she looks at you and smile. You begin to wonder "where did she get that from"? Who taught her how to do that...? As time goes on your child begins to pick up behavioural components and values from her immediate environment where her parents are her first-hand instructors...consciously  or unconsciously.

Haven't you noticed that you never taught your child how to use the mimic the way you take your calls or do some of the things he or she does? The reason is simple; children learn by observation. This style of learning is by association and modelling. In reality, you are modelling behaviours which your child will resonate with irrespective of where they fall on the scale of right or wrong, valuable or illicit.
Your child will literarily copy your behaviours because they are being displayed by a significant order.

The essence of this instruction is for parents and guardians to be aware of the covert influence their actions have on children around them. I believe a few of us have come accross people who grew up with dysfunctional ideologies because they were unintentionally schooled to have such ideologies that are detrimental to society. Some grew up with the notion that it's culturally fanciful to use wrong words, some saw it as ok to be violent, some were passive substance users because they saw their parents or guardians exhibit such flawed behaviours.

It becomes very important for us all to cultivate the right values so that by default, we communicate the right values and attitudes to the young minds around us. As the Bible expressly affirms that there will be longitudinal consistency when the right values are instilled at a very tender age.

Friday, 6 March 2015

DO YOU GUYS AGREE TO THIS LOGIC?

If a friendship lasts longer than  7 years, psychologists say it will last a life time. 

What do you guys think? Please share your thoughts.

QUOTE FOR THE DAY

In dealing with people, learn to be wise. Do not be in a hurry to tell your life history to someone you barely know out of excitement. The more knowledge of you people know, they more you are at their mercy. 

Thursday, 5 March 2015

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

The best time to sow, is when you do not have much. Instead of eating the little,  isn't it wise to sow it?  By doing so, you will have a harvest of fruits.

Wednesday, 4 March 2015

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

Be careful what you sow,  because you will always reap it. Sow kindness and you will reap kindness.  Sow love and you reap love. Sow hatred and you will reap hatred.

Tuesday, 3 March 2015

A LITTLE WORD FOR MY FRIEND.

Hello friends,  I trust you all had a great day.  Mine was splendid. 

Just a little word for you. The world we live in is a very small place. And as such, be kind to people because you will always meet them somewhere,  somehow as long as you live on this planet. The super man today,  who is mean and full of himself, looking down on people and maltreating them,  could become as poor as a church rat, while, the ill treated one could become great tomorrow.  That is the irony of life.   So, if you are privileged to be in a position where you can be of help to people, kindly do so. Because an adage says "be kind to people you meet on your way up; because you might meet them on your way down". Show some kindness.  Forgive one another, apologise when you hurt someone, be thankful and live life to the fullest.

Sunday, 1 March 2015

FOR THOSE OF US WHO WANT TO BE SELF EMPLOYED, YOU MIGHT FIND THESE TIPS HELPFUL..

There are various helpful tips on how you can kick-start your journey to become self-employed. Although the thought can be daunting, no doubts about that, but through the right direction, you can become self-employed. It can also be really a fun and exciting adventure therefore keep the following requisites as you journey.

The first thing you need to consider is going through personal evaluation. This development strategy will help you identify your strengths, your weaknesses, your interests, your skills, and things you should totally avoid. That does not mean you would not take risks, but risks that are highly detrimental will cause an impediment on your potential results. Do a survey on the industry, or trade, or business idea you have in mind, read about people who have done similar things and engage your creative ideas. Take a drive down the streets that are business friendly, observe, ask questions...roll your sleeves and get to work. 

Register your business name so that you are sure you are operating on a legal platform either as a Limited liability, or just a business name, or public liability company. Either ways, ensure you have a legal backdrop.

When you are setting up a business, having a business plan is very essential. It Is likened to having a plan for your life, that plan guides your decisions, your choices and the pathway your life and business goes as it were.  

Finance overtime has been a predominant requisite for business. It  is therefore very important to know your source of funds depending on the capacity of the business. Some require little funds, while some require more substantial amount. You can start small and with persistence to possibilities, you can break the norm and play on a global stage.

A lot of people with bright business ideas have allowed those ideas to go shallow either due to lack of courage or fear of failing. That business idea that is incubating right in your inside needs to experience reality. Step out and dare boldly to do things differently. Try, and if you don't succeed, learn your lessons and give it another push...you might just be on your way to feed nations from ideas born out of nothing...

Achievable Dreams!!!

Source: Achievable Diamond Initiatives