Friday, 30 October 2015


Do not look back at your mistakes for too long, instead, learn from it and move forward! 

Do not let your mistakes define you, but see them as lessons of wisdom! 

The past cannot be changed, but the future is yet in your power, if you let go and let GOD! 

Anyone who has laughed at you because of your mistakes do not know better-that you are way too ahead of him/her in life and experiences! 


Who are you living your life for? 


Wherever you are in this journey called life, wherever you may be employed, wherever you may be in your domestic situation, wherever you may be in your age, your health or your lifestyle, GOD may be preparing you for a great surprise in order to find you faithful! 

Rather than running from HIM, run towards HIM! And rather than looking for someone to blame for the pain that you are going through now, or the change that is on going, look upward and realise that this arrangement is divinely orchestrated for your good and for GOD'S glory! Have a great weekend friends....


A woman once said, Beauty attracts men but wisdom keeps them. Elegance catches men’s attention but intelligence convinces them. Nagging irritates men but constructive silence weakens them. The ‘boy’ in every man pumps out occasionally, the ability to handle this is a woman’s truest maturity. Men have secret struggles and silent pains, should you ever find them out, you have exhibited the greatest maturity. In the long-run,  your ‘words’ matters more to a man than your ‘looks’, so invest the right words. Earn a man’s respect and he will consider you the yard stick for all his action. Learn to mold the moods of your man. Men will naturally give u their futures if they can recall your maturity in yesterday’s issues… Women are everywhere but queens are scarce. Let the queen in you come alive and he will hold you in high esteem. Woman, Build your Home through Wisdom!

Thursday, 29 October 2015


Why is it that when a man and a woman connect too soon, the man generally ends up pulling away, while the woman feels more needy? 

Please let's hear your thoughts. 


How long have we focused on our outer appearances that we no longer recognise our inner beauty, inner strength, inner glory? 

Your real value is not your makeup, neither can it be bought. Your real strength is more than a facade- outward apparels, which is very deceptive. The real thing that causes a man to need you  that he cannot leave you is not what is on you, but what is in you! 

You know, the truth is, when you focus on the wrong areas, you don't get the right results. 


Have you ever had someone whom you casted the weight of your confidence on, only to have your trust defrauded in a moment of self-gratification and indulgence? Someone who has a selfish need can jeopardise all that you have! 


Wednesday, 28 October 2015


Some people see you and come up with this funny idea in their heads that they can control or shut you up. Like they see you and feel you are helpless! 

Well, that's generally how life is. It beats  you hands down- if you allow it! Do not always run in the face of adversity. Face it head on! Do not go back into your shell when someone barks at you. 

Some situations require you to stand on your feet and challenge them, while some require you to absolutely ignore it.  

When the world comes too hard on you, come too hard on it as well! 

Remember whose child you are! 


A woman  loves it when her man takes charge to follow through and do something without putting it back in her lap. This is very important to her because most women already have the tendency to be overly responsible. The more complex and stressful their lives become, the more overwhelmed and exhausted they become. 

A woman begins to feel responsible for doing everything for everyone. Her way of getting relief is to share these feelings with someone she loves. If she can share, something happens inside her and she doesn't feel so responsible. It is ad if she sees all possible problems and, unless she tells someone, she feels it is all up to her.

More of this tomorrow. 

John Gray. 


Why are some parents too afraid to correct their children?


In life, we need to learn to celebrate our victories. No matter how small, by celebrating your victories, you will get the opportunity to celebrate more of them. 

A life worth living, is a life worth celebrating! Celebration is an attitude. It is a lifestyle that will attract more good to you! Start today to celebrate yourself, your spouse, children, birthdays, achievements. It is worth it!


As Winston Churchill put it, "Never give up. Never give up." It does not get much clearer than that. 

To succeed, you simply must persist! And you know what? It is only when the going is tough that you will every truly test this ability! 


Hello friends, How are you all doing? I hope you all are doing great. Just a word for you! 

Most great men and women we know today were not born with silver spoons. 

When you listen to most of them, they will tell you how life was very hard for them that it seemed help would never come. They will tell you how they had to struggle, yet no gain. Some will tell you how they hawked goods, the list goes on. But today,  they have a different story to tell. 

To you out there asking when it is going to happen for you, or you are almost about throwing in the towel; hang in there! 

I always tell myself "it won't always be like this". Tell yourself, it won't always be like this! Persevere! Don't throw in the towel. Hope only for the best, not worst! 

You guys read the article I sent to you about Linda Ikeji? You read her story right? It was a very long journey where she is coming from! But here she is today, ruling her world, touching lifes, inspiring people. She is a made woman today, because she did not limit herself! She had a humble beginning, but she did not let it define who she is! She persevered! You too can!

Remember to always tell your situation, "it will not always be like this."

Tuesday, 27 October 2015


I am told that when a lion gets too old to hunt, it roars. It works like this: while the younger lion hides in the bushes off to one side, the old lion roars from the other, and their terrified prey in the middle rums from the roar- right into the trap! 

Today, run to the roar! Confront your fears and you will discover that they have no powers over you! The wisest thing to do at any difficult situation is to rise and take the bull by the horn. It is very painful to be knocked down with a heavy weight blow, but while you are lying on the ground, start gathering momentum to get up! You have to get up! Say no to self pity!

Do not think that your situation will show you any mercy. No, it won't! It will rather make sure you did not make it out! So, get up and show your situation no mercy! Let your situation know that though you may have been bent over, you can never break! 

You are a winner!


It is very easy to believe, when you have not been faced with difficult situations, pain, loss, tragedy! When you have gone through fires and made it alive, then you will truly believe that GOD is who HE says HE is! 


Good attitude opens heavenly doors. I said heavenly because, most times, ones good is never recognised or appreciated by the world. People are always looking out for your faults and forgetting the good in you. It is only GOD that rewards ones good and set him up in high places. 

Remember Abigail in the bible? Despite the fact that her husband had a very bad attitude, that king David decided to wipe him and his entire family out, Abigail's good attitude saved her and made her stand before kings. 

Bottom line, whether people are noticing your good attitude or not, keep on keeping on. GOD sees!

Monday, 26 October 2015


You may feel discouraged at the moment, but you are not finished! That only happens when you quit- and quitting is not an option for you!



This article was sent to me a few minutes ago by a nemerulez blog lover. A great eye opener. Read below:

Thank you so much for this great article Madam. You are a good writer. Let me add by saying this, "not everything or everyone deserves our listening ear." Remember at the garden of Eden, if Eve had not listened to the serpent's subtle talk, she and Adam would not have sinned against God. 

There is what is called, professional listening. You listen and deliberate with colleagues or clients at work for the progress of an organisation. But the kind of listening you talked about is for married couples and their families and those in committed relationships. 

A man should pay a great attention  to his wife's needs by listening to her and her him. Also parents should give a listening ear to  their children and children their parents. If you pay such attention to the opposite sex out there, the person will start getting bad ideas in his or her mind. 

Keep every communication brief and straight to the point with the opposite sex if you are married or seriously engaged in a committed relationship. 

I thought I should send this article to you so you can publish it. I and my wife love your articles.  Pastor Wilfred (Ghana).


Good listening progresses from accepting a person- unconditionally- to understanding what he or she is saying, and then supporting him or her in the search for solutions to the problem. From acceptance, to understanding, to hearing,  to solution. There are absolutely no shortcuts to this process. None. 

Listening is a window into a person's inner being. It is very frustrating to have anything to do with someone who does not give you a listening ear. 

Listening to the person does not really mean you are agreeing to what the person  is saying, but it will give the person some good sense of belonging, then you can suggest a more comfortable idea to deal with whatever issue at hand. If we do not listen, we will fail to understand what is going on. 

Without listening, people grow apart from those they love! Conflicts will go unresolved because we won't hear their correction or encouragement. 

Without listening, friendship will die, we will miss great wisdom, guidance and intellectual stimulation! A leader is a good listener. May we learn to listen; it pays a great deal! 
#still learning. #work in progress


Years ago, a scientist diagnosed that shaking a young baby vigorously can cause bleeding inside the head and increase pressure on the brain. Because a baby's muscles are not fully developed and brain tissue is exceptionally fragile, shaking a baby for only a few seconds can injure such baby for life. Such injuries can include brain swelling, mental retardation, development delays, hearing loss, blindness, paralysis and death. In many cases however, the injuries are not immediately visible and the baby may be diagnosed as, having cold or viral illness! So, never shake a baby please! 


Communication is not only about talking, but also listening. In a relationship where the partners are always talking and none is listening, there will be constant strife and arguments. 

My mom would always say that, listening means you respect him or her enough to drop whatever you are doing at the given moment and pay total attention to him or her. You know, there are situations that require you just listen; and not give advice or your opinion or views. Just listen. 


The poor work for money whereas the rich make money work for them!

Sunday, 25 October 2015


I have always loved arts, even as a child, yet my parents thought I would do best being a science student. I knew deep down inside of me that I had no business with science, but of course, I didn't have a choice, my parents insisted I must read science. Well, yours truly is back to what she's been born to do! 

That's why, I just have few words to say to every parent; Every Child marches to the beat of a different drum. Some are creative, some are concrete; some are fast, some are slow; some are introverts, some are extroverts; some talk out what they are learning, some internalise the learning process. 

Let us learn our children. Let us create time to discover who GOD has really designed them to be, instead of comparing them with your friend's children or your neighbour's child(ren) or their mates. Know this, every child is different! 


A great writer once said, "it took 15 years to discover I had no talents for writing, but I couldn't give it up because, by that time, I was too famous."

Refusing to give up in the face of challenges and fears, is a good paymaster at last! You will need a stubborn determination to climb that seemingly impossible mountain. The truth is, no mountain is too high for you to climb. 

During one of my adventures years ago, my friends and I decided we were going on a trip to the mountain, and to get to the top, we must climb! You know what, we made up our minds and embarked on the trip. The mountain was so high that when I mistakingly looked down, fear gripped me- I couldn't believe how far we had climbed. I almost fell off the cliff because I became scared and I had little or no strength to continue, but my friends were screaming "we are almost there, don't give up." I drew strength from the fact that I needed to get to the top of the mountain. So I continued and yes, I made it because I was stubbornly determined! We all made it to the top of the mountain. It was an amazing experience, but the most amazing of this whole event was that coming down was the easiest thing I have ever done!  So you see, nothing is impossible, only if you believe you can! 

See a bright future, and determine to get there. Do not give up! 


No matter how your life has been, determine to hold on! Keep all your dreams so close to your heart and never give up, when your life seems to be falling apart. Let your dreams give you strength to carry on and help you find the future you feel has gone. Build on those dreams that you hols so dearly and you will start seeing your life more clearly. 

Nothing is impossible, as long as you believe! Believe that whatsoever that seems unreachable or impossible is very possible! Yes you can! Have faith in yourself and trust GOD! 


Always think long term when it comes to maximising your investment. 


Friday, 23 October 2015



A wise man once said, "What sets one person apart from his peers is the extra effort taken to master their skills in life. The extra length to improve yourself is the difference that makes the difference." 

Try sharpening your skills; set aside time to practice on your skills; might not yield you money yet, but it will in the long run, when you have become the "sought out" and a master in the market place. 


The fastest way to let go of hurt and pain, is to talk about it and genuinely forgive whoever that offended you. There is no better medicine for healing than talking about it and having the heart to forgive. Have a great weekend. 


Stop using circumstances to describe who you are! Refuse to call yourself what events of life call you.


Praise builds esteem, confidence and a strong bond of friendship. Our tone of voice can set in motion feelings of confidence or condemnation- feelings that last for a life time. Praise your child's natural interests and gift. Kind words or praises release hope to your child's future! Believe in your children, be proud of them, and they will go all the way, positively to make you proud! 

Thursday, 22 October 2015


Learn to do some things yourself. Some people have sold their birthright to people who in the very essence they are far better than. Be patient enough to sit down and "do it yourself!"


A lot of us do not know how to manage stress. We allow stress to affect our manners and approach to people/friends. 

Come on.... we are bigger than that. Let us learn to adapt to change and be in charge instead of allowing things to pressure us. 

I have come to realise that as long as you think things must always be a certain way, you will live in frustration. Of course, we are humans, so we are supposed to get tired. When we are tired, it is a sign that tells us that we need not push ourselves over the edge! We need to rest, freshen up and bounce back stronger and better! 

So, let us learn to laugh at the face of stress, challenges. Let us learn to say "all is well". Remember, "you have what you say."


To our Dads; Did you know that it is possible for you to be absentee dads, even when you live under the same roof as your children? 

Are you truly involved in your children's world? Do you know their interests, their favourite activities, their strengths, their friends? Your children need you as much as they need their mothers also. 

Try and set aside time to relate and bond with your child(ren) and find out what your child(ren) is up to. Let that time become your way of saying to your child(ren), "you are important to me." 

You might not see the importance now, but when you are old and needy, you will understand why you need to invest your time in your children! 


Take a problem to a mother and she will give you a solution that works; and when she prays for you, you are fine!

Anyone has anything to say about mothers? Please your comments are welcome.



If you always feel a need to prove that you are as successful or even better than your partner, you are competing with him or her. 

In a healthy relationship, the partners complement each other. They bring their strengths to bear on the relationship to make it succeed. They both realise they have weaknesses in one form or another and as such they use their strengths to compensate for the weakness of one another, thereby building a stronger relationship. 

No matter what you experienced in the past that may have contributed to your competitive spirit, put it behind you!  Leave the past in the past and focus on the future! 

If you are always trying to prove yourself to gain acceptance from your partner, two things are involved, either your mind is playing games with you or you are in an unhealthy relationship. 

Wednesday, 21 October 2015



There is something called "opportunity cost" in Economics. Do I have any Economic student in the house? It is the price you pay or the losses you suffer in other to gain something. It could be breaking a bad relationship. It could be cutting the number of hours you sleep, or number of times you watch TV. It could be giving up on those friends inorder to have a more blissful relationship with your spouse. 

What do you need to stop doing that will eventually pay off for you? You can't advance without sacrifice. You can't become a good writer if you do not practice writing every day. Reject laziness! Ask yourself, "what must I drop or let go in order to make faster progress as parents, in my marriage, skills, job/career?" 

It will please me to let you know that the brief delay you are experiencing now before your breakthrough could be the price for your character moulding by GOD!


Remain calm in every situation, because when you are at peace, you have dominion over that situation. 


If he or she often fights with you for no reason, teases and tries to hurt you with the intent of making you jealous or just for the fun if it, then you should be careful!

True love is gentle and considerate and finds no joy in hurting the object of its affection! 

Please your comments are welcome! 


My mom once said that Accountable people usually exhibit these qualities. Check and see if you've got them:

They are capable of knowing when they are wrong and admitting it, even before they are confronted. 

They are willing to hear, quick to learn and open to counsel. 

They are honest. They do not fake and are committed to the truth regardless of how much it hurts. 

They keep to their words; and if they happen not to be in time,  they will keep you informed or would have genuine reasons. 

Ok. One will say, these are high standards. Well, you are very right! It is a standard that pride, meanness, fake and whatever negative attributes will not tolerate! 

I believe there are lot more great qualities of accountable people. 

May GOD help us to be accountable at all times. We can do it! It's all in the mind. Let us make up our minds to be accountable to GOD, our spouses, children, parents, jobs, trusted friends and whatever that has been entrusted in our care.


I have come to realise that when you listen, you will hear what you need to hear! But if you are too busy talking and trying to make your points all the time, you will miss what you should be hearing! Get that? 

Paying attention, Lady Christy said, "saved me from what could have been years  of tears and disappointment."


A toxic relationship will take you down if you do not walk away from it. A toxic relationship is like a leg with gangrene. If you do not amputate it, the infection will spread. 

Unless you have the courage to cut off what won't heal, you will end up losing more -much more!

Tuesday, 20 October 2015


Do not laugh at people when they fail, even if you think or feel they deserve it! I want to believe that it feels better for you to laugh at your own mistakes rather than laughing at other people's mistakes! Nobody is above mistakes except GOD! When GOD created man, and man failed, my bible tells me that GOD regretted creating man and that HIS heart was troubled! So will you say that GOD made a mistake by creating you and I? Listen my friend, everybody deserves a second chance! GOD shows mercy even to the worst person! 



This lady, Linda Ikeji inspires me a lot. I can't but thank GOD for her. Read her inspiring note below, GOD blesses you when HE sees your willingness! 

My name is Linda Ikeji. I'm a blogger. I'm 35 years old and I have never...never ever in my life slept with a man for money. Not only have I never done it, I have never even considered it...and here I am with a house that cost me over half a billion naira.

Listen, you are beautiful and you are stronger than you know. There's absolutely nothing you can't achieve if you set your mind to it, put your heart and soul into it.
Up until five years ago, I was a struggling entrepreneur. I can't tell you how many offices in this Lagos I sat in for hours waiting to see people who could support my business...but most times, I never passed the reception area. But I never gave up and I never stopped believing and here I am today.

You too can be can be better than this. No dream is too big, no dream is too small, no mountain is too's all in your mind. It's all up to you. If you believe in you, in your God who is guiding you, then the sky is your starting point.

Please stop waiting around for a man to give to put food on your table and put clothes on your back. I promise you, you can do it for yourself. Start thinking big, believe in yourself, be creative and start working. Realize that your dreams are valid...and nobody will make your dreams come true except you. Find what you are good at. Find something that you are passionate about. Work hard at it. Be consistent. Be patient. Start young. Even if you're not young, it's never too late!

I have been hustling since I left secondary school..started modeling before I entered university in 1998. Was running a modeling agency even while I was a student and made it a full time business after I left university. I never doubted that I would succeed one day, because I was determined. And please do not think this happened over night. I've been blogging since 2006...November this year will make it exactly 9 years. God, consistency and hard work brought me here today.

Unfortunately, a lot of our young girls aren't patient and some are lazy, they want it quick and fast but it doesn't work like that. Success takes time - takes hard work - takes passion - takes consistency - but more than anything else, it takes the Grace of God.

I was a 30 year old broke woman and on my birthday, a very sad and depressed me turned to God and begged him. I told Him you promised me, when will You fulfill Your promise? Am I not Your child? Have I not lived according to Your teachings? When will You bless me? Please God help me...and with tears in my eyes, I begged Him. I cried and I begged and I begged and I begged. A few months later my life changed. Never underestimate God's love for you and the power of prayer.

And never stop working. Listen, I make enough money to hire so many people to work on this blog while I go do other things and enjoy myself...but I don't do that. I'm up while some of you are sleeping, and already blogging before some of you wake up. I don't take this for granted. I know to stay on top, I have to constantly work and nobody will be as dedicated as I am because this is not their own thing. It's mine and I have to keep feeding it. So I'm constantly here!

Young ladies, I promise too can do this. You don't need to spread your legs for any bladdy man - because of how much? N200k? That's how much my shoes cost - so why should you give up your body for that? Your sacred body? God's temple? N200k that you can make in a week or even in a day if you pursue your dreams and still have your dignity intact? You think people don't see that you're messing around with all dem old married men and talking about it? Think ladies, think! When next a man propositions you...tell him to get lost, that you will get yours yourself! Abi, aren't you a woman? You know what they say about women? "A woman is like a tea bag, you never know how strong she is until she gets in hot water.". You are so strong, you don't even know!

Also, if you want God to bless you, you have to have a clean heart. All these backbiting, hating on others, trying to bring people down with hateful words/actions etc - God doesn't like ugly. He has over 6 billion people to look after and you think he will pay extra attention to you if your heart is ugly? Wish people well, help people when you can. Be good to others. But more than anything else be good to yourself. Believe in yourself. It's very easy to give in to feelings of self-doubt and back down when things get tough, but you have to know that God will not give you anything you can't handle.

I swear to you, you are underestimating yourself. If you know the power that you have inside. If you know the things that you are capable of. If you know how far you can high you can reach but you are holding yourself back because you're afraid of failing, because you don't think you have it in you. If only you know that you're stronger than you think. You are so powerful, you don't even know it. I'm not more special than you are. I don't have two heads. We serve the same God. Why can't you succeed? Think ladies, think.

Like Barack Obama's sister said, poverty is not an excuse! I used to sell/market beer at Sheraton hotel, Lagos when I was in university for N1,000 a day. I once lived on 'puff puff' and garri for weeks in UNILAG and I was supposedly a top model but nobody knew what I was going through.

Trust me, I knew poverty. Did you know I lived in Idi-oro, Mushin for 15 years? Up until when I was 25? Did you live in Mushin? Eh, so what's your excuse? I can't even say some things here for my family's privacy but here I am today because I never doubted myself and I never allowed all the doubters to distract me. I was focused. I was determined. I worked hard and I knew the God I served won't let me down. The road was long, sometimes very frustrating and painful but look at me now. God did it because he saw that I was willing!

"Because I am a woman, I must make unusual efforts to succeed. If I fail, no one will say, “She doesn’t have what it takes.” They will say, “Women don’t have what it takes.”

Please believe in yourself and watch God use you to set as an example for others. 

Source: Linda Ikeji's blog
Photo credit: Linda ikeji's instagram handle @officiallindaikeji


Did you know that what you have is actually enough for you to have a great harvest? 

You must know that GOD has deposited on everyone greatness; and no matter how little you feel you are, may I remind you that "a drop of water makes an ocean." 

Why not keep working on  that seemingly small thing you have in your hand? Whatever it is, do not give up on yourself! 

Remember the woman of Zarephath? Hear what she said, (am paraphrasing) I only have hand a handful of meal and a little oil. BUT that was all that GOD needed to multiply her resources.

A lot of people are getting frustrated by the day, because they are not like others. They feel they are not doing what others are doing to succeed. GOD doesn't need anyone's permission to bless whomever HE wants to bless. All HE needs to see in you and I is faithfulness to the little things HE brings our way! 

What do we do with what we have in our hands? Everybody is not a hustler, you do not need to be like "Jack" to succeed. GOD can visit you in that little thing you are being faithful with! That is how GOD works! So instead of trying to be "Jack of all trades", why not find out what GOD really wants you to do? Why not be faitthful with that little thing HE has put in your hands?

Learn to Believe in GOD; Believe in yourself; Believe  that something good will happen to you! 

Linda Ikeji does not have any other source of income; she just blogs!  Yet, she is the richest blogger in Nigeria!


Walt Disney wrote: "The Cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek." 

Your treasure is hidden in your fear! 

Joseph Campbell also said,  "if you can dream it, you can do it." 

Louisa May Alcott told his friends, "He who believes is strong; he who doubts is weak."

You are not too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream. 


Sometimes, it is not really what it is, because GOD uses the foolish things to confound the wise.

Saturday, 17 October 2015


The mind is too deep. It's end is endless. Whatever you allow into your mind, will grow so deeply with no end. A lot of people are prisoners of their own dark minds. Have you noticed how negative thoughts magnify into something terribly unimaginable? But when you choose to snap out of it and refuse to let the negative thoughts gain access to your being, you bounce back! The mind is what makes you! Whoever you choose to become starts with your mind! If you choose to be positive, your mind will have no choice than to align with your choice! 


Life and death is in the power of your tongue. There's nothing that's existing that was not made by the word of mouth! It does not matter the situation, choose to succeed, choose to live, choose right and you will have whatever you say!


Friday, 16 October 2015



It is a gift to have someone who is honest with you! 

We live in a world where people are totally dishonest. They paint an "all is well picture" with you, but deep down, they are bitter at you and would not want to have anything to do with you. They even go to the extent of laughing with you, but the worse is what they think in their hearts towards you! Which one do you prefer? 

We do not like hearing the truth! We prefer being bitten behind our backs to hearing the honest and unadulterated truth. Truth scares us, even when it has promised to set us free!


Growth is a blessing! 

No one gives birth, and as lovely and tender a new born is, do not expect it to grow. 

Growth is a command from GOD, when HE said to us, "be fruitful and multiply". You may have been known to behave and act in a certain way, which probably might have been hard for you to deal with, even in your marriage, and you want to experience a more peaceful and hassle-free time always with your spouse, you need to truly get rid of those ways that make you look insane, even when you are not! 

Ask the HOLY SPIRIT to help you and HE will. You will find out that those things that naturally would piss you off, do not any longer. That's growth! 

It does not mean you will turn a blind eye as some advisers would advise! That's not healthy at all!

Try to deal with a situation differently, and you will get a totally different response! 

Dare to grow up! Stop saying "that's who I am, ask my mother or my father or my siblings". 

Thursday, 15 October 2015


There is nothing as terrible as being written off in life, either by others or by yourself. 

A friend of mine told me a story about a man named Zane Grey, incredibly popular in the early 20th century. He began his career as a dentist, eventually he stopped being a dentist because his passion for writing kept driving him. Having begun writing his books, all he got was rejections for his works and was literally told that he had no business being a writer and as such should quit writing and go back to being a dentist. 

It took him years though, but at 40, Zane finally got his first work published. He became an author of ninety books which sold over 50 million copies world wide. 

Edward Teller said, "When you come to the end of all the lights you know, and it's time to step into the darkness of the unknown, FAITH is knowing that one of two things shall happen: Either you will be given something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly." 

Remember that darkness is what gives birth to light! 


Challenges are supposed to be confronted, not ignored. The nature of any challenge will determine the nature of the measure you will use to confront it!


We spend so much money on beauty every year, and while the beauty product companies are getting richer, people are consuming drugs worth billions yearly to keep fit. 

Yet, we neglect the beauty and health product given freely to man by nature, exercise! 

Exercise not only increases energy muscle tone, bone strength, cardiovascular endurance, lung capacity, flexibility, circulation and metabolism, but also decreases body fat, blood pressure, blood sugar and cholesterol levels. 

Exercise also reduces depression. It is an anti-depressant and improves mood and stimulates the production of endorphins in the brain, which gives a feeling of wellbeing to us. 

Exercise also will help you sleep better. But be sure you do not exert yourself before going to bed, because from a medical book I read, it is necessary to avoid doing exercise at least three hours before going to bed. 

Exercise enhances creativity. Try exercising whenever you feel uninspired. 

Also if you want to keep up that youthful look of yours and enjoy a longer healthy life, start exercising!


Wednesday, 14 October 2015



You've got to know where your help comes from; otherwise, you will waste your time chasing people who have no power than you do! Stay connected to your source! GOD! 


You were not meant for failure; get up and win that race! Winning is to rise each time you fall. 

Are you too far behind to hope to win? You could still win you know; as long as the race is still on. It does not matter whom the audience is cheering, you could get the greatest cheer when you cross the line; when you finish the race. 

The world will cheer you if you do not give up; even if you are not the number one! 

Tuesday, 13 October 2015



Franklin Roosevelt said, "Men are not prisoners of fate, but prisoners of their own minds." 

Every level of promotion or income growth in life and ministry demands a different you. 

You have a gold mine in you, but it cannot grow without your mind! Your mine must grow with your mind! 

Have you bothered to find out if you are the problem?


If you are seriously dating a man now with the intention of changing him once you both get married, I would suggest you drop that idea today, because he is not going to change! It won't happen. 

If you are not pleased with what you see in the man you are dating now and are not willing to live with him the way he is in the event of both of you getting married, then he really cannot be the right one for you. 

Mary's case is an example of what happens when  you marry a man with the foolish hope that you will change him when you both get married. She married Collins even though he had always beaten her up while they were dating and he was also a womaniser. He would beg for forgiveness and promise to be a better person if Mary would give him another chance, yet he even got worse. 

In spite of what she was going through in the relationship, she went ahead and married Collins with the idea that she would change him, persuade him to follow her to church, stop him from beating her, stop him from womanising and so on. Of course her plans did not work! Collins never honoured their marriage and he never stopped beating her.

Monday, 12 October 2015


Hello friends, hope you all had a great day. I have a few tips to share with you. Wouldn't elaborate though,  just an insight from a seminar I attended. Hope you find them helpful if you are looking towards setting up a team for your set goals. 

Look for people who are willing and able to share their expertise with others. 

Look for people who feel comfortable with and enjoy working with others in a team. 

Look for people who communicate ideas, information and opinions clearly and openly. 

Look for people who welcome different points of views and feedbacks for people. 

Look for people who are dependable and who work to deadlines. 

Look for people who jointly set team goals and objectives, values and methods. 

Saturday, 10 October 2015


Something that has helped me in life, in spite of situations and circumstances that seemed impossible, is the fact that "I choose always to win even in the worst situation!"

In fact, I see the winning before it comes. I settle it In my spirit before I even start seeing the results manifest! That is that stubborn part of me that never says never! So, this Is not a fallacy or something that someone told me that I am not even sure if it works. This is what works for me on a daily basis. 

As long as you are alive, you are in a race! You either win or lose and I know we all go with the winning! Nobody wants to be a failure or a loser. 

And the truth is, if you do not see the end results of your plans before executing them, you will be vulnerable to the challenges that you might face climbing up! But if you see your success as you plan your goals, with the help of GOD, you will be insurmountable! Nothing will move you! You will keep at it, no matter what! 

So, finish before you start! Settle it first in HIS presence! Begin that journey as a finisher! Begin that battle as a conqueror! Begin that business as a success story! Have a great weekend! 


The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for! Think deep about it!


Friday, 9 October 2015


Do you agree that what you lack at the moment and the failures you have gone through have the capacity to bring out the best in you? 

Rather than become sad by what you lack or the negative experiences you have had, you can make use of them as ladders to greatness! 

You know Larry Ellison? He dropped out of college twice and bounced from job to job without a clear direction. His adopted father practically told him that he would never amount to anything in life! But Larry Ellison started the company "Oracle" from the scratch and went on to become one of the richest "drop out billionaires" in the world! 

Here's what he said: "The most important aspect of my personality as far as determining how my success goes has been my questioning conventional wisdom, doubting experts a day questioning authority. While that can be easily painful in your relationships with your parents and teachers, it's enormously useful in life. I have had all the disadvantages required for success." 

You see my friend, whatever has gone wrong, convert the negative to positive. A failure, a mistake or a disadvantage is not the end of life! Determine that you will use the ladder of pain or any disadvantage to climb to your Promised Land! 

"Most times, disadvantage is inevitable as long as success is being birthed!" 


Hello friends, hope you are having a great day. Someone once said these, and I thought I should share with you.  Read below:

If you want to be defeated, look back! 
If you want to be distracted, look around! 
If you want to be dismayed, look ahead!
If you want to be disappointed, look across! 
If you want to be disgraced, look down! 
But if you want to be delivered, look up! That is where your winning comes from-up! 

Monday, 5 October 2015


If you are honest to yourself, you will notice the presence of a compelling peaceful feeling and assurance about the man  you intend to spend the rest of your life with, when you think of both of you living as husband and wife. If this peace is not present in your relationship, you may need to put all plans to take the relationship to the next level on hold till you get this assurance! 

And the best way by far to get this assurance and to be sure you are taking the right step is to ask for divine guidance. If you have sought the face of GOD and still feel that doubt and uneasiness, that is GOD telling you "DO NOT GO THERE". Am very sure a lot of us know exactly what I am talking about. 



As you go out daily, do not talk too much about yourself. No one likes to listen to people who talk too much about themselves. Listen to others as you would love to be listened to. People who talk too much about themselves are boring! Avoid it! Thousands of people are hurting daily, talk about their problems! Praise in public! Discipline in private! Choose to intercede for someone in your daily prayers.

Sunday, 4 October 2015


Henry Ford said, "Whether you think you can or you think you cannot, you are right." 

He was the man that gave his generation the motorcar cylinder engine against all odds! Even though his friends or circumstances around were all negative, he kept his inner being- his thoughts- positive, and became a celebrity! 

The enemy would do everything possible to attack your thoughts in order to disorganise your dreams! Do you know that your thoughts eventually become words? And your words actions? And your actions habits? And your habits character? And your character your destiny? 

A man is essentially what he thinks, his character and by implication his destiny, all being the sum total of his thoughts! 

Thought is very power; it's a force. Thought gives birth to creation. Thought is cause! 

Whatever result you see manifest in your life is as a result of your thoughts. Thinking is the talking of the soul with itself! Refuse thoughts of fear, complex, can't do it, depression, self-hate, envy, revenge. Accept Thoughts of win, success, can do it, love, joy, kindness, forgiveness, and your progress will be outstanding! 

Dwell on thoughts upon the grandest and the grandest you shall see. Fix your mind upon the highest and the highest you shall be!

Saturday, 3 October 2015


Keep all your dreams so close to your heart, and never give up when your life is falling apart. Let your dreams give you strength to carry on, and help you find the future you feel has gone. 

Build on those dreams that you hold so dearly, and you will be able to see your life more clearly. These are your tomorrow's you can make today, and through the darkness, you will find your way.

Nothing is impossible, as long as you believe; those felt unreachable are possible to achieve. Have some faith in yourself that you deserve good, trust in GOD'S love, and reach for the stars!


In your relationship with people, wisdom is important. Be friendly with all, but do not take all into consideration. "Lady Christiana"


Martha Stewart is an American business magnate, media personality, author and magazine publisher. 

During her glorious days, she published a variety of cookbooks and authored many newspaper columns, magazine articles a day other pieces on homemaking. In 1990, she developed a magazine, "MARTHA STEWART LIVING," where she was editor-in-chief. Circulation eventually spiked to more than two million copies per issue. 

NOTE: get ready to be envied when your success is announced, but if your trust is in GOD, no evil plan against you shall succeed.  

So, it happened that all of this success came to a crashing halt in early 2004 when she was convicted of lying to investigators about a stock sale using insider trading (and thereby avoiding a loss of more than $45,000). Martha Stewart served five months in a West Virginia federal prison camp. Most experts speculated that her career was over, but they were wrong! 

Straight out of incarceration, Martha began her comeback! Amazingly, she returned her company to profitability again, by 2006. She introduced lines of ready- made home furnishings and mass market interior paint. She came back to television, re-inventing the Martha Stewart show and released a book during this time as well. She definitely did not let a prison sentence get in her way! 

Indeed, if GOD was to judge us, we will all be ex-convicts! Yes! Yes! It is not what happens to a man, but what happens in that man that counts! Get ready to bounce back! It is not over yet! Have a blissful October! 


Friday, 2 October 2015


"If you are not going to maintain a garden, do not plant one".

A lot of people have ventured into tasks without seeing them to a finishing. Either they tried to copy someone or they just wanted to follow the trend and not feel left out or they just did not know what they were venturing into. It is wise that we look before we leap. Ask questions, dig deep, find out facts about what you are about to venture into- no matter what it is. It is always wise to get clarity in anything at all we want to do in life. 

So if you are not ready to finish a race, do not start one.  If you are not ready to finish a house, do not lay a foundation. If you are not ready to maintain a friendship, do not make one. If you are not ready to be patient, love, respect and understand your spouse whom you'd declared all your love and loyalty to, do not get into it and mess him or her up. 

Bottom line is, whatever you want to get into, make sure you have all the facts so that you can decide on ensuring that you make it to the finish line! Do not walk and run blindly! Enjoy the month of October! 


Every worthwhile accomplishment has a price tag attached to it. The question is always whether you are willing to pay the price to attain it-in hard work, sacrifice, patience and faith! 

Thursday, 1 October 2015


Strength has come to stay. 55 is real. GOD bless NIGERIA! We can only get better. As GOD is blessing Nigeria, may our families also be blessed!