RESENTMENT IS LIKE DRINKING POISON AND HOPING IT WILL KILL YOUR ENEMY - MANDELA.
Put differently, the Hater suffers more than the Hated. It is difficult to live in a challenging world without having enemies;if you do not hate people, people will hate you, especially if you are making some efforts to better yourself.
A Doctor friend was telling me how intense hatred can kill. e said he was treating a patient, but no matter the drugs he administered to her , whenever her daughter visited and told her about home, her condition worsened. Then he changed tactics and started talking to her, the woman told her point blank that if she ever died, she must go after her neighbor. He pleaded with her to forgive and free her mind so that she could recover but she refused and started recalling all the so called atrocities of the other individual. T hey made no sense to the Doctor because they were so trivial.
Unfortunately, the woman died two days later with so much pain and anger. It is not every anger or hatred that can lead to death like in this woman's case, but the bad blood t hey generate can never allow you focus. Someone once said that if you cannot forgive, forget and ignore for your own GOOD !
Forgiveness is the function of peace. Being able to forgive our neighbour goes with our personality type and level of exposure. The way we are nurtured (raised up) counts a lot in our ability to overlook the excesses of our neighbour. A child that grows up in a family where his parents portray hatred and bear grudges on his relatives tends to follow the same footstep.
Let us be mindful of our life on earth. Being positive with life increases longevity!