Design the life you want in your mind. Be sure of it! Then discard all other options. It is either you will have that life or you will not live at all. It is either you will succeed at getting what you truly want in life or you will keep trying all the days of your life.
Do not settle for anything less. Coming up with an alternative life will not and should not be an option for you at all! Yes, you may need to rework the route to your ultimate desires every now and then, but never change the destination.