This 'tussle' of projecting blame outward toward another, rather than 'owning' our own part in the reflection has seeded in homes, because children have often witnessed adults behaving unkindly, aggressively, assumptively and competitively with each other. We can instill a culture of the opposite, which leads to the desire of most i.e., PEACE.
Leniency, with each other, often construed as 'forgiveness', is required. As human beings we are all fallible. We have all at some points unintentionally strayed from our own contracts, not necessarily willfully, often simply because we were too busy and overwhelmed in the day's pressurized ways that we got deeply habitualized in the non-constructive behaviour.
Patience and kindness (the two friends) is required to help coax our minds and actions away from these happiness sabotaging habits.
LET US ENCOURGE, ENHANCE AND ENRICH!