You may have read that children need to experience the consequences of their actions as soon as possible. And maybe you’ve heard that parents should be calm as they discipline children. In reality, you may not be able keep your cool and react right away.'Buy yourself time to calm down before you deal with the situation,'in my opinion and from experience. You can tell your child, 'Wow, bad decision. I need some time to figure out what I’m going to do about that.'
When your emotions are in check, express empathy for your child first, then deliver the consequences. Empathy gives your child room to connect his/her behavior to the outcome.