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YOU ARE SPECIAL

Often times I have come across people who feel that they are not as fortunate as others.  And I feel bad seeing them do less or not even contribute at all to their society because of what their environment or society had turned them into. But on one on one encounter,  these same people prove to be no where at all, what the society calls them. They seem to be more open and more lively and have a lot to offer. This is a case of a little girl who was unfortunate to have become a victim of life challenging circumstance, and when everyone else had given  up on her, after series of encounters with the right people who helped her come back up,  and groomed her into knowing how special and valuable she is, no matter what the society thought of her, she decided to let her past go.  Right now, this little girl, whom the society termed incapable has grown into a strong and confident woman. That is why it is very important not be in a hurry to throw away someone, just beca

DO YOU AGREE WITH HER MOM?

I got a call from a younger friend today, she is 13 years old. She told me how she likes reading my posts and how she was touched by the article, "a friend indeed" I posted this morning. We got talking and she told me how difficult it has been for her to keep a lasting friendship with her female friends and how she wishes she could have at least one friend she can call "a friend indeed".  While I probed further, she started crying and told me that her friends do not like her. She said she does not hold back anything from her friends  and that she treats them very nicely and makes them feel at home whenever they are around her, but whenever they have little argument, they say a lot of hurtful things to her. She got so emotional, but I was able to calm her down and told her that everything will be alright.  However, she said her mom is aware of the whole situation and she gave her possible reasons why her friendship with these friends do not last.  Hear

A FRIEND INDEED

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The popular expression " A friend in need, is a friend indeed" often times is used to affirm the true value of friendship.  A friend's worth is measured when there is a consistent display of actions that communicates value. No wonder the Bible puts it this way..."Iron sharpens iron, so does a friend sharpen the countenance of his friend". Countenance as used here is a Metaphor for every form of support that moves your friend to the right direction.  It is easy to attribute "help" to financial resources, but "help" as it were could be a hand to hold, a heart that understands, an ear that will listen and provide valuable contributions without being judgemental, a voice of reason that strengthens your faith even when it feels like the world is closing in on you.   In the world we are in today, we hardly find "friends in deed" who care a great deal and could go out of their way to put on hold tempo

SHE THOUGHT AND SHE GOT HEALED

The story of the woman with hemorrhage recorded in the synoptic gospels is very pathetic but didactic. It conveys a great moral lesson on the power of thoughts. It is very glaring from her biography narrated in the gospels that nothing in life changes until thoughts are altered. Everything works according to the frequency of thoughts released by man. She had spent all her estate yet there was no amelioration in her state. Despite the care of many medical experts and professionals her case grew worse. Until she changed her thoughts healing never came forth.  Lives change because men think right. Things equally get worse because men simply don’t think. Thoughts are very powerful. Thoughts become things. The world around us existed first in the realm of thoughts. This woman not only lost her wealth, dignity and affluence; her relatives and friends abandoned her. As long as she kept thinking negatively, her illness worsened, her finances dissipated, until she became derelict. The ne

THE IMPORTANCE OF FAMILY

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I sometimes wonder how life would have been were I the only one living on the planet. The thought of it is Inexplainable. The world would have been terribly lonely. Imagine how lonely Adam was when his only company were the animals. No wonder GOD said "it is not good that the man should be alone". HE knew that Adam would not have survived another day alone,  that was why  HE made him a companion,  Eve. However, GOD understands the importance of family.  HE understood that Adam could not function without family.  That is why family is very important.  In other words, no man is an island. You cannot be so wealthy or too important to not want to involve yourself in the family. I have seen a lot of people who do not joke with their families and I have seen people who have said they can do without "family". It is only a matter of time, they come crawling back.   Someone once said, that it is important to remember what life is all about - the lo

WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK ABOUT THIS?

A colleague and I had a debate on the issue of a single lady owning a car and it really was a very big one. Having spent so much on taxis,  She is considering  buying a car before the end of the year. But she has a very big challenge on that. She said that her parents advised her seriously not to ever do that, because they are of the opinion that the car will drive men or better put, suitors away from her. She even concurred and gave me instances about some single ladies that she knows that own their cars and are finding it difficult to get married, because the men are scared of them. I could not relate to that at all. Seriously? How could that be? Unless the ladies have been meeting the wrong ones. Well, I told her that those reasons are false, because, owning a car to me is a necessity not a luxury, especially in some big cities where transportation is on the high side. After much debate on that, I was able to convince her to go ahead and buy her car and live her life. I do not

THE REPLY OF MY ANONYMOUS READER.....

You guys remembered my friend that wrote me about her relationship and how she felt her boy friend is not being real to her? Here is her reply to my advise. I am happy for her. I hope we will always make the right decision, no matter what. READ HERE..... Dear Neme, Hope you are doing well. I just want to give you an update about my boyfriend and I. I actually thought I was going to get some response from your readers, but all the same, I followed your advice. You said something about running before I make a terrible mistake and I thought about it for a while. When I could not come up with any tangible decision, I took it to God in prayers. Dear Neme, as I write to you, we are over with the relationship. I was able to tell him boldly that I was fed up with the relationship. Initially he thought I was joking, but when he saw the seriousness in me, he became serious as well. He said that it is not possible, that I cannot leave him. He even told me that he is the last man st

WHY THE MEMORIES LIVE ON

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THE IMAGE OF PICTURES Each time I take a picture, either a personal or a group one, I am always very keen to see how I appeared in the picture. I find myself taking multiple pictures just to make sure I capture an image that appeals to my emotion...I keep taking pictures because I haven't found one that wows me and reveals the expression I want to  communicate, however I keep taking the shots until that which I seek is delivered either in black and white or in coloured. Everywhere I go, on the road, at events, in schools, in malls, even in taxi's, I see people posing to take pictures. The intriguing  part of this daily activity is that it cuts across all categories of people; children, teenagers, adults and more advanced persons.  Basically, different  emotions are  attached to pictures and as much as they  preserve memories of "the good old days", they remind us of the days of little beginning, folks that came into our lives, people

BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

"Let no man's heart fail because of him; your servant will go and fight with this Philistine."  1 Samuel 17:32 People will not follow a leader who does not have confidence in himself. In fact, people are naturally attracted to people who convey confidence. An excellent example of this can be seen in an incident that occurred in Russia during an attempted coup. Army tanks surrounded the government building that housed President Boris Yeltsin and his pro-democracy supporters. High-level military leaders had ordered the tank commander to open fire and kill Yeltsin. As the army rolled into position, Yeltsin strode from the building, climbed up on a tank, looked the commander in the eye, and thanked him for coming over to the side of democracy. Later the commander admitted that although they had not intended to go over to his side, Yeltsin had appeared so confident and commanding that the soldiers  decided to join him. Confidence is a characteristic of a positive a

HOPE FOR THE LIVING

There is a place inside of you.  Where love should be. Do not throw it aside. Just believe.  Do not let the pain you feel tear your world apart.  Look inside of you and be strong.  Tell yourself, you are a miracle.  I know sometimes it seems you are alone.  But the truth is, all you need to become is right inside of you. You only need to believe in yourself.   Do not be afraid.  Do not doubt yourself.  I have heard some people say "they will never do good again, because there is no gain.  You know two wrongs cannot make a right.   Because you feel that there is so much wickedness in this world, does not mean you should lose faith and become evil.   You can always make a difference by standing out.  You feel you are down today?  Just because things did not turn out the way you wished they would? Just because you felt you are drowning and no one is there to give you a helping hand,  Or you wish you can turn  back the hands of time, For wh

THE ESSENCE OF STAYING BEAUTIFUL

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Beauty is a characteristic of a person, animal, place, object, or ideal that provides a perceptual experience of pleasure or satisfaction. As much as "beauty" has a conventional perception, it is more personal than collective in the sense that the ideals that typify beauty are   peculiar to individuals which possibly could  transcend to values that enrich an environment. This enrichment is beyond the structures, monumental edifices, and trends that evolve and decamp with the passage of time. Due to how divergent our society is and how people yield to different ideologies, it is important to hold on to fundamental, timeless truths that have build us up from the onset. This is not to champion stagnation at the expense of development but to sieve ideologies instead of accepting everything hook line and sinker.     What makes one beautiful? Is it the physical attraction that continually sweeps people off their feet? I am a firm promoter of the concept of looking go

WHY YOU NEED TO KNOW

THAT... Never allow your ugly past to bring you down. Never let it determine your future. Let your past motivate you to speak to your present situation because, there is power in every word you speak.  Every word you speak is a spirit. So, choose it wisely. Thankfulness is the key to you success. Success is not by struggle. How you present yourself determines how people treat you. When your reasoning is high, you will maintain a high level of progression. Troubles are not to mar you but to make you. There must be a battle before victory. If you are a giver, expect to have your harvests. It takes the humility of a lamb to establish the authority of a lion. Until you know what is written about you, you will not understand your place. Your relevance is tied to your finding or discovering your purpose. When you understand your destiny, you will have dignity. Everything that has value requires effort.  Nothing that is free ever has value. If you do not value yoursel

WHY WE SHOULD STRIVE FOR EXCELLENCE

Hello There..... Hope you had a great week. I have a little piece  for your lifting. Enjoy as you read and get refreshed.  Excellence means a state of possessing good qualities in an eminent degree; exalted degree; superiority in virtue. How amazing.  Do you know that one does not just become excellent without having to go through some "work outs"?  Not keeping fit physically (which is good), but working on your "being". The bible says in Daniel 5:11-12, that Daniel had an excellent spirit, knowledge and understanding to interpret dreams, explain riddles, and solve problems.  Thomas Edison said "Genius is one percent inspiration, but 99 percent transpiration. To strive for excellence, here are a few things you need to do: Change what you see. Change your vision. Look beyond what you see. Learn to go the extra mile. Stop being satisfied with just "being there". Excellence requires handwork. Try paying attention

WHY WE NEED TO CREATE A WORK - LIFE GAME PLAN

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1. After writing down your long-term career goal, the next action is to list a series of step-by-step specific positions you want to reach with specific rewards and benefits for each level. 2. Create mini-goals that add value to your resume, such as a more advanced degree, special training, team projects, or management experiences that will prepare you for the next level. 3. Put time lines on each set goal and mini-goals, starting with one month and then going to three months, six months, one year, five years, eight years and ten years. 4. For each mini-goal, write a positive affirmation stating why the goal is important to you and how it will help you move closer to your primary goal.   Yes we can! Nothing can stop us! We have what we say. So let us get it going! Keep shining my friends. 

WHY YOUR CRISIS IS AN OPPORTUNITY. .

Problems are temporary interruptions in a plan that produces discouragement, disappointments and distress to make us derail from out set plan. In the book of 2corintians 4:7, the scriptures show that we are never abandoned by God no matter how tough and distressing the situation appears. When you have such understanding it automatically reflects in your attitude. Problems are opportunities in disguise; they reveal (A). Wrong direction in your life; Many times in your life journey, you may never realize you are in the wrong direction until a major problem springs up and exposes the dangers ahead of the path you are treading on. (B). Weaknesses in your vision and ideas; Until your ideas are tested by problems, you may never know how ineffective they are and as such you may never have the opportunity to improve and consolidate value. (C). The state of your heart; the response and attitude you display in the midst of turbulent times reveals the state of your heart. It exposes

WISDOM FOR LIVING...WHY WE NEED IT.

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Sometimes all we need is a hug from the right person and all the stress melt away. How many times do you give your spouse and children those encouraging hugs? It should be a habit if you ask me. Because you never know how much those little seeds you sow will yield you.  Your greatest test is when you are able to bless someone else while you are going through your own storm. Because there couldn't have been a better time to sow  than such time.  Do not try to take the short cut or the easy road, rather take the right road, no matter how long it takes. Because most times, anything done in a haste is never done well. GOD will make for you what you make happen for others.  When someone is willing to go all the way with you, do not take them for granted.  Never look down on anyone. For GOD opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.   Be kind to the people you meet on your way up, because you will surely meet them on your way down. 

ALL THAT GLITTERS....

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All that glitters is not gold. This is a well-known saying, which means that not everything that looks precious or true turns out to be so. This can apply to people, places, or things that promise to be more than they really are.  A lot of us have fallen victims to such. And it is unfortunate that some people's lives were affected badly and they never came out of the nightmare. While some of us got "lucky" to have gotten up. It is quite hard to be deceived by someone you trusted,  someone you could swear would never hurt or harm you. I could relate to that very well.  But I have a little word of encouragement to such that reads this.  You know, we cannot be completely  careful- meaning that no matter how careful or smart or intelligent you are,  there is someone out there who is smarter and more intelligent than you. Someone is out there upping his/her game. So you cannot even tell when you are being deceived until the deed is done. I can hear y

WHY WE NEED TO SAY BYE - BYE TO GUILT..

Guilt...that deep feeling of remorse or negatively judging yourself for things you either did or did not do in the past, which you believe had a negative effect on someone or something else. As vast as life is, filled with different circumstances, experiences, and people of unique divergent personality make-ups, it only becomes a mission impossible to deal with daily issues without accumulating guilt...guilty either about your behaviour towards that child,  or there's this thing you said to someone and you saw the look of hurt on their face, or you kept something that wasn't yours, but you didn't have the courage to return it. According to Albert Ellis, a Psychologist and the proponent of (Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy) suggests that what disturbs men's mind is not the event, but their judgements on events, therefore all that matters is your perception of the events that created your feelings of guilt and the harmful effect it is or will have

WHY YOU NEED YOUR BREAKFAST

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HEALTH TIPS Breakfast is considered your most important meal because it affects your eating for the rest of the day. So here are a few of my findings why eating your breakfast is very important. It improves your memory by boosting your brain activity. It gives you a better attitude to relate with people- because a hungry man is an angry man. So if you do not want to make a negative first impression to your clients, ensure you eat your breakfast  (except you are fasting). For Students, It improves their concentration and performance. When I was in boarding school, not eating breakfast was the order of the day and trust me, it was not a good experience at all (scary days). Studies show that children who eat breakfast perform better in their academics and physical activities than children who do not. It improves weight loss. Because, when you eat breakfast, you wake up your metabolism, which aids in the burning of those calories you need to lose weig

SOWING THE RIGHT SEED

CHILDREN ARE LIKE SEED.....CULTIVATE THEM WELL AND YOU WILL ENJOY THEM. Before  a farmer plants, he goes through rigorous processes to ensure that when the seeds are sown, they will germinate and bear fruits without dieing along the way. Some of these processes might be to ensure that the soil where the seeds are to be planted is a good soil depending on the type of seed you want to plant, treating the seeds,  because some seeds will not germinate unless they are sown while fresh, or will only sprout in the dark or in the light. Other  seeds may require soaking in room temperature water for some time, might be days. The farmer ensures he has manure or fertiliser that will enable a healthy growth of the seeds when they are planted. As an Agriculturist, I have realised that it takes a lot to sow to be able to have a good harvest.   The same applies to children. Raising children  is a task whereby the parents must be fully equipped to ensure that their children grow to give t

THE DEFINITION OF A GREAT MARRIAGE

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A great marriage is not only about the love you had in the beginning, but how well you continue building your love till the end. Marriage is not just a ceremony that lasts only a day,  but a journey of a life time. That is why one should know exactly what one wants before venturing into marriage. The greatest happiness on earth is the happiness of marriage. "A man who is utterly in love with his wife does not hesitate to show it in whichever way that pleases him; his life is always beautiful and things tend to fall into place for him with ease". When you set a standard for yourself in whichever area of your life, you work hard to meet up with the standard.  The same applies to marriage.  Many marriages would be better if the husband and wife have a clear understanding that they are on the same side. So learning from my parents and some few research I made, I found out that couples that enjoy great marriages have these in common: They love each other gen

BIG GAME.....DREAMING IS DARING

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Go farther than you see. Don't just look at the present. Think unthinkable thoughts, see where no one is looking and take corresponding action before it's obvious.  Wayne Gretsky is arguably the greatest hockey player in history. Asked about his secret for continuing to lead the national hockey league in goals year after year, Wayne replied " I skate to where the puck is going to be, not where it has been" Isak Dineson said, "God made the world round so that we would never be able to see too far down the road" As your plans unfold and you move in the right direction, choose not to be limited by what you see, move further because there is always something better few kilometres ahead of you.  Significant achievements have never been obtained by taking small risks on unimportant issues. "If you are hunting rabbits in tiger country, you must keep your eye peeled for tiger, but when you are hunting tiger, you can ignore

A LETTER FROM A READER...

This is a mail I got from a reader: Dear Neme, Reading your blog everyday inspires me, that is why I am always looking forward to reading ur posts. I have learnt a lot from you to be candid. You talk with so much experience. And the way you talk about God amazes me. I am impressed. After reading your post about being in a wrong relationship my mind has not rested. I have been dating this guy for the past 3 years and March 2015 will make us 4 years together. This guy does not allow me to see his siblings.  Whenever we are together and his elder sister calls him that she is coming over to see him he does everything possible for me to leave.  He will start telling me that he does not want his sister to see me. That his sister is a monster and he will not be happy if his sister treats me wrongly. He's been saying this since we met. I believed him at first, but I don't anymore. He claims he loves me very much and that I mean the world to him. But I am not getting any younger and I

NEXT TURN.....RIGHT

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As the year is winding down, companies are reviewing policies, some are downsizing, some are counting their milestones while some are redirecting a business plan; individuals are gradually getting into the frenzy mood of the season we are in, some are buying into the conventional system of putting up appearances, some are saving the best for the last, some are gathering their sleeves and storing in barns for the coming year because of course the coming year is yet to unfold its plans; some are counting their blessings, some are multiplying the effect, some are giving up and giving in, while some are gaining more grounds...and isn't it amazing to know that these activities are happening simultaneously in different environments?  It is important that as we bask in the goodwill that comes with the season, we in the same vain, make concrete plans for the upcoming year. I think it is ideal for us to get pensive, reflect, and choose to impact and influence our world in

HAPPY DECEMBER!!!! SAVING THE BEST FOR LAST

Hello There!  Just a little word for you this beautiful month. As GOD has made it possible for us to see this month, I want to assure you that HE has saved the best for last for you. We are not moved by sight, but we are moved by faith in the word (promises) of GOD. This might sound like a cliché....you be like yeah yeah I have heard this before. But the truth is that you have not heard this particular one.  There is so much to gain  when you have absolute trust in GOD and walk in righteousness. Nothing is hard for GOD to do. You only need to play your part which is trusting in GOD and walking in the path of righteousness.  GOD loves us so much and HE does not ever bring evil to HIS children, instead HE said only with our eyes we shall see the punishment of the wicked(psalm 91). This is a great month, believe it or not. Let our faith be lifted as we walk through this month with high expectations.  It is written, you have whatsoever you say. So I urg