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It was the coldest winter ever. Many animals died because of the cold. The hedgehogs, realizing the situation, decided to group together to keep warm. This way they covered and protected themselves; but the quills of each one wounded their closest companions. After awhile, they decided to distance themselves one from the other and they began to die, alone and frozen. So they had to make a choice: either accept the quills of their companions or disappear from the Earth. Wisely, they decided to go back to being together. They learned to live with the little wounds caused by the close relationship with their companions in order to receive the heat that came from the others. This way they were able to survive. The best relationship is not the one that brings together perfect people, but when each individual learns to live with the imperfections of others and can admire the other person's good qualities.

Never try to avoid the truths that lie before you, or deceive yourself by decorating them with niceties. We must always remain completely aware of the truths in our lives so that our necessary contributions to humanity might be shared. If there is a truth that must be told, do not try to explain it away or avoid it or lie about it--speak it, feel it, share it, and do what you can to help heal that hurt, no matter how small those efforts may seem. The truth always prevails, that's the truth you MUST know!

This is the story of two frogs. One frog was fat and the other skinny. One day, while searching for food, they inadvertently jumped into a vat of milk. They couldn't get out, as the sides were too slippery, so they were just swimming around. The fat frog said to the skinny frog, "Brother frog, there's no use paddling any longer. We're just going to drown, so we might as well give up." The skinny frog replied, "Hold on brother, keep paddling. Somebody will get us out." And they continued paddling for hours. After a while, the fat frog said, "Brother frog, there's no use. I'm becoming very tired now. I'm just going to stop paddling and drown. It's Sunday and nobody's working. We're doomed. There's no possible way out of here." But the skinny frog said, "Keep trying. Keep paddling. Something will happen, keep paddling." Another couple of hours passed. The fat frog said, "I can't go on

Of the many interactions I had with my mother those many years ago, one stands out with clarity. I remember the occasion when mother sent me to the main road, about twenty yards away from the homestead, to invite a passing group of seasonal work-seekers home for a meal. She instructed me to take a container along and collect dry cow dung for making a fire. I was then to prepare the meal for the group of work-seekers. The thought of making an open fire outside at midday, cooking in a large three-legged pot in that intense heat, was sufficient to upset even an angel. I did not manage to conceal my feelings from my mother and, after serving the group, she called me to the veranda where she usually sat to attend to her sewing and knitting. Looking straight into my eyes, she daid "Tsholofelo, why did you sulk when I requested you to prepare a meal for those poor destitute people?" Despite my attempt to deny her allegation, and using the heat of the fire and the sun as

A banana is hung on a string inside the cage and a set of stairs placed in the cage leading up to the banana. Whenever a monkey goes up the stairs and grabs the banana, ice-cold water is poured on all the monkeys in the cage. Very soon, as the monkeys begin to associate touching the banana with being sprayed with ice-cold water they will try to prevent one another from trying to get the banana. The cold water is then turned off and one monkey removed from the cage and replaced with another that doesn’t know anything about the cold water. This new monkey will inevitably try to get the banana, but the other four monkeys will attack him to stop him from doing so. If another of the old monkeys is removed and replaced with a newcomer, this newcomer will try to grab the banana. The previous newcomer will gladly take part in beating him up together with the other monkeys in order to prevent him from climbing the stairs to the banana. Slowly, all the original monkey can be re

When we think we are separate, we lose power. Whenever I say "my," I have lost my power. Power is not my power; it is not enlarging oneself as a separate individual. It is only gainable as part of a larger whole. Then you communicate with the rest of yourself--which may be a tree. You, reciprocally, are moved by the universe. Whenever you shut down connectedness, you get depressed. Psychic awareness breaks in as a gift. It is fearful to know we are connected to everything in the universe, because then we are responsible. 

A wise person said “Often, our actions and assumptions continue long after the reasons for them have passed.” That is why picking up things and doing them because others have always done and continue to do them that way is never a good idea. Any person who desires to be a great success and be a leader both to themselves and to others must not take anything for granted. Stephen Covey said “we simply assume that the way we see things is the way they really are or the way they should be. And our attitudes and behaviours grow out of these assumptions.” Your assumptions can influence your attitudes and behaviours in a big way and so ultimately influence your future. It is always necessary in any given circumstance to ask the question “why?” before doing or not doing anything.

Who is pulling your strings? Who is in control of your life and your destiny? Do you have a clear picture of where you are and where you are going or are you blinded and walking around in a daze?

Why do we think that GOD punishes us because we did not pay our tithes? GOD loves us so much that while we were yet sinners, HE sent HIS only SON, JESUS CHRIST to die for our redemption!  Here's the inspiration: whenever you pay your tithe, do it as an act of gratitude to your loving FATHER, not out of fear that if you do not pay your tithe HE will send the devourer to attack your life/family. The Bible says that GOD is our rock and there is no wickedness in HIM. So why do we think that a LOVING FATHER will attack HIS children with sickness or mishaps because they did not pay their tithe? We have been fed with how GOD is a consuming fire who is always looking for offenders to deal with mercilessly, but left out the part that tells us that HE loves us so much that HE gave, that HE redeems our lives from destruction and crowns us with loving kindness and tender mercies. You give to those you love, right? That tells us that love goes hand in hand with giving. Isnt it

Maintain daily routine like getting up early in the morning and exercising (funny I haven't exercised in a while but I am seriously considering it..you too should because exercise is good for our hearts and healths generally),  and of course eating breakfast, which so many people ignore, having lunch, dinner and sleep.  Instead of fried food, eat baked or steamed food. Oily foods are not good for the heart. Take time to relax and meditate, it is very helpful for healthy life. Drink 8 to 10 glassed of water daily. This is one of my favourites.  For those of us who use cars for mobility, there is every tendency to get lazy that we use vehicle to go a very short distance. You should walk it sometimes, like using the steps instead of the elevator.  Ensure you have a restful night. 

Take a moment to reflect upon how "who you are," influences how you see people and things around you. 

I also wondered as I watched the waiter what he was thinking. Was he thinking about staying in a hotel some day and also being waited on by someone? Did he ever dream of being on the other side of the situation? What were his hopes and dreams for the future? I don’t know, but I wanted to tell him that he could have any future he wanted for himself. I wanted to tell him that he could get to the other side. It is more likely, though, that he was thinking about his family and what he could do to provide for them right there and then by working in that hotel. As for my grandfather, he did turn the tables and move to the other side of the equation. How? Through my parents, through me, and through everyone of my family members that have a better life today because he worked hard. Whatever kind of life we have today, he contributed to it. The success or failure of any one generation is influenced by the success or failure of the preceding generations. I realised at that moment t

Is there more at stake to the choices you make than just your future? Could you be living a life that is not of your own making? These were the questions that raced through my mind one very ordinary looking day. It turned out to be a mind-opening day. I was having breakfast in a restaurant on a recent working trip. The waiter greeted me warmly as I went to serve myself. He then retreated to a corner of the room, taking on the common stance that waiters assume with their hands clasped in front, a towel dangling between them. As I sat down to eat he came and asked whether I needed some coffee or tea. Not being particularly fond of hot drinks I declined and said the juice would suffice. He noticed that my glass was small and offered to bring a larger glass of juice. So the morning went on. He would serve me, then go back to the corner and watch. It was as though at every moment he was observing me and asking himself what else he could do to make my breakfast better and m

“Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties AND at the same time, confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.”  Most people would relate to and agree with the first part of the paradox, but the second part is often not realised by many. It is an important missing link and one you would do well to always remember and utilize.

Everyone is good at something. Discover the things at which you excel, focus on your talents. Express yourself, whether it is through writing, art, music etc. Find something you enjoy- we all have it! Give yourself permission to take pride in them. Give credit to your successes. Appreciate your talents. The truth is, inferiority is a state of mind in which you have declared yourself a victim. You should not allow yourself to be victimised!  Everyone is born with talents and strengths, so stop feeding yourself with lies or allowing others or situations to feed you with lies that you are nothing. You have it- you are equipped with talents and strengths, all you need to do is to develop and excel in them.  If it is difficult to identify your abilities or what you think you love to do, think about things others do that you would like to do too and take some lessons, do a research about them, read about them. I found out that when you are following your passion, you feel uniqu

In the midst of all the hustle and bustle of life, it can sometimes be difficult to see or remain aware that our lives have tremendous meaning and purpose. Encounters, occurrences, and opportunities that hold endless possibilities and potentials, often go by unnoticed. Things that appear to be completely unimportant or of little to no consequence, turn out to have important repercussions in our lives.  The truth is that our lives are made up of those seemingly "little events," and those individuals and situations that we dismiss as insignificant, turn out to be people and events that could change us or our lives in important and meaningful ways.  Life, just as a puzzle, is made up of small, seemingly insignificant pieces. When we realize this, we can keep in mind that each minor occurrence in our lives can go a long way to help develop and reflect our character--displaying to us that which we have learned, and that which we still need to gain a better understand

Writing  down your visions- imaginations or the mental picture of who you want to be is important because it gives power and permanence to your thoughts.  I came across one of my old journals and I was amazed at the things i wrote down and how much have manifested physically, even the seemingly impossible ones. There is power in writing down your visions. You can always modify it from time to time until your visions materialise.  Writing it down will also help you when it comes to remembering the vision for your life. As you read it everyday it will become imprinted on your mind until you will be able to think and say it without referring to the written version. Then and only then will it become a part of you. This vision will completely take over your mind. Once that happens, ways to achieve what your thoughts will be made available and your environment will be forced to align itself with this new found vision.

We all know the story of the greedy king named Midas. He had a lot of gold and the more he had the more he wanted. He stored all the gold in his vaults and used to spend time every day counting it. One day while he was counting, a stranger came from nowhere and said he would grant him a wish. The king was delighted and said, "I would like everything I touch to turn to gold." The stranger asked the king, Are you sure?" The king replied, "Yes." So the stranger said, "Starting tomorrow morning with the sun rays you will get the golden touch." The king thought he must be dreaming, this couldn't be true.  But the next day when he woke up, he touched the bed, his clothes, and everything turned to gold. He looked out of the window and saw his daughter playing in the garden. He decided to give her a surprise and thought she would be happy. But before he went to the garden he decided to read a book. The moment he touched it, it turned into gol

Your attitude when things go wrong is ultimately more important than the event itself and is what will determine if the outcome will be positive or negative.  I am in agreement with Kahlil Gibran when he says that “Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens. If you have been defeated by a negative attitude towards setbacks do not lose hope. Admitting your mistakes is the first step to correcting them.  A positive attitude can be learned and developed. It is a matter of choice. You can make the choice, whenever faced with a difficulty to look at it form an optimistic point of view rather than a pessimistic one.

As a man was passing the elephants, he suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their front leg. No chains, no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could, at anytime, break away from their bonds but for some reason, they did not. He saw a trainer nearby and asked why these animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away. “Well,” trainer said, “when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and, at that age, it’s enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free.” The man was amazed. These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but because they believed they couldn’t, they were stuck right where they were. Like the elephants, how many of us go through life hanging onto a belief that we cannot do something, simply because we fa

I have learned that the science of habit is all about transforming your environment- getting rid of all distractions whatsoever including unproductive friends.  If your environment is free of distractions and you are using the right techniques, you will be much more productive, but if your environment is full of distractions and interruptions, you will not achieve anything.  You know, will power is most times overrated. For example, If you are always buying junk food or having them in sight at all times, you will be tempted to eat so easy each time you lay your eyes on them, even if it's a few bites. But if you put it away beyond your reach and away from your sight, you will be less likely to think of it because they are out of sight.  Always put inspiring visual triggers around the house. Like it you like to read your bible, always keep your bible within easy view, or you want to read an inspiring book, do same. What are those distractions that are affecting

Once upon a time, a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn’t know how she was going to make it. She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. It seemed just as one problem was solved, another one soon followed. Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Once the three pots began to boil, he placed potatoes in one pot, eggs in the second pot, and ground coffee beans in the third pot. He then let them sit and boil, without saying a word to his daughter. The daughter, moaned and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing. After twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He took the potatoes out of the pot and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. He then ladled the coffee out and placed it in a cup. Turning to her he asked. “Daughter, what do you see?” “Potatoes, eggs, and coffee,” she hastily replied. “Look close