Healing starts first by realising your wrongs, then you start the process of forgiving yourself, then lastly, you let go. You can never heal by holding on to your pain- your past, or by embarking on that guilt trip or by pointing fingers- apportioning blames. Never.
You know, the truth is, as hurt as you might be feeling right now, if you take a moment to reflect back, you will realise the areas where you were also at fault. For the pains you are going through right now, if you can realise your wrongs and forgive yourself, you will be amazed at how fast your healing will progress. Do not be too quick to blame people for your mistakes and hurts. Learn to take responsibilities by also accepting your wrongs and then keep your heart open to forgive yourself and let go. Just let go!
From experience, I can assure you that you can either hold on to your pain, guilt, blames, regrets, mistakes and never heal; or you realise your wrongs, forgive yourself, let go and get the best healing ever.
Would you not rather heal and enjoy the blessings that await you?