I was deceived many years ago by this belief, that when you are seeking for a life partner, he or she should be the opposite of you, in that if the man is hot, the woman should be cold, or if the man is very outgoing, the woman should be meek and homely and vice versa. This is a lie that people of low minds made us to believe. It was then in my cause of finding the truth, the real deal about marriage that the HOLY SPIRIT told me that, if I want to enjoy the rest of my life with my spouse, we both MUST be alike and have a lot of things in common. For example, am a strong believer of JESUS, and I grew up knowing what respect and good decorum is all about; it would be a disaster to settle with a man completely opposite of me- he does not believe strongly in JESUS and he was not well brought up; what kind of marriage will this opposite bring? The answer Is total disaster. I must tell you!
Do not be deceived by those lies we were told by people who want to get away with living the life of lies and cheating. You and your spouse should have a lot of things in common. Part of the law of attraction says that, positive attracts positive, while negative attracts negative.
So I see no reason why as a believer and a well brought up man or woman, you would opt for a spouse who does not have the slightest idea of what a good upbringing means or even know who GOD is. And you hear them say something like "he/she makes me happy". But how about the real deal, that's the marriage proper? As far as I know, the happiness you are experiencing is temporal because you both are still dating and he or she will do everything to hide their real selves until you get into marriage.
In marriage, the likes should attract, while the unlikes should repel, not the other way round. That is why there are a lot of issues in marriages.
May GOD help us all to understand this great assignment. I pray that we get the knowledge of what works, so that we all can enjoy the good life GOD desires us to live.
Be wise. Be inspired. Be open to learn. Never lower your standard for what is not right!