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The only thing that stands between a man and what he wants from life is often the will to try it and the faith to believe that it is possible... Richard M. De Vos, Billionaire Entrepreneur. If you think more in critical terms, you will observe that your mind does not have to work very hard to believe all the negative stuff you think about yourself. It is an easier trend to believe you are not good enough, not able to trail- blaze, not to be accepted and all of those negative thoughts.  You see, most of the improvements in your life come from changing the negative beliefs or thought patterns you have about yourself and your potential. Personal growth comes from changing your beliefs about what you expect you can do and about what is possible for you.  The supremely confident person thinks, beliefs, and expects with every cell and fibre of their being that they will succeed and win in life. Self-doubters always expect to fail or lose or they simply stay neutral ...

NO REGRETS... BECAUSE GOD KNOWS THE BEST...

I believe it's the heart desire of vision driven people to advance and make progress in specific areas of interest. As we cultivate these desires in our hearts, it is important that we get ready to yield to the experiences that comes with a next -level increase.  We celebrate our victories when we have our heart desires met, but on a second thought, those hearts desires have generated a next level challenge which we have to deal with at different points. For instance you were trusting God for a child, and now the child has come, you have celebrated the answered prayer but you have reduced hours of sleep, you are a bit stressed out, sometimes you wish you could hand the baby over to your mum and have some good sleep you know. The idea is this, the desire has been met, and the challenges are there to train you as you deal with them.  My younger brother who has been enthusiastic about studying in the UK after going through the rigorous processes is now living  his...

Hello friends, hope you all are having a great year already. Just few weeks ago, we wished our families and friends a happy new year- with high expectations.  And few days from now, we will say bye bye to January and we will usher in another month. The year is already one month gone.  What have you achieved so far? Are you still lying down all covered up in dust? You haven't stood up yet? Are you still crying over those spilled milk? Are you still lost?  Whatever you may be going through, I want you to know that time waits for no man.  And while you are still there wallowing in self pity,  your mates have gone far, already achieving their set goals. There's still time for you my friend. Stand up and dust yourself up.  There's greatness inside of you. Why not spark up that little light in you. You have cried enough, regretted enough, blamed enough. Now, it is time for you to do yourself some good by setting up your life. Get up and move my friend....

A friend of mine boldly told me that her mother said, "To live long you must be selfish". I pondered over this statement for a while and i wondered why and how such line of thought could spring up from a motherly figure. I am not being judgemental but then  I thought about It and as much as I could relate to that but I would like to share my analysis and paradigm. Possibly she might have had her shares of disappointments, heartbreaks, betrayals and an a consistent negative response to her genuine motives. However this piece is neither to agree nor disagree with her opinion because most often than not we are shaped by our experiences and choices.    As much as I respect the underpinning rationale behind her assumptions and choice of dealing with her experiences, it is ideal to understand how much our rash ideologies and actions affect the people around us. Responding to the issues of life from the stand point of how it affects us alone can push us into formulati...

It takes a glowing bulb to attract night insects, just let your light shine and kings of all climes will locate you. Their coming to you is not limited by space, location or geographical propinquity; it takes your radiance to attract them. Shine all you can, that’s all you need to do. Playmaking Techniques BRAINSTORMING Creating Ideas  EXTRACTING DRAMATIC POTENTIAL FROM THE STIMULUS MATERIAL Using given things to create and include in the performance  RESEARCHING Searching for ideas to turn into scenes  IMPROVISATION From the research and brainstorming creating scenes  REHEARSING From the scenes, practicing what you have done BLOCKING Running through the performance learning the order  CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT After practicing and running through work on the characters ROLE PLAY Playing other characters to work on your own  SCRIPTING Make sure that each person knows what they have to say each time. EDITING Work out whic...

YOUR MIND SEES FARTHER THAN YOUR PHYSICAL EYES. DO NOT MAKE YOUR MIND A DUMPING GROUND. MAKE IT A FRUITFUL GROUND. YOU CAN BE WHO YOU WANT TO BE WHEN YOU CAN SEE IT WITH THE EYES OF YOUR MIND.  NEME...

"A MAN WHO HONOURS HIS MOTHER, WILL GIVE HIS WIFE A LIFE OF ROYALTY. SO WATCH OUT HOW HE TREATS  HIS MOTHER". 

A lot of suggestions showed up regarding the definition of the word "Exist". Some perceive it to connote "having an objective reality or being" others think it means to live, especially under harsh conditions. I quite agree with the later definition because I have seen a lot of people who walk on the surface of this earth that are just existing. They have given up and have accepted the situation as their "fate or destiny" as the cases differ. They argue about politics, sit down for hours engaging in meaningless conversations, discuss their issues, not objectively to profer solution but to continue from where they stopped in the blame-game defence mechanism. Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with discussing who the next president will be and the possibilities of giving you a better democracy, but friend, there is a life that is bigger than that.  The glory which you seek unfortunately isn't transferable, but it's within your power...

How would you rate your ability to control your emotions, to pause before acting or reacting? How would your friends, children, or work colleagues rate your emotional control?  Has someone deeply offended you recently? How did you respond? Were you magnanimous? How would you respond differently if again given the same circumstances?  One of the highest forms of magnanimity is forgiveness. Is forgiveness a consistent part of who you are as a person?  When life comes at us hard, sometimes a portion of properly placed humor can help us to adapt. Have you learnt to laugh even in the midst of challenging moments?

YOUR PAST IS NEVER A GOOD PLACE TO VISIT. IT IS WISE NOT TO TAKE A PEEP INTO THE PAST, BECAUSE THERE IS NOTHING GOOD TO FIND THERE, ONLY DOUBTS, FEARS, GUILTS, MISTAKES.  NEME...

Happy weekend friends. Just to share with you a little conversation I had with a colleague yesterday. Read below: Enkay: "I have come to realise that when you are happy and successful in your marriage or career or you are succeeding generally, people (friends) are not genuinely happy for you. But when u have a lot to complain about, advisers will be flowing in left, right and centre. I feel it is safe if one keeps some of those things going well for one with one and loved ones and do not make it so public for people to see".  Here's my response: Well... the truth is "a gold fish does not have a hiding place". So your success always announces you, no matter how hard you try to hide it. Then I ask, what do you do? Just be wise and hide yourself and all your successes to GOD.  Then and only then will you be safe!  Do you think my colleague is right? Do you think am right as well? Please share your thoughts.

Do you want to get married because: You are of age? Your mates are getting married? You want to run away from your parents strict discipline? You want to have sex freely without feeling guilty? You need a man to support you financially? You are being pressurised to get married? You cannot face some challenges alone? You are lonely? You are not getting any younger? and alot more wrong reasons I believe these questions are very familiar. But I would like you to pause and reflect. Marriage is an institution of enjoyment not endurance (of pains, sorrow, bitterness to mention but a few). You need to get it right as to why you really want to get married, but definitely not for the above wrong reasons.  GOD is the originator of marriage and the perfect match maker. So it will be wise if you consult HIM. Your marriage must be ordained by GOD before you can be assured that nothing can and will ever go wrong no matter what.  Time to reflect!

One day, when I was about five, I told my grandfather a lie. It was not a very black lie. My grandfather asked our gardner to bring a long ladder and place it against the front of the roof. When the ladder was firmly in place he said to the gardner, "Our boy has taken to leaping from housetops. The ladder is for him to use when he so desires. "I knew at once what this meant, for one of the proverbs in our distinct was: "A lie is a leap from a house-top." "I brooded in silence. It was awkward to have the ladder before the front door. I began to fear that it would be there forever if I did not do something. I found my grandfather reading a book and I went quietly up to him and buried my face in his lap. "Grandpa," I said, "we do not need the ladder any more." He seemed very happy. He called the gardner and said to him: "Take the ladder away at once. Our boy does not leap from house-tops. " I will never forget that inci...

The problems you encounter do not define you. What matters is how you deal with these problems. Your ability to face your problems and conquer them makes it easier to handle challenges. Most importantly, you must identify what these problems are, because "you cannot fight what you are not aware of". Problems fear actions. These problems will remain until you take necessary steps (actions) to bring them to an end. Be determined to face your problems head on!   Please share with us how you were able to defeat your problems.

LOVE IS STRONGER THAN SICKNESS. IT IS STRONGER THAN DISEASE. IT IS STRONGER THAN POVERTY. BUILD YOUR DAILY AGENDA AROUND WHAT YOU TRULY AND CONSCIOUSLY LOVE.

I marvel at people who say " I do not have a price tag. I do not expect anything in return. I just want to live my life". And I really wonder where they got this mean idea from. If you do not have a price tag, then anyone can afford you. You are not valued. You can always be used and dumped. You will never be appreciated. That ideology of not expecting anything in return simply means you are not sure of your own self and as such you do not regard yourself. We are living in a world whereby you are treated the way you present yourself. If you are not treated with love, respect, appreciation, then there is every possibility that you might have marked yourself down! It is never too late to get back on. You must love yourself first before you can be loved by anyone else. By so, you will know when you are not getting the right treatment, love, care, affection, appreciation. Life is too beautiful not to be appreciated and live happily knowing that you are worth loving. Do not buy...

THE BEST GIFTS DO NOT ALWAYS ARRIVE IN SILK. THEY ARE MOSTLY DISGUISED.   NEME..

In the race for quality, there is no finish line. David T. Kearns Who doesn't like the feel of quality? Whether it comes from a well-made car, a fine woven piece of clothing, a well carved furniture, a stable building, a delectable meal,  an intricate technological device, a precise musical performance, a finely tuned work team, or a form of appearance, quality has an appealing feel.  In all of the desire to either deliver quality or sustain it, it also has its price as demonstrated by some persons in their various fields of fulfilment.  Johnny Carson who for thirty years tickles the delights of enormous television audiences. His smile and laughter were obviously contagious as nightly he relieved listeners of their days stresses. But while he made he made it appear so effortless, in "Here's Johnny," we learnt just how hard Johnny worked to maintain his high standards of quality.  The quality of what we produce or the services we render as an empl...

Many marriages struggle when one or both spouses start to show destructive behaviour. This happened with Karen and me. We got married at 19 years old. Neither of us had a clue about marriage. We blamed each other for what was wrong with our marriage. But blaming doesn't help in a destructive marriage. The only way to fix it is by recognizing the behavior and correcting it.  There are four basic reasons people become destructive. The first is ignorance. Some people just don't know any better. This was the case with us. We didn't know how to succeed in relationships. When you grow up in a broken home, you don't have a successful marriage to learn from. Your only models are failed marriages and unhealthy relationships. We've never met any couple who got married in hopes of getting divorced. That's crazy. But so few people have the resources to succeed. That's why our ministry works so hard to teach people about marriage. We want to provide t...

YOU ARE NOT ASSIGNED TO EVERYBODY. YOU ARE NOT ASSIGNED EVERYWHERE. YOU CANNOT SOLVE EVERY KIND OF PROBLEM. ...MIKE MURDOCK

Water is the main component of the body composed of between 55 and 78 percent water. We enjoy great health benefits when we consume adequate and regular quantity of water. As an added advantage to its tasteless, odourless, and colourless state, it has zero level carbohydrates, calories, fat or sugar which makes it the most health liquid to be consumed.  Further more, the institute of Medicine has determined the adequate intake of total beverage per day to be about three litres or 13 cups for men and 2.2 litres or nine cups for women. This recommended quantities obviously highlight the very need to ensure the regular intake of water to keep the body well hydrated for proper functioning of every cell in the body. I will share with you some of the research based and realistic health benefits of drinking water. One of the obvious benefits we have enjoyed is that it aids in proper digestion of food and prevents constipation because it improves the functioning of the gast...

CHAMPIONS SPEND THEIR TIME BUILDING THEIR DREAMS. EVEN WHEN CRITICS ATTACK THEM. NEME.

DO NOT EXPECT TO HAVE A HARVEST WHEN YOU HAVE NOT PLANTED ANY SEED.         NEME...

I cannot agree less... This is a must read. Maya Gunawan's Photos

YOU CAN GET IT IF YOU REALLY WANT. BUT YOU MUST TRY. TRY AND TRY. YOU'LL SUCCEED AT LAST.

I can vividly remember one of the songs we sang in our primary school days "good better best, I shall never rest, until my good is better, and my better best." I know a lot of you can resonate with that song, and I can imagine you smiling as you take a quick stroll down memory lane, remembering the way you as u sang the song along with friends and matched down to class after words of admonition from a significant order in school.  I can tell you that as at then, those words and songs were more of daily ritual because you have to be part of the assembly and morning devotion as the case may be. They barely made sense to me as an enthusiastic, playful child obviously because my mental astuteness could neither understand the degree to which it was relevant at that tender moment in my life nor apply it to my everyday life.  Significantly, as I most often than not, in retrospect, I bask in the thoughts of the words that I heard as a little child and it's amazing to ...

ANYTIME YOU GET DISTRACTED, THERE IS A HIGH POSSIBILITY OF LOSING SOMETHING; KEEP YOUR FACE LIKE THAT OF A FLINT! REAGAN CHAMPION..

As we live life, it's important to put into cognizance the way we treat and respond to people whether they are engaged in the right activities, or their actions are off tangent with the right principles.  Here's a modest proposal: Make up your mind that for the rest of this year, you wouldn't judge your friends and people around you no matter what you experience with them or what you see them express, rather, offer to help the right kind of help that will salvage the circumstance.  Buying into judgement blurs your heart from seeing the good in people who are designed to contribute meaningfully to your life assignment. Take note of your thoughts and the things you say. Be completely aware of the times when you are being overly critical, and ask yourself why you feel that way. Are your thoughts rooted in reality, or are they coming from a place of fear and insecurity? Once you notice yourself being judgemental, you can take actions to reverse this self-destructive b...

1. Count your blessings daily, and give thanks. 2. Get proper rest and exercise, and start eating healthier. 3. Do not let petty office or school politics have power over your personal or professional success. Monitor what you hear, what you read, and what you say. These three components determine the outcome of your life. 4. Set aside personal time with family and close friends. 5. Help someone in need. It helps bring out your true spirit. 6. Feed your spirit daily; read and listen to inspiring books and teachings. 7. Discover the motives that motivates you, and remember, motivation is not permanent. 8. Reflect on your victories-things you've forgotten that were special. Rekindle the fire that helps you turn your right attitude into actions.  9. Create an upbeat, positive greeting that builds enthusiasm for you and everyone around you. 10. Develop a clear vision, lock into your purpose and passion, and set goals with deadlines.

We all know the importance of exercise. Read below some interesting reasons exercise is beneficial to our healthy living. Tridosha Wellness's photo

WHEN YOU ARE SCARED OF SOMETHING DIFFERENT,  JUST TRY IT. TRY IT.

REVENGE DOES NOT SOLVE PROBLEMS, RATHER IT DESTROYS...PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, SPIRITUALLY AND EMOTIONALLY! 

We create our own breaks as we take responsibility for our life-and that includes working hard and speaking up for ourselves. It gave Betty Ford no advantage to blame others for her problems or make excuses. Do you ever catch yourself blaming your problems or limitations on others, genetics or your environment? Maya Angelou did not allow adverse circumstances drive her life and attitudes. Do you let circumstances drive what you do in life, or do you create your own circumstances. Chuck Norris showed initiative and created his own breaks by standing up for himself and promising to do better. What level of initiative do you demonstrate when times are tough? Pause and Think!!!

IT IS SAFER WHEN YOU DO NOT LET PEOPLE SEE YOUR EMOTIONS. NEME..

I grew up hearing this saying "Opportunity comes but once". In fact I was always scared whenever I heard people use this saying or when someone said it to me. One day, I realised that this saying is not true...or will I say I stopped believing in this saying. This saying has led a lot of people into terrible mistakes. People choose to suffer and smile and endure a lot of pain because they would not want to miss the so called opportunity. And I ask, does opportunity come just once? Kindly share your thoughts on this subject.

Life is  tons of discipline- Robert Frost. Taking charge of your life requires discipline. Bottom line is that, it's quite a huge task to completely and consistently yield to discipline. This fundamental component that plays key role in your level of success demands the mental stamina to overcome empty passions and faulty habits. It also requires the fortitude to resist the push and pull of many temptations that otherwise lure us towards meaningless sideshows. But more than anything else, it demands a relentless focus on what priorities. It's a fruitless venture to live carelessly and allow fate to determine the outcome of our lives. The three dimensional areas we have looked at within the past few days work together as we deploy them consistently. Taking responsibility,  being courageous and disciplining yourself to focus on activities that are meaningful will most likely pay off materially, structurally, and otherwise. As we do the necessary, sometimes we will...

Mothers have great influence over their children, and this huge influence plays a key role in determining the outcome of a child's life. As you may be aware, most people who we celebrate as authorities in their field gave credits to their mothers for being their primary source of motivation and inspiration. Look at the likes of: George Washington, who was the first president of the United States of America,  we are told that his mother was pious; Sir Walter Scott, who was a Scottish historical novelist, playwright and a poet, his mother was a lover of music and poetry. But it were not so in the case of Nero Caesar. He was a Roman Emperor. He was one of the most despicable characters on the stage of human history and one of the most infamous men that ever lived. He was cruel and merciless, and we are told that his mother was a murderess. This list goes on. "A mother's life is like a mirror with which the children look  at themselves"(quote from me). When ...

Courage is the quality of a confident character not to be afraid or intimidated easily but without  being incautious or inconsiderate. There is a connection between courage and wisdom. Most importantly, courage can be displayed in heroic, visible ways, or in quiet, private battles we fight when attempting to conquer inner fears.  In the journey of life, courage plays a very key role in helping us advance even in the midst of threatening circumstances. However, our display of courage not only reveals our state of heart but exposes our content of character.  A couple of people have displayed courage in heroic and seemingly small or insignificant ways, because our stories and life experiences  have formed us to a very large extent.  Having a deeper "yes" burning inside gives us the courage to fight and defeat fear and run towards "something better," including our dreams and the principles we stand for.  REFLECTIONS: Think of a specific situ...

Hello There.... This week marks the beginning of a woking year in 2015 because  most organizations resumed from the christmas and new year break.  As I interfaced with a few persons with regard to plans and anticipated goals for the year, amazingly the feedbacks I got were very different given the divergent ideologies, perceptions and faith levels of folks. Apparently, some are excited to hit the market place, while some are filled with fear....of the the unknown, fear of failing...again, fear of fear of making mistakes, and exude anxiety-filled comments. They are neither encouraged nor inspired for reasons or excuses they have decided to hold on to. They do not even know where to start because they are overwhelmed by circumstances around them...bills to pay, intensive work to juggle with, habits that haven't been dealt with, shaky relationship, questionable motives of people who come around...and all and all and all.  However, in the midst of all these, the...

I believe that every right implies a responsibility;every opportunity an obligation, every possession a duty. Nelson Rockefeller When life doesn't go the direction we planned or we inadvertently make mistakes, it is so easy to make excuses, blame every circumstance associated with the event, assign blame to parents for not paying our bills, argue that the circumstances were flawed and all of that. But then, we only make progress in life to the extent that we take full responsibility for the choices we make and the turn out of activities.  When we make the choice to take responsibility for our lives, we be on top of our game and put forth the initiative necessary to create out own circumstances.  Sometimes when I share my experiences in the journey of creating my own life circumstances, some folks tend to marvel at how the events connect perfectly, very timely and in tandem with anticipated results. That's what you experience when you take responsibility for...

Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there. Will Rogers The search for meaning inspires us to create a blueprint for the contributions we want to make in life, a daily standard against which we can chart our course and measure progress. But the reality is that nothing of substance will happen until we take charge of our life and accept responsibility for bringing our dreams into fruition. These efforts require fearless discipline and focused energy on what matters most.  Principles that enable us to take charge of life include: Responsibility Courage Discipline Join me in this ride as I discuss them in detail in my subsequent updates.

I remember as a kid, my mom pasted some wise sayings in our room and she made me and my siblings memorise them everyday. One of those articles said "what you speak is what you are...be positive". As children, we had little or no knowledge about what my mom was trying to do, nor did we understand the meaning of those wise sayings even when she tried explaining them to us. But one thing was significant,  my siblings and I were excited reading and craming those articles on the wall, which later on became a great help to us. We literally started being mindful of how we talked because of that particular saying..."what you speak is what you are...be positive" even when we did not have a full understanding of what it/they meant. As a result, we realised that "you are what you speak".  Have you noticed that; those who speak most of prosperity have it? those who speak freedom have it? those who speak health have it? those who speak poverty have it? those ...

Someone ones said, That life ends when you stop dreaming and Hope ends when you stop believing... How true! You can never attain that great height if you have never thought or dreamt of it. The same as a farmer, he cannot expect to have a harvest without sowing. Dreams are like seeds. They give birth to opportunities which later produce great success. In this year 2015, I want to let us all know that we have all the time to achieve whatever we desire if we can dream it. The mind is a place where your destiny is birthed. That is why you must guard your mind with only the things that will help you attain that great height you desire(good thoughts). Dreaming invokes more energy, more initiative and more happiness. When you dream, you are half way to achieving your desired goals. Show me a man without a dream, and i will show you a man without purpose. For example, if your dream this year is to have that "single friend" who will stand by your side even when hundreds are ...

Happy New Year friends.  I have been looking forward to the year 2015. I have an exceptional thought and views about the year 2015 even right from when i was a kid. I am so excited to see this year. There is something unique about this year. This year is convincingly great. You cannot afford to entertain any form of doubt. Have you heard any promise concerning this year?  Have you been prophesied to? Do you have plans and visions for this year? Whatever your thoughts are? Hold on to the promises GOD has made to you concerning this year. Because as for me, I am very sure that this year is great. Let your mind be focused on the word of GOD.  Do not try to do anything on your own, that is where you will get it all wrong. The Bible says you should trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.  So if you must succeed this year in all that you have set out this year, make GOD your only source.  There is nothing too hard or too ins...