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I admire the love, strength and solidarity between this couple. Today is their anniversary, let us celebrate them. Happy Wedding Anniversary to Ify and Ode... May your joy continue to overflow. Long shall you both live!!!xoxo

Hello friends, hope you all are doing well. Keep the hope alive...help is on the way.  I hope today's word will go a long way to help someone out there in taking the right decision.  I have heard too many times from people, even some relationship experts say, that for a relationship to be sweet and exciting and not boring, it is best to marry someone of a different personality, opposite interests, beliefs, life style....For example, a woman that is not outgoing should marry a very outgoing man, people of the same personalities will not make an interesting relationship/marriage etc.  I used to buy this logic,  as not the too outgoing type, I thought that being in relationships with the social and outgoing person would work,  but that is a lie. You cannot be in a relationship with someone that does not have the same faith with you or has a complete different style of living and expect a great relationship/marriage. Even if that relationship managed ...

Every Experience, no matter how bad it seems, holds within it a blessing of some kind. Do not regret what seemed to be a mistake, because nothing just happens.

HE WHO COMES TO EQUITY, MUST COME WITH CLEAN HANDS.

As we are working to achieve our life goals and live productively, we intentionally or unconsciously move in the direction of our dreams.  Someone might begin to wonder how you unconsciously move in the direction of what you aren't aware of, or how do you achieve a goal you never set, or how will you realize that those dreams are met when you don't take time to organise and synchronise the connections that makes it possible. Here is the answer to your big question...Our thoughts are made up of the most powerful engines and mechanisms which create, develop, or form our most dominant thoughts into our real life experiences.  A lot of people have through their thoughts, built mountains that stood against their life-long fulfilment and gains. The truth is this, whatever you'll receive from God requires your faith, and the only thing that makes you lose everything including your life is fear.  These two factors have very strong spiritual backing as much as they mo...

Trying to be every where because you are searching for something will only get you more confused and more vulnerable. Be who you are and get better. It is very easy to fall prey when you are desperate. Focus. The intents of our hearts are known by GOD alone; It doesn't matter how many people you cluster your life with. 

Didn't GOD say, fear not for I am with you?  Didn't HE say, do not be afraid or discouraged?  I have heard people say that it is normal to be afraid because we are human beings, but the truth is  as much as people might want you to believe that it is normal to be afraid, one of the secrets of doing brave things is to not be afraid.   The moment you start being afraid of what people might say, you are being careful and playing it safe, that is when you fail.  I was a victim of always minding what people would say and eventually, the result was not a good one. If you must accomplish your goals in life, you need to be brave. No matter how far fetched your desired goals seem, take that leap of faith and give it your best shot. All you need do is to aim your bow and release your faith to hit the target.  Remember, Shedrach, Meshach and Abednego; even when their lives were threatened,  they refused to be afraid.  They were brave to face any...

Do not do things because others are doing it. Learn what your purpose is and go for it. Trying to be someone you are not,  is the worst thing you can do to yourself. 

What If your skill is hidden somewhere in that harsh and difficult situation you are in right now?  What If the heartbreak was a necessary part of the path to finding your purpose?  What If the disappointment was actually an opportunity posing at your face?  Like a baby that's born,  all the pain and dirt, became the most beautiful thing. So, most times, wildernesses a'int only about shame, suffering,  but also a place where you discover who you truly are before your assignment becomes clear - your very essence of being! 

WHEN YOU KEEP GOING BACK TO SOMEONE WHO HAS TREATED YOU BADLY, OR IS TREATING YOU BADLY, YOU ARE EMPOWERING THE PERSON TO GAIN TOTAL CONTROL OVER YOU.

As parents, our goal is not only to get our children to obey orders, but to also build their characters. Help them develop healthy conscience. Help them to have the sense of right doing.  Start to build and develop your child's character from the cradle. When you overlook certain behaviours that your infant exhibits without correcting him/her, you are telling her "yeah go ahead, it's very okay and normal to behave that way because you're still a baby". And you'll see your child grow in that manner, because your little child does not know what is right or wrong.  However, It is our duty as parents to build our children's character, teach them good decorum.  So, whatever negative attitude you see your infact exhibit,  correct him/her before it becomes who he/she is. The Bible says " you discipline the one you love"(Hebrew 12:6, Revelation 3:19) .  By building your children's character, which involves a whole lot, for example reb...

As much as people would want to believe that there are too many bad people in the world,  there are still very good people living the good life.  I strongly believe that only good will continue to come my way. And whatever the enemy meant for evil, will always turn around for my good.  How about you?

Butterflies, sub-titled Nwoke Oma (Igbo for "Good Man"), is a refreshingly playful and sensual song depicting the, sometimes, indescribable feelings that romance brings. In this song, J'odie, Kuchi-kuchi Crooner, boosts the tempo of her "conventional love song", yet retaining the pan-African sound. Enjoy..... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nloH34aT1uo&feature=youtube_gdata_player

Most times,  people judge you by your looks, but they wouldn't know what you might have gone through to be where you are.  Few years ago, as a fresh graduate, was still looking for a job, I remember trekking a very long distance from a friend's house back to my house because I didn't have money for transportation and the friend didn't bother to offer me a ride even though she had a car and knew I was not buoyant enough. Sounds crazy, but it was a very long journey though,  but I trekked it.  Today,  things are beautifully different because I never stopped believing. I refused to take the short cut, though that seemed like the only option I had. I stayed strong in my faith and never gave up.  There's someone out there who is about to throw in the towel.  But do not! Just hang in there. Do not give up.  It is not over yet as long as you are alive. Faith is all you need to see the light in the midst of that dark situation. See yourself a...

He could draw a leaf or a hand, a fern or a rock, in ways miraculous to behold. No one ever matched his renditions of light and shade, or his genius for investing a flat surface with a scene of haunting mystery. Yet, for Leonardo da Vinci-creator of the Mona Lisa and The Last Supper-artistic greatness was but one of his incredible endowments.  Leonardo da Vinci was amazed by everything: a baby's smile, birds in flight, the pageant of the planets. He loves the human face and form, and sketching an absorbing gallery of warriors, crones, old men and bodies with the skin peeled off to reveal the architecture of ligaments and muscles.  Leonardo is still known as the most gifted man who ever lived simply because he indulged in exploring his abilities beyond the boarders and matching his potentials to possibilities he was exposed to. Realign yourself towards deploying your abilities the best way you can...No Excuses.

Nothing ever gets healed If you keep it covered up.

Do not think only about yourself; think about others. You might be saving yourself and your loved ones in the process.

When a man loves his wife, his children will love him for loving their mother. Do not underestimate the intelligence and sensitivity of children. These children will one day become adults.

Happy weekend friends.  Hope you all are having a great time... I Just want to share with you one of my beauty tips. Face scrubbing.  How often do you give your face a treat? It is not only by using a good soap to wash your face which is not bad, but your face needs more than using soap and water.  Face scrubbing helps to remove dead cells and accumulated dirts. These dead cells leave your face looking old and worn out. Facial scrubs help to rejuvenate your tired face, giving it a glow and younger look. There are lots of good and very affordable facial scrubs at the beauty stores. Why not give your face some treats without having to spend a fortune.....

DO NOT GIVE ROOM FOR UNFAITHFULNESS BY WELCOMING UNNECESSARY FRIENDSHIP WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX.  LADY CHRISTY

The race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong.  But time and chance happen to them all.

Each time you complain,  grow discouraged or murmur, you are slapping your dream.

An open and a free flowing communication between couples is very vital in the realisation of a truly healthy and fulfilling relationship. Some couples find it difficult to enjoy even a minute or two of a cordial,  intimate, constructive,  insightful ,benefitting conversation with each other without ending up in a very serious argument.   It is sad to know that the only time some couples enjoy free flowing communication is when they are in the midst friends. If you cannot communicate freely when you are dating, you can't either, when you are married.  You and your mate should be able to feel a great contentment and fulfilment when you talk and share your feelings, opinions, plans, ideas etc.  A relationship that lacks effective communication is always edgy and full of turbulence and would very likely not last.  Set your priorities right and know what you want. Most times, the signs are glary, but we ignore them.

Close your eyes, at lease for some minutes and visualise your success. See yourself achieving all your set goals... That's the  power of imagination.  When we were teenagers, my younger sister talked so much about the power of imagination and how she was creating the future she desired... but I had little or no understanding of what that meant. She had a very strong imagination that played out perfectly well in the cause of events and I see her live the dreams she constantly spoke of as a teen.  As I grew up, I began to have an understanding of what it means to visualise and imagine the kind of future I desired. This might sound like a cliché, but it is an amazing experience to see your future play out by being actively involved in the creative process...through your imaginations; For example, I didn't just wake up one morning and decided to start blogging...I knew I wanted to inspire people but I didn't know how, but as I engaged in the creative process of realising...

The leaf is green because its source is rich... The woman is good because her man is true... The children grow well because their parents live well... Nice one Nuella, this is so true. I appreciate your effort. Keep it up. 

Thanksgiving preserves your blessing.

Have you taken time to critically evaluate the way you have lived since the beginning of this year? It is important that we spend some time to think about the activities we have given our time to and the things we have prioritised.  Most often, we are not aware of how much we have limited ourselves either by being complacent or by engaging in the wrong activities; sometimes the wrong activities might not necessarily be illegal or immoral, but completely parallel to a purpose driven life. The essence of this piece is to help us understand as well as think through what is really important in our lives. Life can be so engaging such that the demand for your time and attention will be on the high even to a point where priorities are misplaced. When there is a drift away from what is ideal, most often, it is not a sharp drift that impacts us harshly like the death of a loved one or loss of job, or any of such sharp drifts...but while we pay attention to the urgent things and lea...

THERE IS NO POVERTY THAT CAN OVERTAKE DILIGENCE. 

My mom thought my siblings and I how to say "thank you" no matter how little or big the gesture is.  Most times, my spouse, my friends (colleagues) are surprised at how much of those magic words come out of my mouth at a very seemingly small gesture. Thanks to my mother. That is why it is important for mothers to know how much influence they have on their children.  You can never be thankful enough my dear friend,  because you have no idea how much someone  out there needs care, but no one to come through for them.  So, even if it is a piece of handkerchief, accept it with a cheerful heart and say "thank you ". GOD blesses a genuinely grateful heart. It pays to be thankful.  Do not wait for the big things to be thankful! Start with the little!  Have a beautiful week. 

Happy New Week friends. I am so excited about this week and I hope you are too.  Just want to encourage us all to keep at it. Discover your area of specialty (it is not too late to start). Keep putting in your best, even though you might not be getting the best response. Be faithful. Keep believing that one day your time will come. I know that there is every tendency to feel like giving up or maybe trying out an illegal way of making a quick money.  As tempting as that might seem, please do not get involved in any foul play. There is no gain in it. Always know that there is a reward for those who persist in doing good. Evil does not prevail over good. So as you go out there this week, bear in mind that you are a conqueror and conquerors do not accept defeat. They win.  Situations may beat you face down, but you know what, get back up and knock it off! A victor never says never!  That should be your attitude this week.  Learn to overcome your cha...

In the midst of adversity,  the tendency to throw away your belief is always there.  How well do you know who you believe? 

THE SMALL THINGS BECOME BIG WHEN YOU ARE TRULY GRATEFUL TO HAVE THEM.

Each time I look at the waterfalls, it reminds me of GODS unending mercy, love and abundance.  Take a moment and look at one now, you will have a deeper understanding of GODS abundance. It overflows and never stops flowing.  Photo Credit: Andre Nantel

I hear people say,  "love alone does not hold or make a great marriage". If love (not lust) isn't the key to a marriage, I wonder what kind of relationship that would be.  When love is the basis of your marriage,  you would not hurt your spouse (intentionally), you would treat your spouse with understanding and settle your arguement without having to drag it until it becomes irreconcilable, you would weather the challenges of life together,  without apportioning blame on the other, you would build a relationship that is based on true friendship.  GOD is love and HE is the originator of marriage. And that should be your start off point if you truly want to enjoy the bliss of marriage. Love is all that matters. That is the weapon every couple needs to overcome challenges, except the marriage was solely built on lust, money and other material gains. Do not pay attention to the lies that the world is trying to make true!

I remember an incident that happened at my former place of work, when  a colleague treated me very badly.  I felt so bad because i did not expect it from her. But later the same day, one of my colleagues came to me and told me to forget about what happened and never let that bother me.  She also told me something that really helped me all through my stay in the job. She said before she leaves her house,  she prepares her mind to face any challenge and that she doesn't expect human beings not to be human. That really helped me, though it was not easy,  but I was able to learn how to deal with situations without having to fall out with colleagues or allow myself to get hurt. It does not matter how good you are, people will always step on your toes. Do not expect people to spare you because you have a good nature. Sometimes, people would intentionally want to hurt your feelings. Do not let yourself lose to negative opinions and suggestions.  The Bible say...

MIRACLES HAPPEN EVERY DAY.  DO NOT LOOK DOWN ON PEOPLE. 

Have you been in a position where you are very sure that "this is no longer patience, but a total waste of time"?  Often times, we ignore that still small voice that tells us "this is the right way to go or no, you shouldn't be here". But because we feel we have gone too deep in the mess, the mistakes  seem unfixable, we resort to accepting what should not be.  What have you done to really know what position you are in? There is always a time to resolve your life. 

Think of this for a moment. Look at your hand. It looks solid, but it's really not. If you put it under a proper microscope, you'd see a mass of energy vibrating... Bob Proctor We have a mass of energy in our bodies. When we look around us, even at our own bodies, what we see is the tip of the iceberg. Consequent upon this, we need to be in the know of how energetic our spirit is and how to engage it properly towards the realisation of our dreams.  According to Charles Haarel...the universal mind is not only intelligence, but it is substance, and this substance is the attractive force which brings electrons together by the law of attraction so they form atoms; the atoms in turn are brought together by the same law and form molecules; molecules take objective forms and so we find that the law is the creative force behind every manifestation, not only of atoms, but of worlds, of the Universe, of everything of which the imagination can form any conception.  Culled ...

A man needs to be sensitive to his wife's needs, that does not make him less of a man, rather it makes him even more valued and respected. Marriage is not a market place filled with competition, but a place of quiet and rest.  When a man starts seeing his wife as a competition, he will become vulnerable to friends ill advises against his wife and before you know it, his wife will become his enemy whom he would want to get rid of by all means.  This was the case between  a couple that were living happily, until the man started seeing his wife's efforts to support him as a competition. His friends succeeded in making him believe that his wife was his enemy.  Imagine that! He went ahead with the plot to get rid of his wife but some good friends who noticed the drastic change in his behaviour intervened with prayers and counselling.  He opened up by telling them how far he had gone with his plans against his wife. The situation was salvaged, but what do...

BE CONFIDENT ENOUGH TO KNOW HOW WONDERFUL GOD HAS MADE YOU.  YOU DO  NOT NEED ANYONE'S APPROVAL TO EMBRACE THIS TRUTH, BECAUSE GOD HAS MADE YOU BEAUTIFUL AND WONDERFUL.

LOVE IS AN ACTION WORD, NOT DORMANT. 

An adage says " health is wealth". A friend of mine complained about bleeding gum few weeks ago and she was already getting worried, so I introduced her to some thing I have been doing for a while now, that has helped in keeping my teeth and gum healthy and it has been amazing. It is called OIL PULLING. Oil Pulling is actually an Ayurvedic (ancient health care treament evolved from India) natural remedy for improving health.  It involves using pure oils to pull out harmful bacteria, fungi and other harmful organisms from your mouth, teeth and throat.   Here's the procedure: When you wake up in the morning, before you eat or drink anything, put a tea spoon of either coconut oil or seasame oil (I use coconut oil because of its health benefits) in your mouth and gaggle or swish around for about 5 minutes and Spit out into your toilet. Then rinse your mouth thoroughly and clean as normal. Of course, you will brush afterwards.  The result of oil pullin...

Wishing you all a beautiful Easter. Our LORD JESUS, died and rose and gave us victory!  Enjoy this great benefit. It is free!!! Celebrate our risen LORD.  And be rest assured that the same spirit that rose JESUS from the dead is available for you, and it shall quicken your mortal bodies. Happy Easter my friends!!!! Photo credit: Jesus Daily

As we commemorate the death of our LORD JESUS,  let us all know that we are the very essence of this huge sacrifice. You and I were in HIS heart when was nailed to the cross - to redeem us back to HIS FATHER, our maker. Easter season should remind us that we are loved and honoured by GOD. JESUS died and rose from the dead for you and me. We are not mourning JESUS, rather we are celebrating our risen LORD and saviour.  We are celebrating our victory in JESUS! So, let us all rejoice because JESUS lives!!!

As I was having my hot Cappuccino...with a smile on her face she asked me...what do you dream of? I paused to think about if for a moment and resolved to give a brief trail of my dreams. When I was a little boy, my dreams were centred on the girl I had a crush on...I always saw her in my dreams...we were always holding hands, running under the rain, playing games and innocently enjoying the company of each other. I remember a story book my mum had bought for me which I liked so much, she came across it and I didn't hesitate to hand it over to her...although she didn't ask for it. On my way home I thought of what I was going to tell my mum...hopefully she wouldn't ask and guess what? She never did...that was a safe landing for my young and innocent affection.    As I grew older, my dreams changed...I started dreaming about the action movies I saw. I always saw myself pulling unusual stunts, doing major and minor acrobatics, and engaging in all forms of physical heroi...

It is important to know that GOD made man to be a provider and a giver. The man has been given the mandate to provide and care for his woman. Even though GOD made the woman to be a helper- and this scripture has been misquoted as most women are now taking too much of the men's responsibilities all in the name of help and leaving the men with little or no task at all. A lot of women engage in manual labour to make ends meet,  but in the beginning ,it was not so. And that does not mean that a woman should be lazy- absolutely not! A woman should be skillful, productive and should be able to offer wise counsels and support to her husband. That said. Now here's the big question for my single friends who are hoping to get married someday.  You must be able to answer this question thoroughly to be sure you are with the right man.   Is he much more of a taker than a giver?  If his demands on your resources ( money, time, energy, intellect etc) or your body are m...

You cannot really change or correct something, unless you have a GOD-GIVEN hatred for it and you are willing to confront it. 

If you pause and think about it for a while, you will possibly be stunned as I was when I engaged my mind to look at the world from a "helicopter" view. As you step out of your home, you see people engaged in different activities; people going to their different places of work, the traffic, the screeching of tyres, the honking of car horns, children crossing the road, people on the pedestrian lane, people selling and all other activities that are peculiar to a communist society...all these activities come with their uniqueness and the very touch they bring to our lives.  When we momentarily look away from ourselves and pay attention...(maybe not in detail) to the roles people play in their little way, we begin to appreciate the division of labour and how the societal activities add colour to the daily fulfilment that we experience. I usually find it very easy to walk to a grocery store close by when I want to do a mini shopping, It's quite convenient for me b...

The moment we share with certain people in our lives stands out significantly when we think about how it affects them. I know it's quite a generic statement to believe that everyone wants to be loved and cared for, whether or not it cuts across different personalities, it's a fundamental reality.  As I watch my little daughter respond to the love and attention that comes from me, my unconscious reaction is to express more of the affection. As she utters her babyish words I believe she expects me to understand what she's trying to communicate given that we have experienced some level of koinonia.  The joy and fulfilment we enjoy in life comes from what we make out of the relationships we have built. The growth and ultimate success of an organisation hinges on the clientele base they have built overtime by respecting, valuing, and rendering beyond the norm kind of services. That's the beauty and exchange that comes from life. We are the first-hand initiators of...

INEC chairman,  Professor Atahiru Jega just declared General Muhammadu Buhari winner of the 2015 presidential election. And on the 29th of May, 2015, he will be sworn in as the President of the Federal Republic of Nigeria. Congratulations Nigeria for a peaceful election. GOD bless Nigeria!!! We are hopeful!!!