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Paying attention to something you do not want and cannot do anything about is not helpful! The best thing to do is to stay focused on being positive no matter the negative news trending in the world! I remember in 2014, during the ebola outbreak, I was heavily pregnant, and you know how pregnancy hormones do not help with negative news at all!  I am a very clean person and I do not joke with my hygiene at all. But can you imagine the extra carefulness and hygiene I had to put up with because of ebola? I got so exhausted with the fear of ebola. It got to a point that if I mistakingly shook someone or touched someone or anything at all, I would not be myself the whole day until I used almost half of my disinfectant for a very thorough bath. It was so terrible! The alarming part was that every corner I went to was all about ebola news. If you were not talking about ebola or you were not up to date about ebola, you are seen as irresponsible. Everybody wanted to trend with the ...

We all go through difficult times, but no matter how bad things seem, there is always plenty to be thankful for- so so much to be grateful to GOD for! Remember how far you have come. Remember the good "things" that life has brought to you. You can't tell me that your life has been all misery, can you? Take a moment and remember, and you will be amazed how much life has given to you. So be grateful. Be thankful!  Remind yourself now and again how beautiful life is and then, write them down. That is one of the ways I remind myself how so kind life has treated me, in spite of whatever challenge I might have faced or am facing.  There is a deep assurance that you feel whenever you read out your blessings! All you feel is gratitude! And a grateful heart attracts more blessings! So friend, affirm that life is already beautiful even before you have your heart desires met!

Are you caught up in between two options?  For example, you got a new job offer that has some good things about it, yet have some things you do not love? While on the other hand, you have your current job which has its benefits as well, yet some things you do not love?  Truth be told, the situation can be very overwhelming if you have been in such situation before or you are currently facing such situation.  Well, I have good news for you! You do not need to be overwhelmed anymore. Here is what works(ed) for me and I thought I should share with you. All you need is to do the following:  Write down the upsides of each option you are considering- pay attention only on the upsides and give no thought to the down sides!  Combine the two lists together to make it one list, then hand it over to the KING OF THE UNIVERSE!  Believe that you have whatever you are willing to allow! Choose all the upside and never the downside and it shall be so for you...

Sometimes, I browse through people's profile on Facebook, and I almost felt jealous ...as a matter of fact I do. Everybody seems to look so cute, so satisfied and accomplished. And then, I go ahead to check out their info and am like, so GREEN with ENVY. Why? It is because they seem to have it all; the perfect face, job, guy/girl, statistics, words etc.  And then, I get exhausted and I ask myself, "shouldn't I be doing something better?" Many unread books are wailing in my book shelf, I have to prepare for a professional exam, my blog is screaming SMS (save my soul), life is moving on and moving fast, I have a lot of thinking to do about the 'what' and 'how' of my plans ...so so much to do.  However, I still appreciate the time I spend either facebooking or browsing through people's info, photos and pages. Reason is because, it is not only a time to keep up with family, friends and foes, it is a reflective time. Everybody seems to be happ...

The death of our LORD JESUS marked the beginning of our victory over sin, the enemy! So today isn't about wearing a long face and feeling sober; it is a day of thanksgiving, victory, joy, laughter. If the enemy knew that crucifying our LORD will bring his doom, he would not have gone that far. But it was predestined to be, so that you and I would be brought back to GOD'S loving arms without fear of judgement.  Let us rejoice and be thankful for this great sacrifice that brought us victory and made us heirs to the Kingdom of GOD. 

Focus on your tomorrow and all that you would love to become. Isn't it best that you channel your energy towards talking about your future, instead of going over your past every now and then? Some people think that they would be justified when  they keep robbing their pasts on their faces. Listen friend, there is no justification in visiting your past, only self pity and guilt. You have all that it takes to become the best that GOD created you to be! It is all inside of you. Remember, what you feel, you attract! Instead of feeling pain and guilty, feel love, joy and every good thing that you desire!

GOD gives power, only to those who are prepared to lower themselves to pick it up!

People may not always SAY what they really think of you, but they will SHOW you!

NATURE IS THE SERVANT OF THE MIND.  When u meditate, list what u desire to have, clearly write them down, make sure its within ur sphere of availability. As u look at them, 'see' them come through. As long as ur desires are with good intent, Don't give up, you cannot Fail!

Someone said that a successful marriage is one that is constantly been insulated and protected from negative external influences.  There are people who are close to you and may negatively influence your marriage if you allow them. Protect your marriage from such people, if not they may sow seeds of fear, doubt and confusion in your mind, which eventually would bring disunity, strife, distrust in your relationship with your spouse.  The truth is, you can never tell for sure who may be secretly envious of your marriage, so it is very important that you keep issues between you and your spouse to yourself. But if you must talk about some issues (must not necessarily be negative), talk with only people who have successful marriages; people who can give you good counsel based on their own experiences in building a successful marriage. Never discuss your life with people who have more problems than you, because all they will tell you is how to be messed up like them! Be wis...

Prayer is one of the keys that help to build up your relationship. Prayer helps you focus on GOD'S plans,  purpose and direction for your relationship.  When you pray, you are telling GOD that you cannot do it all by yourself, that HE should step in and take charge of your relationship. We all face challenges in various areas of our lives and we need divine intervention to help us triumph over the challenges. Isn't it?  So putting GOD first in prayers, ensures guaranteed presence of GOD in your relationship which will always help and direct you.  When couples face hard times, it is prayer that strengthens them through the difficult times. Prayers fights your battles- those forces that oppose marriages which you may be unaware of.  I remember during our marriage counselling class before my husband and I got married, our senior pastor's wife said something very striking. She said that, a good marriage needs prayer. And that a good marriage could go b...

Loving yourself is the best thing you can ever do for yourself, because that is where your success begins- the starting point to all the good things to come!  It is the most important MUST HAVE. It touches every aspect of yourself.  Self love will enable you to love and reciprocate love. When you love yourself, you will take good care of yourself. But when you do not love yourself, you can never know how to take care of yourself and can hardly give or share love. That is where selfishness comes in. There is a big difference between self love and selfishness! Loving yourself entails an all round looking after yourself, physically, emotionally, psychologically, financially etc. Self-love is a vital tip to living the good life. Love yourself no matter what. It is when you love yourself that you will be able to see whatever shortcomings or flaws in you that you would love to correct! The worst thing that can happen to anyone is to not know your wrongs! Love yourself unco...

Keep focusing on what you want; then do what feels good! 

Do not settle for anything less because of pressures! Because the minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for! 

When your heart is open and receptive, there is every tendency that you will make the right decision.  You do not have to be a pain to other people, just because you have pains. When you do not have to treat other people because "you are not in the right frame of mind", then you have come to a full maturity- that does not have to be "just all about you".  Every day is an opportunity to do right. So always learn to reach out to people, show some love; everyone needs those words of encouragement, acts of love and kindness from time to time.  Always keep this in mind- People will forget what you said or did, but will never forget how you made then feel.  GOD has created us for a purpose, have you discovered yours?  Have a great week friends! 

You do not have to talk too much to buttress your points. People know you little when you say little. And the possibility of revealing your secret or someone's secret is 100 percent if you're talking too much- trying to keep the conversation going, and as such giving the impression that you are an interesting person to be with! Do not be obliged to impress people by being who you are not. Don't forget that we are "judged" by what we say!  Most times, it is not our actions that are been judged, but our words! So say little and listen/observe more!  Happy weekend folks! 

This is just for the person reading this- yes dear friend, you.  I know you are overwhelmed by your present situation. I know that you are scared and your faith is wavering. I know that you feel all hope is lost and that help is never going to come. You are in the deepest part of the tunnel and very close to throwing in the towel. Please do not give up yet, help is on the way!  You are about to meet your BOAZ.  You remember the story of Ruth? How hopeless and helpless her situation was? She even had the option  to go back to her people, but she refused. She decided to hang in there with her mother in law, Naomi. Her situation was pitiful, but she didn't give up. It seemed as if help was never going to come, after all, "who's going to marry me again?" She said. But you see, the UNIVERSE is good at doing us good, even when our hearts are filled with doubts.  It's okay to feel down and overwhelmed sometimes, but it is best never to give up in such a v...

I was going through one of my journals today, and I was shocked at the things I came across- things I wrote down.  Back in the year 2010, I had written down the list of things I desired to have and achieve in life, including to get a very good job without writing any aptitude test and all those long protocols people go through before getting a job. After writing my long list, I wrote below "These needs have been met already and I am seeing results".  The fact was that the long list of my heart desires seemed far fetched and unreal, like I could never have them. But when I saw the journal today and read out those "far fetched" needs I wrote down years ago, I was shocked to my bones at how fast they were met. I had even forgotten that I ever wrote such until today. If someone had seen the list, they would probably had called me a joker or would have asked me to see a psychiatrist. The funny thing was that I did not have a job, and my situation seemed ...

Often times, a lot of us had held ourselves bound in the chains of unhappiness based on how we had allowed our situations to win us because of "what will be will be"; in that if we were in a terrible situation which needed to be changed (stopped), because of the lies of what will be will be, we'd allowed the situation to win us, making us victims of circumstances!  But NO, it should not be so! We should never allow negative situations to win us! We have the ability to recreate and change that negative situation, instead of accepting "what will be will be". That's defeat! And we were not created to be defeated, but to be victorious as heirs of the monarch of the universe!  For this change and recreation to happen, you must first convince yourself that you need a change! You must know when to say "enough is enough"! You MUST realise that you have the GOD-GIVEN ability to recreate and change your situation, no matter how difficult it seems. ...