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I truly believe that no situation is hopeless. Anything can be turned around as long as you have breath in you. It is not a cliché that “where there is a will, there is a way.” Yes, you may need a helping hand, but ultimately only you can make a lasting difference in your own life. Treating people like they cannot help themselves leads them to do just that. They become disempowered, hopeless and dependent.  It is important to have a dream and to pursue it with everything you have. Remember that the size of your dream is up to you because the sky has never been the limit and you have all the potential to have anything and be anything you want. Besides, you know that you have the full responsibility for your own life and should be in the driver’s seat, because it is your thinking and your talk that ultimately determine your destiny.  So whatever that situation may be, trust me, it is not hopless. Stop judging yourself, instead take the necessary action to impro...

Are there things you have accepted simply because everyone else seems to accept them? Have you accepted society’s standards as your own? Always know this, that society celebrates mediocrity. Ordinary people do not like it when others get ahead. It only exposes their lack of vision and motivation. That is why mediocrity is often embraced and excellence is shunned, and being ordinary is acceptable. If you want more, there is something wrong with you. If something is widely accepted and everyone is doing it, it is probably better for you as a dreamer not to do it. If you want to get what everyone else is getting, do what everyone else is doing. But the truth is, that is the most terrible thing you can do to yourself- undermining the greatness in you!  You do not have to do what others are doing. Find your own lane. 

What exactly are you capable of achieving? What is a realistic expectation for your life and what constitutes sheer madness? Is there a limit to how high you should aim? The simple answer to these questions is simply that you are capable of achieving anything you set your mind to; if you can think it, then it’s a realistic expectation; and you can aim as high as you want. The sky has never been the limit!  We have probably all heard the “wise” saying: “the sky is the limit.” This would seem to have a lot of wisdom in it at first glance. However, it implies that man’s potential has a limit when in actual fact, man’s potential is limitless.   Have you discovered your potential yet? That is the starting point- to discover your potential (which means all that you can be, but have not yet become. It is all you can accomplish, but have not yet accomplished. It is your dormant ability)! You will be amazed at how much you are capable of achieving. If only you can dis...

In ancient Greece, Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem.  One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher and said, "Do you know what I just heard about your friend?" "Hold on a minute", Socrates replied. "Before telling me anything I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test." "Triple filter?" "That's right",  Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you're going to say. That's why I call it the triple filter test.  The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?" "No,",the man said, "Actually I just heard about it and ..." "All right", said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not.  Now let's try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is w...

Someone once said, that the important things are usually not the most fun or exciting things to do. How true. Like reading an inspiring book instead of watching that interesting episode of your favourite TV program, my mom'd always instruct us.  There is a price to be paid for attaining greatness and at times that means doing things we do not necessarily enjoy or want to do (oh well, I enjoy and love writing). But you must do those things because you realize that your future depends on it.  Think about this: if you only had to do the things that are fun and exciting at work would you get anything done? No. But you do it anyway, for the sake of that paycheck at the month-end. Why then, won’t you do the things that matter most for your own life?  Like reading the bible, reading inspiring books, spending time with you family, getting  good journals to write down your visions etc.  What we need to do is concentrate on the things that are most import...

A lot of people feel like they are victims in life, (I was once like that, aways playing the victim and blaming every experience on my past), they will often point to past events, perhaps growing up with an abusive parent or in a dysfunctional family or whatever situation  they found themselves like abusive relationships, abusive parents, divorce, abandonment and so on. I  mean, that is almost everybody’s story in some form or not.  But the real question is, what are you going to do now? What do you choose now? Because you can either keep focusing on that, or you can focus on what you want. And when people start focusing on what they want, what they don’t want falls away, and what they want expands, and the other part disappears. It's time to refocus, because you are not your past experiences. So stop dwelling on the past! 

Where is your self esteem founded? How firm is that foundation from which it is currently built? Are you confident because you are beautiful? But what if you mingle among others who are more beautiful than you? Are you secure with your success? What if the business or the reputation you’ve built suddenly falls?  What are you worth by then?

Many people take decisions and judgments without thinking.  I used to be like that,  in fact I was a victim of several set backs as a result of such limitations, until I realised that first and foremost, I must think on myself and know my plus points and what may stand as an obstacle before venturing into anything whatsoever. By doing good so, one can judge what is good for one and what is bad to a large extent.  The truth is, If you hardly think on yourself, you will always get yourself into trouble.  E veryone has their own positive points and limitations. Everyone is unique. You must take a look on your inside and see what you need the most and what you need to work on in other to get better.  So friends, start thinking on yourself!  Have a great weekend......

Okay, lately, I observed that I get this unfriendly headache after taking my naps, which is very unusual, because naps are meant to refresh the body. So I started reading to find out what could possibly cause the headaches. Here are some tips for a healthy nap: Nap Time should be less than 30 minutes. 20- 30 minutes of nap is good health. Most appropriate time for nap is between 2-3pm. Drowsiness caused after lunch could reduce productivity, so this is the most appropriate time for nap. The environment should be quiet and sufficiently dark environment. Repeat napping every day at the same time for the same amount. Give this a try, it will really help.

There are many things that you can find good and lovable about you, things you may have ignored or taken for granted because you have always possessed them all these years.  As proof, we get attracted with people who have positive traits that are similar to us. We may not have noticed it, but noticing them now, thinking about it and writing them down can help us believe that we have indeed been attracted by such traits, and if we have, then it is quite possible that other people will also be attracted by such traits that we already possess. Someone knows what I am talking about? Please share your thoughts...

Constantly remember that procrastination is the stealer of time. Keep away from delaying any of your actions by leaving affairs to be done for tomorrow, next week, next month and so forth. Instead have them done today and move on to the next task. 

When faced with unpleasant situations, it is tempting to ignore them and not deal with them. Your progress can be hindered if you ignore your problems. You probably would be allowing little challenges to grow into huge obstacles if you don't confront your problems and deal with them!  Someone once said that, the path of least resistance is an attractive one and the effort required to deal with the problem sometimes seems too immense.  How true. At times it is not so much that the problem is big, but that it requires us to admit something about ourselves or others that we just don’t want to face. The trouble is “You won't find a solution by saying there is no problem.” The longer you take to deal with your problems the bigger they will grow and the harder it will be to sort them out. Problems are like weeds that grow in a beautiful garden. If not recognized and uprooted early enough they will dominate the garden and choke the beautiful flowers in the garden. I...

Listening is one of the best ways to be considerate toward your spouse. Do not just zone out when  your spouse is talking about her day or wait for her to finish talking so you can say what you want to say; make an effort to really hear her our and to care about what she is telling you.  When you are having a real conversation, put away your phones, always make eye contact, and really listen. Of course we all zone out from tone to time. If that happens during a conversation, do not pretend like you are following; apologise and ask her to repeat what she was really saying.  Ask your spouse questions to show that you really do care; this will help them not to feel that they are boring you. Sometimes, all your spouse needs after a long day is for someone to listen to them and empathise with them. 

A man's favorite donkey falls into a deep precipice;  He can't pull it out no matter how hard he tries;  He therefore decides to bury it alive.  Soil is poured onto the donkey from above.  The donkey feels the load, shakes it off, and steps on it;  More soil is poured.  It shakes it off and steps up;  The more the load was poured, the higher it rose;  By noon, the donkey was grazing in green pastures.  After much shaking off (of problems)  And stepping up (learning from them),  One will graze in GREEN PASTURES.  I am so brandy inspired! 

On the best sunny day, the most powerful magnifying glass will not light paper if you keep moving the glass. But if you focus and hold it, the paper will light up. That is the power of concentration. A man was traveling and stopped at an intersection. He asked an elderly man, "Where does this road take me?" The elderly person asked, "Where do you want to go?" The man replied, "I don't know." The elderly person said, "Then take any road. What difference does it make?" How true. When we don't know where we are going, any road will take us there.  Suppose you have all the football eleven players, enthusiastically ready to play the game, all charged up, and then someone took the goal post away. What would happen to the game? There is nothing left. How do you keep score? How do you know you have arrived? Enthusiasm without direction is like wildfire and leads to frustration. Goals give a sense of direction. Would you sit in a...

A child, oftentimes seem more courageous than older people because he hasn’t been hurt as much.  His hope is full of all the wonderful things he feels he can still do.  His memory is not yet burdened with failures and doubts. Someone knows what I am talking about? I bet you all can relate to that (I was full of aspirations and dreams until life hit me so hard. Oh, I got back up, strongly)! But the one who is really more courageous is the person who rises up despite of his many falls.  It is being able to go on despite the hurt, and to move forward despite losing much of his hope.  When one is trapped between his approaching enemies and a dead-end leading only to a vast open sea, his hope is almost nil. But if he could still pray and believe that even there, God can save him and make a way, he has already achieved victory and much courage.  For that man, even the seas will be parted to make way for his faith!

A man’s mind may be likened to a garden, which may be intelligently cultivated or allowed to run wild; but whether cultivated or neglected, it must and will bring forth. If no useful seeds are put into it, then an abundance of useless weed-seeds will fall therein, and will continue to produce their kind. Whatever is planted in that garden is what will be reaped. Just as you cannot plant corn and reap oranges, so you cannot plant destructive thoughts and reap a happy and successful life. If you plant positive thoughts you will reap positive results. Plant negative thoughts and you will reap negative results. Neglect to plant anything at all and the weeds will inevitably take over.  With your mind, you can attract whatever thought you send out to the universe- it is as simple as that! What are you thinking? What thoughts are you feeding your mind with? Be rest assured it will come back to you. You can use your thoughts to improve your life- as a man thinketh....

So you failed in your exams, does it mean you have not learned anything? So you were not accepted for a job, does it mean no employer would later on trust you and consider you a valuable asset to his company? So you made a terrible mistake, does it mean you cannot have a second chance?  Things like these happen. But that does not mean you should lose your respect and love for yourself- let it remain, and never stop believing that you are GODS child; and no matter how many mistakes you have made along the way, you are still destined for the wholeness life! See  yourself through GODS' own eyes. In GODS' eyes, there is acceptance, there is no situation too hard to win nor weaknesses too weak to be overcome, by HIS insurmountable strength. So pick up yourself and keep moving! 

Design the life you want in your mind. Be sure of it! Then discard all other options. It is either you will have that life or you will not live at all. It is either you will succeed at getting what you truly want in life or you will keep trying all the days of your life.  Do not settle for anything less. Coming up with an alternative life will not and should not be an option for you at all! Yes, you may need to rework the route to your ultimate desires every now and then, but never change the destination.

We all know that sleeping is the most important factor in recovering the tired body and mind; and to live healthy, we should sleep for a right amount of time, 7-8 hours daily. But does that mean that longer hours of sleep will recover the body more?  Well, a research team in Cambridge University, after being carried out on 9,600 people for Nine and half years, proved that longer sleeping hours increased the risk of cerebral infarction by 46%. We still need more research to clarify if sleeping for long time has an unknown mechanism that affects cerebral infarction or if a cerebral infarction related factor increases the time of sleep.  That said, I would simply advise that we rather not sleep longer than 7-8 hours a day because someone who sleeps too long is not healthy.

Among the best things that you are able to do is to have gratitude; for everything that you have, everything that you've done, for all the individuals in your life, and for the procedure of unfolding and development.  Gratitude is among the higher vibrations in this life and it draws in a super-flow in your life.  Without gratitude one may get arrogant, and isolated.   Till you truly look at all that you have, and treasure all that you have been given, things may not make any meaning to you.  Did you have anything to do with your appearance?  Or your eye color? Or an utterly healthy body?  Or where you were born? Not at all. Give thanks for all that has been provided for you. Think, that you are able to see distinctly the trees and beauty around you, that you are able to take a breath of fresh air, that today and just where you are, you are capable of so many things.  Be thankful for the knowledge you have learned. Be thankful for tho...

There was a man taking a morning walk at the beach. He saw that along with the morning tide came hundreds of starfish and when the tide withdrew, they were left behind and with the morning sun rays, they would die.  The tide was fresh and the starfish were alive. The man took a few steps, picked one and threw it into the water. He did that repeatedly. Right behind him there was another person who could not understand what this man was doing. He caught up with him and asked, "What are you doing? There are hundreds of starfish. How many can you help? What difference does it make?" This man did not reply, took two more steps, picked up another one, threw it into the water, and said, "It makes a difference to this one." Enjoy the little things, they actually make huge difference!

We all know that music relaxes the mind and relieves stress. Music is food to the soul- I know that too well. Music has really helped me in so many ways, so I thought I could share just a little bit of the research I made on music lately. Well, it has been researched that music has a positive effect on dementia- a chronic or persistent disorder of the mental processes caused by brain disease or injury and marked by memory disorders, personality changes and impaired reasoning.  Actually, in a research that was published on the Journal of Clinical Nursing showed that music has a positive effect on activity, recognition and mentality of the dementia patients. They strongly recommended music therapy because of its major role in improving the quality and functionality of life.  It does not cost any money to listen to music you love often, anytime, anywhere because it is an important factor in living a healthy life! So let the music play!!!

Why are your words so inconsistent with your actions? Worse still, why are you sabotaging your dreams with your very own words? People want to be successful, yet they are being "so humble" about it? You compliment someone and all you will hear is, "I am managing, I am not all that o". Yet this person wants to be successful? Your life is shaped by what you say. The Proverbs say: “A man's belly shall be satisfied with the fruit of his mouth; and with the increase of his lips shall he be filled. Death and life are in the power of the tongue.” You tongue is your master tool. Every word you say is another stroke on the canvas of your life. So why do you say "I am managing"? Why being "so humble" about it? Declare your stand as the heir to the Kingdom and forget the lies that you have to be "humble" about it. When you face hardships, are the situations humble about dealing with you so hard? No! So you shouldn't be hu...

Are you unhappy because others are succeeding? Does your success seem dependent on someone else’s failure? Are you always wanting to keep up with the neighbours and wanting to have the things that your neighbours have? I see this as being envious of another. Envy is a problem- it doesn't matter the size, you can never be satisfied with what you achieve, no matter how much you have achieved. It doesn't matter the size, we should never entertain envy because if not dealt with,  the "small envy" will mature into jealousy, greed, resentment, and a strong desire to have what another has at all cost!  See friend, if you are envious of another, it means you do not even have a clue about what you want for your life.  But you see, GOD has made us all unique in different ways, and that another is succeeding now does not mean you won't succeed tomorrow. You must have the winning mindset, that is the only sure way to succeed, no matter what your situation is at t...

Apart from reducing weight and strengthening muscles, exercise also gives many benefits to our health, such as reducing death risk, but mostly benefits the heart! The enhancement of blood circulation caused by exercises is good for heart muscles and blood vessels. Exercise enables the lung to function effectively, thereby strengthening the heart as well. It also enables the distribution of blood.  Exercise reduces the risk of blood clots in arteries. This is so because if the arteries are blocked as a result of blood clots, it will lead to the reduction of the blood that is going to the heart, which could cause fatal disorder such as heart attack or cardiac infarction.  Exercise also helps to reduce blood pressure, blood sugar, and Lipids, infection, weight, yet it increases the high-density lipoprotein (HDL), which also helps to maintain to maintain the good state of the heart. it is also important to avoid greasy food, cigarettes and to reduce weight. Exerc...

A 24 year old boy seeing out from the train’s window shouted… “Dad, look the trees are going behind!” Dad smiled and a young couple sitting nearby, looked at the 24 year old’s childish behavior with pity, suddenly he again exclaimed… “Dad, look the clouds are running with us!” The couple couldn’t resist and said to the old man… “Why don’t you take your son to a good doctor?” The old man smiled and said… “I did and we are just coming from the hospital, my son was blind from birth, he just got his eyes today. Every single person on the planet has a story. Do not judge people before you truly know them. The truth might surprise you!

You know those little everyday things your husband does, like school runs, buying groceries, washing off socked clothes, remembering to buy what you said in passive that you needed, calling you from work to check up on you even in his very busy schedule, saying "I love you? Do not take them for granted.  A lot of men do not support their wives, and they feel those things are not their responsibilities. So if you are one of the favoured ones, make sure your husband knows how much you appreciate his efforts. The so-called little things are not little at all. They are actually what keep us going. So always tell your husband how grateful you are for all the help he gives you.  By appreciating your husband's efforts, he will be very much motivated, encouraged and happy to keep doing the good works he is doing, EVEN BETTER.  And most importantly, always thank GOD for giving you such a wonderful husband.

I can do all things through CHRIST which strengthens me. I am blessed and highly favoured. Today is beautiful. I have the resources I need to succeed. I am abundantly supplied. Money flows easily and effortless and frequently to me. I am prosperous. The Universe favours me, and life is good. I have the power to transform my situation into a better one. I see abundance. The lines fall unto my paths in pleasant places.

No matter how good a woman is, she can never be good enough to a man who is not ready.  A lot of women (if not all of us) had been victims to such circumstance, whereby they gave their all to a man who even in 100 years to come was never ready to get married. You see the woman all frustrated and worn because her loyalty is not recognised and appreciated.  Why do women still stay in such relationships even after seeing the hand writings on the wall? Please share your thoughts on this friends? You might just be saving someone right now. Cheers...

What have you done today to move you closer to your dreams? Are you expecting to wake up one morning and suddenly do everything to achieve your dream in just that one day? Aristotle said, “We are what we repeatedly do.” Success is a daily habit. It is the little things you do everyday that will get you to your destination. Time to get on it! Wishing you all a great week!

Are you going through a hard time that you are wondering if you'd ever make it through?  Do you feel you have already done your best, that you have fought so hard already and still the battle seems so far from being won? Perhaps you have been hurt by another.  Or perhaps you have lost someone so close to you that you wonder how you'd ever live your days again. Take heart for you are never alone! In your darkest hours, in your weakest, you'd find the strength you need to carry on.  In the most hopeless of situations, a helping hand will be with you, and things will turn around for your good. HE TURNED IT FOR ME! Try not to think of the many days ahead, think only of today and be very positive about your tomorrow for it can only get better! Now is the time to stand for your right as the heir to the Kingdom and bask in GODS love for you.  That is all that matters!  Every difficult task that comes across your path – every one that you would r...

Once we hit rock bottom, many of our fears depart from us. We realize that the thing we feared most has already happened, but we are still alive.  We have feared our lack of possessions, but we realize that even without such things, we are still ourselves. We have feared our lack of power, but we realize that even without that, we have the power to do something else, something good and something beautiful. We realize that even in our simple lives, the important things remain! Does anyone know what I'm talking about?  You must never let your true self die because of situations. You know, these things don't last-they do not! Several times I have been there, then I realised "really, so I made it through? This isn't even as bad and as fearful as it looked". And you know what? I got back up! Well that's what fear does- it feeds your mind and soul with lies and if you are not careful, you may never make it through.  A lot of people have hit rock bo...

Some people are givers, they have much to give to others and many people benefit from their generosity.   There are times however when these people give so much that they feel drained from within without being replenished. Have you ever felt like that? Have you ever felt as though you are giving more than you are receiving? Most times it is because:  We want to please others and win their love. We want to please others and avoid confrontations. We do not want to hurt people and fail their expectations. Oh this part is where I will like to elaborate on. Let me share a story with you, friends.  I kind of became friendly with this woman in my local church and in a very short time, I had given so much and I did not complain at all. I guess she thought I had all the money (of course I have all the money lol), so she asked me to lend her some huge figures. I told her I didn't have that but I could spare some fractions and she needed not to pay me back. She ...