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Someone very close to me once said to me, "you need to change how your mind perceives things." After I gave his words a thought, I found out that truly, having the wrong mindset can negatively affect both your relationship and yourself. Our thoughts and our mindsets greatly affect our perception of what life is really about. And a right set of mind leads to a relationship that will make you feel right. For example, if you always think that there's no reason for you to be loved by anyone or that others will leave you when they get to know you, you will end up being a taker or a needy partner/friend /colleague. Before you know it, you are already proving yourself right. Among many benefits of having the right mindset is a healthy relationship. And let me conclude by saying this, a healthy relationship is one that shares and gives, and if you keep thinking negatively, you're not giving yourself the chance . 

Oftentimes, we think that relationship is all about other people, but do you know that it starts with you first? Yes, you. Why? Because all relationships involve two people and while your friends, partners and maybe colleagues will come and go, the one person who remains after all is you.  Get into a relationship with yourself first, have a good grasp on yourself emotionally and mentally, because if you don't first strengthen yourself, you will not be able to enjoy the best relationship(s) possible. You will always end up sabotaging yourself.  Now you see? It starts with you! So, if you find yourself repeating the same arguments with people, you might have to check yourself.  Photo Credit: pixabay

Hello there, how have you all been? I have a strong conviction that someone might need this, so here goes. Many people do not know about the power of good feelings, and as such their feelings are basically reactions or responses to what happens to them. They have their feelings on automatic pilot, instead of deliberately taking charge of them. When something good happens, they feel good and when they do not get the result they want, they feel bad.  They don't realise that their feelings are the cause of what is happening to them, because the more they respond negatively, the more they give out negative feelings which eventually results to more negative circumstances. But be intentional. Give your situation a back seat by choosing to react positively. You must get your attitude right! The truth is, the  greatest revolution in our generation is the discovery that we humans, by changing the inner attitudes of our minds, can change the outer aspects of our lives. ...

'Developing presence is a work in progress which requires deliberate attention to your internal and external self as they are strong components that make the whole". Uche Reagan.  Photo credit: pixabay

Are your thoughts worthy of you? I once asked myself this question years back and I realised that my thoughts were far from who GOD has created me to. My thoughts were messed up due to the hard times I had to face as a result of wrong choices, until I made up my mind that "I am not who my past said I am." NOW is the time to change yours if your answer is NO. You can begin right where you are right now. Nothing matters but this moment and what you are focusing your attention on. Do it now!  Photo Credit: pixabay

Hi there! I hope you are having a great weekend. I believe that you are great and that there is something magnificent about you. Regardless of your past, how young or old you think you might be, the moment you change your perspective and start thinking properly, this something that is within you, this POWER within you that's greater than the world, will begin to emerge. It will take over your life. It will feed you, cloth you, guide you, protect you, direct you, sustain your very existence. If you let it!  Now that is what I know for sure. Do have a lovely weekend and learn to unwind sometimes, that helps too! Xoxo Photo credit: pixabay

Someone asked me this question today, and I must say that at first it threw me off balance because I didn't see it coming. And after a deep thought, here was my response. "The same way you fall in love with another person- you adore everything about them! You fall in love with another person by seeing only love, hearing only love, speaking only love, and by feeling love with all your heart."  And that is exactly how you use the ultimate power of love to fall in love with life. When you love life, no matter the challenges you're going through, you will choose to see only the best outcome.  The way my friend felt after my response? Oh well, your guess is as good as mine. Have a lovely time fam. Live, and love life. Your best days are here! Xoxo Photo Credit: pixabay

Hello Friend, I trust you had a resourceful day. Just a word to encourage someone who needs it. Resolve to remain as strong, as determined, and as highly enthused during the darkest night of adversity as you were and will be during the sunniest day of prosperity.  Do not feel disappointed when things seem disappointing. Keep the eye single upon the same brilliant future regardless of the circumstances, conditions, or events.  Do not lose heart when things go wrong. Continue undisturbed in your original resolve to make all things go right... A wise man said “The man who never weakens when things are against him will grow stronger and stronger until all things will delight to be for him. He will finally have all the strength he may desire or need. So dear friend, be always strong and you will always be stronger. That's the reality! Xoxo.  Photo Credit: pixabay

Hello Friend, just a few words for you. Hope your day is going well.  If you knew your potential to feel good, I mean if you know what you will benefit from feeling good,  you would ask no one to be different so that you can feel good.  You would free yourself of all of that cumbersome impossibility of needing to control the world, or control your mate, or control your child(ren). You will make up your mind to feel good in spite of your situation.  You are the only one who creates your reality; don't forget your perspective is your reality, and no one else can think for you, no one else can do it! It is only you, every bit of you! Photo Credit: pixabay

True health and general well-being begins with your thoughts.  When you think about comfort, strength, flexibility,  youthfulness, wealth, health, you attract these qualities into your life and body, but when you keep dwelling on illness, fear, disease and pain , you will keep attracting the exact same.  Situations can be mean I know, but friend, you do not need to give your situation the upper hand to mess you up anyhow it wants. Stand up and push back!  How do you do that? By changing your thoughts and moving them in the direction of health and happiness and all that pertains to life and Godliness. Win!  Photo Credit: Pixabay

If you are facing a problem, or you’ve hit the rock bottom,  and you can’t see any way out, the act of deep gratitude will clear the way. It is as though your gratitude causes the Universe to issue a free pass that enables you jump over the obstacle.  You know sometimes I feel down, but whenever I start being thankful, it's as though the problems disappear, more like literally disappear. That's what gratitude does; it disgraces your problems and make them look like nothing. So with this attitude,  you find the obstacle you were facing diminishes or disappears and your way ahead is made clear, or you find the solution wherewith the obstacle is overcome. 

Happy New Month friends. How has your year been? Hope it's been great. Mine has been great with more of life's experience and inclination. Yet, in all, you can agree with me that nothing just happens and as such, every single experience came with it a great lesson. But something tells me strongly that we have just entered our best days yet and I am not mincing words. You and I will start experiencing supernatural help. Only believe. And what has your expectations been? Hope it's been solely on GOD and not man.  Dear friend, I urge you to erase any form of expectation from man and expect only from GOD- because GOD does not fail! Enjoy the September to Remember. Xoxo

Hey Queen, can I talk to you for a minute?  Quite a number of ladies are frustrated today, because they have done everything to try to get a man who will love and treat them like the queen that they really are- a serious man as some folks will call it, and all they manage to get are men who treat them badly and use them however and whenever it pleases them.  So, in this case, here's what I have to tell you:  1. It is not a lady's job to struggle to be found or loved. 2. Be yourself and work on getting better. 3.  Pray and let GOD choose the best man for you. Don't forget, HE is the perfect match maker. It's that simple. You can do it. Love you. Photo Credit: Pixabay 

You can never see the truth, not until you get the conviction in your spirit. No wonder what used to be common in your eyes suddenly becomes "your way of escape". Only a deep person will understand this post. Photo Credit: Pixabay

A lot of people mistake self-confidence with self-esteem.    I used to make that mistake as well until I started studying about believing in oneself and abilities.  From my own understanding, self-confidence is slightly different from self-esteem. Self-esteem has to do with your feelings about yourself, your behaviour and your worth as a person. While, self-confidence is your believe in your abilities and in the way you present yourself to the world. Peoples actions or reactions are more likely to erode your self-confidence than it would your self-esteem. Talking from experience.  So, these two emotions have quite a bit in common. They are both measures of your believe about yourself; yet can be easily thrown off balance, which may lead to your being overconfident or portraying behaviours that could distance you from your actual existence. That being said, you need to find a balance between too little self-confidence and too much. You can't accompli...

Some people will never tell you that they had a bad day. I am one of them! As a matter of fact, these people believe that there is no such thing as a "bad day." To these people, every day is a gift! They are thankful for the challenges because they teach them. They are thankful for their jobs even when it is not pleasant. I am marveled at their ability to see each day as a "good day" irrespective of the challenges they had to face. Truth is, every day we are alive is a gift and there is so much to be grateful for. Stop focusing on the things that make you feel unhappy. A few stuff that did not go well for you does not and should not ruin your whole day unless you let it! Your choice. In the end, having a positive outlook is entirely up to you! You can never control what other people say or do to you, but you can control how you respond to it. By choosing to stay positive, you will be happier and healthier than ever before and of course you will enj...

It is not the great revelation you have not yet had that will cause you the most trouble. But failing to walk in the ones you already have. So, be faithful in the things you have no matter how little you think they are or how substandard they look. You can never know how the exact same thing you looked down on could turn around to become a sought after!  Life may bring you to an unfamiliar path. But if you continue to walk on the right path, holding firmly on what you believe, your positive affirmations, you will make it through JUST FINE! But if you decide to wander off into the darkness by yourself, you will probably stumble.  Keep walking on the right path! Hope you see that glimpse of light. Help is on the way!  Photo Credit: Pixabay

Your life right now is a reflection of your past thoughts. That includes all the great things, and all the things you consider not so great.  Since you attract to you what you think about most, it is easy to see what your dominant thoughts have been on every subject of your life, because that is what you have experienced. Until now!  Good thing is, you can start right now to change the things you don't like about your life. Just start thinking right!  Photo Credit: Pixabay

Everything that happens to us happens for a purpose. And sometimes, one thing leads to another.  Instead of locking yourself up in the cage of fears and crying over past heartaches, embarrassments and failures, treat them as your teachers and they will become your tools in both self-improvement and success.  Truth is, there's nothing like "coincidence or happenstance." IT IS ALL IN THE PLAN!  Photo Credit: pixabay 

Sometimes, when the situation seemed unbearable, all I needed was to remember how I made it through the past challenges, how I survived them, what I did to pull through and all. Usually, it's hard to believe when you seem to have nothing to cheer you up or encourage you. It's hard to believe when the situation is unbearable and all that surrounds you is darkness. But as they say, only the wise don't forget where they are coming from.  Take your time, sit back and remember where GOD brought you out from and how HE helped you through those difficult challenges of the past, then draw strength from them. You will see that the situation that seem too big will begin to seem small.  Be encouraged my friend, nothing is too hard for GOD. Photo Credit: Pixabay

Thoughts are powerful indeed, and as conscious beings, we have the privilege to control them - by choice. Unfortunately, most people lack this knowledge and they allow their thoughts to rule their lives without even being aware of it. Will you live a life controlled by random thoughts or will you choose your thoughts carefully to develop a success mindset? When you get a hold of your thoughts you have the power to create wonderful things in your life, all by just taking command, training and instructing your mind to think properly.  Photo Credit: pixabay 

When you do not treat yourself the way you want others to treat you, you can never change the way things are. So, question is, how do you treat yourself?  Photo Credit: Pixabay

If we want a joyous life, we must think joyous thoughts. If we want a prosperous life, we must think prosperous thoughts. If we want a loving life, we must think loving thoughts. Whatever we send out mentally or verbally will come back to us in like form. That's just the way it is! Remember, thoughts are like seeds- they grow eventually! What thoughts are you feeding  your mind with.  Photo Credit: Pixabay.

To make your relationship work,  you must learn to focus on what you appreciate about the other person, and not your complaints about him or her. As easy as this may seem, though, it is easier to appreciate ones good when the person is always willing to get better. It's actually a two way thing because it takes two people to have a relationship.  Photo Credit: Pixabay

Hard times  can make the nights seem endless, but have you noticed that somehow, you feel better in the morning? Even though the mornings sometimes seem heavy, yet, there's so much hope for the new day. Alot of people have experienced miracles in the course of a new day, you too will! Do you believe that?  Here's what I've learnt- to give my burdens less attention and my blessings much more by being grateful. No matter how hard your situation is, there are so many people in worse. We are what we think and we live what we believe! It's all in your mind, which life you desire to have. Photo Credit: pixabay 

I have only watched Big Brother Naija once, say for like 15 to 20 minutes. Reason being that, since I hate judging, I didn't want to conclude based on other peoples opinion. I wanted to have my own opinion about the housemates. But then, someone stood out from all the housemates, Ifuennada. Her intellect, go-getter spirit,and the fact that she's funny wanted to glue me on to the screen, but hey, I had so much to do and was already feeling like I had wasted my 20minutes.  Today, I learnt that she was evicted from the house some days ago and that Big Brother has given the audience the opportunity to vote back their evicted housemates into the house. So, I'm using my platform to vote Ifuennada back into the Big Brother Naija House. I believe she still has so much to offer.  Well done Girl. You have my Vote! Guys, please vote for her! Photo Credit: @Ifuennada Instagram

As bad as things may look, there certainly must be something to be grateful to GOD for. If you focus on the situation at hand, you are only giving more room to be anxious which will automatically affect the rest of your day(s). So if you ask me, I would say, you should not focus on the things you do not want or the mistakes that happened. Focus on the positive things in your life! And trust me, you should be happy for the mistakes, because "you just got wiser!'

"When the student is ready, the teacher will show up." How ready are you? 

The antidote to frustration is FAITH! Not in your cleverness or your hard toil, but in GODS' guidance. Always remind yourself that GOD is with you, and that HE will never fail you. Say these words, " GOD is with me, helping me."

Dear Nemerulez Blog Lovers, I welcome you all to an awesome year! One thing should be on your mind always, "You are meant to succeed"! So, do not let any situation you are presently in tell you otherwise! Say to yourself right now, "I am meant to succeed"! Nothing less! Believe that! Even though right now you do not have a clue about how to get on with achieving a successful 2018, don't look far! Ask GOD to help you. Remember, commit your ways to HIM and HE will make your path straight!  Cheers to a successful 2018! Let's soar!