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You will succeed best when you put the restless, anxious side of affairs out of mind, and allow the restful side to live in your thoughts. 

Overstraining is the enemy of accomplishment. Calm strength that arises from a deep and inexhaustible source is what brings success.  This really comes down to our lack of knowledge of what constitutes true strength in life. All too often we see people "overstraining" themselves- wasting effort, time, and energy trying to do something or control someone or something- because they feel that strength is defined by how much effort is exerted. But strength is not a measure of force or control, nor is it a measure of how well we can absorb the hurt from others; strength is our ability to hold on to our internal peace, serenity, joy, compassion, mercy, and love in the midst of difficulties and failures, uncertainty and discord.  When we are able to handle difficult situations in authentic ways- remaining completely ourselves and not worrying about what others think or say about us- we forego overstraining and overexerting ourselves in harmful and unproductive ways. No...

A healthy breakfast is very important for school going children as breakfast improves their concentration and performance in school.  The calcium requirement for children is higher than that of the adults. Always ensure that your child get a at least 2 cups of milk  and diary product everyday.  Children should never be reprimanded for their curiosity. Things should be explained to them in a simple manner instead.  A balanced diet, rich in proteins, along with sports like swimming, basketball and volleyball can help children grow taller.  Any heavy weight activity is not suitable for young children as it nay toughen their muscles and stunt their growth.  Offer vegetables and fruits more often than juice. While fruits and vegetables have more vitamins, minerals and fibre.  Be a good role model to your children.

Only by much searching and mining are golds and diamonds obtained! This is so deep! And man can find every truth connected with his being if he will dig deep into the mine of his soul. We are the makers of our characters, the moulders of our lives and the builders of our destiny, because we have been giving the ability by GOD!  Man may unerringly prove, if he will watch, control and alter his thoughts, tracing their effects upon  himself, others and upon  his life and circumstances, linking cause and effect, by patient practise and investigation, and utilising his every experience, even to the most trivial, everyday occurrence, as a means of obtaining knowledge of himself which is understanding, wisdom and power.  Remember that "He that seeketh findeth, and to him that knocketh it shall be opened"; for only by patience, practice and ceaseless importunity can a man enter the door of the temple of knowledge or achieve anything he wants!

For those of us who live in Nigeria, it's been a wet season and a lot of us are battling with cough and cold. But not to worry, I have some really home remedies for cough and cold. Be sure to try them out....They do work!  Chewing a piece of fresh ginger with a little salt on it will ease coughs.  Chewing some cloves of garlic with warm water or green tea eases cough. Half a cup of warm water mixed with one teaspoon of lemon juice and one tea spoon of honey can be taken several times a day.  Gargling with warm salty water is also beneficial. This can be done two or three times a day.  Inhale steam to ease your congestion and dripping nose. Hold your head over a bucket of boiled water.  Drink luke warm water to fight a common cold, cough and soar throat. Drinking warm water reduces the inflammation in the throat. Plus, water helps to replenish the fluids in the body and washes out the infection.  Juice a big red onion mixed wit...

Examine all of your beliefs closely and determine whether they are in line with the life you desire. If they are not, toss them out! You may find it difficult to get rid of some of the deep seeded long standing beliefs, but with true desire, you can abandon the negative beliefs about yourself, and as you do, you will realise the benefits in growing a terrific self-confidence and self-esteem. 

There was a farmer who sold a pound of butter to the baker. One day the baker decided to weigh the butter to see if he was getting a pound and he found that he was not. This angered him and he took the farmer to court. The judge asked the farmer if he was using any measure. The farmer replied, amour Honor, I am primitive. I don't have a proper measure, but I do have a scale." The judge asked, "Then how do you weigh the butter?" The farmer replied "Your Honor, long before the baker started buying butter from me, I have been buying a pound loaf of bread from him. Every day when the baker brings the bread, I put it on the scale and give him the same weight in butter. If anyone is to be blamed, it is the baker." What is the moral of the story? We get back in life what we give to others. Whenever you take an action, ask yourself this question: Am I giving fair value for the wages or money I hope to make? Honesty and dishonesty become a habit. Some peop...

Are you living your life based on the truth or are you living a lie? Is your life controlled by a lack of understanding of who you are, your capabilities and your shortcomings? Living by the truth is a necessity if you desire to live a fulfilling life. Today, many are living a lie. Firstly, they are living a life they neither designed nor control. Secondly, they are living their lives based on false perceptions. If you desire positive change in your life you must be totally committed to recognizing and weeding out the false perceptions that are undesirable and that are a hindrance to achieving your dreams.

When I was in elementary school, I got into a major argument with a boy in my class. I have forgotten what the argument was about, but I have never forgotten the lesson I learned that day. I was convinced that “I” was right and “he” was wrong – and he was just as convinced that “I” was wrong and “he” was right. The teacher decided to teach us a very important lesson. She brought us up to the front of the class and placed him on one side of her desk and me on the other. In the middle of her desk was a large, round object. I could clearly see that it was black. She asked the boy what color the object was. “White,” he answered. I couldn’t believe he said the object was white, when it was obviously black! Another argument started between my classmate and me, this time about the color of the object. The teacher told me to go stand where the boy was standing and told him to come stand where I had been. We changed places, and now she asked me what the color of the object ...

The people who decry the desire for money are generally those who have found themselves lacking in the qualities that tend to attract money; or else those who are in possession of money that has been inherited, or is otherwise acquired without the labor, excitement or satisfaction of having been made by themselves. With the first mentioned class it is a case of "sour grapes"; with the second it is financial dyspepsia, which has left the victim devoid of a normal appetite.  Remember this, first, last and all the tune, that when I say, "man needs money," I mean that he needs the many things that money will purchase for him. And for one to decry the desire for money is for him to decry the desire for nearly all the good and desirable things of life. As a recent writer has said: "Unless a man acquires money, then shall he not eat; nor be clothed; nor have shelter; nor books; nor music; nor anything else that makes life worth living for one who thinks and fee...

While waiting  to pick up a friend at the airport in Portland, Oregon, I had one of those life-changing experiences that you hear other people talk about — the kind that sneaks up on you unexpectedly. This one occurred a mere two feet away from me. Straining to locate my friend among the passengers deplaning through the jet way, I noticed a man coming toward me carrying two light bags. He stopped right next to me to greet his family. First he motioned to his youngest son (maybe six years old) as he laid down his bags. They gave each other a long, loving hug. As they separated enough to look in each other’s face, I heard the father say, “It’s so good to see you, son. I missed you so much!” His son smiled somewhat shyly, averted his eyes and replied softly, “Me, too, Dad!” Then the man stood up, gazed in the eyes of his oldest son (maybe nine or ten) and while cupping his son’s face in his hands said, “You’re already quite the young man. I love you very much, Z...

Two friends, Jim and Stew, had joined a big sales company together just after graduation. Both of them worked really hard. Three years have passed and the company‘s director promoted one of them – Stew became sales executive. Jim did not get any promotion and remained at sales department. Jim decided that it is unfair, so he came to his boss and told him, that he doesn’t appreciate a hard working staff. The boss knew that Jim works hard, and in order to show difference between him and Stew, he asked: “Go and find anyone selling watermelons in the market.” When Jim returned, the boss asked, “How much per kg?”  So Jim went back to the market and then returned to say the price, $12 per kg. Then the boss asked Stew the same thing. Stew went to the market, and when he returned he told, “at the moment there is one person selling watermelons, $12 per kg, $100 for 10 kg, now he has 340 watermelons in stock. On the table there are 48 water melons, each of them weighs abou...

Anger is a mark of weakness,  Lnot of strength. The man who loses his temper immediately places himself at a disadvantage.  Remember the old saying: “Those whom the gods would destroy, they first make angry. “Under the influence of anger a man does all sorts of foolish things that he afterwards regrets. He throws judgment, experience and caution to the winds, and acts like a crazy man.  In fact, anger is a sort of madness – a phase of insanity – if you doubt this look carefully at the face of the first angry man you meet and see how irrational he looks and acts. It is a well-known fact that if one keeps cool while his opponent is angry, he has decidedly the best of the matter – for he is a sane man dealing with an irrational one. It is the better policy to allow the other fellow to “stew in his own fat” of anger, keeping cool yourself at the same time. It is a comparatively easy matter to cool down an angry man without becoming angry with you – and as it t...

Suppose you had a roomful of darkness. Would you start to shovel or sweep out the darkness? Or would you not throw open the window and admit the light? When the light pours in, the darkness disappears. And so with the darkness of Fear—throw open the windows, and "let a little sunshine in." Let the thoughts, feelings, and ideals of Courage, Confidence and Fearlessness pour into your mind, and Fear will vanish. Whenever Fear shows itself in your mind, administer the antidote of Fearlessness immediately. Say to yourself: "I am Fearless; I Fear Nothing; I am Courageous," Let the sunshine pour in.

While watching the world’s best athletes compete for a spot at the Olympic Games many people may wonder why some superb athletes succeed and others are eliminated from the roster despite their exceptional talents, documented athleticism and consistently superior performance. Are there additional factors that weigh in the balance of exceptional achievements at a given time? As a psychologist, I certainly consider the athletes’ exceptional emotional state as part of the formula for their unique achievements. Their physical strength, emotional endurance, determination, concentration and positive self-talk play a role in their ability to reach their highest potential during a performance viewed by millions of people. Entrepreneur, James Caan published an article titled: “It’s your ATTITUDE not your APTITUDE that determines your ALTITUDE.” He agrees that skills, training and experience contribute to one’s competence, but stresses that, “without real enthusiastic attitude the be...

Remember, that "in quietness there is strength," Every person who is ambitions and has a definite object in life should take a few minutes off each day, and sit alone, giving himself a chance to think, meditate, and allow the great rhythmic harmony of Nature to flow through his cleared mind, and thus gain renewed strength and energy.  It is in these quiet moments, when the outer mind is relaxed and resting, that the inner mind flashes to us that which is best for as to do. We should cultivate this habit in moments of meditation, when we may escape from the people and crowd, and thus be able to listen to the voice that sounds from within. By doing this we place ourselves in harmony with the great Universal Power from which all original ideas spring into our mental organism ready for use a few moments later when we re-emerge into the world of action and of men!

There is a proverb that says that it is not always the baboon with the fiercest tusks that is the master, neither does the “king lion” necessarily assert his dominion by winning a physical fight – it is something far more subtle than the physical - it is the manifestation of some soul quality of the animal.  And so it is with we humans, it is not always the biggest and strongest physically who rule - the ruler becomes so by reason of the mysterious soul quality which we call Spiritedness, and which some refer to as “nerve,” or “mettle,” or “sand.”  Have you got some spirit or do you get intimidated by people? You need to realise that the next person is not better than you. They may know something you don't know, but most likely you may know something they don't know, no matter how little. So have some spirit and take charge- your choice! 

Faith in oneself is of primary importance, for unless one has it he can never accomplish anything; can never influence any other person's opinion of him; can never attract to himself the things, persons and circumstances necessary for his welfare.  You must first learn to believe in yourself before you will be able to make others believe in you. People are prone to take a person at his own estimate. If one is weak, negative and lacking in self-confidence, he surrounds himself with an atmosphere of negativity which unfavorably impresses those with whom he comes in contact. If one be strong, confident and positive, he radiates like qualities, and those coming in contact with him receive an impression of these qualities. A wise man said that the world believes in those who believe in themselves. How true! So you see it is of the utmost importance to you that you cultivate this Faith in yourself. And not only does Faith in yourself operate in the direction of influenc...

Like the elephants, how many of us go through life hanging onto a belief that we cannot do something, simply because we failed at it once before? Failure is a part of learning. We should never give up the struggle in life. You Fail not because you are destined to fail, but because there are lessons which you need to learn as you move on with your life.

There really is no reason for us to "aim low" or embrace mediocrity, because doing so will hold us back from our becoming and leave us feeling unfulfilled and unsatisfied. By aiming low, one may achieve ones mark, but that mark will not bring you closer to real growth and accomplishment in your life; nor will it add a greater sense of purpose and meaning, or value and worth to it. I believe that it is important that we set our sights high-that will put us in the position to experience necessary growth and change in our lives, force us to step outside of our comfort zones, and push ourselves harder and further than we might otherwise have done. If you allow yourself to settle for less- be it a house, a car, a spouse, a job, a vacation, or any other goal you might wish to attain, you could end up in regrets! And yet, this concept of only aiming high can be a bit misleading, for I feel that perhaps one of the best motivators on the journey towards our goals is a se...

Here are some simple I can's  and I am's to get you going this week- to help you fill your minds with positive thoughts:  I am smart. I am open to new ideas and knowledge. “I can stand out in a crowd, though not with my looks, but with my smile. I am open to miracles. I can get through with ease. I am capable. I am beautiful. It is easy to fill our minds with positive thoughts, isn�'t it? Because words are healing agents when said/used right!

Desire it firmly in your heart, confidently, and earnestly (like a child). Do not be half-hearted in your demands and desires. Claim and demand the WHOLE THING, and feel confident that it will work out into material objectivity and reality. Think of it, dream of it, feel it as though you already have your desires met and always LONG for it. You must learn to want it “want it hard enough" with the right motive.  You can attain and obtain many things by “wanting them hard enough”. The problem with most people is that they do not desire for what they want hard enough, they allow people's opinions to becloud their thoughts, they mistake vague cravings and wished for earnest, longing, demanding desire and want. Learn to desire and demand for what you want just as you demand and desire your daily meals. That is “wanting it the worst way. I have never seen anyone who wanted it hard enough and didn't succeed! 

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could, and it could go no further. So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly. What the man, in his kindness and haste, did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to ...

No matter how sweet love can be, how it brings brightness and color to our lives, how it makes us strong and inspired through everyday, there are those who do not accept love, or at least had given up in the search for it. It is not that they don't believe in love, but there are some factors that may have contributed to making them believe that they may never find true love…ever. They say things like, I am not beautiful, no one will love me; I am not rich, no one will agree to go out with me; I don't have good clothes, I will not fit in and so on! How sad can the people who think this way be? If you are the one I am talking to, please change the way you think- if you still want to find true love. You should bear in mind that true love is not just about appreciating the physical aspect of an individual, but also accepting his inner personality. So listen, if someone you love makes you feel inferior, quit it now because he will never treat you any better when you tw...

There are certain things in this world in which their physical appearance is far different from their real attributes. Using only our 5 bodily senses, we may readily accept what we see, hear, smell, taste, and feel even if it refutes reality. But with the mind, it helps us distinguish clearly what the entity really is; thus, helping us too in making wise decisions. Take for example this situation: you overheard a person say that it will rain this afternoon. Without thinking and analyzing the circumstances, you are going to believe it unhesitatingly. You may even cancel your plans in going out in order to avoid the hassle it will bring. In other words, without any basis other than some opinion of a person you do not even know, you accept the idea as true. And so, you make adjustments. Using the mind, we can always not believe what we sense. This is if, not only they contradict with the observations, analyses and evaluations we made with them, but also they disprove a gener...

Burning your bridges is not something to be taken lightly. It requires careful thought and reflection. The process of deciding your purpose in life and what you want out of life can be a long one and can take many months and even years of refining as you get to know yourself better and explore the possibilities life has given you.  But once you reach a point where you know what you want out of life, you need to burn your bridges. You must let go of all other options and pursue the thing that you truly want. In reality this may be several things. The point is that these things make up your vision for your life. That is the vision you must be totally committed to. Do not say to yourself “I will try to be a great singer and if that fails then I will try teaching.” Such light hearted decisions rarely bear lasting fruit. Decide to be a singer, if that’s your passion in life, and stick to it relentlessly. Having options makes you lazy and makes you lose out on any good oppo...

A woman was involved in a self-improvement program. She asked her husband to help her by listing six things he believed she could do to help her become a better wife. He reported to the class: "I was surprised by such a request. Frankly, it would have been easy for me to list six things I would like to change about her but I didn't. I said to her, 'Let me think about it and give you an answer in the morning.' "The next morning I had the florist send six red roses to my wife with a note: 'I can't think of six things I would like to change about you. I love the way you are.' "When I arrived at home that evening, who do you think greeted me at the door? That's right. My wife was almost in tears. I was extremely glad I had not criticized her. "The following Sunday at church, after she had reported the results of her assignment, several women came up to me and said, 'That was the most considerate thing I have ever hea...

Are you wishing you could do something else order than what you are doing right now?  F or example, you spend your time  and days writing and someone tells you to go do something else that will fetch you quick money, yet you are passionate with your writing and trust that someday, somehow your writing will pay off, I've got good news for you- KEEP WRITING, KEEP DEVELOPING YOURSELF. You may not have all the money you need right now, but the truth is, as long as you know what you want, you will surely excel in the long run!  You are developing yourself and your writing skills which with the right opportunity, will put you in a position where you can acquire whatever you want- need I tell you about Linda Ikeji? So why throw all that away for just some quick cash? In fact, from experience, I have come to realise that we are money magnets. We are the source of money- yes we are! Only if you believe you are and that you have the ability to manifest it throw stayi...

Although you can see that the glass is half-empty, you chose to see it in a positive way. It is still half-full, anyway. The absence of half of the volume of water didn't even bother you. What mattered was that it still contains water. If this is how you answered the question above and how you justified your answer, then you have a positive way of thinking. Positive thinking is a way of looking at the brighter side of life. Everything is good, beautiful, and light. There are no worries, problems, or fears. In short, all you see and believe in is, well, positive. I guess that is already the most suitable word in describing this way of thinking, which is why it is the term being used. This kind of thinking is very powerful in that if you think that you are going to pass an exam, you are going to pass; if you think that you will get noticed by your crush, you will get noticed; if you think you will get promoted at work, then you will get promoted. This is how powerful the...

If you think you are beaten, you are If you think you dare not, you don't If you'd like to win, but think you can't it's almost certain you won't If you think you'll lose, you've lost For out of the world we find Success begins with a fellows will -  It's all a state of mind. If you think you're outclassed, you are You've got to think high to rise You've got to be sure of yourself before You can ever win a prize. Life's battle don't always go To the stronger or faster man But sooner or later the man who wins Is the one who thinks he can!

Left and Right Brain Relationship: Left Brain - logical, male, west, scientific, grasping, conceptualizing, analytical. Right Brain - emotional, female, east, intuitive, spatial, creative, artistic, receptive.

Achieving true beauty is not as hard as it may seem. As a matter of fact, to think beautiful is to be beautiful. That's right! All you need is the proper attitude towards believing how good you look and feel, and it will eventually show that you are, indeed.  The seeds of beauty are one of the most precious seeds of thought you can plant and cultivate in your mind. Just by thinking and saying, “I look good,” you sowed the seeds. After sowing these seeds, cultivation must begin.  Cultivation is comprised of the responsibility and the commitment on your part to make beauty a reality in your life. This takes time and work, especially that it needs to work on all the aspects of your being – physical, emotional, mental, and aesthetic. Cultivating the thought, “I look good” requires self-analysis, goal-setting, discipline, dedication, and patience until you can finally say, “I feel good. I am good.” What is very important in achieving good looks, feelings, and vibra...