Sunday, 30 November 2014

WHY YOU NEED THE "BABY STEPS"!!!

....and a drop of water makes an ocean..

What's the first small step you can take to get moving in the right direction?


Small steps are a big idea. If you feel stuck, take small steps to get yourself on track again. Your life is evolving and you need all the consistency you can get to keep pacing in the right direction. Don't allow discouragement to set in when you make miniature progress against big plans and goals you have put in place, only be wary of standing still.

Helen Keller said " I long to accomplish great and noble task but it is my chief duty to accomplish small tasks as if they were great and nobel"

However, the seemingly little things we overlook play fundamental roles in our success equation...therefore as we see the big picture of handling gigantic responsibilities and gaining recognition on a global stage, we should pay close attention to little things that speak volume in our daily affairs. Don't overlook that cry from a little child, be sensitive to needs around you and profer solution to them as God enlarges your resource capacity, pay close attention to that detail your job demands, don't take that instruction lightly because it is coming from someone you probably think is not in a position to counsel. 

Consider what Pat Robertson said "Despise not the day of small beginnings because you can make all your mistakes anonymously". Value little things; one day you may look back and realize they were big things. Dante said, "From a little spark may burst a mighty flame" Remember this on your way up; the biggest dog was once a puppy.

LePause and Think!!!

WHEN YOU SHOULD QUIT

HEY LADIES....



I Just want to share with you ladies a few of my findings regarding relationships. My findings might sound familiar to you, but trust me, it is worth taking into serious consideration. An adage says "all that glitters is not gold". And the truth is that we women, GOD has given us the special grace to decipher "anything", but most times we are beclouded by our emotions, which causes us to make the wrong choice at the end of the day. GOD uses any means HE so chooses to reach out to us. And I want to believe that GOD might be reaching out to someone through this platform. You might have to consider your relationship if you notice these followings:



When he runs from taking responsibilities.


When he jokes about every single thing and avoids a serious conversation about you two.


When he allows you to keep paying the bills whenever you go out on a date with him..


When he brags about the wealth of his father and how many connections he has.


When he does not listen to you or cares about what you say.


When you are not proud of him in public.


When all you two do is have fun and party all the time.


When he tells you frankly that he is not ready to get married or have kids.


When he picks on you at any little provocation or When he hates your guts.


When he tells you "you are over ambitious".


When he tells you that he does not like your sibling.


When there is lack of trust.


When two of you do not have the same religious background and faith. 


When he is always beating and hurting you emotionally. 


When you two are always quareling over everything and finding it hard to understand each other or let go. 


When the relationship is not making you a better person. 

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BOOSTING LOW MORALE



"Then Jonathan said to the young man who bore his armor, 'Come, let us go over to the garrison of these uncircumcised; it may be that the Lord will work for us'."    1 Samuel 14:6
When morale is low, the leader must do productive things to give the team a boost. In the beginning, any movement is a great victory. But to create positive morale, you need to pick up some speed. You need to be productive. After all, you can't steer a parked car!

To get the team moving:



Model behavior that has a high return - 

People do what people see. The best way for them to learn what you expect of them is to model it yourself.



Develop relationships with people of potential -

To get any team going in the right direction, you need players who can produce.  Find the people who have the potential to be productive and start with them. Don't ask too much of them too soon. Leaders touch a heart before they ask for a hand.



Set up small victories and talk teammates through them - 

Nothing helps people grow in skill and confidence like having some wins under their belts. Begin with the people who have the greatest potential.



Communicate vision - 

Keep the vision before your team continually because vision gives team members direction and confidence.

Saturday, 29 November 2014

REGRETS

DO NOT LET YOUR LIFE BE A REGRET



I had a very long and emotional talk about life generally with an older friend of mine today, who is a nurse. We talked about how people had lived all their lives pursuing and living other people's dreams rather than theirs. She told me that she had seen a lot of old people die and that the moments were usually very scary. She said what surprised her was that most of them had a lot in common which was "regrets". My friend is so loving and passionate with her job, she goes out of her way to do more for her patients, which made them have so much confidence and trust in  her, that they confined in her. My friend was pushed to asked them what their regrets were, and I was so shocked at what they said. It is good to make hays while the sun shines. GOD has given us the wisdom to live life to the fullest, we only need to ask HIM and HE will direct our paths. By so, we would live a fulfilled life, not a life of regret.


Here were what they said:



I wish I had stayed in touch with my very good friends. I was so busy with my own life that I did not place so much importance to them, so I lost them.


I wish I never bottled up a lot of things. I regreted not expressing my feelings- love, hate, anger, bitterness, gratitude, sympathy, appreciation, etc.



I regreted not appreciating myself more, not loving myself more and not treating myself with so much relevance.


I wish I had pursued my dreams. 


I wish I had said NO when I needed to say NO. 


I wish I had said YES when I needed to say YES. 


I wish I had listened to my parents. 


I wish I had listened to my husband/wife. 


I wish I knew GOD earlier. 


I wish I gave my children the best.




RESPECT IS MAGICAL


...If we cannot now end our differences, at least we can help make the world safe for diversity...John F. Kennedy.


German philosopher Johann Goethe taught, "Treat a man as he is and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he can and should be and he will become as he can and should be. In fact, most people respond to being treated with respect by elevating their thoughts and actions to the same level of respect they are given-or beyond. 



I always pay close attention when a few people share accounts of their travails in life; most of the time, these life's blossom because someone picked interest in them and treated them with love and respect. 



Every human being irrespective of age, class, and social diversity responds to respect, respond to people who see and draw out their hidden potential. The feeling of received respect cannot be hidden, you see it in their countenance, it is deeply expressed via the sound of their voice and tone of their response, you see it in the glow of their eyes...in the same vain, the feedback gotten from disrespect is filled with rebellion.



Most importantly, each time you give respect or serve disrespect as it were, be rest assured that you have made a huge emotional deposit side by side even if a little child was a recipient of that deposit, the outcome will manifest in similar way but this time more intensive. 



The rationale behind most of the societal deficiencies we experience is linked to emotional abuse people have experienced, and in the cause of trying to gain back that which was taken away, they step on toes consciously or unconsciously because their emotions are damaged. 



I urge us today, as we move towards the realisation of our dreams, keep in focus that people around us deserve to be treated with respect even as we dish out instructions with firmness. The cleaner, the Gardner, the cook, the subordinate, the line manager, the boss, the driver, the little child, the nanny..



Every single person playing different roles deserve respect. As much as you pay salary, offer respect and guess what, they will return it to you expanding your grounds.

Friday, 28 November 2014

SAFETY OF ABIDING IN THE PRESENCE OF GOD

Let the word of GOD lighten your heart and give you hope for a more beautiful tomorrow. I wish you a great night with this beautiful psalm:

 Psalm 91


1 He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High

Shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty.



2 I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress;

My God, in Him I will trust.”


3 Surely He shall deliver you from the snare of the fowler[a]

And from the perilous pestilence.



4 He shall cover you with His feathers,

And under His wings you shall take refuge;

His truth shall be your shield and buckler.



5 You shall not be afraid of the terror by night,

Nor of the arrow that flies by day,



6 Nor of the pestilence that walks in darkness,

Nor of the destruction that lays waste at noonday.


7 A thousand may fall at your side,

And ten thousand at your right hand;

But it shall not come near you.



8 Only with your eyes shall you look,

And see the reward of the wicked.


9 Because you have made the Lord,who is my refuge,

Even the Most High, your dwelling place,



10 No evil shall befall you,

Nor shall any plague come near your dwelling;



11 For He shall give His angels charge over you,

To keep you in all your ways.



12 In their hands they shall bear you up,

Lest you dash your foot against a stone.



13 You shall tread upon the lion and the cobra,

The young lion and the serpent you shall trample underfoot.


14 “Because he has set his love upon Me, therefore I will deliver him;

I will set him on high, because he has known My name.



15 He shall call upon Me, and I will answer him;

I will be with him in trouble;

I will deliver him and honor him.




16 With long life I will satisfy him, and show him My salvation. "

COUNTING YOUR BLESSINGS



I know that the year is almost over and some people are not happy because their set goals or targets have not yet been met or achieved. I can relate very well to how you feel. But you know, there are still some significant things you have achieved this year that you feel is insignificant or not relevant at all to be thankful for. Be hopeful and know that it is not yet over until it is over! So instead of worrying and groaning,  start thanking GOD for all HE has done and not what you feel HE has not done.


Here are the list of things I feel we should all be thankful to GOD for:


The gift of life


Good health


Your happy family


Your lovely and loving spouse


Your children


Your Job


Your friends and well wishers


The help you have received 


The needs you have met


The smile you have put on the face of people


The sun and the rain


Your car 


The roof over your head


Your cell phone to reach out to family and friends and also to be reached


The clean water you drink


The good food you eat


The little money you have


I could go on and on and on.... We have every reason to be thankful to GOD and be rest assured that HE crowns our year with goodness. WIth a heart of thanksgiving, do not stop expecting! It is not over yet!

THE ESSENCE OF THANKSGIVING

IT IS GOOD TO PRAISE THE LORD





The combination of both words, as common as they are and as often as they are being used on a daily bases holds strong water in our walk with God. However the essence of thanksgiving can never be over emphasised. 



I have observed overtime the conventional attitude, response, and ideology that is dominant each time the concept of thanksgiving is raised even in the midst of "firm believers". Often times, people interpret the idea in focus to connote setting aside a special moment in the year when you "go for thanksgiving"...new clothes are made, people dance to church, offer a special kind of offering, and all of that. As much as this is important, it is my pleasure to bring to your awareness that every single day of your life should be celebrated by giving thanks to God. 
 


Charles Dickens once said " Instead of having one Thanksgiving Day each year, we should have 364 days of thanksgiving, use that one day just for complaining and griping.
I reiterate that we shouldn't wait for a special holiday to express our gratitude to God, instead thanksgiving should be a part of our daily lives as we enjoy" koinonia" fellowship with our father. 
Take a look at what Psalm 8: vs 3-5 says
"When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place, what is man that you are mindful of him, the son of man that you care for him, you made him a little lower than the heavenly beings and crowned him with glory and honour"


Being thankful and praising God should come naturally-almost involuntarily actually, because it has been formed as a fundamental part of you. 



I guess you have been in a situation where someone expressed gratitude because he or she enjoyed good will from you, how did you feel? Think about it and imagine how your heavenly father will feel when he daily receives thanksgiving from a heart that genuinely appreciates his overflow of mercy and grace that pulls other material benefits to us.  



A young boy witnessed a horrific motorbike accident and asked me why God would allow him to see such a terrible thing knowing very well that he might not be able to sleep afterwards. I asked him whether he considered the possibility that God has granted him a privilege to be with the rider and provide him the comfort that he needed. It is not something that one would want to do on a daily basis, but it is necessary because when you do, you will discover how long and wide, how tall and deep the Love of God is.



Happy Thanksgiving!


Image excerpt from www.redfoxmagazine.com

Thursday, 27 November 2014

FINDING YOUR PLACE

There is nothing you cannot achieve when you work together! 


". . . being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ."   Philippians 1:6


Right now you may not be in a position to place others on your team. In fact, you may be thinking to yourself, how do I find my own niche? If that's the case, then follow these guidelines:


Be secure - If you allow your insecurities to get the better of you, you'll be inflexible and reluctant to change. And you cannot grow without change.


Get to know yourself - Spend time reflecting and exploring your gifts. Ask for feedback. Do what it takes to remove personal blind spots.


Trust your leader - A good leader will help you to start moving in the right direction. Or get on another team.


See the big picture - Your place on the team only makes sense in the context of the big picture. If your only motivation for finding your niche is personal gain, your poor motives may prevent you from discovering what you desire.


Rely on your experience - The only way to know that you've discovered your niche is to try what seems right and learn from your failures and successes. When you discover what you were made for, your heart sings.


Excerpt from The 17 Indisputable Laws of Teamwork

WHY IT MATTERS

YOUR DECISION



Just one decision you make concerning your life can bring about your desired victory. The decision you make today is very important to your future. 

The crowd will never decide for u. Something in you must distinguish you from the entire world and that is your decision.  For you to make the right decision,  you must know the mind of HE who is right. Your decision must be in line with GODs' will. 



Make your life relevant. Begin your success story by making the right decision.  Your decision will target your destiny and bring it to fulfilment. Let us make the right decision to chart the course of our lives. 



You need not concern yourself with what people will say. Your decision must cost you something. For example, when you make the hard decision to leave a bad relationship, when you quit some habits that had affected your life and that of your loved ones negatively etc. 



When your life goes well, Kings will come to the brightness of your rising. While the reverse is the case when you fail to make right decision that will catapult your life to enjoy the good life GOD has called you to live. 



May GOD help us to make the right decision  and keep it!   

WHY YOUR MARRIAGE NEEDS A "MISSION STATEMENT"

WHAT IS YOUR MOTTO



Marriage is two people on a life-long mission. Whether we notice it or not we all go into marriage with a goal or two in mind. And whatever that goal or mission is, will be different for every couple.



The key is to have the same goal as your husband, and the master key is to have a goal that’s focused on the Lord.



As I interact with both single and married folks, the line of conversation reveals the foundation upon which the relationship is built and most of the time, there is no definite definition of goals, dreams and principles that should guide and check mate progress. I affirm that mission statement doesn’t just help you formulate a focus, it helps you to keep that focus.



Every organisation with vision and purpose will have a mission statement that guides and strengthens their convictions even in the midst of turbulent moments. 

In the same way a united purpose is an asset to a couple. Our faith is a stronghold when our marriage is threatened. The essence of this strategy in marriage is to maintain a consistent and united value system that strengthens them as they pursue dreams with high tenacity of purpose. 



Guidelines on how to create a mission statement that resonates with your values, dreams and collective vision.

There is no specific template or systematic process, but I will give you a few tips that will help guide you in this process. Therefore, Get together with your spouse, pray about the things you want to include, and have fun putting it together!



1.Start with a mission; It could be one line or several. For instance " To have Christ in the center as we love and share to the glory of God". Very simplified yet with deep meaning. So start with a mission.



2. List your Values; These are things that are important to you as individuals and as a couple. These could be...having mutual respect, sharing, helping and supporting each other, going to bed together, reading the Bible together, praying, listening to each other and lots more. 



3. Generate your values and keep them in focus. List your goals and dreams; These are things you want to achieve together...retiring young, having a ministry, having a school, setting up a global business...This will help your prayer life as you work towards achieving great things together.



In putting your mission statement together, focus on what is important in your marriage and keep it free from distraction. You can make it beautiful by framing it with a lovely art material and place it where both of you can see it and reflect as you communicate.

You are loved by the awesome God and he wants you to have a blissful marriage.


Neme...

Wednesday, 26 November 2014

WHY YOU SHOULD MAKE IT A HABIT

DON'T JUST OVERRATE "BIG"- IT IS NOT FAR FETCHED!


We all want to do big things with our lives, but the truth is that change, happens over time. It is something you will have to practice gradually and keep at.


It is not the size of the task that matters, but the frequency. It is not about how far you have gone, but how well. It is not about starting a thing, but how consistent you are at it to finish what you have started. I got from my series of  research, that for you to make it a habit to succeed, You will have to: 

Set a goal (a positive goal)

Decide on a habit that when practiced over time, will get you to your set goal because "we are what we repeatedly do"(Quote by Aristotle).

No matter what, ensure that you practice the habit daily. Do not wait for a better time to do it. If you have only a minute to spare, just do it. That is how habit is created. You succeed when you choose a particular life style and do not waver at the face of any challenge.

You do not need to feel guilty or discouraged on the day or days you miss, just get back up  and continue. Ensure you do not miss again. Just keep at it gradually- your chances are as big as the sky! Photo credit : leocub


AS SIMPLE AS "ABC"

Ask in faith



Believe that you have received



Confidently chase your dreams even in the midst of challenging circumstances



Demonstrate God's power as he brings you in the circle of like-minded creatures



Expect a good reward



Forgive with ease



Give what you have and expect a multiplication of your five loaves



Humility is a prerequisite for great accomplishments



Increase your faith and yield to personal development.



Jettison the wrong motives and focus on values that build a strong and egalitarian society



Keep your face like that of a flint because your task and responsibilities cannot afford the luxury of distractions



Learn as well as teach



Move as the spirit of God leads you



Negative actions produce poor
results...keep that in focus. 



Open your heart to receive constructive criticisms from destiny helpers with clear motives



Praise GOD at all times



Quantum leap is the outcome of diligence,   responsibility, and self development



Respect and value people as you interface with them and get things done...as much as you can, help them grow.



Stir up the gifts within you and rule your world



Trust in the Lord with all your heart and try not to lean on your human understanding...you know in parts



Under no circumstances should you victimise and oppress people with the position and influence you have, instead be the voice of hope that echoes in eternity.



Voice out GODs promises



Words that proceed out of your mouth carry in them the potential to produce that is spoken of...choose your next words carefully.



X-ray your motives to ensure your motives are in tandem with the right values  and without traces of selfishness.



You can be all that God has destined for you if you can confidently move without fears.



Zion is where you live...act as such.

SMALL IS BIG

THE SMALL HABIT THAT MAKES A BIG DIFFERENCE.




A lot of times, starting small isn't really the problem people face. The huge problem is procrastination. We like to give  genuine reasons why we did not do what we were supposed to do- such like, "I am waiting for the right moment to do it", "I do not have enough time", "I have a hand-full at work and taking care of the family", "You do not understand what I am going through", " I am having a hard time", and on and on and on.. All these excuses are genuine, but threats to fulfilling GODs' plans and purpose for our lives. Let's stop making excuses. Stop waiting for the perfect time: To Love our families, To Do our work, To improve our performance, To feel good and happy (yes, that is a big job too, loving yourself) and To live our GOD-given lives to the fullest. 



Embrace reality and try to do something extraordinary with what is set before you. Yes you can do it! All you need is one simple practice that will revolutionise everything you do: You must start small!

When you start doing it little by little, the seemingly big tasks will become a habit you love and enjoy doing. Starting small is like a "small seed that grows into a big tree".


Little is much when you look into your heart. Little is much when you know who you are!

 Photo credit : Tacluda

WHY WE NEED A LITTLE ACT OF KINDNESS

A LETTER FROM ABRAHAM LINCOLN TO GENERAL ROSECRANS, COMMANDER OF A CONFEDERATE OFFICER.


" I have examined personally all the papers in the Lyons case, and I cannot see that it is a matter for executive interference. So I turn it over to you with full confidence that you will do what is just and right; only begging you, my dear General, to do nothing in reprisal for the past-only what is necessary to ensure security for the future; and remind you that we are not fighting against a foreign foe, but our brothers and that our aim is not to break their spirits but only to bring back their old allegiance. Conquer by kindness-let that be our policy". 

Very truly yours, A. Lincoln. In the words of Albert Einstein; The ideals which have lighted my way, and time after time have given me new courage to face life cheerfully, have been kindness, beauty and truth.


#Today, as we go about our daily lives and activities, let us all remember that a little act of kindness shown, given or received can bring back a lost or dead hope#.  

Photo credit : Veres


Tuesday, 25 November 2014

WHY ANGELINA JOLIE IS QUITTING ACTING

ENTERTAINMENT/MOVIE

"I've never been comfortable as an actor; I've never loved being in front of the camera". I didn't ever think I could direct, but I hope I'm able to have a career at it because I'm much happier".  Jolie said in an interview with Du Jour Magazine. 


So, she's planning to leave acting behind? "Absolutely," Jolie responded.

"I see myself moving into directing more and doing much less as an actor," Jolie later clarified to Entertainment Weekly. "I have a few more in me, ones I have been developing for some time, so I will do those before I step away."


Obviously, one of those movies she wants to see through is her 2015 film "By the Sea," which she wrote and directed, and also stars in with husband Brad Pitt.


"It's a heavy film, and it's not easy for us," Jolie told DuJour of her upcoming project. "But even as you struggle through it, you're in the trenches together and you don't expect it to be easy. We're challenging each other and that's a really good thing."


Jolie is currently promoting her new film, Unbroken. The movie revolves around the life of an Olympic athlete, Louis Zamperini, who spent 47 days living on a raft after surviving a plane crash in the Pacific and then more than two and a half years living in several Japanese prisoner of war camps.

WHY YOU SHOULD NOT FEAR!

The fear factor has been a recurring decimal that has constrained people from embracing change and going beyond boarders in the pursuit of their God-given dreams and vision. It however becomes extremely need-full for you to debunk your fears and launch out into the deep. As you meditate on these verses today,  fear which is your biggest enemy shall be vanquished!





Psalm 23:4 "Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,  I shall fear no evil;  for you are with me; your rod and your staff comfort me".


Psalm 27:1 "The LORD is my light and my salvation- whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life- of whom shall I be afraid".



Psalm 118:6 "The LORD is with me; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me"?



2 Timothy 1:7 "For GOD did not give us the spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, love and of a sound mind".



Deuteronomy 31:6 "Be strong and courageous.  Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your GOD goes with you; HE will never leave you nor Forsake you".



Psalm 56:3-4 "When I am afraid,  I will trust in you. In GOD,  whose word I praise, in GOD I trust;  I will not be afraid. What can mortal do to me"?



Isaiah 41:10 "So do not fear, for I am with you;  do not be dismayed,  for I am your GOD.  I will strengthen your and help you;  I will uphold you with my righteous hand". 




1 Chronicles 28:20 "David also said to Solomon his son, "Be strong and courageous,  and do the work. Do not be afraid or discouraged,  for the LORD GOD,  my GOD is with you. HE will not fail you or Forsake you until all the work for the service of the temple of the LORD is finished". 




Psalm 46:1 " GOD is our hope and our strength,  a very present help in times of trouble. Therefore, I shall not fear".










WHY WE NEED A CHANGE!

As we live, it's ideal we make certain decisions at critical moments in our lives. The life-long learning process wasn't designed for us to remain where we are after the experience, but to reflect, re-adjust,and regain the consciousness of who we are make changes that are relevant to our success story.  In the words of Albert Einstein, "the problems we face cannot be solved at the same level we were when we  created them"...therefore we must take the initiative and responsibility of growing ourselves above the circumstance. We cannot be doing the same things, having the same paradigm perspective, responding the same way, using the same line of communication, enjoying the routine and expect a different result. Embrace  the learning process and change the circumstance. 


Nuggets:


1. Learning is a life-long investment



2. Challenges are strategically designed for the ideal you to emerge.


3.  Develop the mental toughness to face your challenges head on and embrace the positive changes they create.

Monday, 24 November 2014

HOW YOU WILL KNOW YOU HAVE FOUND YOUR CALLING


A great man of GOD once said, that your vision/calling must be bigger than you! And I have found it so true. Patience is all it takes for your handwork to start yielding great fruits.  And for you to know  that you have truly found your calling, I have below these points I got from my research:


IT IS BIGGER THAN YOU:  Your calling must be so big that without a team of people, you cannot complete it on your own. 


IT IS FAMILIAR:  It comes not just by looking forward to what you will do but by also looking back at what you have done.


IT IS SOMETHING OTHER PEOPLE SEE IN YOU: Sometimes, our skills are most obvious to those who know us best!

IT IS CHALLENGING: It must be difficult enough that not anyone can do it


IT REQUIRES FAITH: You cannot explain it. It must be mysterious. 


IT IS MORE THAN JUST ONE THING: It will integrate well with the rest of your life, not competing with, but complementing your top priorities.


IT TAKES TIME: You must walk in the right direction, with the right resources and back ups to find it.


WHEN A MAN CULTIVATES THE RIGHT SEED IN THE LIFE OF HIS WIFE, SHE WILL SING HIS PRAISE, PROTECT HIS INTEREST AND EVEN REMAIN FAITHFULL AFTER HE IS GONE!

Hello There!  I hope your day is going well. I came across an interview granted by Bianca Ojukwu,  the wife of Late Dim Emeka Odumegwu Ojukwu, the Former Head of State of the Republic of Biafra and leader of the Igbos and also a prominent figure in the issues of nation building in Nigeria,  and I thought I should share these particular paragraphs that caught my attention with you.

Please read: 



As I said in my tribute, he was not just a husband, he was also a friend, a mentor and I was very protective of him. Whereas people would think that the role ought to be reversed, I was very protective of him. I was worried more about certain situations that I felt might endanger his life. We had such a strong bond and I was involved in every aspect of his life, it was like two people living one life.


I remember when doctors were asking me to leave the room when things got quite bleak and I told them I could not leave, they thought I was getting too emotional. I told them if I didn’t leave him during the best of times, I couldn’t leave him now. I told them he was not going anywhere as long as I was holding his hands. The most traumatic point was when he could no longer hear me. Even when he was struggling to stay alive, whenever he heard my voice he would look up and smile, but when he could no longer hear me, I knew it was over, and that was very traumatic. I didn’t quite expect that the exit would be so swift.
When they wanted to take him away, I refused and asked them to give me some time alone with him. I had some hours to reflect on our lives and it was difficult to imagine that he was gone.   Even to the Igbo nation itself, they are finding it difficult to believe that he is gone. While he was on exile, they knew he would be back at some point, but, unfortunately, this is a final exile, and it is hard to endure. It has not been easy, because my role was almost like an appendage.


Given that you are still very young, beautiful and as the famed American poet-Robert Frost said, you still have a long road to travel. Do you plan to remarry?


People marry I think not just because they need to come together, live together, raise family together, it is a rite of passage and I think I have fulfilled my part. Why I said that, is, I have gone through marriage, lived with what I consider a wonderful man who gave me 23 years of happiness, of fulfillment,  I literally felt I was the luckiest woman to have had a man who gave me utter dedication and, above all, wonderful children. So my pledge to him is that I will devote my life to taking care of our children, raising them properly, teaching them those ideals that he cherished and held very dear and trying to carry on his legacy. So I don’t have any compelling need to remarry and, in any case, my time is very limited; so I am trying to channel it properly towards raising my children.

WISDOM FOR LIVING!

Would like to share with you a few of my favourite Wisdom Verses From The Bible. Wisdom as it is written,  is profitable to direct....





Job 28:28 "And unto man he said, Behold, the fear of the LORD, that is wisdom; and to depart from evil is understanding".


Proverbs 3:7 "Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil."


Proverbs 4:5-7 "Get wisdom, get understanding: forget it not; neither decline from the words of my mouth. Forsake her not, and she shall preserve thee: love her, and she shall keep thee. Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding."


Proverbs 9:10 "The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding."



Proverbs 14:8 "The wisdom of the prudent is to understand his way: but the folly of fools is deceit."



Proverbs 16:16 "How much better is it to get wisdom than gold! and to get understanding rather to be chosen than silver!"



Proverbs 29:15 "The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame."



Ecclesiastes 7:12 "For wisdom is a defence, and money is a defence: but the excellency of knowledge is, that wisdom giveth life to them that have it."



James 1:5 , 6 "If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed."



James 3:17 "But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy."



Job 12:12 "With the ancient is wisdom; and in length of days understanding".



Wisdom will help guide a person to avoid wrong friends and influence. Wisdom brings the promise of being like a tree planted by a river and the way of one who has wisdom will be guided by GOD! 

Sunday, 23 November 2014

MAKE YOUR HOME A HAVEN- AN OASIS!!!

Hello There....



Once heard someone joke that home is the place where family members go when they are tired of being nice to other people. Unfortunately some homes actually seem to work that way. A salesman spends his day treating his clients with kindness in order to build his business, but he's rude to his wife when he comes home. Or a doctor spends the day being caring and compassionate with her patients, but comes home exhausted and blows up at her children.

To build a strong family, you have to make your home a supportive environment. 

Psychologist William James said, "In every person from the cradle to the grave, there is a deep craving to be appreciated." Feeling appreciated brings out the best in people. And when that appreciation comes in the home and is coupled with acceptance, love, and encouragement, the bonds between family members grow, and the home becomes a safe haven for everyone. 

Photo credit : Xymonau



THE ESSENCE OF MARRIAGE

WISHING ME AND MY DEAREST HUSBAND A HAPPY ANNIVERSARY.....





Just an overview of my thought about why marriage is good....


You build a union  that is recognised,  legally and spiritually.  


You enjoy a longer life. Because research has it that having someone to share your life with is beneficial to your mental well-being.  



You Share your lives with each other, support each other through challenging times, share happy and successful times together.  Because no matter how wealthy you are and you do not have someone to share your lives with, it could be a big problem at the long run. Moreover, sharing/talking is a mutual thing between two people or more as the case may be. Whereby such is done by just one person....you know what that means!




You are committed to each other for life. 



You enjoy more of safe and great emotional intimacy with your spouse.  



These are just a few of why I think marriage is good for those who long to be married. I will certainly bring us some really good "marriage talk" but not today. 

I hope you find this helpful.  

Photo credit : Tacluda












WATCH THEM BLOSSOM

Like well groomed flowers....




People rise or fall to meet our level of expectation for them. If you express scepticism and doubt in others, they will return your lack of confidence with mediocrity. But if you believe in them and expect them to do well, they will wear themselves out trying to be the best they can be because someone believes in their ability to go beyond boarders...and in the process, both of you benefit. 



If you have never been one to trust people and believe in their abilities, change your way of thinking and begin believing in people GOD has placed on your destiny path. When you express your confidence in people, you give him or her an incredible gift, maybe the best gift you can give to another person. Give money and it will soon be spent, give resources and it may not be used to the greatest advantage,  but give them your faith, and they become confident, energized, and self reliant. They become motivated to acquire what they need to succeed on their own...and then later if you share money, resources,  and  incentives,  they are better able to use them to build a better future. You have watched them blossom, and they have expanded your grounds. 

Photo credit : Micromoth

Saturday, 22 November 2014

A LESSON TO LEARN

Beware of house helps!!!


A disturbing video of how a nanny brutally maltreated a little girl has gone viral on the Internet and other social media since Friday, the 21st of November. This is so painful and unbelievable. I could not continue watching the video. I cried and screamed my heart out. How wicked could a human being be to the extent of such an inhuman act towards a little helpless child? The nanny felt no single pity for the child. My GOD! The world has gone so cold! Imagine if the parents of the little girl didn't install the video, how long this mean, barbaric, heartless, wicked act would have continued. Maybe the worse would have happened. 


Please parents.....slow down with the rate at which you pursue career, leaving your childrens' life and destiny at the mercy of house helps and nannies. The heart of man is desperately wicked. And what makes you think the house help is happy being a house help in the first place. Given a better opportunity,  she would not choose to be a house help! Would she? Parents....think!  Be careful with the way you leave your children with strangers. A lot of homes have suffered in the hands of house helps! 

I hope parents have learnt a big lesson. You don't have to be a victim first before you learn from this.

May GOD grant all parents the wisdom to help their children in every aspect of their lives! 



EATING WELL

HEALTH TIPS FOR YOUR WEEKEND DELIGHT...


I want to share with you the 3 healthy foods in my daily diets...They work for me very well..


SARDINES


Photo credit : Krayker

Sardines are one of the best sources of heart-healthy, mood-boosting omega- 3 fats and they are parked with Vitamin D which is important for normal growth and development of bones and teeth, as well as improved resistance against certain diseases. Sardines do not harbour lots of toxins as bigger fish can because they are small and low on the food chain.



OATMEAL


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Oatmeal contains a high level of fibre which helps to remove cholesterol from the digestive system that would otherwise end up in the bloodstream. They also reduce the risk of cardiovascular disease and prevent heart failure. Consumption of whole grain products (oatmeal) and dietary fibre reduces the risk of high blood pressure and heart attack. It stabilises the blood sugar of diabetic patients. It offers significant protection against breast cancer. Read about Oatmeals to get more of the health benefits.



YOGURT


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I like taking Yogurt especially the unsweetened and low fat ones. Yogurt makes the skin smooth and it soothes the stomach-aids digestion. It contains lactic acid which gently exfoliates the top layers of the skin, clears up blemishes, discolouration and reduces fine wrinkles. Consuming fat-free and low fat yogurt helps to lower the risk of developing high blood pressure.


Wishing you a happy weekend....as you try out my recipe...






GUARD YOUR HEART WITH ALL DILIGENCE

Your Heart is the most important life tool you have. It matters most of all, not your skills or experiences or knowledge!



Why You Must Guard Your Heart.....





Because your heart is extremely valuable. It is not something you should handle casually-like it does not matter. It is the essence of who you are. It is your authentic self- the core of your being. It is where all your dreams, passions and desires live. Your heart is that part of you that connects with GOD and people- your family, friends and colleagues alike. If your spiritual heart dies, your vision/leadership dies. This is why King Solomon says "Above all else", make it your top priority.



Because everything you do flows from it. King Solomon says "it is the wellspring of life". Meaning that, your heart is the source of everything in your life. Your heart overflows into thoughts, words and action. If your heart is unhealthy, it has an impact on everything else. It threatens your family, your friends, your ministry, your career and indeed your destiny. That is why it is very imperative you guard it.



Because your heart is under constant attack by the negative imaginations of the dark mind- one in which there are many casualties! We have an enemy who is bent on destroying GODs' creation. He opposes GODs' image(you and I). And if you do not guard your heart, he will be pleased to come in. Remember that he only comes to steal, to kill and to destroy.


Are you going to let him win? I guess your answer is as good as mine! We have the necessary tools to guards our hearts and they are: 


Whatsoever is true...Whatsoever is honourable...Whatsoever is just....Whatsoever is pure....Whatsoever is lovely.....Whatsoever is commendable.....Fix your mind only on these things! 

Photo credit : Xymonau



Friday, 21 November 2014

POSITIVE VIBES- THE WORDS WE SPEAK

YOU HAVE WHAT YOU SAY 


Our Words are powerful tools in our hands with which we create as well as alter circumstances that are not in tandem with our desires and interests. Even as a tiny spectrum of the body, is richly empowered with such rare ability to add, subtract, build, re-create and rework events to suit the individual who is knowledgeable about its power and effect.
The outcome of our experiences are traceable to our line of confession because we live in the words that we speak as our lives take the shape of our spoken words.
Therefore for you to experience fulfilment in every area of your life, you have the responsibility of charting the cause of events with words that are in sync with your anticipated reality.
The scripture said that life and death is in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21). The words you speak can  give life or cause death. Some people have died, hopes dashed, as a result of something said. But people also live because of something said! Tongues can make marriages sweet, families strong, give hope to the despairing and so on...
If your words are filled with positive vibes, you will surely reap the good of it. A lot is at stake in what you say today. That is how powerful the words we speak are!
...What you say is.. What you get...Be positive!!!


MY BIRTHDAY SPECIALS

TO ALL MOMS AS I CELEBRATE MY BIRTHDAY TODAY!!!

This small token of appreciation is a tribute to the moms who have selflessly dedicated themselves to enhancing our lives through encouragement, prayers and love. A touching and sentimental collection of wit and wisdom from a wide range of well-known mothers, including my sweet mother Lady Christiana, Whoopi Goldberg, Alicia Silverstone and lots of other great mothers.



Whether you are a man, child, a mother, you will truly cherish this celebration of life's most precious relationship...

Be prayerful..
Let your life be dependent solely on GOD and not man
Anyone willing to be corrected is on the path way to life;
And anyone refusing, has lost his chance
Do not argue blindly
Do not chase after material things
Walk with your shoulder high
Be a good saver and manager...
#Lady Christiana

My mother's great.
She had the major looks.
She could stop you from doing anything,
Through a closed door even with a single look.
Without saying a word,
She has that power to rip out your tonsils...
#Whoopi Goldberg

My mother is my root. My foundation
She planted the seed that I base my life on
And that is the belief that the ability to achieve starts in your mind...
#Yours truly, Neme#

I say: "Mommy? Will you come be with me?"
when she came to Australia with me, i think i got sick purposely.
I think my system just knew it was safe to get sick and let my mom totally take care of me and bring me tea...
#Alicia Silverstone#

My mother is my mirror and I am hers
What do we see?
Our face grown young again...
#Marge Piercy#

To my mother I tell the truth.
I have no thoughts, no feelings that I cannot share with my mother,
And she is like a second conscience to me,
Her eyes like a mirror reflecting my own image...
#William Gerhardi#

My mom wants me to be her wings,
To fly and soar higher than she did,
I love her for that.
I love the fact that she gave birth to her own wings...
#Yours truly, Neme#

The doctor told me that I would never walk,
But my mother told me I would,
So I believed my mother...
#William Rudolph#

She made me a security blanket when I was born.
That faded green blanket lasted just long enough for me to realise that the security part came from her....
#Alexander Cane#

A very special happy birthday to me!!!

Thursday, 20 November 2014

MY ROUTINE HEALTH TIP

GREEN TEA


Why Green Tea is the healthiest beverage on the planet....


Rich with loads of Antioxidants  

Lowers risk of heart ailments  

Tones down blood pressure  

Reduces cholesterol levels  

Prevents clotting of blood  

Decreases risks of cancer  

Prevents tooth decay  

Sharpens mental alertness  

Wards off fatigue  

Provides antioxidants vital for well being  

Alleviates stress  

Boosts immune system  

The health benefits of Green Tea cannot be over-emphasised. That is why I made it part of my routine health tip and I must tell you, knowledge is health! 

Read more on Green Tea...and include it in your daily meal..(you'll thank me later)...winks..

LIKE STARS ON EARTH



Has anyone seen this movie, "Like Stars on Earth? It is a must watch, most especially if you are a parent or you hope to be one in the future. The movie is about a young lad of 9years old, who had difficulties with recognising letters and spellings. In his words, he said "the letters are dancing", and truly, the letters were dancing in his head. He struggled with this for a long time and expressed his inabilities by being very stubborn and unattentive. His parents, especially the father could not understand him. They called him different names like stubborn, empty head and all sorts of heart hurting and discouraging words. But what they refused to recognise about their son was that he was very good with arts. He could draw very well. He was exceptionally gifted with arts.

It took a teacher who payed close attention to details to understand the need of the child because he could resonate with the little boys challenge given that he had similar issues while growing up. As much as he identified the issues, his willingness to help the boy became a driving force to the re-invention of a life filled with skills and talent...a new Ishan emerged. All that the little boy needed was for someone to give him a listening ear, to understand him, to see right through him, to let him in and to discover him, instead of being mocked by everyone around him.

This young boy whom people including his parents thought would never amount to anything became a super star! It takes love, care, paying attention to your children's' needs and above all prayers to bring out the best in children even the very best ones.

Parents need not to compare their children with other children. They should take time to discover their childrens' strengths and help them develop their talents. Children are very sensitive and issues like this, if not handled very carefully could destroy their self esteem.


This movie is a must watch.. 

Photo credit : Tacluda

WELCOME NOTE


A big warm  welcome to Neme's blog... 

Here I will be sharing real life experiences,  concepts, ideas, real day to day issues that and how we can approach them better, see life differently as well as help you improve on grey areas that seem overwhelming. The more we share our experiences and learn new ways of doing things even in the midst of prevailing circumstances, we fill up our lessons learnt log...therefore, your ideas and comments are welcome because someone out there might just be relying on your words that inspire to pull through one more day, make the right choice and become a better person...

Live right!!!