Tuesday, 29 December 2015



Just because you hear something often does not make it true! Mind yourself what you listen to!

Saturday, 26 December 2015


Take time to reflect on where GOD has brought you from. Reflect on where you desire to be! Reflect on the good and make more good to happen. Reflect on your mistake, and learn from it, put it behind you and move on to get better! 

Nothing you are doing is worthless, as long as you are doing the right thing. 

You realise that  during a car race, the winner is observed to always drive corner by corner! Do not measure yourself with the success of others! Take your time and keep moving. Do not stop! 

Your chances of winning are as big as the sky! Keep keeping up!

Friday, 25 December 2015


Merry Christmas to you all my family and friends. Joy is the season, and it is all yours now and forever. Amen. Let us celebrate!

Wednesday, 23 December 2015


"What exactly works for me?" Too many how to do's and why you should not do's. Have you taken time to really find out what works for you? This question popped up in my head, and I thought I should share with you friends. You must find out what works for you as an individual, as a couple, as a student etc . Do not assume that because a particular principle worked for a certain person or couple, same would work for you. GOD made us special, so discover your specialty. Food for thought! 


Tuesday, 22 December 2015


In a True friendship, ego is less important. Truth is an absolute ultimate goal, not a moving target. Friendship/Relationship is valued and guarded, not inconsequential. Success is not as fulfilling as faithfulness. The key to a healthy relationship is honour, love and respect. 

As the year wraps up, let us drop every negativity, and chanel our energies into ensuring a more positive living. At the end, what matters is the lives you and I affected, positively or negatively. Nothing else.

Sunday, 20 December 2015


You are what you call yourself! No matter your shortcomings, do not give call yourself "short". Tell yourself, I will do better next time. Learn to encourage yourself and say no pity party!


What are you changing into? A better person or worse? Because you cannot beat them, you chose to join them? Have you not heard or do you not know that you are more than you think? Why do you cast yourself down? Why do you look down on yourself? You are more than you think! Let people see you change for the best, not to someone who has been caught up in the crowd. 

Carve your own niche and the world will follow you. Stop hiding! Come out! Let your God-given abilities come through. You are able and you can do it! 

Happy new week friends.....Yes!!!! It's Christmas week, you should be excited. Something good happens when the atmosphere is joyful! I celebrate you all my friends. 

Merry Christmas!!!!

Saturday, 19 December 2015


There will be haters...oh most definitely! There will be doubters, always! There will be those who do not believe in your course, the non believers. There will be kickers- kicking against your destiny! And then.....There will be you, proving them wrong! 

What say you? 
Prove them wrong- by not quitting!




What are those obstacles standing in your way? Is it your past mistakes, failures, hard experiences? Use them as fuel for a forward progress! 

Let me give you an instance. When you are driving and you sight a road block ahead of you, what do you do? You start planning on how to manoeuvre the road blocks isn't it? That is also what these obstacles are for. You make mistakes so you can learn that there is always a better way and that helps you to think out the best way! 

If you made a mistake and you are still blaming yourself, then it means you never learnt anything-you have not yet seen your mistakes as a big lesson! 

Until you start seeing your mistakes as a lesson, you will continue to fail! But when you see your mistakes, failures as a lesson, you will want to carefully learn your lessons, find out where and why you failed, and then you will begin to strategically make plans for a big come-back! 

Use your obstacles, do not let your obstacles use you! Never let yourself become a victim of your past mistakes and failures, instead see them as opportunity to get wiser, know and become a better person! 

A former colleague of mine would always say, "If there were no obstacles, one would become extremely stupid". How true!

Thursday, 17 December 2015

Wednesday, 16 December 2015

Tuesday, 15 December 2015


Have you noticed that most times, you only get to realise that you have been "doing great" and people have been watching even though no one is telling you "well done", when you make a mistake or fail? That is when you will start hearing people say, "oh, you should have continued to do it they way you used to do it", or why did you not do it that way? , or "what happened to you? You are not looking as beautiful as you used to". And you be like, "so you've been watching me and you aren't saying anything?" Oh yes, people have been watching you! The truth is, most times they are watching to see you fail. That is why you should never feel discouraged or intimidated when people don't applaud or commend you or your work. Keep moving! 

Have you also not noticed that people say a lot of "sorry ooo" than "well done, that was a good one"? Refuse sympathy!!!! Keep doing what you are doing! The world is watching you! 

Stop expecting people to  appreciate your looks or your works! Most people won't! But i have come across some genuine people who will praise you for every single effort you make. 

Learn to encourage yourself and tell yourself "well done,  you are doing excellently great". Keep improving. People are watching!

People will address you the way you address yourself!

Monday, 14 December 2015


With no reason to get up in the morning, life can start to really get you down. The purpose of life is to live a life of purpose. You might be doing what you love and have flair for, yet you have not started earning money out of it; that does not mean you should stop! Continue! As long as you find fulfilment in your skill, stay focused, you will get there! 

An adage says that a journey of a thousand miles begins with a step. Do not give up yet if you have not given it a try! Success is a process! If you are doing something or you are in a relationship that has no purpose, it simply means you have no value for your life. 

Sunday, 13 December 2015



Today, the welfare company of my local church conducted a free blood pressure check on her members, and it will shock you to know that most of the results called for serious attention. Yours truly also did not have a good result and I keep asking myself how? 

You see, as healthy and beautiful you look, If you do not make out time to take care of yourself- your health,  you will wear out! We hear cases of young people who "just slumped" and died! That is as a result of high blood pressure. We have so ignored ourselves because of the worries of tomorrow and as such, we do not take time off. All we do is "work work work, " ,and no time at all to "rest rest rest!"

I plead with you my dear friends, let us pay attention to our health. Make checking your blood pressure a weekly routine and create time to rest your body- very important! It is best to be healthy to enjoy the fruits of your hard work! Moms and Dads, you all are doing well.. ensure to take time off to check your blood pressure; it's a whole lot to run a family.

The year is wrapping up, not your life! So please,  worry less. Pay attention to yourself. Take life easy. Rest. There is hope for the living. 

Be well friends; and do have a stress free week!

Check your blood pressure now!!!!

Saturday, 12 December 2015


Sometimes, things have to go wrong in order to go right. This I realised in the long run- of life's experience! In that situation you are right now, see GOD! DO NOT QUIT! 

Friday, 11 December 2015


Have an awesome weekend friends. It's Christmas, let's show some love. Help those who can't repay you. Touch a life, no matter how little. It will amaze you how a handful of meal will be a blessing to a family who do not have anything to eat. It will amaze you how a dime will go a long way to put food on someone's table. It will amaze you how you would want to slap yourself for worrying-  when you hear of someone else's story! 

Plan for tomorrow, but never worry about tomorrow! 


It is never too late to take a step in the right direction. It is never too late to become the person you are capable of being. Things can change in any age. You have the opportunity to create yourself a life full of peace and free of regrets. All you need is make up your mind to take the right step now!

Thursday, 10 December 2015


"At some level in relationships, we use little words and phrases that have no meaning, such as, 'Well, whatever you would like to do, dear.' If that's how you feel.' Let's talk about it sometime.' 'Really?'' That's nice dear.' Clich├ęs have moved from unintelligible sounds to actual words, but it's not really much of a climb. You will never build a deep relationship with this kind of communication, but you will provoke a volcano in your spouse."

Wisdom, sure is profitable to direct- anyone who desires an understanding, happy, successful marriage!

Wednesday, 9 December 2015



We believe in our children by encouraging and embracing their dreams, by showing interest in their adventures, their crafts, by not pushing them away when they fail a task, by the words of mouth- telling them "yes they can", by never abusing them, by affirming them when they come up with some great imaginative skills. Imagination is a wonderful gift!

We parents are given the privilege to encourage our children to think about all the things they can do, to believe in them and to affirm them. 

As parents, it is very important that we put our children through when  they fail in their tasks- when their adventures fail to work . It is our duty to debrief them, encourage them to talk about their feelings and experience, to discuss what they can learn from it and to help them move forward. Let us be there to offer our supports to our children so as to avoid permanent emotional scars. That will be very unhealthy for your child even as he or she becomes an adult.  

If your child failed in a task, help him or her through and do not in any way make references to some other child you wished your child could be like. That is the worst thing you can do to your child-to compare him/her with another! 

Parents, believe in your child, even if you feel he should do better! Help him/her become the best- by believing in them and encouraging them all the way- and do not leave out discipline, because when you train your child in the right way, he/she will never depart from it! Taking care of a child requires GOD'S wisdom!

I remember as a child, I was always afraid to answer questions in class, even when I knew that I was hundred percent correct, because of fear of being punished by the class teacher if I failed to get the answer correctly. This was because my parents would never take failure or mistakes for an answer, you must get some very good lashes for not getting the answers correctly, so I became scared and unsure of my abilities in class- even as one of the smartest pupils- thus lingered to my higher education. 

But eventually, I overcame those fears! I got more knowledge of how beautifully I was designed and that there is only one me! I can never fit into being someone else and someone else can never ever be me! I took my time to study myself and realised my specialties.

Not all child may have the chance to realise their worths, that is why you hear people commit suicide and you wonder why! 

Not believing in your child could kill your child, literally! Let your child see that you have absolute faith in him/her! Believing in your child(ren) will help in building their confidence and getting them ready to challenge life! 

Tuesday, 8 December 2015


Ain't no door "thank you" can't open! Have you said "thank you" to GOD, your spouse, your parents, you child(ren), your workers (even though you're paying them)?


Many times in our lives, we have been dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we made and the circumstances that came our way. We felt as though we're worthless. But no matter what you have been through or you are going through, do not allow it to define who you are! Every challenge is working out the special you! Keep the faith! 


The world's worst mums are not the wicked ones but the over protective ones. 

I went to pick my Children from school one day; because i was a little early, the gate was not opened, so i waited outside with others. A man walked up to me, after introductions, he asked me whether the
children i picked the other day were mine, i said yes. He told me he liked how smart they looked, i told him the reason is simple, i REFUSED to allow their mum to spoil them with food in the name of love. 

It is not on food alone that some mothers show their 'LOVE'' for their children. The next is over protection, especially on their male children. 

Dear mothers, if you succeed in making your male children behave like you, you have not made them men but women. Men are WIRED differently and are meant to show early signs of independence. It is not rebellion, it is NATURAL. 

Life is competition, when you make them depend entirely on you because you always want to know and determine how it will
be, you are not helping the child to develop his own abilities AT ALL. 

Source: Honourable Ikenga Mayor Eze


Monday, 7 December 2015


God revealed his laws regarding marriage in Genesis 2:24-25, and one of those foundational truths is the Law of Purity. "Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and they were not ashamed."

This took place before sin entered the Garden of Eden. Did you know the name Eden means "pleasure and delight"? God didn't just create marriage, but He put Adam and Eve in a place made for their pleasure.

When He created Adam and Eve, He created them naked. That's significant.

After The Fall, the first married couple decided they didn't want to be naked in front of each other. They were ashamed, and tried to hide. They used fig leaves to cover their genitals.

Think about the symbolism of this. The genitals are where men and women are most different. They are also the place where men and women are most sensitive. These are the areas that, originally, God thought should be exposed. But Adam and Eve covered them up.

When you're living your marriage in purity, you can expose your differences without fear or shame. You can open up about the most sensitive areas of your life and your marriage without concern.

But when you have sin in your life—and when you're sinning against each other—you lose the ability to trust. That's when you hide your differences and cover up your sensitive areas.

When Karen and I first married, I was verbally abusive and dominant. I hurt her so badly with the things I said that she covered her heart, figuratively speaking, with fig leaves. Because I was so insensitive, she refused to let me in to the most sensitive parts of her life.

As a result, she closed herself off from me. She didn't trust me. We didn't talk on a deep level, or have any real intimacy. We didn't know each other.

Eventually, the Lord brought me back to Him and I repented. From that point, I began living according to the Law of Purity. I realized that I had to be careful with my marriage and with Karen, that everything I did would impact her.

As soon as I asked for her forgiveness, those fig leaves began to come off her heart. It was a process. It didn't happen overnight. But before long she began to tell me things I didn't know about her.

One day, several months later, she shared with me something specific about the way she was feeling.

"How long has that been going on?" I asked. She told me she had felt that way for years. It was total news to me.

"Why didn't you tell me that before?"

"I couldn't trust you," she said.

All of us are more sensitive than we care to admit. We cannot trust our heart of hearts to someone who won't take responsibility for their behavior. Only then can we both be "naked and unashamed." When the fig leaves come off, we expose ourselves mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically—without shame.

That is when true intimacy happens in a marriage.

An Excerpt from  How to Share and Trust Your Spouse | Marriage Today | Jimmy Evans, Karen Evans

Sunday, 6 December 2015


Monday is few hours away, and a lot of people are already getting agitated. I used to hate Mondays and I still do, sometimes. But I have more control now more than I used to feel about Mondays, because I had to accept the fact that Mondays will always come! Anyone knows what am talking about? 

The thought of not having enough rest over the weekend, the unfinished piles of work on your table waiting for you, the mad rush to work so you can meet up with monday meetings and terrible traffics, the school runs, the list goes on, could make you get agitated at every single encounter. But you know, your unwillingness to accept the fact that some things are the way they are, like Mondays (lol) will only keep your blood pressure high and your contentment level low! 

Friend, I know how you feel; but like I always tell myself, be of good cheer! Do not let yourself get overwhelmed by responsibilities. Two ways I was able to overcome the fears of Mondays were; to inculcate the habit of writing my "to do list"- It worked(s) like magic, and then most importantly talking to GOD about my days! 

Can you try these habits out? You will definitely have rewarding results -at most, you will have more peace. 

Brace up and face the week like the winner that you are! Ain't nothing bigger than the ONE that lives inside of you! 

Have a great week friends! 

Saturday, 5 December 2015



I heard this touching story about late Steve Jobs, (the founder of the Ipad or IPhone you hear about or probably use- the CEO of Apple, one of the most valuable companies in the world, a billionaire many times over and one of the most respected people in the world even after his death!) and I felt I should share it with you; someone might get encouraged by it.

I learnt he was born out of wedlock, to graduate student parents. He was considered a mistake, which made his parents to give him up for adoption thereafter! He was adopted and raised in a working class family, and his foster father fixed cars for a living. He dropped out of college after one semester only. His highest qualification was in high school. While he was in college, he slept on the floor in friends rooms, returned Coke bottles to make money. 

In 1985, he was fired very publicly, from the very company he founded (Apple), after losing a power struggle with the board of directors.  In 1997, he returned as CEO after Apple had bought over NEXT, the company Steve founded after leaving Apple. Yet, he battled with cancer for years until he died. 

Most people like me who did not really know much about Steve Jobs would assume that he probably had a privileged life, had his path to success laid out for him. 

In spite of his background, experiences, he refused to be called a mistake! He chose a different life from where he came from! He did not allow his past to define him. He kept pressing on to make a difference. It didn't matter how long it would take him, all he did was to keep pressing on! It was not an easy road for him, but he left a legacy that lives on even at his death. 

Every one of us have wonders hidden in us, waiting for circumstances to evoke them. Do not give up! As long as you have a dream, keep pressing on, opportunity will happen for you one day! 

Have a great weekend and keep pressing on! 


Our patience when we have nothing; and our attitude when we have everything! Hmmm! 

My prayer everyday is, "may I need GOD desperately when I have everything, more than when I didn't have nothing." When you have GOD, HE will keep your life in check! 

Friday, 4 December 2015



"Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, It only saps today of its joy." Leo F. Buscalgia."

From experience, worry has this subtle way of removing your attention from the very important things- things that are worth being thankful for; your success and victory! 

When you have a problem, the ideal thing to do is to find a solution to it, but worrying multiples the problem and makes it look like solutions are far-fetched.  Worry clogs your mind and prevents you from thinking straight, takes your focus off from what GOD can do and keeps it on what the devil can do. 

Arthur Somers Roche describes worry as, "a thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained." This is so true!

Quit worrying about things you do not have control over! Worrying paralyses! So instead of worrying, begin to count your blessings and name them one by one, you will be surprised how much GOD has done for you!  

Tell yourself, "I refuse to worry. I am hopeful." Have a sweet December friends! 

Wednesday, 2 December 2015


If you are pretending to be who you are not in order to attract and marry a rich guy or a beautiful and successful lady, you are digging a deep pit for yourself. That relationship will be full of problems! 

Pretense is a false claim of who or what you are not! And as sad as it is, most people do not like sincere and straight forward people- which is why the world is the way it is!

Seriously, most friendships and relationships have been marred because "people" love to be pretended to. They do not like to hear the truth and as such, people they call friends live in great pretense, putting up a facade, yet at the end, they are devastated and traumatised when the truth finally comes out- when their so called friends display their true selves! 

Lack of truth and integrity kills relationships! The greatest thing to happen to anyone is when you are surrounded with real friend(s) and not wolves in sheep clothings! 


"Men are anxious to improve their circumstances, but are unwilling to improve themselves; they therefore remain bound. The man who does not shrink from self-crucifixion can never fail to accomplish the object upon which his heart is set. This is true of earthly as well as heavenly things. Even the man whose object is to acquire wealth must be prepared to make great personal sacrifices before he can accomplish his object; and how much more so he who would realise a strong and well-poised life." 

My mom will always say "Discipline is indeed painful, but the pain is highly worth it."


Tuesday, 1 December 2015



Help as many people as you can, even when it does not benefit you. 

Have we really come to this point when we give selflessly without being a matcher or a taker? 

Am Seriously thinking right now!!!


I wish you all a beautiful, happy, joyous, blessed, fun filled month! I have a feeling that you all are going to have cause to laugh excessively this month, because something good is about to happen  to you in this celebration season! 

On this note, let me quickly tell you something that will be of great help to you. There is every likelihood for depression to set it at this time as a result of not meeting your set goals. I can relate with you. The year is just few days away to wrap up! Flashing back to 31st of December, 2014 with all the high expectations we had for 2015, it seemed like nothing happened! It is very normal to start asking yourself"am I ok?", "what is wrong with me? if by now, i barely achieved nothing!" And then depression sets in! 

Please dear friend, do not give in to depression! It will only worsen the situation by making you feel hopeless! Give thanks to GOD that you are alive, then every other thing in due time will fall into place for you! I myself have not gotten there yet, but I am not giving up! I keep telling myself that, better to lose count while naming my blessings than to lose your blessings to counting my trouble! I wrote trouble without(s) because one trouble has the ability of magnifying itself when we feed it with worry!

The year is coming to an end, not your life! No matter what may want to trigger depression, be it alcohol or drug abuse or break up with your fiance or fiancee or failing a class, death or acute illness of a loved one, divorce, childhood abuse or neglect, job loss,  disappointments, crashed or delayed expectations, poor supply of power and other basic needs etc, still choose to stay strong! 

The antidote to falling into depression is chanelling your thoughts towards all the good things that GOD has done for you! 

It is amazing how much you will lose counts naming your blessings! It is difficult to come out of depression, so isn't it best for you to do all you can to stay out of it? Depression is not worth it my dear friend! Your life is way too important to GOD and to the world, than allowing yourself to be a prisoner of depression! 

Keep your hopes alive! Good things still happen in the midst of seemingly bad situations! 

Enjoy this month from the beginning to the end! Cheers to a joyous December!!!!