But ( replace with and... )
If ( replace with when... )
Should ( replace with could... )
You ( replace with I/we... )
Can't ( replace with can... )
Don't ( use action alternative...e.g. "don't put that there"/"please put that here",
"don't yell @ me"/"please speak gently to me".
Sounds familiar? Remember that the words we speak reveals how well or sick our mental state is- and as such charts the course of our lives!