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Just because you hear something often does not make it true! Mind yourself what you listen to!

Take time to reflect on where GOD has brought you from. Reflect on where you desire to be! Reflect on the good and make more good to happen. Reflect on your mistake, and learn from it, put it behind you and move on to get better!  Nothing you are doing is worthless, as long as you are doing the right thing.  You realise that  during a car race, the winner is observed to always drive corner by corner! Do not measure yourself with the success of others! Take your time and keep moving. Do not stop!  Your chances of winning are as big as the sky! Keep keeping up!

Merry Christmas to you all my family and friends. Joy is the season, and it is all yours now and forever. Amen. Let us celebrate!

"What exactly works for me?" Too many how to do's and why you should not do's. Have you taken time to really find out what works for you? This question popped up in my head, and I thought I should share with you friends. You must find out what works for you as an individual, as a couple, as a student etc . Do not assume that because a particular principle worked for a certain person or couple, same would work for you. GOD made us special, so discover your specialty. Food for thought! 

In a True friendship, ego is less important. Truth is an absolute ultimate goal, not a moving target. Friendship/Relationship is valued and guarded, not inconsequential. Success is not as fulfilling as faithfulness. The key to a healthy relationship is honour, love and respect.  As the year wraps up, let us drop every negativity, and chanel our energies into ensuring a more positive living. At the end, what matters is the lives you and I affected, positively or negatively. Nothing else.

You are what you call yourself! No matter your shortcomings, do not give call yourself "short". Tell yourself, I will do better next time. Learn to encourage yourself and say no pity party!

What are you changing into? A better person or worse? Because you cannot beat them, you chose to join them? Have you not heard or do you not know that you are more than you think? Why do you cast yourself down? Why do you look down on yourself? You are more than you think! Let people see you change for the best, not to someone who has been caught up in the crowd.  Carve your own niche and the world will follow you. Stop hiding! Come out! Let your God-given abilities come through. You are able and you can do it!  Happy new week friends.....Yes!!!! It's Christmas week, you should be excited. Something good happens when the atmosphere is joyful! I celebrate you all my friends.  Merry Christmas!!!!

There will be haters...oh most definitely! There will be doubters, always! There will be those who do not believe in your course, the non believers. There will be kickers- kicking against your destiny! And then.....There will be you, proving them wrong!  What say you?  Prove them wrong- by not quitting!

What are those obstacles standing in your way? Is it your past mistakes, failures, hard experiences? Use them as fuel for a forward progress!  Let me give you an instance. When you are driving and you sight a road block ahead of you, what do you do? You start planning on how to manoeuvre the road blocks isn't it? That is also what these obstacles are for. You make mistakes so you can learn that there is always a better way and that helps you to think out the best way!  If you made a mistake and you are still blaming yourself, then it means you never learnt anything-you have not yet seen your mistakes as a big lesson!  Until you start seeing your mistakes as a lesson, you will continue to fail! But when you see your mistakes, failures as a lesson, you will want to carefully learn your lessons, find out where and why you failed, and then you will begin to strategically make plans for a big come-back!  Use your obstacles, do not let your obstacles use ...

Your thoughts will eventually become your ways! What are the content of your thoughts?

Hope is powerful; hold it firmly. A living dog is better than a dead lion. 

Have you noticed that most times, you only get to realise that you have been "doing great" and people have been watching even though no one is telling you "well done", when you make a mistake or fail? That is when you will start hearing people say, "oh, you should have continued to do it they way you used to do it", or why did you not do it that way? , or "what happened to you? You are not looking as beautiful as you used to". And you be like, "so you've been watching me and you aren't saying anything?" Oh yes, people have been watching you! The truth is, most times they are watching to see you fail. That is why you should never feel discouraged or intimidated when people don't applaud or commend you or your work. Keep moving!  Have you also not noticed that people say a lot of "sorry ooo" than "well done, that was a good one"? Refuse sympathy!!!! Keep doing what you are doing! The world is watching...

With no reason to get up in the morning, life can start to really get you down. The purpose of life is to live a life of purpose. You might be doing what you love and have flair for, yet you have not started earning money out of it; that does not mean you should stop! Continue! As long as you find fulfilment in your skill, stay focused, you will get there!  An adage says that a journey of a thousand miles begins with a step. Do not give up yet if you have not given it a try! Success is a process! If you are doing something or you are in a relationship that has no purpose, it simply means you have no value for your life. 

Today, the welfare company of my local church conducted a free blood pressure check on her members, and it will shock you to know that most of the results called for serious attention. Yours truly also did not have a good result and I keep asking myself how?  You see, as healthy and beautiful you look, If you do not make out time to take care of yourself- your health,  you will wear out! We hear cases of young people who "just slumped" and died! That is as a result of high blood pressure. We have so ignored ourselves because of the worries of tomorrow and as such, we do not take time off. All we do is "work work work, " ,and no time at all to "rest rest rest!" I plead with you my dear friends, let us pay attention to our health. Make checking your blood pressure a weekly routine and create time to rest your body- very important! It is best to be healthy to enjoy the fruits of your hard work! Moms and Dads, you all are doing well.. ensure to take ...

Sometimes, things have to go wrong in order to go right. This I realised in the long run- of life's experience! In that situation you are right now, see GOD! DO NOT QUIT!  

Have an awesome weekend friends. It's Christmas, let's show some love. Help those who can't repay you. Touch a life, no matter how little. It will amaze you how a handful of meal will be a blessing to a family who do not have anything to eat. It will amaze you how a dime will go a long way to put food on someone's table. It will amaze you how you would want to slap yourself for worrying-  when you hear of someone else's story!  Plan for tomorrow, but never worry about tomorrow! 

It is never too late to take a step in the right direction. It is never too late to become the person you are capable of being. Things can change in any age. You have the opportunity to create yourself a life full of peace and free of regrets. All you need is make up your mind to take the right step now!

"At some level in relationships, we use little words and phrases that have no meaning, such as, 'Well, whatever you would like to do, dear.' If that's how you feel.' Let's talk about it sometime.' 'Really?'' That's nice dear.' Clichés have moved from unintelligible sounds to actual words, but it's not really much of a climb. You will never build a deep relationship with this kind of communication, but you will provoke a volcano in your spouse." Wisdom, sure is profitable to direct- anyone who desires an understanding, happy, successful marriage!

We believe in our children by encouraging and embracing their dreams, by showing interest in their adventures, their crafts, by not pushing them away when they fail a task, by the words of mouth- telling them "yes they can", by never abusing them, by affirming them when they come up with some great imaginative skills . Imagination is a wonderful gift! We parents are given the privilege to encourage our children to think about all the things they can do, to believe in them and to affirm them.  As parents, it is very important that we put our children through when  they fail in their tasks- when their adventures fail to work . It is our duty to debrief them, encourage them to talk about their feelings and experience, to discuss what they can learn from it and to help them move forward. Let us be there to offer our supports to our children so as to avoid permanent emotional scars. That will be very unhealthy for your child even as he or she becomes an adult.   ...

Ain't no door "thank you" can't open! Have you said "thank you" to GOD, your spouse, your parents, you child(ren), your workers (even though you're paying them)?

Many times in our lives, we have been dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we made and the circumstances that came our way. We felt as though we're worthless. But no matter what you have been through or you are going through, do not allow it to define who you are! Every challenge is working out the special you! Keep the faith! 

The world's worst mums are not the wicked ones but the over protective ones.  I went to pick my Children from school one day; because i was a little early, the gate was not opened, so i waited outside with others. A man walked up to me, after introductions, he asked me whether the children i picked the other day were mine, i said yes. He told me he liked how smart they looked, i told him the reason is simple, i REFUSED to allow their mum to spoil them with food in the name of love.  It is not on food alone that some mothers show their 'LOVE'' for their children. The next is over protection, especially on their male children.  Dear mothers, if you succeed in making your male children behave like you, you have not made them men but women. Men are WIRED differently and are meant to show early signs of independence. It is not rebellion, it is NATURAL.  Life is competition, when you make them depend entirely on you because you always want to know and d...

God revealed his laws regarding marriage in Genesis 2:24-25, and one of those foundational truths is the Law of Purity. "Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and they were not ashamed." This took place before sin entered the Garden of Eden. Did you know the name Eden means "pleasure and delight"? God didn't just create marriage, but He put Adam and Eve in a place made for their pleasure. When He created Adam and Eve, He created them naked. That's significant. After The Fall, the first married couple decided they didn't want to be naked in front of each other. They were ashamed, and tried to hide. They used fig leaves to cover their genitals. Think about the symbolism of this. The genitals are where men and women are most different. They are also the place where men and women are most sensitive. These are the areas th...

Monday is few hours away, and a lot of people are already getting agitated. I used to hate Mondays and I still do, sometimes. But I have more control now more than I used to feel about Mondays, because I had to accept the fact that Mondays will always come!  Anyone knows what am talking about?  The thought of not having enough rest over the weekend, the unfinished piles of work on your table waiting for you, the mad rush to work so you can meet up with monday meetings and terrible traffics, the school runs, the list goes on, could make you get agitated at every single encounter. But you know, your unwillingness to accept the fact that some things are the way they are, like Mondays (lol) will only keep your blood pressure high and your contentment level low!  Friend, I know how you feel; but like I always tell myself, be of good cheer! Do not let yourself get overwhelmed by responsibilities. Two ways I was able to overcome the fears of Mondays were; to inculc...

I heard this touching story about late Steve Jobs, (the founder of the Ipad or IPhone you hear about or probably use- the CEO of Apple, one of the most valuable companies in the world, a billionaire many times over and one of the most respected people in the world even after his death!) and I felt I should share it with you; someone might get encouraged by it. I learnt he was born out of wedlock, to graduate student parents. He was considered a mistake, which made his parents to give him up for adoption thereafter! He was adopted and raised in a working class family, and his foster father fixed cars for a living. He dropped out of college after one semester only. His highest qualification was in high school. While he was in college, he slept on the floor in friends rooms, returned Coke bottles to make money.  In 1985, he was fired very publicly, from the very company he founded (Apple), after losing a power struggle with the board of directors.  In 1997, he returned ...

Our patience when we have nothing; and our attitude when we have everything! Hmmm!  My prayer everyday is, "may I need GOD desperately when I have everything, more than when I didn't have nothing." When you have GOD, HE will keep your life in check! 

"Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, It only saps today of its joy." Leo F. Buscalgia." From experience, worry has this subtle way of removing your attention from the very important things- things that are worth being thankful for; your success and victory!  When you have a problem, the ideal thing to do is to find a solution to it, but worrying multiples the problem and makes it look like solutions are far-fetched.  Worry clogs your mind and prevents you from thinking straight, takes your focus off from what GOD can do and keeps it on what the devil can do.  Arthur Somers Roche describes worry as, "a thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained." This is so true! Quit worrying about things you do not have control over! Worrying paralyses! So instead of worrying, begin to count your blessings and name them one by one, you will be surprised how much GOD has done ...

If you are pretending to be who you are not in order to attract and marry a rich guy or a beautiful and successful lady, you are digging a deep pit for yourself. That relationship will be full of problems!  Pretense is a false claim of who or what you are not! And as sad as it is, most people do not like sincere and straight forward people- which is why the world is the way it is! Seriously, most friendships and relationships have been marred because "people" love to be pretended to. They do not like to hear the truth and as such, people they call friends live in great pretense, putting up a facade, yet at the end, they are devastated and traumatised when the truth finally comes out- when their so called friends display their true selves!  Lack of truth and integrity kills relationships! The greatest thing to happen to anyone is when you are surrounded with real friend(s) and not wolves in sheep clothings! 

"Men are anxious to improve their circumstances, but are unwilling to improve themselves; they therefore remain bound. The man who does not shrink from self-crucifixion can never fail to accomplish the object upon which his heart is set. This is true of earthly as well as heavenly things. Even the man whose object is to acquire wealth must be prepared to make great personal sacrifices before he can accomplish his object; and how much more so he who would realise a strong and well-poised life."  My mom will always say "Discipline is indeed painful, but the pain is highly worth it."

Help as many people as you can, even when it does not benefit you.  Have we really come to this point when we give selflessly without being a matcher or a taker?  Am Seriously thinking right now!!!

I wish you all a beautiful, happy, joyous, blessed, fun filled month! I have a feeling that you all are going to have cause to laugh excessively this month, because something good is about to happen  to you in this celebration season!  On this note, let me quickly tell you something that will be of great help to you. There is every likelihood for depression to set it at this time as a result of not meeting your set goals. I can relate with you. The year is just few days away to wrap up! Flashing back to 31st of December, 2014 with all the high expectations we had for 2015, it seemed like nothing happened! It is very normal to start asking yourself"am I ok?", "what is wrong with me? if by now, i barely achieved nothing!" And then depression sets in!  Please dear friend, do not give in to depression! It will only worsen the situation by making you feel hopeless! Give thanks to GOD that you are alive, then every other thing in due time will fall into place...

I always tell myself that I may not be there yet, but I am closer than I was yesterday!  The truth is, if we are facing the right direction, all we have to do is to keep walking! A lot of people are desperate for change and are wishing for opportunities that will bring forth that desired change.  Robert Louis Stevenson said, "They say opportunity knocks....well I say not everything that knocks is an opportunity, I'm looking through the peephole first". So let us be careful to look through before welcoming any opportunity because of fear of failure! The best story is the story of a man who fell and got up to stand strong. Your story cannot  be outstanding if everything in life has been smooth.  The failures you have will jump-start you to success! Sir Philip Green went through four business failures before making his first million at the age of 33.  Forget the failures of the past. The life of great men/women has many beginnings. If you ...

The world will either pity you or envy you! Which one would you prefer? 

"I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions, I have been entrusted to take the winning shots and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And this is why I succeed."  It does not matter how many times you have failed, as long as you do not quit, you will be next to tell your story! Be inspired!  Photo credit: Getty Images

Each day is a blessing!  We do not need to wait for a particular set day to  be thankful. Let each day of our lives be filled with thanksgiving!  May GOD to whom all thanks is due be praised forever in JESUS Name! Amen!!!  Happy Thanksgiving!!!!

With the holidays approaching, we all have the high tendency to procrastinate, even when we have so much to do! In fact, the work that used to be easy has suddenly become more demanding to get around with.. Am i speaking someone's mind? We want to make excuses, by engaging in something else. But guess what, the work keeps piling up! Procrastination is not healthy at all, you will agree with me!  We cannot expect to finish our work well, be productive, improve on ourselves, even our health most importantly, when we keep procrastinating. We need to get rid of the negative habits that lead us to procrastinate in the first place. What is that you want to accomplish? You must focus on all the positive things that are going to happen when you succeed!  When you believe you can do something, and you visualize the positive things that will come from succeeding, you equip yourself to accomplishing your desired results. Easier said than done right? But let us give it a try...

Someone once said, "If you do not feel excited about your relationship;  you do not always think about your partner, plan for the future or sacrifice for the relationship, your commitment level is low." I totally agree! My mom told me that, to make a relationship work, your commitment must be unequivocal- meaning that you have clearly and undoubtedly made up your mind concerning the relationship- no hanky panky games! It takes a high level of maturity and spiritual discernment to understand the principles and sacrifices of marriage!  Lack of commitment to your relationship will only sap life from it! If only one partner is committed to the relationship, it will not succeed! No matter how much you are ready to sacrifice for the success of the relationship, if your partner does not support and encourage your efforts, everything you do will eventually be wasted!  If you are the one struggling, sweating and fighting to keep your relationship alive, you have beco...

Congratulations Tuface! Keep inspiring the world!  Nigeria Ingenious Musician, Tuface Idibia, in the company of his wife Annie, was honoured by HRH Bagudu Galadima of Kudendan Kingdom, in Kaduna today, the 24th of November, 2015 with the chieftaincy title, Tafindan Kudendan, which means Ambassador for peace,while his wife was crowned as Matan Tafida. The ceremony took place at the Kudendan palace. See photo of Tuface and his wife:  Happy and excited Annie, shared her joy on her instagram page. See below: Photo credit: @annieidibia1 instagram handle

I have come to realise that problems are strong motivational force! They make us discover our true selves, our importance, that is if you truly accept that the situation you are in is not your final bus stop- if you do not give up! They enable us value those close to us. So never be intimidated by problems. We have our GOD given abilities to deal with situations. Think about it this way; you are a solution to problems- to someone's problems. Have a beautiful night rest friends.

You can walk with respect even when you have past failures. Your past will never define you if you do not let it! It is not what people say about you that makes you different. It is what you say about yourself, and what GOD has said about you that really matters!  Just because someone called you "names" does not mean you have to act like that or that is who you are! Be sure to know this, the content of your heart matters a lot to however far you want to go in living the life you desire!  The past is a terrible place to dwell on, I must tell you. Yes you failed, but that does not mean the end of the world for you. Leave the past behind you and forge ahead dear friend! Your past does not define you! 

Happy wedding anniversary to my husband and I!!! It has been a great journey and I give GOD all glory for HIS mercy thus far! I want to share with you something very important, and I hope someone gets the message.  It is very important to know that it is not enough that a man loves you or is crazy about you. But that you equally love him too. Some women assume that the issue of whether or not a woman loves a man is inconsequential. They believe that all that matters is that as long as the man they date and marry is capable of taking care of their needs and that he loves them, then their lives will be as sweet as ever. This is not completely true, especially in our world today!  From my research, most of the women I spoke with agree with me that those who thread this line of thought are actually ignorant of the reality of their reasoning and surely do not know the difference between waking up, day after day and year after year, beside a man you do not love or you ...

Some people want to be applauded, but have you asked yourself, to whom the applause benefits, you or others? 

May I remind you that there is a difference between selfishness and self love. Self love is knowing your worth and value as a human being and accepting yourself for who you are.  There are certain things about yourself you may not like. You may not like your face, hair, nose, head or your forehead, the size of your breast, your weight and so on. But if you want to live in peace, you must accept your body and yourself just the way you are.  No matter how much people admire you, if you do not love yourself, you will never see how beautiful you are or you will never accept yourself the way you are!  Years ago as a teenager, I battled with the lies of thinking I was not beautiful enough and It was a big deal whenever I received compliments from people. But when I began to pay more attention to myself, I began to realise that I am not just beautiful, but wonderfully and beautifully made for a divine purpose! You too can!  Ignore the trend, the make b...

21st November is here! Happy beautiful, glorious, victorious birthday to me, Chinemerem! Phew! What can I say? It's been GOD all the way!  I am a living proof of GODS grace and mercy! I am so so so blessed! Thank you LORD JESUS for being so good and kind to me!  Here is  me saying, I am here on earth for a very long long long long time, fulfilling my purpose! There is no place at the back for me! I am above only and not beneath. I am the head and not the tail! I am a shining light! I shine so brightly. Nothing can and will stop me from fulfilling GODS purpose for my life!  I am lifted! HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!

A few days ago, I carefully listened to Julius Agwu's interview, one of Nigeria's ingenious comedians, and he made striking comments about friends and his experience with people he thought he had built some connection with overtime...after his analysis he came to the resolution which communicated his strong paradigm shift. Apparently, he became aware that people he thought were his friends were only but colleagues. I was emotionally triggered as he shared his major concerns, but I was also inspired to think differently...and as well share my thoughts with you.  Think about this carefully...who are your friends? I should have asked this second question first but anyways...what is your definition of friendship?  Well, given the dynamic move in moral and ethical standards, it seems that the definition of friendship has become relative and people have their personal criteria for measuring or defining what friendship is. But inspite of these notions, there is still a ...

Nemerulez Blog is one year today!!!! I am deeply grateful to GOD for helping me keep up, even when I had all the reasons to quit! GOD'S word is indeed true when HE says, it's not by might neither is it by power, but by my SPIRIT says the LORD!  Thank you LORD JESUS for bringing me thus far, and I know that you will continue to help me all the way! Thank you for making this day possible, because I have seen a lot of people who started blogging but could not continue! It is very discouraging to not have people encourage your work! I know how that feels. I am very grateful to GOD for the ones who came through for me; who stood by me, my ardent readers and my faithful followers- yes I have 418 followers- and 907,083 views! This is great! You guys are amazing and I couldn't have made it this far without your supports and encouragements. Thank you all!  Nemerulez Blog is stronger and better. Just watch out for more great stuff. You care to join  this moving tr...

The journey has not been easy right? I know....I can relate with your situation. Wasn't an easy road for me too, but what gave me hope to carry on was my dreams. I have so much I believe GOD has put inside of me, and in spite of getting bent over  by the situation i was in, I chose to see the brighter future. Nobody cares about how you feel or what you are battling with right? Your actions are been misread and misjudged right? You wish someone will  see right through you, instead of assuming the wrong about you? You wish a miracle will just happen for you right now right? You are too tired of failed promises? You are too tired to make people see reasons with you? You are scared of setting that idea in motion because you are afraid it will not work out? The list goes on! But hang in there my dear friend, help is on the way.  Choose to have some faith and believe! Keep hope alive.  Most times, if not all the time, the most difficult part of any endeav...