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Have you noticed that when you are in the midst of some friends, you are excited and happy, laughing at different jokes? You also notice that with some friends you share knowledge and ideas, you are lifted and enligtened? Where as, with some friends,  you are moody and the little faith in you gets drained and you are left empty, you are suddenly angry and cannot even explain why. This only tells you that where you are determines what grows inside of you- weeds or flowers, strengths or weakness,  joy or anger and hatred.  If where you are isn't favouring you,  all you need do is to move away from there. The truth is, whatever you desire for yourself in the nearest future starts with the decision you make now. Stay away from negative people, environment.  Have a strong will to say no to bad seeds that will eventually grow into thorns.  When you are with the right people, the best comes out of you and the worse part of you dies.  Some peo...

WHAT YOU TRULY LOVE THE MOST IS A CLUE TO A GREAT GIFT INSIDE OF YOU. DISCERN, ACKNOWLEDGE AND EMBRACE IT AND PLAN YOUR LIFE AROUND IT. LET THE TRUE YOU BECOME STRONGER AND NEVER TRY TO BE WHO YOU ARE NOT. YOU CAN NEVER FIND FULFILMENT BEING SOMEONE ELSE.

Dear Parents, always pay attention to whatever your chlid(ren) wants to tell you,  no matter how busy or tired you are. By doing so, you are letting your children know they come first before any other thing-yes children are that sensitive. They will hold you in high esteem and will not hesitate to let you into their world.  They will share their feelings and thoughts with you and as their role model, they will always expect you to tell them the right thing to do.  Most parents made the mistake of shutting their children out all in the name of discipline.  But that sure is a wrong way to discipline a child. Listen earnestly to what your child is saying,  because if you do not listen to the little things when they are little,  they will not tell you the big things when they are big. Every single attention you pay to a child matters alot in forming him/her.  Let us be wise.

When you become famous, people suddenly would want to celebrate you, identify with you or even become part of your life.. not knowing how many hurdles you had to jump to make it to the finish line, the sleepless nights while the whole world were asleep. But, be sure to know how very important it is that you do not to forget the few that stood by you when no one else did.  Keep this truth in mind.  You will need it.

A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said: "I am blind, please help." There were only a few coins in the hat. A man was walking by, he took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the boy's hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by could see the new words. Shortly,   the boy's hat got filled up, yet people could not stop giving the blind boy more money. Later the same day, the man who changed the sign earlier, came by and the boy recognised his footsteps and asked, "Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?" The man answered him "Yes, I was, I said what you said but in a different way. "I wrote: 'Today is a beautiful day; but I cannot see it.'"  Both signs told people that the boy was blind. But the first sign simply said the boy was blind. The second sign re...

DO NOT MOVE AWAY FROM THE ESSENCE OF WHAT GOD MADE YOU. UNDERSTAND THE IMPORTANCE OF YOUR UNIQUENESS. 

I love the popular song by ice prince where he played a judge and asked contestants to exhibit their abilities and talents. Whist he sang the song, people demonstrated and exhibited their differented  unique and individual talents which were their selling points . They were in the end recognised for their different styles, talents and gifts. This is an important part of life: knowing your selling point as a person and utilising it to the full. Yours could be dancing, playing instruments, writing, drawing, teaching, coaching and many more, but whatever your selling point is that makes you stand out, USE it to the FULL and I bet you're not only bringing glory to GOD but you will also enjoy great satisfaction and find more fulfillment in life and encourage/inspire others.

When you do not let your woman know how valuable she is to you, you are only giving room for her to be valued by another. Cherish your love and she will make your interest her priority.

HOW MANY TIMES HAVE YOU MISSED GODS' BLESSINGS BECAUSE THEY WERE NOT PACKAGED AND PRESENTED AS YOU EXPECTED? DO NOT SPOIL WHAT YOU HAVE!

Stephanie Coker is a media personality, an actress, a model. This morning she took to instagram to reflect on her journey to success and how it was not an easy road, but she scaled through without compromise.  Powerful and highly motivational. She wrote:  "We are often in a hurry to get to where we want to be in life, that we forget what we have endured to get to where we are now. I look back at my journey over the past 3 years and although I am nowhere where I want to be, I am grateful for all I have achieved. I remember when I just moved to Nigeria and was staying with family in ebutu metta, there was a certain man who I had several meetings with to develop a business idea of mine at the time. All was progressing well till he eventually turned the pages and approached me with his desire for me. He changed his rapport and even offered to buy me a flat in banana island so I could be more comfortable and settled. As tempting as such offers could be, nothing in life i...

I came across the status update of one of my friends on Whatsapp and it read "People I truly love don't love me back - that's sad." Now, don't be quick to say to this person, "That's life, get over it!" As tough as life can be, we somehow have the capacity to love, be kind and generous. The status update struck me and it recurred to me that many people don't have enough love for themselves. We want to love other people, but we forget we need to love ourselves FIRST. It's not too early in the year to talk about this, because someone out there got heart-broken yesterday...someone got separated from a spouse...someone lost a dear friend...someone was told "I hate you!"  Since we can't necessarily control what happens in life, we can learn to love ourselves and that love will help us sail through the, sometimes, harsh weather that life may bring our way. Fall in love with yourself: be patient wit...

A while ago I did a back track on how we lived and functioned before the emergence of technology; how people kept communication lines open through writing letters and posting them which could take a couple of weeks before the recipient gets a hold on basic information. Come to think of it, people still functioned, they lived life without bothering about phones or any form of gadgets because there was nothing to worry about in that regard.  Given the emergence of technology, primarily the use of phones, there has been a gross diversion of priorities and the way things are done which has also left it's dent on our values, systems, and procedures. Although  the more things change, the more they remain the same, I am of the strong opinion that we have wrongly harnessed the benefits of the use of phones. Regardless of its benefits which helps us to keep communication alive, it has also communicated wrongly to a lot of people who have allowed their phones to displace a lifestyl...

NEVER MAKE PROMISES YOU CANNOT KEEP.  TALK IS CHEAP, BUT LET YOUR WORD BE YOUR BOND. 

A psychiatrist visited a California mental institution and asked a patient, "How did you get here? What was the nature of your illness?" He got the following reply. "Well, it all started when I got married and I guess I should never have done it. I married a widow with a grown daughter who then became my stepdaughter. My dad came to visit us, fell in love with my lovely stepdaughter, then married her. And so my stepdaughter was now my stepmother. Soon, my wife had a son who was, of course, my daddy's brother-in-law since he is the half-brother of my stepdaughter, who is now, of course, my daddy's wife. So, as I told you, when my stepdaughter married my daddy, she was at once my stepmother! Now, since my new son is brother to my stepmother, he also became my uncle. As you know, my wife is my step-grandmother since she is my stepmother's mother. Don't forget that my stepmother is my stepdaughter. Remember, too, that ...

Dear Nemerulez Blog lovers, I woke up to this morning and this question popped into my head:  "If you had the power to change just "one thing" in the world,  what would that be?"  I thought I should share it with you all, because i know you'd have a lot to change if given the power. So please share your thoughts..... It's a very great day... Be alive, Be happy and Be highly expectant!!!!

DO NOT JUDGE THE BOOK BY THE COVER. YOU CAN NEVER IMAGINE WHAT GOES ON BEYOND THAT "PERFECT APPEARANCE".  LEARN TO APPRECIATE YOURSELF AND WHAT YOU HAVE AND ALWAYS PRAY AND MAKE EFFORTS TO GET BETTER. DO NOT USE OTHERS AS A YARDSTICK TO MEASURE YOUR LIFE. 

Once upon a time, I and my dad were seeing a movie and he highlighted something quite funny, but true. He said, "These actors just wake up and fight all day - they don't even shower, eat, work, pay bills, but fight: worst of all, they almost never get tired." That is a typical description of an average "action film". Unrealistic as it is, many of us subconsciously have such superhuman expectations of others and even ourselves. We do not look forward to planting, yet we want a bountiful harvest and we want it immediately too. Most people hate to toil, but want to be celebrated. I must confess: I am one of them. I think it is too early to claim the expression "was one of them" on this issue, since I am still un-learning this rather unfulfilling lifestyle. But this is not just about learning to love the work part of harvest, it is about learning to have healthy expectations of one's self and others. This take...

Is it possible to enjoy a benefit so frequently that you begin to overlook its depth and impact in your life? Take a moment to think about what a typical day looks like for you and even without being very sensitive you will point out a variety of activities you engage in almost on a daily basis. Most of these activities have become part of us such that we don't need to trust anybody or even ourselves or exert so much energy of any sort to execute them. A friend of mine uses the expression "that's not a prayer point" to let me know that the task ahead is so minute that it can be done with less demand on intellectual dexterity.  It's important that as we enjoy the daily benefits that come in the most simplified forms, we don't forget to remain thankful for them. Imagine you got up late this morning because you slept quite late given the antecedents of events over the weekend. You are getting ready for work, need to drop children at school, have a meeting at...

LEARN TO LET GO AND LET GOD!

True leadership is one hundred percent influence through inspiration. The principal pursuit, therefore, for those who desire and aspire to become effective leaders must be the answer to this question: "How do I inspire people around me and that is the source of inspiration?  The best way to approach and appreciate the practical application of the definition of leadership as communicated is to start the process at the end of the definition. You will note that the process begins with an individual's discovery of a personal purpose that, when captured, ignites a conviction. This conviction generates a vision in the person's heart that stirs a passion.  The force of this person's  passionate pursuit of the vision inspires others, who are stirred to join in and cooperate with the vision. This ultimate effect is called "influence" and results in the followers acknowledging the individual as a leader.  If inspiration is the key to legitimate influen...

The bible says, when a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing and that he obtains favour from GOD. This means that when a man gets married, he automatically becomes favoured both in the sight of GOD and man. That is where you see a man who didn't have anything before getting married begins to succeed and get better, and the rich ones get richer. Well as sweet as this sounds, this promise comes with a price. Oh yes, it does! Of course, the promise does not include men who cheat on their wives,  treat them badly,  ignore their wives wise counsel etc. Yes someone might be saying "oh no Neme,  I know of men who treat their wives badly and yet they are doing well. The truth is, there is always a day of reckoning for those men. Have you not heard of "from grace to grass"? Or stuff lke "this man used to be very wealthy? And more?  That is always the case. And like the Bible says, we should not envy the wicked when they prosper,  because they will come crashing do...

IN A RELATIONSHIP WHERE THERE IS MUTUAL RESPECT, SHARING, HELPING AND SUPPORTING EACH OTHER BECOMES VERY EASY.

Hello friends,  here's a short piece for your edification... Dishonesty has become the order of the day..in relationships between spouses, friends, colleagues, siblings and so on. People feel it is trendy to be dishonest,  after all, who knows if am being dishonest, they'd say. But the truth remains, what you do in secrets, our maker sees them all. Let our yes be truly yes and our no be truly no. It pays to be honest. Do not follow the trend or feel you're not getting paid for being honest. You'll surely get your reward. An honest person usually gets rewarded, by GOD. Stand out from the crowd. There is nothing trendy about being dishonest. 

In marriage, be open and sincere to one another.  Don't play hard with your partner. Do not handle marriage like it's a one man's show. It is a union of two hearts that beat as one. Treat each other with love and respect.

A lot of people work out for different reasons, either to lose weights or to keep fit and stay healthy. I hear some of my friends say they have tried all sorts of work outs/exercises, vigorous, aerobics, but they tend to gain more weights and as such they are discouraged to keep working out. Okay, the usual me would always like to research to find out facts.  So, here are some of my findings of what you SHOULD NOT DO and I hope this will help you deal with the issue of not losing weights even after putting too much efforts at the gym house.  Do not skip your breakfast, meals or use diet pills. Do not rely on exercises alone to lose weight. Ensure that you eat healthy meals and  stay away as far as you can from junks. Do not use exercise as an excuse to eat more. I see people grabbing  snacks and drinks immediately they leave the gym house. That would not give you the result you seek. Do not change your routine exercises.  Do not starve yours...

ALWAYS SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO WILL TELL YOU, "YES YOU CAN DO IT" AND NOT PEOPLE WHO WILL TELL YOU HOW HARD IT IS TO ACHIEVE.

We all know that health is wealth. Most times as a result of our busy schedules, people tend to pay less attention to their healths. without good health, how would you then enjoy your wealth? So yesterday, I was able to find out in one of studies that some vegetables prevent breast cancer and I thought I should share with you. Here are a few veggies that prevent breast cancer: Sorry I do not have pictures, but I promise they are all familiar to you. Cabbage Carrots Tomatoes Spinach Broccoli Cauliflower Collards 

Rita has  been dating Lloyd for the past 11 years. They met at the university and everyone, including Rita was convinced that Lloyd was her future husband. After they graduated, Rita was fortunate to get a job, but Lloyd did not. He job hunted for so many years without results. Rita was there for him and they were surviving on her salary and she never complained or made him feel less of himself.  Finally, after so many years of joblessness, Lloyd got a job, a very good one with a fat salary. They looked happy together and everything seemed to be working out as envisaged, until Lloyd broke up with Rita, just a day before his wedding with a lady he just met. Rita slumped and fainted on hearing the news of Lloyd's wedding with another girl. It took a while before she was revived. Lloyd, told Rita that he was sorry to hurt her, and he was going to pay her back all that she spent on him. (Really??? this is heartless!) Right now, Rita's situation is very critical and her fa...

Although the song we sang childishly "who sat and watched my infant head, when sleeping on my cradle bed, and  tears of sweet affection shed...my Mother" didn't communicate as much meaning as it does today, the value of a good mother transcends cradle bed metaphor.  The combination of having a mother stand by me and being a mother impacts a great deal on my psychic and leaves me on a balanced rational platform to communicate the relevance of a Godly mother.  Happy mothers day to all the mothers who have truly lived out the essence of motherhood through consistent grooming that sets a child on the right path towards a fulfilling life. Most of the time, our mothers seem to control our lives in so many ways they are not even aware of; this behaviour is manifested on the premise of the genuine care and will for us to make the right choices in life.  As we celebrate the motherly figures in our lives either as a wife, or mother, or legal guardian, our part...

IF YOU CANNOT TELL YOUR FRIEND HOW YOU FEEL, THAT PERSON IS NOT YOUR FRIEND. 

Each time I watch National Geographic Channel, I see different living creatures live and take control of territories and saturate the environment with their presence which you can feel from quite a distance. Another important behavioural pattern which is very common is about their style of association. Apart from the fact that it's a catastrophic circumstance to find sheep in the midst of a coalition of Lions, it's a dent on the ego of the Lion which leaves the sheep in a helpless state....very helpless.  Another interesting thing about the sea creatures like the fishes and dolphins is how they manifest and entertain viewers in a habitat that is uncomfortable for a lot of creatures. Fishes are created to function in water irrespective of the storm and change in weather, eagles are designed to soar and move into higher torrents, the child of God who knows his right in Christ is meant to record continuous winnings irrespective of the challenges of life.   One of the ...

I want to share with you an excerpt from my new book The Right One: How to Successfully Date and Marry the Right Person. I also encourage you to forward this Marriage Builder to your single friends or family members and consider getting them a copy of the book. It is full of practical answers to the most critical questions people face regarding their future. Visit therightonebook.com for more details. Clearly-defined roles and expectations are critical to keeping peace in a relationship. They not only keep the home running, they alleviate confusion and resentment between married couples. Roles serve two purposes in marriage. First, they serve to fulfill each partner's basic needs. Though it's true that no two people are alike, and we all have our own unique traits and personalities, men and women are hard wired with distinctly different needs within a marriage. And though these needs differ in importance from person to person, I've found them to be universal t...

A Professor was teaching. He asked his students, 'why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?' The students thought for awhile. One said, because we lose our calm. But why shout when the other person is just next to you? Asked the professor. Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you are angry? The students gave some answers but none satisfied the Professor. Finally he explained, 'when two people are angry at each other, there is a distance in their hearts psychologically. To cover the distance, they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will shout to hear each other through that great distance. Then the Professor asked, 'What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly. Why? Because their hearts are psychologically close. The distance between ...

Excellent message: It was their anniversary, and Funke was waiting for her husband Kunle to show up. Things had changed since their marriage, the once couldn't-live-without-each-other cute couple had turned bitter fighting over every little thing. Both didn't like the way things had changed. Funke was waiting to see if Kunle remembered it was their anniversary! Just as the door bell rang, she ran to find her husband wet and smiling with a bunch of flowers in his hand. The two started re-living the old days. Making up for fights, then was the plan for champagne, light music, - and it was raining! It was perfect timing. But the romantic moment was paused when the phone in the bedroom rang. Funke went to pick the phone  up and it was a man who spoke. "Hello ma'am I'm calling from the police station. Is this Mr. Kunle Adeoye's number?" "Yes it is!" "I'm sorry ma'am; but there was an accident and a man...

Why not begin your day with a closer walk with Jesus.  In fact today why not take a....... Morning Walk Amidst the dew of early dawn, I took a morning walk. And along with me, I took a Friend, For I felt a need to talk. I unburdened both my heart and soul, And spoke many things: Of plans gone wrong, of failure's pain, And how to live with shattered dreams. My Friend just listened quietly And uttered not a word. For it was His time to listen, And my time to be heard. His sympathetic ear brought peace, As we walked this earthly sod. And I learned to trust life again, On my morning walk with God. Poet, Barbara Cagle Ray

Success is a decision. Your success begins immediately you make up your mind to succeed.  Suddenly, mountains will begin to be your playground. Yes you can! Neme...

If you continue to be a "people's pleaser", you will remain their slaves. Because everything about your life will depend solely on their opinions, directly or indirectly.

Life is not all about you trying to get it all.  It's about going all the way...going the extra miles to reach out to someone.  I hear friends say, "am so busy,  I actually had you in mind but I keep forgetting to call" and so many seemingly reasonable excuses.  If actually that person had been on your mind, isn't it as simple as putting every other thing on hold and reaching out to the person.  The truth is, no matter how busy or tight your schedule is,  no matter the deadline you must meet, know that those things can never be as important as having someone who will be there when the world comes crashing down on you.  I always believe that you must love people and use things, but it is too bad to know that the world we live in now is all about using people and loving things. To have someone to lean on In trying times is a precious gift.  Do not take that friendship for granted. There is always a day of reckoning and as the scripture says "do ...

THEY SAY "A BIRD AT HAND IS WORTH MORE THAN THOUSANDS IN THE BUSH". AND I ASK, WHAT IF THAT BIRD GIVES YOU SO MUCH TROUBLE, WOULD YOU STILL KEEP IT AND DEAL WITH ITS TROUBLES, OR WOULD YOU LET IT GO AND WHY?

LEARN TO APPRECIATE THE LITTLE THINGS. THOSE LITTLE THINGS MAKE THE GREAT THINGS.

The more you challenge the word against prevailing circumstances, you begin to experience results. What doesn't challenge you doesn't change you. 

I CELEBRATE ALL THE WOMEN. WITHOUT WOMEN, THE WORLD WILL BE EMPTY. IF YOU HAVE A WOMAN IN YOUR LIFE, BE IT YOUR MOTHER, YOUR SISTER, YOUR GIRLFRIEND, YOUR WIFE, CELEBRATE HER. WOMEN ARE THE BEST CREATION AND THE BEST GIFT ANY MAN CAN INVEST IN. WHEN YOU TREAT YOUR WOMAN RIGHT, YOU WILL MAKE YOUR WORLD RIGHT. HAPPY WOMENS' DAY. I CELEBRATE ALL THE WOMEN WHO HAD FOUGHT AND WON, WHO FAILED AND BOUNCED BACK TO BECOME EVEN STRONGER AND BRAVER!!!!

I can imagine the look of surprise,amazement and a sense of humour when you see your little toddler carry our some actions that are obviously associated with adults. She picks your phone, takes it close to her ear and tries to mutter a few words...then she looks at you and smile. You begin to wonder "where did she get that from"? Who taught her how to do that...? As time goes on your child begins to pick up behavioural components and values from her immediate environment where her parents are her first-hand instructors...consciously  or unconsciously. Haven't you noticed that you never taught your child how to use the mimic the way you take your calls or do some of the things he or she does? The reason is simple; children learn by observation. This style of learning is by association and modelling. In reality, you are modelling behaviours which your child will resonate with irrespective of where they fall on the scale of right or wrong, valuable or illicit. Your ch...

If a friendship lasts longer than  7 years, psychologists say it will last a life time.  What do you guys think? Please share your thoughts.

In dealing with people, learn to be wise. Do not be in a hurry to tell your life history to someone you barely know out of excitement. The more knowledge of you people know, they more you are at their mercy. 

The best time to sow, is when you do not have much. Instead of eating the little,  isn't it wise to sow it?  By doing so, you will have a harvest of fruits.

Be careful what you sow,  because you will always reap it. Sow kindness and you will reap kindness.  Sow love and you reap love. Sow hatred and you will reap hatred.

Hello friends,  I trust you all had a great day.  Mine was splendid.  Just a little word for you. The world we live in is a very small place. And as such, be kind to people because you will always meet them somewhere,  somehow as long as you live on this planet. The super man today,  who is mean and full of himself, looking down on people and maltreating them,  could become as poor as a church rat, while, the ill treated one could become great tomorrow.  That is the irony of life.   So, if you are privileged to be in a position where you can be of help to people, kindly do so. Because an adage says "be kind to people you meet on your way up; because you might meet them on your way down". Show some kindness.  Forgive one another, apologise when you hurt someone, be thankful and live life to the fullest.

AN OBJECT WILL REMAIN IN A STATE OF REST UNTIL YOU APPLY A FORCE ON IT. 

WHAT YOU MAKE HAPPEN FOR OTHERS, GOD WILL MAKE HAPPEN FOR YOU.

There are various helpful tips on how you can kick-start your journey to become self-employed. Although the thought can be daunting, no doubts about that, but through the right direction, you can become self-employed. It can also be really a fun and exciting adventure therefore keep the following requisites as you journey. The first thing you need to consider is going through personal evaluation. This development strategy will help you identify your strengths, your weaknesses, your interests, your skills, and things you should totally avoid. That does not mean you would not take risks, but risks that are highly detrimental will cause an impediment on your potential results. Do a survey on the industry, or trade, or business idea you have in mind, read about people who have done similar things and engage your creative ideas. Take a drive down the streets that are business friendly, observe, ask questions...roll your sleeves and get to work.  Register your business name so t...