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I Some people are defensive because they have a lot of feelings to deal with. They might feel like the world is against them, and they need to protect themselves from those feelings. There's also the possibility that they have experienced some kind of trauma, and now they're trying to protect themselves from any more pain.

When you stop talking to people, stop talking about them too. What others think of you has nothing to do with who you are. Time always exposes what you mean to someone. Stop being okay with everything. You deserve to be treated right. You're in contol of your story. And if you don't like the plot, you can rewrite a new one. Don't get lost in comparing yourself to other people. You're valuable and no one can take that away. The person you're becoming will cost you people, relationships, places and things. Choose that person rightly, so that you don't be the "hindrance" to yourself or your own enemy.  Maturity is peacefully disagreeing without thinking the other person is terrible or believing all of their other views must be wrong too.

Thought to share this; makes a lot of sense—uncommon social rules: When playing games with children, let them win. Compliment the meal when you're a guest in someone's home. When someone treats you to lunch or dinner, don't order the most expensive dish in the menu. Also, treat them the next time. Step outside to answer phone calls. If someone shows you a photo on their phone, don't swipe left or right. If they want to show what's next, they'll do it. If someone lends you their car, don't return the car empty.

A person's reaction to a circumstance has the power to alter that situation dramatically. It is possible to improve your mood by writing down and then discarding bad thoughts. 90% of the time, people with sloppy handwriting are more inventive than usual. Orange has been shown to help alleviate feelings of stress. That's why doctors advise people to eat an orange before heading to the office in order to avoid fatigue. Keep your ambitions to yourself. It has the same effect on the brain that completing goals does. In the presence of plants, the brain releases molecules that enhance the brain's ability to focus. Because of this, some psychiatric procedures include a walk in the garden. The language of the child's mind is shaped by his parents' discourse. A negative remark cannot be made if there are eight positive statements. When you dream, you're communicating with your subconscious mind.

 

 

It is important to know that toxic people are not your fault. They are not going to suddenly wake up and decide to stop being toxic. The best way to deal with toxic people is to keep your emotions in check, and make sure you don't take things personally.  When you're dealing with a toxic person, know that: Toxic people often want to make you angry, so don't give them the chance to put you in that state. You know better than to allow the unkind treatment of a toxic person make you unkind. Don't let them get away with undermining you—you deserve better than that. So, find a better way to pass your message across and leave that space as quickly as possible. Keep your boundaries clear! Know that most of the time, a toxic person acts out of desperation, frustration which is always their best option, because they feel there's no other choice. Try not to take it personally, and move on. 

Make peace with your past, so it does not affect the present. What others think of you is none of your business. Not getting what you want can be a blessing. Don't compare your life to others and don't judge them. You have no idea what their journey is all about. Allow yourself to have some fun. Smile. You don't own all the problems in the world. Have a merry Christmas. JESUS IS THE REASON, REMEMBER? ❤️🎄

Be yourself. Have you noticed that  most of the discontented people are people who spend time trying to be someone they are not or trying to do something they are not supposed to do? Let me ask you, If you are not you, then who are you going to be?  Think about it. A Congolese proverb asserts, “Wood may remain ten years in the water, but it will never become a crocodile.” Nobody is as disappointed and unhappy as the person who spends his/her life longing to be somebody else. Don’t build a case against yourself t . St ewart Johnson said, “Our business in life is not to get ahead of others, but to get ahead of ourselves—to break our own records, to outstrip our yesterday by our today, to do our work with more force than ever before.”  So, stop looking only at where you are and start looking at what you can be. If you doubt yourself, here's what Alexandre Dumas said: “A person who doubts himself is like a man who enlists in the ranks of his enemy and bears arms against himse...

 

Christmas is a time to celebrate the birth of  our LORD JESUS. Therefore, here are a few things we should keep in mind as we celebrate this beautiful season: Christmas is a time for sober reflection—a time to reflect on how  we led our lives through out the year and find better ways to do better/be better in the coming year(s). Christmas is a time for giving. Everyone deserves to be treated with love and respect, including you!  When we give , we please GOD; because one of the major ways to express love is through giving—for GOD so loved(s) the world that HE gave HIS only begotten Son— the reason we celebrate Christmas!  Christmas is a time for family. We have families, so let us take advantage of this season to come together and have a wonderful family reunion, that will keep the enemy sad forever! Family is everything, unity and peace is what keeps the family binded, against all odds. Christmas is also a time for friends. You can't have Christmas without friends! T...

People are defensive because they're afraid of what someone might say about them. They might be worried about being judged, or that people will think badly of them. They might also be worried about being misunderstood, or even attacked by someone who's angry with them. People are defensive because they're trying to protect themselves from something unpleasant.

 

 

I was somewhere the other day where three married men and a married lady were discussing bitterly about how their younger brothers got married and the dynamics of their siblinghood changed. They said and I quote, "the eldest ones will get married and carry these boys along and make sure they are fine, but as soon as they get married, their wives come up with ideas like, your sisters don't like me, I don't like the way he/she looked at me, I'm your wife, you must stand with me, and so on." I listened until I interrupted them with this question, "but why is it so? Their answer was and I quote," women are necessary evil." And my response was, I quote, "Wow! really? So, a woman comes into a family that's kneated together and tears it apart just like that?" They said, it's that easy where the man does not let the woman know from the beginning how kneated he is with his family and also how much the man entertains his wife when she is tal...

Failure is a part of life. It is the reason we learn. It is the reason we grow. It is the reason we get better at what we do. It is the reason we become better people. If you are not failing or you have not attempted failure, then you aren't learning or growing, and you are the wrong go-to— you can never be the best person to advice anyone. In fact, failure is one of the most important things in life because it can teach us so much about ourselves and our surroundings.  When you fail, it tells you something about yourself that you didn't know before. It shows you what your strengths are; it shows you where your weaknesses are, and it gives you a chance to reflect on them and find ways to improve on yourself. Sometimes failure can be tough because if you try something again after failing at first, you may think that it is no longer possible for you to fail at your next attempt—which isn't true!  You can still fail if there are new obstacles in front of you—and by pushing thr...

To that someone who is battling with past mistakes, To that someone who feels your end has come because of seemingly irreversible mistakes,   To that someone who lost hope completely because the society condemns you, YOU ARE MORE THAN YOUR MISTAKES. 

There are 17  different things in this photo can you at least them or at least 11?

 

 

 

 

Yes!!! I love this wisdom tip!

 

December is here! Compliments of the season.  Enjoy the ride with the HOLY SPIRIT.  See you all next year in sound health, sound mind, and abundance of every good thing. 🙏🙏

I saw this post on and I thought to share it on my blog. Here goes: If you believe you are having problems, here's something I'd like to share.  The following image of Ukraine was sent to me  by a student when I was thinking about what I am grateful for today. I haven't heard from the Ukrainians who are learning with us in a week or two. The results are became concerned due to a lack of power in the country. He responded: it is all good brother, we are all good, and we will be OK because we will win. It's a cold I've never experienced. Most people do not understand what it is like to live in such a cold climate.  Ukrainians have a new level of positive mindset which I have never seen before. Indeed, it is not about the situation you are going through, but your attitude in the face of that situation. Photo Credit: from the original post.