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Guilt...that deep feeling of remorse or negatively judging yourself for things you either did or did not do in the past, which you believe had a negative effect on someone or something else. As vast as life is, filled with different circumstances, experiences, and people of unique divergent personality make-ups, it only becomes a mission impossible to deal with daily issues without accumulating guilt...guilty either about your behaviour towards that child,  or there's this thing you said to someone and you saw the look of hurt on their face, or you kept something that wasn't yours, but you didn't have the courage to return it. According to Albert Ellis, a Psychologist and the proponent of (Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy) suggests that what disturbs men's mind is not the event, but their judgements on events, therefore all that matters is your perception of the events that created your feelings of guilt and the harmful effect it is or will have

HEALTH TIPS Breakfast is considered your most important meal because it affects your eating for the rest of the day. So here are a few of my findings why eating your breakfast is very important. It improves your memory by boosting your brain activity. It gives you a better attitude to relate with people- because a hungry man is an angry man. So if you do not want to make a negative first impression to your clients, ensure you eat your breakfast  (except you are fasting). For Students, It improves their concentration and performance. When I was in boarding school, not eating breakfast was the order of the day and trust me, it was not a good experience at all (scary days). Studies show that children who eat breakfast perform better in their academics and physical activities than children who do not. It improves weight loss. Because, when you eat breakfast, you wake up your metabolism, which aids in the burning of those calories you need to lose weig

CHILDREN ARE LIKE SEED.....CULTIVATE THEM WELL AND YOU WILL ENJOY THEM. Before  a farmer plants, he goes through rigorous processes to ensure that when the seeds are sown, they will germinate and bear fruits without dieing along the way. Some of these processes might be to ensure that the soil where the seeds are to be planted is a good soil depending on the type of seed you want to plant, treating the seeds,  because some seeds will not germinate unless they are sown while fresh, or will only sprout in the dark or in the light. Other  seeds may require soaking in room temperature water for some time, might be days. The farmer ensures he has manure or fertiliser that will enable a healthy growth of the seeds when they are planted. As an Agriculturist, I have realised that it takes a lot to sow to be able to have a good harvest.   The same applies to children. Raising children  is a task whereby the parents must be fully equipped to ensure that their children grow to give t

A great marriage is not only about the love you had in the beginning, but how well you continue building your love till the end. Marriage is not just a ceremony that lasts only a day,  but a journey of a life time. That is why one should know exactly what one wants before venturing into marriage. The greatest happiness on earth is the happiness of marriage. "A man who is utterly in love with his wife does not hesitate to show it in whichever way that pleases him; his life is always beautiful and things tend to fall into place for him with ease". When you set a standard for yourself in whichever area of your life, you work hard to meet up with the standard.  The same applies to marriage.  Many marriages would be better if the husband and wife have a clear understanding that they are on the same side. So learning from my parents and some few research I made, I found out that couples that enjoy great marriages have these in common: They love each other gen

Go farther than you see. Don't just look at the present. Think unthinkable thoughts, see where no one is looking and take corresponding action before it's obvious.  Wayne Gretsky is arguably the greatest hockey player in history. Asked about his secret for continuing to lead the national hockey league in goals year after year, Wayne replied " I skate to where the puck is going to be, not where it has been" Isak Dineson said, "God made the world round so that we would never be able to see too far down the road" As your plans unfold and you move in the right direction, choose not to be limited by what you see, move further because there is always something better few kilometres ahead of you.  Significant achievements have never been obtained by taking small risks on unimportant issues. "If you are hunting rabbits in tiger country, you must keep your eye peeled for tiger, but when you are hunting tiger, you can ignore

This is a mail I got from a reader: Dear Neme, Reading your blog everyday inspires me, that is why I am always looking forward to reading ur posts. I have learnt a lot from you to be candid. You talk with so much experience. And the way you talk about God amazes me. I am impressed. After reading your post about being in a wrong relationship my mind has not rested. I have been dating this guy for the past 3 years and March 2015 will make us 4 years together. This guy does not allow me to see his siblings.  Whenever we are together and his elder sister calls him that she is coming over to see him he does everything possible for me to leave.  He will start telling me that he does not want his sister to see me. That his sister is a monster and he will not be happy if his sister treats me wrongly. He's been saying this since we met. I believed him at first, but I don't anymore. He claims he loves me very much and that I mean the world to him. But I am not getting any younger and I

As the year is winding down, companies are reviewing policies, some are downsizing, some are counting their milestones while some are redirecting a business plan; individuals are gradually getting into the frenzy mood of the season we are in, some are buying into the conventional system of putting up appearances, some are saving the best for the last, some are gathering their sleeves and storing in barns for the coming year because of course the coming year is yet to unfold its plans; some are counting their blessings, some are multiplying the effect, some are giving up and giving in, while some are gaining more grounds...and isn't it amazing to know that these activities are happening simultaneously in different environments?  It is important that as we bask in the goodwill that comes with the season, we in the same vain, make concrete plans for the upcoming year. I think it is ideal for us to get pensive, reflect, and choose to impact and influence our world in

Hello There!  Just a little word for you this beautiful month. As GOD has made it possible for us to see this month, I want to assure you that HE has saved the best for last for you. We are not moved by sight, but we are moved by faith in the word (promises) of GOD. This might sound like a cliché....you be like yeah yeah I have heard this before. But the truth is that you have not heard this particular one.  There is so much to gain  when you have absolute trust in GOD and walk in righteousness. Nothing is hard for GOD to do. You only need to play your part which is trusting in GOD and walking in the path of righteousness.  GOD loves us so much and HE does not ever bring evil to HIS children, instead HE said only with our eyes we shall see the punishment of the wicked(psalm 91). This is a great month, believe it or not. Let our faith be lifted as we walk through this month with high expectations.  It is written, you have whatsoever you say. So I urg

....and a drop of water makes an ocean.. What's the first small step you can take to get moving in the right direction? Small steps are a big idea. If you feel stuck, take small steps to get yourself on track again. Your life is evolving and you need all the consistency you can get to keep pacing in the right direction. Don't allow discouragement to set in when you make miniature progress against big plans and goals you have put in place, only be wary of standing still. Helen Keller said " I long to accomplish great and noble task but it is my chief duty to accomplish small tasks as if they were great and nobel" However, the seemingly little things we overlook play fundamental roles in our success equation...therefore as we see the big picture of handling gigantic responsibilities and gaining recognition on a global stage, we should pay close attention to little things that speak volume in our daily affairs. Don't overlook that cry from a little c

HEY LADIES.... I Just want to share with you ladies a few of my findings regarding relationships. My findings might sound familiar to you, but trust me, it is worth taking into serious consideration. An adage says "all that glitters is not gold". And the truth is that we women, GOD has given us the special grace to decipher "anything", but most times we are beclouded by our emotions, which causes us to make the wrong choice at the end of the day. GOD uses any means HE so chooses to reach out to us. And I want to believe that GOD might be reaching out to someone through this platform. You might have to consider your relationship if you notice these followings: When he runs from taking responsibilities. When he jokes about every single thing and avoids a serious conversation about you two. When he allows you to keep paying the bills whenever you go out on a date with him.. When he brags about the wealth of his father and how many connection

"Then Jonathan said to the young man who bore his armor, 'Come, let us go over to the garrison of these uncircumcised; it may be that the Lord will work for us'."    1 Samuel 14:6 When morale is low, the leader must do productive things to give the team a boost. In the beginning, any movement is a great victory. But to create positive morale, you need to pick up some speed. You need to be productive. After all, you can't steer a parked car! To get the team moving: Model behavior that has a high return -  People do what people see. The best way for them to learn what you expect of them is to model it yourself. Develop relationships with people of potential - To get any team going in the right direction, you need players who can produce.  Find the people who have the potential to be productive and start with them. Don't ask too much of them too soon. Leaders touch a heart before they ask for a hand. Set up small victories a

DO NOT LET YOUR LIFE BE A REGRET I had a very long and emotional talk about life generally with an older friend of mine today, who is a nurse. We talked about how people had lived all their lives pursuing and living other people's dreams rather than theirs. She told me that she had seen a lot of old people die and that the moments were usually very scary. She said what surprised her was that most of them had a lot in common which was "regrets". My friend is so loving and passionate with her job, she goes out of her way to do more for her patients, which made them have so much confidence and trust in  her, that they confined in her. My friend was pushed to asked them what their regrets were, and I was so shocked at what they said. It is good to make hays while the sun shines. GOD has given us the wisdom to live life to the fullest, we only need to ask HIM and HE will direct our paths. By so, we would live a fulfilled life, not a life of regret. Here were what th

...If we cannot now end our differences, at least we can help make the world safe for diversity...John F. Kennedy. German philosopher Johann Goethe taught, "Treat a man as he is and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he can and should be and he will become as he can and should be. In fact, most people respond to being treated with respect by elevating their thoughts and actions to the same level of respect they are given-or beyond.  I always pay close attention when a few people share accounts of their travails in life; most of the time, these life's blossom because someone picked interest in them and treated them with love and respect.  Every human being irrespective of age, class, and social diversity responds to respect, respond to people who see and draw out their hidden potential. The feeling of received respect cannot be hidden, you see it in their countenance, it is deeply expressed via the sound of their voice and tone of their response, you

Let the word of GOD lighten your heart and give you hope for a more beautiful tomorrow. I wish you a great night with this beautiful psalm:  Psalm 91 1 He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High Shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. 2 I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress; My God, in Him I will trust.” 3 Surely He shall deliver you from the snare of the fowler[a] And from the perilous pestilence. 4 He shall cover you with His feathers, And under His wings you shall take refuge; His truth shall be your shield and buckler. 5 You shall not be afraid of the terror by night, Nor of the arrow that flies by day, 6 Nor of the pestilence that walks in darkness, Nor of the destruction that lays waste at noonday. 7 A thousand may fall at your side, And ten thousand at your right hand; But it shall not come near you. 8 Only with your eyes shall you look, And see the reward of the wick

I know that the year is almost over and some people are not happy because their set goals or targets have not yet been met or achieved. I can relate very well to how you feel. But you know, there are still some significant things you have achieved this year that you feel is insignificant or not relevant at all to be thankful for. Be hopeful and know that it is not yet over until it is over! So instead of worrying and groaning,  start thanking GOD for all HE has done and not what you feel HE has not done. Here are the list of things I feel we should all be thankful to GOD for: The gift of life Good health Your happy family Your lovely and loving spouse Your children Your Job Your friends and well wishers The help you have received  The needs you have met The smile you have put on the face of people The sun and the rain Your car  The roof over your head Your cell phone to reach out to family and friends and also to be reached The clean water you dri

IT IS GOOD TO PRAISE THE LORD The combination of both words, as common as they are and as often as they are being used on a daily bases holds strong water in our walk with God. However the essence of thanksgiving can never be over emphasised.  I have observed overtime the conventional attitude, response, and ideology that is dominant each time the concept of thanksgiving is raised even in the midst of "firm believers". Often times, people interpret the idea in focus to connote setting aside a special moment in the year when you "go for thanksgiving"...new clothes are made, people dance to church, offer a special kind of offering, and all of that. As much as this is important, it is my pleasure to bring to your awareness that every single day of your life should be celebrated by giving thanks to God.    Charles Dickens once said " Instead of having one Thanksgiving Day each year, we should have 364 days of thanksgiving, use that one d

There is nothing you cannot achieve when you work together!  ". . . being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ."   Philippians 1:6 Right now you may not be in a position to place others on your team. In fact, you may be thinking to yourself, how do I find my own niche? If that's the case, then follow these guidelines: Be secure - If you allow your insecurities to get the better of you, you'll be inflexible and reluctant to change. And you cannot grow without change. Get to know yourself - Spend time reflecting and exploring your gifts. Ask for feedback. Do what it takes to remove personal blind spots. Trust your leader - A good leader will help you to start moving in the right direction. Or get on another team. See the big picture - Your place on the team only makes sense in the context of the big picture. If your only motivation for finding your niche is personal

YOUR DECISION Just one decision you make concerning your life can bring about your desired victory. The decision you make today is very important to your future.  The crowd will never decide for u. Something in you must distinguish you from the entire world and that is your decision.  For you to make the right decision,  you must know the mind of HE who is right. Your decision must be in line with GODs' will.  Make your life relevant. Begin your success story by making the right decision.  Your decision will target your destiny and bring it to fulfilment. Let us make the right decision to chart the course of our lives.  You need not concern yourself with what people will say. Your decision must cost you something. For example, when you make the hard decision to leave a bad relationship, when you quit some habits that had affected your life and that of your loved ones negatively etc.  When your life goes well, Kings will come to the brightness

WHAT IS YOUR MOTTO Marriage is two people on a life-long mission. Whether we notice it or not we all go into marriage with a goal or two in mind. And whatever that goal or mission is, will be different for every couple. The key is to have the same goal as your husband, and the master key is to have a goal that’s focused on the Lord. As I interact with both single and married folks, the line of conversation reveals the foundation upon which the relationship is built and most of the time, there is no definite definition of goals, dreams and principles that should guide and check mate progress. I affirm that mission statement doesn’t just help you formulate a focus, it helps you to keep that focus. Every organisation with vision and purpose will have a mission statement that guides and strengthens their convictions even in the midst of turbulent moments.  In the same way a united purpose is an asset to a couple. Our faith is a strongh

DON'T JUST OVERRATE "BIG"- IT IS NOT FAR FETCHED! We all want to do big things with our lives, but the truth is that change, happens over time. It is something you will have to practice gradually and keep at. It is not the size of the task that matters, but the frequency. It is not about how far you have gone, but how well. It is not about starting a thing, but how consistent you are at it to finish what you have started. I got from my series of  research, that for you to make it a habit to succeed, You will have to:  Set a goal (a positive goal) Decide on a habit that when practiced over time, will get you to your set goal because "we are what we repeatedly do"(Quote by Aristotle). No matter what, ensure that you practice the habit daily. Do not wait for a better time to do it. If you have only a minute to spare, just do it. That is how habit is created. You succeed when you choose a particular life style and do not waver at the face of a

Ask in faith Believe that you have received Confidently chase your dreams even in the midst of challenging circumstances Demonstrate God's power as he brings you in the circle of like-minded creatures Expect a good reward Forgive with ease Give what you have and expect a multiplication of your five loaves Humility is a prerequisite for great accomplishments Increase your faith and yield to personal development. Jettison the wrong motives and focus on values that build a strong and egalitarian society Keep your face like that of a flint because your task and responsibilities cannot afford the luxury of distractions Learn as well as teach Move as the spirit of God leads you Negative actions produce poor results...keep that in focus.  Open your heart to receive constructive criticisms from destiny helpers with clear motives Praise GOD at all times Quantum leap is the outcome of diligence,   responsibility, and self devel

THE SMALL HABIT THAT MAKES A BIG DIFFERENCE. A lot of times, starting small isn't really the problem people face. The huge problem is procrastination. We like to give  genuine reasons why we did not do what we were supposed to do- such like, "I am waiting for the right moment to do it", "I do not have enough time", "I have a hand-full at work and taking care of the family", "You do not understand what I am going through", " I am having a hard time", and on and on and on.. All these excuses are genuine, but threats to fulfilling GODs' plans and purpose for our lives. Let's stop making excuses. Stop waiting for the perfect time: To Love our families, To Do our work, To improve our performance, To feel good and happy (yes, that is a big job too, loving yourself) and To live our GOD-given lives to the fullest.  Embrace reality and try to do something extraordinary with what is set before you. Yes you can do

A LETTER FROM ABRAHAM LINCOLN TO GENERAL ROSECRANS, COMMANDER OF A CONFEDERATE OFFICER. " I have examined personally all the papers in the Lyons case, and I cannot see that it is a matter for executive interference. So I turn it over to you with full confidence that you will do what is just and right; only begging you, my dear General, to do nothing in reprisal for the past-only what is necessary to ensure security for the future; and remind you that we are not fighting against a foreign foe, but our brothers and that our aim is not to break their spirits but only to bring back their old allegiance. Conquer by kindness-let that be our policy".  Very truly yours, A. Lincoln. In the words of Albert Einstein; The ideals which have lighted my way, and time after time have given me new courage to face life cheerfully, have been kindness, beauty and truth. #Today, as we go about our daily lives and activities, let us all remember that a little act of kindness sho

ENTERTAINMENT/MOVIE "I've never been comfortable as an actor; I've never loved being in front of the camera". I didn't ever think I could direct, but I hope I'm able to have a career at it because I'm much happier".  Jolie said in an interview with Du Jour Magazine.  So, she's planning to leave acting behind? "Absolutely," Jolie responded. "I see myself moving into directing more and doing much less as an actor," Jolie later clarified to  Entertainment Weekly . "I have a few more in me, ones I have been developing for some time, so I will do those before I step away." Obviously, one of those movies she wants to see through is her 2015 film "By the Sea," which she wrote and directed, and also stars in with husband Brad Pitt. "It's a heavy film, and it's not easy for us," Jolie told DuJour of her upcoming project. "But even as you struggle through it, you're

The fear factor has been a recurring decimal that has constrained people from embracing change and going beyond boarders in the pursuit of their God-given dreams and vision. It however becomes extremely need-full for you to debunk your fears and launch out into the deep. As you meditate on these verses today,  fear which is your biggest enemy shall be vanquished! Psalm 23:4 "Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,  I shall fear no evil;  for you are with me; your rod and your staff comfort me". Psalm 27:1 "The LORD is my light and my salvation- whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life- of whom shall I be afraid". Psalm 118:6 "The LORD is with me; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me"? 2 Timothy 1:7 "For GOD did not give us the spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, love and of a sound mind". Deuteronomy 31:6 "Be strong and courageous.  Do not be afr