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To be a parent(s), you must have made up your mind to stand up for your right as a parent. A lot of people will want to tell you how you have not been a good parent because of their own ideology of parenting. An adage says, "all the five fingers are not the same". This means that we are all unique, likewise our children. You do not expect your elder child to have the same temperament as your second or last child. You must ensure that you have made up your mind to be a strong parent(s), who understands that raising up a child or children is a life time investment, and as such, needs your devoting your time, energy, enthusiasm, wisdom, and above all prayers into the life of your child(ren). From my research, here are a few of my findings why parents need to be firm while raising their children: Emotional Stability: When parents are emotionally stable, they will be able to understand the state of their children. They will be able to decipher by a mere look at the ch

To complain is to utter expressions of grief or lament, censure or resentment, to mumur or to find fault. To complain is to let a problem dominate your conversation as a person, to criticize, to groan, to nag, to whine... The Bible tells us to do all things without complaining or disputing. If you are not careful, you will live life complaining and nagging about everything due to the pressure that comes from the environment. When you live your life that way you will get results that you never bargained for. God's prescription is for you to live life above complaining because it hinders your expected fulfilment in life.  The Israelites, as they journeyed from Egypt through the wilderness they continuously complained over one issue or the other. Constant complaints reveals your level of immaturity and blinds you from seeing the opportunities that you should explore because every life challenge is a design to make you a better person.  Our Life: Many complain about vari

If you want to be a leader who attracts quality people, the key is to become a person of quality yourself. Leadership is the ability to attract someone to the gifts, services, skills and opportunities you offer as an owner, manager, or as a parent.  What's important in leadership is refining your skills.  All great leaders keep working on themselves until they become effective. Here are some specifics... Learn to be firm but not impolite. It's an extra step you have to take to become a powerful capable leader with a wide range of reach. Some people mistake rudeness for strength...it's not even a good substitute.  Learn to be kind but not weak. We must not mistake kindness for weakness. Kindness is certainly not an act of weakness. Be kind enough to tell someone the truth, be considerate enough to lay it on the line and not deal in delusion.  Learn to be bold but not a bully. It takes boldness to win the day. To build your influence, you have to walk

Influence is a means of getting what we want without command or compulsion. Unlike power, which can be exercised only by certain people in the work environment such as managers and executives by virtue of their position, influence can be exercised by anyone at any level of the organisation. For example, a savvy manager who enjoys the power of position sees the wisdom of not exercising it. She recognizes that she can get more of what she wants by applying influence. Explaining her concerns by asking for cooperation to meet departmental needs will be more effective than bossing people around and oppressing them with your position. Influence based leadership is a powerful approach that has helped salvage relationships and work ethics that were almost falling apart. The approach to life circumstances determines the possible outcome. TRUSTWORTHINESS AS A FOUNDATION FOR INFLUENCE: It's obvious that a person considered untrustworthy will have a hard time influencing the deci

This is wishing all my readers a Merry Christmas. I believe you all know the reason we celebrate Christmas. Just in case some do not, I would like to throw more light on it so you will have an understanding of the meaning of our celebration.  JESUS is the reason for the season of Christmas. This is because of GODs' unconditional love towards us all. As the scriptures say in John 3;16 ' For GOD so love the world that HE gave HIS only begotten son, that whosoever believes in HIM shall not perish, but have everlasting life". JESUS is our banner of love. HE is the essence of our Christianity- our salvation. It will give HIM so much joy that you have a clear understanding why HE accepted to come into this world. It is because HE loves us. HE wants us to carry this love along with us and share it in ways that will glorify HIM. It is no coincidence that Christmas is a special period where every where is lively and colourful, people are happy and excited and also the at

Hey Ladies.... I would love to share with you some real good stuff I got from my research. As much as we love to hear our men say sweet words to us, they are also moved by what we say to them as well. Though most men are expressionless unlike women, we show our emotions, just the way we feel, men are more of actions. Men are human beings and as such they love to hear you compliment them for a "job well done" like: I am proud of you: Because your man is always out there working to ensure that his family is comfortable, give him some kudos by telling him that. He will be so pleased to do more knowing that someone as special as you sees his efforts and appreciates them. Do not just act like that is his duty to fend for his family, after all, there are men out there, who do not even care about how their family are fairing. So, boost his ego and appreciate him by telling him how proud of him you are. You will see him in action. I love the way you take care of m

Stress is the way humans react both physically and mentally to changes, events and situations in their lives. People experience stress differently, but the reaction is based on your perception of an event or situation. It is often said that stress is a fact of life. Wherever you are and whatever you are doing, you might not be able to completely avoid stress but one thing I know you can do is to manage it, put it under your control to avoid the reverse which does not go down well. Changes in our lives-such as going to college, changing job, adjusting to a new environment, keeping up with child care and school run, preparing for a big event, moving into a new apartment can really be stressful. Most of the time, these frequent causes of stress are sourced from meaningful activities we have long anticipated for.  The first step in managing stress is to know yourself and carefully consider the activities that stress you out. Learning to do this takes time, and although you canno