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A great writer once said, "it took 15 years to discover I had no talents for writing, but I couldn't give it up because, by that time, I was too famous." Refusing to give up in the face of challenges and fears, is a good paymaster at last! You will need a stubborn determination to climb that seemingly impossible mountain. The truth is, no mountain is too high for you to climb.  During one of my adventures years ago, my friends and I decided we were going on a trip to the mountain, and to get to the top, we must climb! You know what, we made up our minds and embarked on the trip. The mountain was so high that when I mistakingly looked down, fear gripped me- I couldn't believe how far we had climbed. I almost fell off the cliff because I became scared and I had little or no strength to continue, but my friends were screaming "we are almost there, don't give up." I drew strength from the fact that I needed to get to the top of the mountain. So I co

No matter how your life has been, determine to hold on! Keep all your dreams so close to your heart and never give up, when your life seems to be falling apart. Let your dreams give you strength to carry on and help you find the future you feel has gone. Build on those dreams that you hols so dearly and you will start seeing your life more clearly.  Nothing is impossible, as long as you believe! Believe that whatsoever that seems unreachable or impossible is very possible! Yes you can! Have faith in yourself and trust GOD!  

Always think long term when it comes to maximising your investment. 

A wise man once said, "What sets one person apart from his peers is the extra effort taken to master their skills in life. The extra length to improve yourself is the difference that makes the difference."  Try sharpening your skills; set aside time to practice on your skills; might not yield you money yet, but it will in the long run, when you have become the "sought out" and a master in the market place. 

The fastest way to let go of hurt and pain, is to talk about it and genuinely forgive whoever that offended you. There is no better medicine for healing than talking about it and having the heart to forgive. Have a great weekend. 

Stop using circumstances to describe who you are! Refuse to call yourself what events of life call you.

Praise builds esteem, confidence and a strong bond of friendship. Our tone of voice can set in motion feelings of confidence or condemnation- feelings that last for a life time. Praise your child's natural interests and gift. Kind words or praises release hope to your child's future! Believe in your children, be proud of them, and they will go all the way, positively to make you proud! 

Learn to do some things yourself. Some people have sold their birthright to people who in the very essence they are far better than. Be patient enough to sit down and "do it yourself!"

A lot of us do not know how to manage stress. We allow stress to affect our manners and approach to people/friends.  Come on.... we are bigger than that. Let us learn to adapt to change and be in charge instead of allowing things to pressure us.  I have come to realise that as long as you think things must always be a certain way, you will live in frustration. Of course, we are humans, so we are supposed to get tired. When we are tired, it is a sign that tells us that we need not push ourselves over the edge! We need to rest, freshen up and bounce back stronger and better!  So, l et us learn to laugh at the face of stress, challenges. Let us learn to say "all is well". Remember, "you have what you say."

To our Dads; Did you know that it is possible for you to be absentee dads, even when you live under the same roof as your children?  Are you truly involved in your children's world? Do you know their interests, their favourite activities, their strengths, their friends? Your children need you as much as they need their mothers also.  Try and set aside time to relate and bond with your child(ren) and find out what your child(ren) is up to. Let that time become your way of saying to your child(ren), "you are important to me."  You might not see the importance now, but when you are old and needy, you will understand why you need to invest your time in your children! 

Take a problem to a mother and she will give you a solution that works; and when she prays for you, you are fine! Anyone has anything to say about mothers? Please your comments are welcome.

If you always feel a need to prove that you are as successful or even better than your partner, you are competing with him or her.  In a healthy relationship, the partners complement each other. They bring their strengths to bear on the relationship to make it succeed. They both realise they have weaknesses in one form or another and as such they use their strengths to compensate for the weakness of one another, thereby building a stronger relationship.  No matter what you experienced in the past that may have contributed to your competitive spirit, put it behind you!  Leave the past in the past and focus on the future!  If you are always trying to prove yourself to gain acceptance from your partner, two things are involved, either your mind is playing games with you or you are in an unhealthy relationship. 

There is something called "opportunity cost" in Economics. Do I have any Economic student in the house? It is the price you pay or the losses you suffer in other to gain something. It could be breaking a bad relationship. It could be cutting the number of hours you sleep, or number of times you watch TV. It could be giving up on those friends inorder to have a more blissful relationship with your spouse.  What do you need to stop doing that will eventually pay off for you? You can't advance without sacrifice. You can't become a good writer if you do not practice writing every day. Reject laziness! Ask yourself, "what must I drop or let go in order to make faster progress as parents, in my marriage, skills, job/career?"  It will please me to let you know that the brief delay you are experiencing now before your breakthrough could be the price for your character moulding by GOD!

Remain calm in every situation, because when you are at peace, you have dominion over that situation. 

If he or she often fights with you for no reason, teases and tries to hurt you with the intent of making you jealous or just for the fun if it, then you should be careful! True love is gentle and considerate and finds no joy in hurting the object of its affection!  Please your comments are welcome! 

My mom once said that Accountable people usually exhibit these qualities. Check and see if you've got them: They are capable of knowing when they are wrong and admitting it, even before they are confronted.  They are willing to hear, quick to learn and open to counsel.  They are honest. They do not fake and are committed to the truth regardless of how much it hurts.  They keep to their words; and if they happen not to be in time,  they will keep you informed or would have genuine reasons.  Ok. One will say, these are high standards. Well, you are very right! It is a standard that pride, meanness, fake and whatever negative attributes will not tolerate!  I believe there are lot more great qualities of accountable people.  May GOD help us to be accountable at all times. We can do it! It's all in the mind. Let us make up our minds to be accountable to GOD, our spouses, children, parents, jobs, trusted friends and whatever that has been entrusted in our

I have come to realise that when you listen, you will hear what you need to hear! But if you are too busy talking and trying to make your points all the time, you will miss what you should be hearing! Get that?  Paying attention, Lady Christy said, "saved me from what could have been years  of tears and disappointment."

A toxic relationship will take you down if you do not walk away from it. A toxic relationship is like a leg with gangrene. If you do not amputate it, the infection will spread.  Unless you have the courage to cut off what won't heal, you will end up losing more -much more!

Do not laugh at people when they fail, even if you think or feel they deserve it! I want to believe that it feels better for you to laugh at your own mistakes rather than laughing at other people's mistakes! Nobody is above mistakes except GOD! When GOD created man, and man failed, my bible tells me that GOD regretted creating man and that HIS heart was troubled! So will you say that GOD made a mistake by creating you and I? Listen my friend, everybody deserves a second chance! GOD shows mercy even to the worst person!