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Mind who you share your problems with; because that might be what they wished you in the first place. 

Regardless of what you may have been through, perhaps you feel scared by the ugly past. May be you think you can never make it no matter how hard you try to put yourself together. Know this; you are too valuable to GOD. GOD painted a wonderful piece of artwork one day, and that painting is you.  Count yourself favoured that GOD had to look closely back into his "painting" to discover that you needed an upgrade!  Did you know that the most tidious part of sculpturing, is when the sculptor had to cut off some parts to give his work a perfect finish? So isn't it high time you relaxed, hold yourself in and let the "craft master" do HIS perfect work on you?  The hard times you are going through is preparing you for a greater height, only if you can see GOD in your situation! You cannot walk through a long rough path and remain the same. Two things happen; either you become a better, happy, loving person or you turn out to become a bitter, doubtful, unpl

My mom once said, whatever you desire to do in life, you will most likely find out that someone has done it before or is doing it. Try and find out clues on how the person was able to succeed, then learn.

Some things that happen in life is normal to some people (they overlook it or take it for granted), but to someone else, it is a miracle! 

Why do some men consciously leave all interaction with their children to their wife? Did you know  that children with emotionally absent fathers feel abandoned and distanced. Absent fathers create void, a vacuum, emptiness in their children. A strong relationship between  a dad and his kids helps teach children discernment: how to make judgements about relationships, how to deal with challenge, how to be brave. When a man is involved in his children's lives, it gives them confident in relating to other people.  And if Dad is not around, a child, especially a young girl can grow up vainly searching for deeply satisfying relationships that promise to meet that need. (This is no myth, this is the truth!) Extremes in behaviour are the result when young women do not enjoy a caring relationship with their fathers! Young girls jumping in and out of relationships at a frenzied pace, or you see girls transferring the fantasy if the father they never had to all men and seek a d

GRACE IS STRONGER THAN LABOUR!

Some ladies say that they are waiting for a man to make them happy. But the truth is that your happiness is in your hands. Your happiness is a choice. You determine if you will be happy, how happy you want to be and for how long you want to stay happy. You cannot wait to become happy tomorrow. Learn to become happy! The happier you are with yourself, the easier it becomes to attract the right man into your life. Happy people are like magnets, they attract good people into their lives!

Secrets have a way of being discovered or exposed by someone. 

Have you let that beginning be a steppingstone to help make things better, or has it become a stumbling block, tripping you up and keeping you from answering fulfilling life's purpose? Are you running ahead of GOD? Are you willing to lay your hopes and dreams on the altar so you can really be certain you are following GOD'S plan for your life and not your own? 

I realised that your development can take place only when you cross paths with people who stretch you.  Limiting yourself to people who do not challenge your abilities (mostly indirectly), robs you of personal growth and forces you to live in a secure but shriveled world. If you are going to progress to the next level, draw strength from your challenges, learn from their doubts about your abilities, spend time with those who are already there or who at least know how to get there!

Dated 18th August, 1997. My writing skills didn't start today. Wow! I saw this note and I thought I should share it. My mom never stopped lecturing us about life, but I guess we humans love adventure and wouldn't mind doing things our own ways most times. It is a good thing we know better now, that it pays to listen. Thank GOD. Read below: If you genuinely desire to connect with a good man or woman, you must let go of all the time wasting, purposeless and unproductive relationships.  A bad relationship will hinder you from connecting with the man or woman who is right for you.  Do not try to manage a mediocre relationship.  The danger of holding onto a bad relationship for too long is that after a while, it will be very difficult for you to leave, because you have grown emotionally and destructively attached to the person.  Do not be scared of being alone. Better to be alone than to be in an abusive relationship.  Pray fervently to GOD for the ri

The moment we admit our true feelings, we begin to move in the direction of the solution. But the more we deny our challenges (weakness, bad traits and habits etc) the worse our situation becomes! Psychologists said that when you admit your problems, you will see yourself attain about 50% victory over them.  The worst thing one can do to oneself is to lie or to not even realise that you have a problem! That's a terrible way to live.  When I told myself the truth about some certain challenges I was facing something ago, help came; and here I am telling you that when you admit your situation, that's a way forward!  Don't shy away from  it. Deal with it and you will enjoy who you will/have become!

A lot of folks will agree with me that, even with plenty of money, some people still battle in their minds. They crave for inner peace- which money cannot buy!  Peace will make you have control over your issues. Did you know that there is a way you will have too much money and it will overwhelm you? But when you have peace, you can control every situation that having too much money may bring!  Yes, it's true! Money can be overwhelming if you do not know how to handle it. That is why you hear about rich people commit suicide, and you will wonder why.  That said, it is very important we surround ourselves with people who are like an oasis in the desert; people who can shelter us with their sense of inner peace and calm. Not people who pose as friends and change like the weather! There are a lot of them out there, it is when  you need them the most that they will disappoint! Oh, what a friend I have in JESUS! HE never fails me! Inner peace will make you a more secure

You were born with your outer beauty. Your physical qualities are the result of the genetic mix between your mom and dad. You took on certain qualities from their genes. If you were born with a fantastic figure and face, you had absolutely nothing to do it it; that's your parents....Thank them. If you are not physically endowed, it also came from your parents.  But your inner beauty is your sole responsibility. I realised that you alone will determine how beautiful you want your inner qualities to be. It all depends on your willingness to let go of bad traits and let GOD work on your inner self, which is the real you! Do you know that you can so develop your inner qualities that people will find your attractive, compelling and irresistible!  You and I can agree that at some point in our daily activities, we have been put off by a beautiful or handsome person who lacked character.  You may spend thousands of money to beautify your body, buy expensive designers clothes,

The year is wrapping up and I am very excited because it is going to end well for you and I. Whatever you are trusting GOD for and whatever promise you have received from GOD, hold on to it; HE will surely come through! HE always does, because nothing is too hard for GOD! I want to say this to you out there! We must learn to thank GOD for who we are! Do not feel less of yourself because you are not like the other person who is doing well and is being recognised. You are not supposed to be someone else; you are you! Uniquely made! Custom made!  Instead of sulking and feeling less, because you feel you do not look good enough like that beautiful woman or you feel you are not as talented as the singer in your church, find out from GOD what HE wants you to do or who HE wants you to be! You may also be feeling less appreciated, but do not try to sell your honour because you want to be appreciated.  Appreciate yourself and tell yourself how good you are! Tell yourself, &quo

Excuse is not an excuse. 

Do not look back at your mistakes for too long, instead, learn from it and move forward!  Do not let your mistakes define you, but see them as lessons of wisdom!  The past cannot be changed, but the future is yet in your power, if you let go and let GOD!  Anyone who has laughed at you because of your mistakes do not know better-that you are way too ahead of him/her in life and experiences! 

Who are you living your life for? 

Wherever you are in this journey called life, wherever you may be employed, wherever you may be in your domestic situation, wherever you may be in your age, your health or your lifestyle, GOD may be preparing you for a great surprise in order to find you faithful!  Rather than running from HIM, run towards HIM! And rather than looking for someone to blame for the pain that you are going through now, or the change that is on going, look upward and realise that this arrangement is divinely orchestrated for your good and for GOD'S glory! Have a great weekend friends....

A woman once said, Beauty attracts men but wisdom keeps them. Elegance catches men’s attention but intelligence convinces them. Nagging irritates men but constructive silence weakens them. The ‘boy’ in every man pumps out occasionally, the ability to handle this is a woman’s truest maturity. Men have secret struggles and silent pains, should you ever find them out, you have exhibited the greatest maturity. In the long-run,  your ‘words’ matters more to a man than your ‘looks’, so invest the right words. Earn a man’s respect and he will consider you the yard stick for all his action. Learn to mold the moods of your man. Men will naturally give u their futures if they can recall your maturity in yesterday’s issues… Women are everywhere but queens are scarce. Let the queen in you come alive and he will hold you in high esteem. Woman, Build your Home through Wisdom!

Why is it that when a man and a woman connect too soon, the man generally ends up pulling away, while the woman feels more needy?  Please let's hear your thoughts. 

How long have we focused on our outer appearances that we no longer recognise our inner beauty, inner strength, inner glory?  Your real value is not your makeup, neither can it be bought. Your real strength is more than a facade- outward apparels, which is very deceptive. The real thing that causes a man to need you  that he cannot leave you is not what is on you, but what is in you!  You know, the truth is, when you focus on the wrong areas, you don't get the right results. 

Have you ever had someone whom you casted the weight of your confidence on, only to have your trust defrauded in a moment of self-gratification and indulgence? Someone who has a selfish need can jeopardise all that you have!