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Where there is no vision or clarity of purpose, there will be total confusion. Do not ignorantly go with the flow, just to see what happens. Do not live your life like that. You are special.  Whatever you set out to do, clearly give it a definition. A lot of us were victims of not defining what we really wanted in the past. We allowed others to define for us, and you know what? The outcome isn't ever a sweet one when you allow someone else to define your purpose, trust me.  You are the one looking for something and you know exactly what you want. So, if what is in front of you isn't what you want or does not match the "name" of what you are looking for, do not accept anything less! As long as you know what you want, you will never get confused, no matter how well an offer is packaged!  It is a very wonderful thing, when you are living the life you'd desired to live, just because you knew what you wanted and you went all the way to achieve it- with the

A very short piece, but fully loaded. Read below: When you put GOD first, you live by HIS scripturally prescribed standards for you. You do not compare your marriage to others or permit external unscriptural forces to influence and control your relationship. Your marriage is regulated by scriptural values and principles. When you put GOD first, you will enjoy HIS peace and comfort all your life's journey.

Never compare your children with others. No child is the same, even the ones from the same womb. Never panic  when your child is unwell. A mothers approach especially towards the affairs of her children, play a big role in the way a child responds to a situation, which would affect the child's life, positively or negatively. If your child(ren) always sees you cry at every given unwelcoming situation, it will affect their emotion as they grow. You will/ might end up raising moody and unhappy children. Never ignore your instinct; it is very powerful. Never always be too forward to assist your child in some "do it yourself" activities, even if they give you the "i can't do it" expression. Always encourage your child to learn to do some basic things herself, like feeding herself, tieing her shoe lace, carrying her school bag, setting her table for breakfast or lunch or dinner, reading her story books, doing her homework etc. This will help your chi

One of the great people I know said that, the greater the difference in the energy level that exists between two people, the lesser the chances that they will enjoy a healthy and compatible relationship together; and they will have so much to complain about unless they are ready to go all the way to make sacrifices, which is what marriage is all about anyway. As much as a lot of people, including me were not even aware of this fact while considering choosing a life partner, this saying happens to be true, though a few of us got lucky. That is why they say that knowledge is power and if you are single, ensure you consider this factor very well before choosing a life partner. For example, if you are the party hard, fun and out going type, choose a partner who loves as much fun, but must not necessarily have exact same energy, because no two people has the same energy level. As humans, we all tend to operate on certain energy levels. This energy level will influence and determine

Jumoke, accidentally walking into her destiny in the line of duty - hawking her Agege bread on the street of Lagos, Nigeria.  Olajumoke, the Agege bread seller who came to light "accidentally" when TY Bello, one of Nigeria's ingenious photographers captured her unknowingly as she passed by with her loads of bread on her head, during a photo session with Tinie Tempah, an American Artist. Her news is all over the media and people are excited and happy for her. This is a story of "From grass to grace." Olajumoke, is a 27 years old mother of two, who came to Lagos with her little girl for greener pastures, while her husband stayed back with their 4 year old child. A lot of people have attributed her story to luck, but you see, I call it "remembrance". GOD remembered her good work!  All along, this young woman had struggled to sell her Agege bread,  and could only make gain of  300-500 naira per day, no one noticed her efforts- most people m

Most times, I feel excited and excellently smart, while sometimes I feel like I am just there whiling away time. And this is how basically everyone sees it. As long as you are not out there making some cash yet, you are a loser. You know what am talking about?  Okay, If you find yourself in such situation and you have no one to share your thoughts with or even understand what you are going through at the moment, look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself, "everything is going to be fine." You are not alone in this; a lot of people go through some stuff sometimes you know. Encourage yourself, and remind yourself those times you'd "pull down mountains" with your bare hands.  Hey, those things we call mistakes most times actually are blessings in disguise, do you agree? Yes, tell yourself that. Everything is going to be fine. Do the best you can with what you have. You are not everybody; you are you. If writing gives you joy, go ahead and continue t

Someone once said that, being filthy rich will not automatically make anyone happy, but the process of acquiring it will bring more happiness than the wealth itself. I agree.  To me, the main purpose of acquiring wealth in the first place, is to provide value to others. If you are living your life's purpose, if your heart is in the right place, money will never have anything to do with your levels of happiness. Too many rich people out there, yet they are very lonely, they are not happy in spite of their riches. They indulge in so many negative activities in search of happiness. But no, the truth is you can never find happiness in those places. You can only find happiness when you look within yourself to discover your true purpose aside from the riches. Only then can the two, riches and happiness synchronise.  The point is, no amount of money will really make you happy. It is about finding your purpose. Yet, In addition, NEVER is poverty a thing to consider- it does not b

Sometimes, misunderstanding arises even in the very best of relationships. Oh yes, it does.  Someone once said that, if there are no misunderstanding in your relationship, you should get suspicious that something is very wrong. When you are learning each other, there is every tendency that arguments would occur, may be as a result if experiences, personalities or even background differences. But whichever it is, the willingness to admit, face and discuss issues that cause misunderstandings, which lead to emotional stress in your relationship is a vital key to a successful relationship.  A lot of couples hide their feelings and emotions because they want to avoid misunderstanding or quarell with their partners. They harbour all kinds of emotional hurt and pretend that everything is okay. With every passing time, these little unexpressed negative emotions become deep rooted problems, which eventually lead to an implosion (violent outburst from the inside)- that is when you

Money plays quite a significant role in life and relationships, but successful relationships are not built primarily on money. When money is available, needs are met with ease, it will also help you to pursue and fulfil your dreams with ease. Money is a big advantage to your abilities, skills and expertise. With money in your hands, you are able to fully express and utilise GOD'S gifts and talents. Money gives you access to places, people and sometimes projects that guarantee your future. Without money, some doors may be closed on you and your dream may just keep struggling to find expression. You may be confined to a particular place or social class because of lack of financial freedom.  However, having said all these about money, I will like to say that money in itself does not determine the success or failure of a relationship. If all the EXTREMELY IMPORTANT factors are not in place in your relationship, but you have lots of money to meet your material and physical need

Happy New Month Friends!!!! I am grateful to GOD for HIS faithfulness thus far. I  am so excited about this February , honestly. I hope you are too. Hope is powerful, never lose it! So here is something inspiring I will love to share with you, and I hope you get inspired by it, even as we welcome the new month of February. Oh it's leap year, you know that? And we are having 29 days in this month. So you have all the days to achieve greatness. Let's do this! The things I have learnt over the years and I am still learning; Let your past go- mistakes, regrets, things you could have done right but you did not, and so on. The truth is, your past can never affect your future unless you let it. Whatever happened in your past that seemed unpleasant, could be a blessing in disguise. You learnt better. But you cannot learn better if you are still holding on to your past. So let it go! You can never please everybody, so stop trying too hard. No matter how good, caring,

When I listen to most successful people, they always say something like, "when I was a kid, my parents told me that I would never amount to anything in life, or my high school teacher once told me that I would never become a billionaire. Did they believe them? Well, most of them did and allowed those words to become true, but the ones that didn't, prove them wrong by being successful against all odds.  Most of the people who failed would say that they strived to fit in because they were afraid of being different. They feared the work, stress and fear itself surrounding standing out. And I ask, who was the last guy who fit in and changed the world?  The challenge most people face is the fear of standing out. They want to trend with everything that is trending. You could enjoy the hype for a moment, but at the end, it fizzles away. That is what happens when you want to fit in.  Standing out is scary, especially when everybody around you is trying hard to fit in

They say that assumption is the mother of all mistakes.  How many times have you assumed something and it turned out to be true? Hardly. I want to urge us to learn to be "double sure"( borrowing my sister's words) about any situation.  Assumption has led a lot of people into regrettable and irreversible mistakes. As hurting as you may be feeling, do yourself the good of being a little more patient to verify before you draw conclusions and do something terrible, that you will live the rest of your life regretting you'd done better. On a lighter note, let me share a true life story with you, on why you should never assume.  Few years ago, I got a job in an engineering firm and my take home was a good one. I was also given an official car and a driver. On my first day at work, I was out and about with the driver. So with so much excitement, I called my mom and was telling her how happy and excited I was, and how I was cruising the whole town with a brand

There is this saying: out of sight, is out of mind. Does this apply to husband and wife that are not based in the same station? Here's my answer to his question: For couples who are closer and have a strong relationship with each other, out of sight will make them grow fonder with each other.  But for couples who are always at log ahead with each other, or a situation where the man treats  wife very wrongly and vice versa, out of sight will/might really become out of mind. But what should work in this situation should be for the couple to talk about their situation. And ensure they keep in touch very closely. Please share your thoughts on this. 

Do not get lost in the crowd. Carve out your own niche. Discover what works for you. Work and walk with what works for you, not what other people think. It is hard to toss a person who is focused. Focus on your abilities, because you have them. GOD is all wise, and could not have created you with nothing! You've got it friend. Always create time for yourself and do some soul searching from time to time. That person you are running after could be secretly admiring your potentials even though you are not seeing them. This is not a cliché.  The truth is, you are who you say you are! Get on yourself and happen. Remember, patients is a virtue. Do not be in a hurry. Your chances of succeeding are as big as the sky. Stay motivated. Be inspired!

Hey friends, it's been a while we had a talk on singles/married. Today, I just have a few things I would like to share with you and I will be so pleased to read from you as well. I had a chat with a senior friend yesterday and we dived into so many topics, one of which was on bonding, and I said yes, this is worth talking about. Bonding is not a new word when it comes to most couples, but I would not like to assume that everybody knows what it is all about, that is why I would like you all to share your thoughts too.  It has been said that, successful couples forge a strong bond which leads to deeper intimacy and love in the relationship. This is so true, I must say.  Bonding is the process by which you and your partner connect on more intimate and deeper level. Inability to bond will result to superficial, selfish and myopic relationship, which will not take you very far as a couple. Bonding keeps you focused and centered on each other. No more looking outside.  When

GOD created every individual differently; different looks, different talents, different reasonings, different abilities, different life's experiences and so on.  You will be doing yourself harm if you keep comparing yourself with others. You will not go far if all you do is to measure your success and how far you've come with others. Their experiences are different from yours, and their timing is also different from yours.  Because everyone wants to be on the fast lane and become wealthy in a twinkle of an eye without any experience at all, people are not putting so many things into consideration. All they care about is how to do anything to make money.  It is so sad that a man, today, took his own life because he felt his mates were doing very well and he was just there pacing. Is it not better to pace than to be stagnant? I am so displeased at this news.  Please dear friend, it is better to pace than to not pace at all. Stop comparing yourself with others. S

Get in here friends, I want to share something exciting and educative about Sugar Cane with you.  All my life I never considered Sugar Cane as anything important, because from where I come from, people have this notion that Sugar Cane is for poor people. I have never come across any rich person(s)  with exotic cars stop to buy Sugar Canes, only mostly pedestrians. But while we were looking down on this beautiful nature's gift to man, a lot of people who know the health benefits of Sugar Cane are benefiting greatly from it.  The health benefits of Sugar Cane can never be overemphasised. That is why I want to share with you some of the facts I got from my research on Sugar Cane.  Here in Nigeria, the weather is excessively hot right now and the sun is very intense, which causes fatigue and dehydration. And instead of opting for artificial energy drinks, I juice some Sugar Cane, and it's amazing how fast it rehydrates my body and boosts my energy, and not only tha