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WISDOM FOR LIVING Your success is determined by what you are willing to ignore.  Stop talking about your failures if you really want to succeed. King David's secret was that he was only conscious of victory and not defeat.  Do not try to always correct everything around you. Learn how to ignore some certain things.  It helps alot. Every successful marriage is the willingness to trivialise some issues. Make some decisions that bring peace. Bitterness is deadlier than injustice.  The worst person to look up to is a man or woman who has no focus. Money or a career should serve a marriage;  a marriage should never serve money or career.

IT IS VERY IMPORTANT I have heard a lot of women talk about their husbands, and it is only few that have said really nice things about their husbands. While this has been a deep concern to me, I did a little research about why these women do not feel happy and satisfied with their husbands. Most of them talked about how busy their husbands are which is the reason why they spend little or no time at all with their families. And as such, a big gap is created in the relationship between the man and his wife and his children which causes disunity, constant misunderstanding between the man and his wife and generally creating an unhealthy relationship.  There is an adage which says, where your heart is, there lies your treasure. So no matter how busy a man is, he will always create time for his family, if he really cares about them and anything short of that is a mere excuse. The man needs to understand that his wife needs his undivided attention from time to time. He can stre

Often times I have come across people who feel that they are not as fortunate as others.  And I feel bad seeing them do less or not even contribute at all to their society because of what their environment or society had turned them into. But on one on one encounter,  these same people prove to be no where at all, what the society calls them. They seem to be more open and more lively and have a lot to offer. This is a case of a little girl who was unfortunate to have become a victim of life challenging circumstance, and when everyone else had given  up on her, after series of encounters with the right people who helped her come back up,  and groomed her into knowing how special and valuable she is, no matter what the society thought of her, she decided to let her past go.  Right now, this little girl, whom the society termed incapable has grown into a strong and confident woman. That is why it is very important not be in a hurry to throw away someone, just beca

I got a call from a younger friend today, she is 13 years old. She told me how she likes reading my posts and how she was touched by the article, "a friend indeed" I posted this morning. We got talking and she told me how difficult it has been for her to keep a lasting friendship with her female friends and how she wishes she could have at least one friend she can call "a friend indeed".  While I probed further, she started crying and told me that her friends do not like her. She said she does not hold back anything from her friends  and that she treats them very nicely and makes them feel at home whenever they are around her, but whenever they have little argument, they say a lot of hurtful things to her. She got so emotional, but I was able to calm her down and told her that everything will be alright.  However, she said her mom is aware of the whole situation and she gave her possible reasons why her friendship with these friends do not last.  Hear

The popular expression " A friend in need, is a friend indeed" often times is used to affirm the true value of friendship.  A friend's worth is measured when there is a consistent display of actions that communicates value. No wonder the Bible puts it this way..."Iron sharpens iron, so does a friend sharpen the countenance of his friend". Countenance as used here is a Metaphor for every form of support that moves your friend to the right direction.  It is easy to attribute "help" to financial resources, but "help" as it were could be a hand to hold, a heart that understands, an ear that will listen and provide valuable contributions without being judgemental, a voice of reason that strengthens your faith even when it feels like the world is closing in on you.   In the world we are in today, we hardly find "friends in deed" who care a great deal and could go out of their way to put on hold tempo

The story of the woman with hemorrhage recorded in the synoptic gospels is very pathetic but didactic. It conveys a great moral lesson on the power of thoughts. It is very glaring from her biography narrated in the gospels that nothing in life changes until thoughts are altered. Everything works according to the frequency of thoughts released by man. She had spent all her estate yet there was no amelioration in her state. Despite the care of many medical experts and professionals her case grew worse. Until she changed her thoughts healing never came forth.  Lives change because men think right. Things equally get worse because men simply don’t think. Thoughts are very powerful. Thoughts become things. The world around us existed first in the realm of thoughts. This woman not only lost her wealth, dignity and affluence; her relatives and friends abandoned her. As long as she kept thinking negatively, her illness worsened, her finances dissipated, until she became derelict. The ne

I sometimes wonder how life would have been were I the only one living on the planet. The thought of it is Inexplainable. The world would have been terribly lonely. Imagine how lonely Adam was when his only company were the animals. No wonder GOD said "it is not good that the man should be alone". HE knew that Adam would not have survived another day alone,  that was why  HE made him a companion,  Eve. However, GOD understands the importance of family.  HE understood that Adam could not function without family.  That is why family is very important.  In other words, no man is an island. You cannot be so wealthy or too important to not want to involve yourself in the family. I have seen a lot of people who do not joke with their families and I have seen people who have said they can do without "family". It is only a matter of time, they come crawling back.   Someone once said, that it is important to remember what life is all about - the lo