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Charles Lindbergh said, "Success is not measured by what a man accomplishes, but by the opposition he encountered, and the courage he maintained in his struggle against it". Abraham Lincoln wrote, "Success is going from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm". Elbert Hubbard wrote, "There is no defeat, except in no longer trying; no really insurmountable barrier, save our own inherent weakness of purpose". I have come to discover that talent alone does not lead to success,  but drive, determination and with the help of GOD. People who ever did anything worth while would tell you they stuck with these attributes.  

Part of GODS creative design was for humans to become receptive to the display of genuine love and affection.

If you are in a relationship, whether intimate or platonic and you cannot say how you feel (without the person taking it all out on you as if you committed an unforgivable crime), it is a sign that you are treading on a life dangerous snake. If you genuinely call someone your friend, always make room for the person to share his or her thoughts/feelings. It doesn't hurt. Even if it does, you should be free to express yourself as well. That's what friends are for. Things must not always go your way all the time. #Deep thought

THERE ARE TOO MANY DAMAGED SOULS OUT THERE. BE CAREFUL WHO YOU MAKE YOUR FRIEND. BECAUSE NO MATTER HOW TRUE YOU ARE TO THEM, THEY WILL NEVER SEE IT.

It is wise to alter and change the flaws in ourselves and even wiser to acknowledge and embrace our calling.  Allow the true you to become strong. Do not let anyone or even yourself talk you into believing that, because you were assumed to be a shy person, you cannot become bold and strong. The truth is, you can do all things through CHRIST that strengthens you.  Discover your gift. Your gift is not far from that "thing " you truly love doing the most. 

No farmer manipulates the ground until the seed he planted breaks through the soil and bears fruits. All the farmer does is to plant the seed, waters it and allows the only one who has the power to make it grow(GOD) to take care of the rest. And in the right season, the fruits come forth.  Manipulation is evil and the end is always disastrous, because the manipulated always becomes embittered towards the manipulators who think they have won. And you all know what an embittered person can do.  Please desist from manipulating people, there is no gain on it and also it never ends well. 

A woman's influence can make or break a man . It can turn the tide of a nation's destiny.  After all the atrocities and segregation,  it was a lovely little woman sitting on a bus who catapulted the civil rights movement into action. Why? Because, influence is more powerful than authority. It is a heart thing. 

Praise is a weapon.

People who believe in themselves become history changers. They are the ones who set trends and break records. They boldly do what others say cannot be done. These people are very often the inventors, athletic superstars, and the multi millionaires of a generation.  When you start believing in yourself, you will start making a difference in the world around you. People who believe in themselves inspire others to believe in themselves as well. Your self-confidence is directly connected to how you think and feel you are making a difference in the world.

PIM:  As a financial planner, how do you cope with family affairs despite tight schedules?  ODE: I love my family alot. My family is next to GOD before my business. I come to work at the comfort of my family, though I resume earlier than  my staff at times. GOD is GOD,  family is family, business is business. I strike a balance yo avoid lapses. That is why I don't work on weekends. Despite all the circumstances, I shut down on Friday and resume on Monday, while closes 6 or 7pm on week days.  PIM: Did you receive any aid from any politician because it is perceived v that success is tied to politicians as far as Abuja is concerned?  ODE: Certainly not. I attribute my success to GOD because HE is always on my side and whatever I want I get. From the inception, I knew that I was not going back. I am not successful because I do what others have not done, but because I have a Father that cannot forsake me at all times.  PIM: What is the driving force?  ODE: Integ

Do not live your life without any drive, desire,  purpose. I have come to realise that what I genuinely desire comes to me, it doesn't matter how long it takes. I hear people say, "oh well, I take life the way I see it". What a lie to live with!  Life cannot give you what you do not desire, because you would not even know what to do with it or how to handle it.  But when your heart desires something and it comes,  you will deeply appreciate it and thrive to make it better.  Your life is not an accident. Start today to desire something - something good, beautiful, worthy of giving thanks and see how they come to you. It's amazing how this "thing" works, but it sure works. And above all, desire GOD! 

Waiting is part of protocol, so learn to wait.  Though waiting can be very frustrating, especially when you have to wait for someone/something you do not know when he or she (it) will arrive.  An example is when  you have to wait for someone in an office forever and the most frustrating part is when that person does not show up, after cancelling all your appointments to meet that particular one.  But in all these, I finally realised that waiting teaches you patience, discipline, self control. So, while you wait for whatever it is you are trusting GOD for, see GOD in it. I know waiting can be very frustrating, but try and let go and wait in the line, it will surely get to your turn. 

Far too many times, it is not what a woman says to a man, it is the way she says it that causes him to rebel against a perfectly good advice.  Be that as it may, it takes a man who has understood his wife to know which measure to take, whether to rebel or talk to the wife in a way that she would know that the seemingly good advice was not going down well, instead of fighting her (even when her intent is genuine).  The fastest way to resolve any arguement between couples is not by keeping quiet on each other (thereby giving room to the devil), but by "having a heart to heart talk", rounding it off with a word of prayer and finally "getting down to business". There is an adage in my dialect that says "O nweghi ihe eji trouble eme" which means, trouble is useless to start engaging in it. So, Let love lead the way my dear friends. 

Men or Women who seek immediate gratification for their deep longings will fall prey to deception.

It is very important for you to be certain that you are dating the right man for you.  A woman needs affection, attention, protection, love, care and understanding from her husband.  Most times, the pressure from family, friends, relatives and the society affect our decisions in making the right choices. There's this conception about the age of a woman making her fully ripe for marriage.  But I have come to realise that age doesn't have anything to do with marriage.  It is all in the mind.   If you are mature in your mind and you are well informed about taking a certain decision,  do you consider age as a factor?  Hardly.   So my dear ladies, do not let anyone convince you to get married when you are not sure about the man you are dating no matter your age. Does he have self control?  Is he spirit filled?  Know that one thing is to get born again and another thing is to get baptised in the HOLY SPIRIT(a talk for another day).  You know yourself ver

I came across these beautiful words by Tiffany Romero and I thought I should share with you.  No knowledge is a waste like the wise man would say.  "Where you put your attention is where you get your results". "Live your life as the woman you want your daughter to become". And hey..beautiful images ain't they? Photo Credit: The SITSgirls

Cherish what you have. Do not think that the grass is greener on the other side.

There is no progress without the process! 

Do you know that there are people some where,  even people you know who have an opinion about you. They feel they know you and as such expect you to behave in certain ways that would please them? Oh yess, I guess I am speaking someone's mind right now.  The truth is, as much as it is very good to leave a good impression, most of the time,  you need not live your life to impress the world (aside your loved ones who mean well for you and most importantly GOD ALMIGHTY). Do not go defending yourself and trying to get people's approvals.  You might find yourself in a situation where you feel you need to clarify yourself (being defensive more like), but I tell you my friend, most times, It is rather the best time to keep quiet and let them assume whatever...  The world is not a place where you owe people who do not have a clue of your struggles and where you are coming from any form of explanation. As long as you have a right standing with GOD, your spouse, your chil

Do not always be afraid to make mistakes. And do not envy those who tell you that they have never made mistakes. Your experiences make you have more advanced knowledge about life and how to deal with people, situations.  You are at a more advantage over these people than they can ever imagine.  In fact, count it a privilege that you have an opportunity to give it a try ones more. If you keep avoiding people(to stay away from making mistakes), how will you learn?  An adage says "a person who has never made mistakes has never achieved anything".

Everything a woman has to offer to her husband is actually within her. It is not in the accumulation of outer trappings. As much as a woman has needs, so does the man.

THE FOOL REVENGES, THE WISE FORGIVES.  

No matter the plans of our detractors, I see a great Nigeria.  I see a new Nigeria. I see a redeemed Nigeria.  My hope is not in Buhari, but in GOD who is going to use him to salvage my dear great country.  Long live Nigeria.  GOD bless the Federal Republic of Nigeria. GOD bless President Muhammadu Buhari!  Photo credit : Linda Ikeji

Fellow countrymen and women, in a couple of hours,  Mohammadu Buhari (MB) would have taken the oath of office as our President and Commander in Chief of our great nation. I have used the adjective "great" out of my incurable optimism of a great Nigeria, the giant of Africa, and my resolute conviction that if well governed, it will sooner than later grow to become a giant also of the world, in every respect! Unfortunately, this giant nation, endowed with immense human and natural resources, has been held down for too long, bound by the fetters of self-inflicted retardants of poor leadership, greed, and profligacy; and an unfortunate and inexplicable inability to put in place long term national development plans and follow through with same. Any plan at all is better than no plan! President Muhammadu Buhari has the uphill task and onerous duty of redirecting our nation to its desired path of inevitable greatness without any further delay. If he gets it right from the start

The ability to use the right tool for the right job is very important.