Hello There! Welcome to Nemerulez' Blog

Here are some simple I can's  and I am's to get you going this week- to help you fill your minds with positive thoughts:  I am smart. I am open to new ideas and knowledge. “I can stand out in a crowd, though not with my looks, but with my smile. I am open to miracles. I can get through with ease. I am capable. I am beautiful. It is easy to fill our minds with positive thoughts, isn�'t it? Because words are healing agents when said/used right!

Desire it firmly in your heart, confidently, and earnestly (like a child). Do not be half-hearted in your demands and desires. Claim and demand the WHOLE THING, and feel confident that it will work out into material objectivity and reality. Think of it, dream of it, feel it as though you already have your desires met and always LONG for it. You must learn to want it “want it hard enough" with the right motive.  You can attain and obtain many things by “wanting them hard enough”. The problem with most people is that they do not desire for what they want hard enough, they allow people's opinions to becloud their thoughts, they mistake vague cravings and wished for earnest, longing, demanding desire and want. Learn to desire and demand for what you want just as you demand and desire your daily meals. That is “wanting it the worst way. I have never seen anyone who wanted it hard enough and didn't succeed! 

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could, and it could go no further. So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly. What the man, in his kindness and haste, did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to

No matter how sweet love can be, how it brings brightness and color to our lives, how it makes us strong and inspired through everyday, there are those who do not accept love, or at least had given up in the search for it. It is not that they don't believe in love, but there are some factors that may have contributed to making them believe that they may never find true love…ever. They say things like, I am not beautiful, no one will love me; I am not rich, no one will agree to go out with me; I don't have good clothes, I will not fit in and so on! How sad can the people who think this way be? If you are the one I am talking to, please change the way you think- if you still want to find true love. You should bear in mind that true love is not just about appreciating the physical aspect of an individual, but also accepting his inner personality. So listen, if someone you love makes you feel inferior, quit it now because he will never treat you any better when you tw

There are certain things in this world in which their physical appearance is far different from their real attributes. Using only our 5 bodily senses, we may readily accept what we see, hear, smell, taste, and feel even if it refutes reality. But with the mind, it helps us distinguish clearly what the entity really is; thus, helping us too in making wise decisions. Take for example this situation: you overheard a person say that it will rain this afternoon. Without thinking and analyzing the circumstances, you are going to believe it unhesitatingly. You may even cancel your plans in going out in order to avoid the hassle it will bring. In other words, without any basis other than some opinion of a person you do not even know, you accept the idea as true. And so, you make adjustments. Using the mind, we can always not believe what we sense. This is if, not only they contradict with the observations, analyses and evaluations we made with them, but also they disprove a gener

Burning your bridges is not something to be taken lightly. It requires careful thought and reflection. The process of deciding your purpose in life and what you want out of life can be a long one and can take many months and even years of refining as you get to know yourself better and explore the possibilities life has given you.  But once you reach a point where you know what you want out of life, you need to burn your bridges. You must let go of all other options and pursue the thing that you truly want. In reality this may be several things. The point is that these things make up your vision for your life. That is the vision you must be totally committed to. Do not say to yourself “I will try to be a great singer and if that fails then I will try teaching.” Such light hearted decisions rarely bear lasting fruit. Decide to be a singer, if that’s your passion in life, and stick to it relentlessly. Having options makes you lazy and makes you lose out on any good opportun

A woman was involved in a self-improvement program. She asked her husband to help her by listing six things he believed she could do to help her become a better wife. He reported to the class: "I was surprised by such a request. Frankly, it would have been easy for me to list six things I would like to change about her but I didn't. I said to her, 'Let me think about it and give you an answer in the morning.' "The next morning I had the florist send six red roses to my wife with a note: 'I can't think of six things I would like to change about you. I love the way you are.' "When I arrived at home that evening, who do you think greeted me at the door? That's right. My wife was almost in tears. I was extremely glad I had not criticized her. "The following Sunday at church, after she had reported the results of her assignment, several women came up to me and said, 'That was the most considerate thing I have ever hea

Are you wishing you could do something else order than what you are doing right now?  F or example, you spend your time  and days writing and someone tells you to go do something else that will fetch you quick money, yet you are passionate with your writing and trust that someday, somehow your writing will pay off, I've got good news for you- KEEP WRITING, KEEP DEVELOPING YOURSELF. You may not have all the money you need right now, but the truth is, as long as you know what you want, you will surely excel in the long run!  You are developing yourself and your writing skills which with the right opportunity, will put you in a position where you can acquire whatever you want- need I tell you about Linda Ikeji? So why throw all that away for just some quick cash? In fact, from experience, I have come to realise that we are money magnets. We are the source of money- yes we are! Only if you believe you are and that you have the ability to manifest it throw staying positiv

Although you can see that the glass is half-empty, you chose to see it in a positive way. It is still half-full, anyway. The absence of half of the volume of water didn't even bother you. What mattered was that it still contains water. If this is how you answered the question above and how you justified your answer, then you have a positive way of thinking. Positive thinking is a way of looking at the brighter side of life. Everything is good, beautiful, and light. There are no worries, problems, or fears. In short, all you see and believe in is, well, positive. I guess that is already the most suitable word in describing this way of thinking, which is why it is the term being used. This kind of thinking is very powerful in that if you think that you are going to pass an exam, you are going to pass; if you think that you will get noticed by your crush, you will get noticed; if you think you will get promoted at work, then you will get promoted. This is how powerful the

If you think you are beaten, you are If you think you dare not, you don't If you'd like to win, but think you can't it's almost certain you won't If you think you'll lose, you've lost For out of the world we find Success begins with a fellows will -  It's all a state of mind. If you think you're outclassed, you are You've got to think high to rise You've got to be sure of yourself before You can ever win a prize. Life's battle don't always go To the stronger or faster man But sooner or later the man who wins Is the one who thinks he can!

Left and Right Brain Relationship: Left Brain - logical, male, west, scientific, grasping, conceptualizing, analytical. Right Brain - emotional, female, east, intuitive, spatial, creative, artistic, receptive.

Achieving true beauty is not as hard as it may seem. As a matter of fact, to think beautiful is to be beautiful. That's right! All you need is the proper attitude towards believing how good you look and feel, and it will eventually show that you are, indeed.  The seeds of beauty are one of the most precious seeds of thought you can plant and cultivate in your mind. Just by thinking and saying, “I look good,” you sowed the seeds. After sowing these seeds, cultivation must begin.  Cultivation is comprised of the responsibility and the commitment on your part to make beauty a reality in your life. This takes time and work, especially that it needs to work on all the aspects of your being – physical, emotional, mental, and aesthetic. Cultivating the thought, “I look good” requires self-analysis, goal-setting, discipline, dedication, and patience until you can finally say, “I feel good. I am good.” What is very important in achieving good looks, feelings, and vibrations

A little boy wanted to meet God. He packed his suitcase with two sets of his dress and some packets of Cakes and he stared his journey. He walked a long and felt tired. So he sat in a park on the way and opened a packet to take a cake to eat. Then he noticed an old woman sitting sad with hunger nearby, so he offered her a piece of cake. She gratefully accepted it with a wide look and smiled at him. Her smile was so pretty that the boy longed to see it again. After some time he offered her another piece of cake. Again, she accepted it and smiled at him. The boy was delighted! They sat there all afternoon eating and smiling, but they never said a word. While it grew dark, the boy was frightened and he up got to leave but before he had gone more than a few steps, he ran back and gave her a hug and she kissed him with her prettiest smile. When the boy opened the door, his mother was surprised by the look of joy on his face. She asked him, "What did you do tod

A wealthy man requested an old scholar to wean his son away from his bad habits.  The scholar took the youth for a stroll through a garden. Stopping suddenly he asked the boy to pull out a tiny plant growing there. The youth held the plant between his thumb and forefinger and pulled it out. The old man then asked him to pull out a slightly bigger plant. The youth pulled hard and the plant came out, roots and all. “Now pull out that one,” said the old man pointing to a bush. The boy had to use all his strength to pull it out. “Now take this one out,” said the old man, indicating a guava tree. The youth grasped the trunk and tried to pull it out. But it would not budge.  “It’s impossible,” said the boy, panting with the effort. “So it is with bad habits,” said the sage. “When they are young it is easy to pull them out but when they take hold they cannot be uprooted.” The session with the old man changed the boy’s life. Don’t wait for Bad Habits to grow in you, d

Anxiety and stress are not only toxic to your physical health, but also to your self-confidence. Why not take some time out of your hectic schedule to seriously relax. By slowing your brain's thought pattern, you will be less emotional and you will feel calmer and more in control of your life- a key to feeling confident. Relax through whichever way that works for you, it could be through meditation (this works for me so well), yoga, listening to music, visiting the spa and having a good massage, or even just a night bubble bath. 

It was the coldest winter ever. Many animals died because of the cold. The hedgehogs, realizing the situation, decided to group together to keep warm. This way they covered and protected themselves; but the quills of each one wounded their closest companions. After awhile, they decided to distance themselves one from the other and they began to die, alone and frozen. So they had to make a choice: either accept the quills of their companions or disappear from the Earth. Wisely, they decided to go back to being together. They learned to live with the little wounds caused by the close relationship with their companions in order to receive the heat that came from the others. This way they were able to survive. The best relationship is not the one that brings together perfect people, but when each individual learns to live with the imperfections of others and can admire the other person's good qualities.

Never try to avoid the truths that lie before you, or deceive yourself by decorating them with niceties. We must always remain completely aware of the truths in our lives so that our necessary contributions to humanity might be shared. If there is a truth that must be told, do not try to explain it away or avoid it or lie about it--speak it, feel it, share it, and do what you can to help heal that hurt, no matter how small those efforts may seem. The truth always prevails, that's the truth you MUST know!

This is the story of two frogs. One frog was fat and the other skinny. One day, while searching for food, they inadvertently jumped into a vat of milk. They couldn't get out, as the sides were too slippery, so they were just swimming around. The fat frog said to the skinny frog, "Brother frog, there's no use paddling any longer. We're just going to drown, so we might as well give up." The skinny frog replied, "Hold on brother, keep paddling. Somebody will get us out." And they continued paddling for hours. After a while, the fat frog said, "Brother frog, there's no use. I'm becoming very tired now. I'm just going to stop paddling and drown. It's Sunday and nobody's working. We're doomed. There's no possible way out of here." But the skinny frog said, "Keep trying. Keep paddling. Something will happen, keep paddling." Another couple of hours passed. The fat frog said, "I can't go on

Of the many interactions I had with my mother those many years ago, one stands out with clarity. I remember the occasion when mother sent me to the main road, about twenty yards away from the homestead, to invite a passing group of seasonal work-seekers home for a meal. She instructed me to take a container along and collect dry cow dung for making a fire. I was then to prepare the meal for the group of work-seekers. The thought of making an open fire outside at midday, cooking in a large three-legged pot in that intense heat, was sufficient to upset even an angel. I did not manage to conceal my feelings from my mother and, after serving the group, she called me to the veranda where she usually sat to attend to her sewing and knitting. Looking straight into my eyes, she daid "Tsholofelo, why did you sulk when I requested you to prepare a meal for those poor destitute people?" Despite my attempt to deny her allegation, and using the heat of the fire and the sun as

A banana is hung on a string inside the cage and a set of stairs placed in the cage leading up to the banana. Whenever a monkey goes up the stairs and grabs the banana, ice-cold water is poured on all the monkeys in the cage. Very soon, as the monkeys begin to associate touching the banana with being sprayed with ice-cold water they will try to prevent one another from trying to get the banana. The cold water is then turned off and one monkey removed from the cage and replaced with another that doesn’t know anything about the cold water. This new monkey will inevitably try to get the banana, but the other four monkeys will attack him to stop him from doing so. If another of the old monkeys is removed and replaced with a newcomer, this newcomer will try to grab the banana. The previous newcomer will gladly take part in beating him up together with the other monkeys in order to prevent him from climbing the stairs to the banana. Slowly, all the original monkey can be re

When we think we are separate, we lose power. Whenever I say "my," I have lost my power. Power is not my power; it is not enlarging oneself as a separate individual. It is only gainable as part of a larger whole. Then you communicate with the rest of yourself--which may be a tree. You, reciprocally, are moved by the universe. Whenever you shut down connectedness, you get depressed. Psychic awareness breaks in as a gift. It is fearful to know we are connected to everything in the universe, because then we are responsible. 

A wise person said “Often, our actions and assumptions continue long after the reasons for them have passed.” That is why picking up things and doing them because others have always done and continue to do them that way is never a good idea. Any person who desires to be a great success and be a leader both to themselves and to others must not take anything for granted. Stephen Covey said “we simply assume that the way we see things is the way they really are or the way they should be. And our attitudes and behaviours grow out of these assumptions.” Your assumptions can influence your attitudes and behaviours in a big way and so ultimately influence your future. It is always necessary in any given circumstance to ask the question “why?” before doing or not doing anything.

Who is pulling your strings? Who is in control of your life and your destiny? Do you have a clear picture of where you are and where you are going or are you blinded and walking around in a daze?