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Your will is like a muscle, flex it! You must first exercise it and then push before it gets stronger. This necessarily involves short term pain, and most times long term. But be assured that the improvements will come and will touch your character in a most positive way.  That being said, when you are hungry, wait another hour before your meal. When you are pissed, take a deep breath and settle in, everything must not end up in a fight. When you are facing a temporary financial set back, learn to make do with the little that's available and be cheerful; someone somewhere doesn't even have a little to manage. When you are labouring over a difficult task and your mind is prompting you to pick up the latest magazine for a break or to get up and go talk to a friend, curb the impulse etc. Soon you will be able to sit for hours in a precisely concentrated state.  Sir Issac Newton, one of the greatest classical physicists the world has produced, once said: "if I ha

A full cup cannot accept anything more. Similarly, a person who believes that he cannot learn anything else will stagnate quickly and not move to higher levels. A true sign of a secure, mature individual is someone who sees every opportunity as a chance to learn. Even the teachers have teachers.

Couples, either newly married or married to each other for a long time, should understand that they need to communicate. It may sound surprising, but recent studies show that communication issues actually top the list of the most important things that couples hope they had focused on before jumping into marriage. Talk. It is unsafe to assume that a partner knows the others thoughts and needs and vice versa. Ask, and do not assume. Then pay close attention and listen to what is being said. Don't just hear. Acknowledge that what has been said is clearly understood.It goes a long way to avert any brooding problem!

A lot of us are more interested in finding out what we are here for. But have you really taken time to find out what you are not here for? Someone once said, "The more you are aware of the things you are not supposed to do, the more you will love to do what you are supposed to do." Below are just a few amongst many of what we are not here for. We are not here to blame; We are not here to cry; We are not here to sleep; We are not here to show off; We are not here to fight; We are not here to be miserable; We are not here to be angry; We are not here to worry; We are not here to oppress the helpless; We are not here to envy and gossip one another; We are not here to live our lives on other people's opinion; We are not here to compete with one another. The list is endless. You are free to add to the list. Have a flourishing week!

How many people we know who have soured their lives, good friendships and relationships, who have ruined all that is sweet and beautiful by explosive tempers, who have destroyed their poise of character, and made bad blood!  It is a question of whether the great majority of people do not ruin their lives and mar their happiness by lack of self-control. Only few people we meet in life are well-balanced and have that exquisite poise which is characteristic of the finished character!  Most times, we don't need to prove any point to anybody, which most times lead to ego and destruction. Only the wise man, only he whose thoughts are controlled and purified  makes the winds and storms of the soul/life obey him! Let's be wise then!

You create your life. Whatever you sow, you reap! Your thoughts are seeds, and the harvest you reap will depend on the seeds you plant.  Louise Hay says "How you start your day is how you live your day. How you live your day is how you live your life."

Every person, if he is to have mental health and live successfully, MUST move away from past failures, mistakes and regrets and go forward without letting them be a weight upon him. The art of forgetting is absolutely necessary when it comes to your healing and letting go. Yet, be wise!

We all know that the heart  is our power house, therefore we must ensure that we take good care of it. Here are a few tips to guide you: Cut down on Salt. Too much salt can cause high blood pressure, and as such increase the risk of developing coronary heart disease. Watch your diet. Try to have a balanced diet. Each fresh fruits and vegetables, starch foods such as wholegrain bread and rice. Monitor your Bp, blood sugar and cholesterol level. Routine medical check-ups will ring an alarm, if you need medical help. Laughter is the best therapy. Laughter, anytime will work wonders for you. It instantly relieves pressure, and will make you feel light too. Cut back on foods that contain partially hydrogenated vegetable oils to reduce trans fat in your diet. Have a Happy Healthy Heart! xxxxxx

Love and gratitude can part seas... It can move mountains and it can create miracles. The power of love and gratitude will dissolve all negativity in our lives no matter what the form has taken. Many people who order their lives rightly in all other ways are kept in poverty by their lack of gratitude.

There are so many opinions, "good opinions" of people that if you welcome it, will destroy you. Be careful when you listen to what seems to be working for people. Your life and destiny is different from the next person. For example, you see your friends or colleagues jumping into several businesses and they are succeeding, and you jump into the same business without finding out from GOD if that it what HE wants you to do, yet you wonder why theirs is thriving and yours isn't! Ask GOD to reveal HIS purpose for you, and not people's opinion or what they feel you can do. It all lies within you. Refuse to be overwhelmed by the whole bandwagon effects.

When you fall in love with life, every limitation disappears. You break the limitations on money, health, happiness, and the limits of joy in your relationships. Fall in love with life, unleash the power within you, and you will become unlimited and someone that cannot be defeated by situations of life. 

Norman Vincent Peale says: "There is a basic law that like attracts like. Negative thinking definitely attracts negative results. Conversely, if a person habitually thinks optimistically and hopefully, his positive thinking sets in motion creative forces- and success instead of eluding him flows toward him.

There are many small steps to this one action. It involves maintaining your personal grooming by bathing regularly, brushing and flossing your teeth, and eating tasty and healthy food. It also means making time for yourself, even when you are very busy and when others monopolize much of your time. It may not seem this way, but when you take care of your basic needs, you are telling yourself you deserve the time and attention it takes to practice self care. Learn to believe in yourself. You don't have to look like Brad Pitt or Jennifer Lopez to start building your self confidence. All you need is to take care of yourself and always tell yourself that you're worth caring about. This way you will start developing some level of good confidence.

Avoid spending time around things that can make you feel bad about yourself again. These might be reminders from the past, places that don’t fit with your new goals of gaining confidence, friends that have refused to see the positive changes in you, or even clothes that no longer fit.  You can and are able to get rid of every negative source in your life. Yes, it is very possible! And this will go a long way in helping to build your self-confidence. Take the time to write down all the things you know that are contributing to your negativity, literally eliminate them one after another, see yourself releasing yourself from them, could be mean friends, an unbearable relationship, a career that isn't your calling etc. Let it all go.. What is life if you can't enjoy peace of mind and happiness? Every human being deserves a good life and a good living! Don't you ever forget that! 

Do not become mesmerize by the pictures that have appeared if they are not what you want. Take responsibility for them, make light of them if you can, and let them go. Then think new thoughts of what you want, feel them, and be grateful that it is done!

Medication is of course important but do not conclude that a pill dissolving in your stomach is necessarily more powerful than a healing thought in your mind!

We sometimes require the darkness of difficulties and hardships in our lives to move to the next level or another dimension of our lives! Life is beautiful if you stop thinking that every challenge you are facing is because you are disadvantaged. Do you take the time to realize the positive potentials you have hrough your obstacles, difficulties, or setbacks? For example, a failed relationship can help you discover who you are, what you did well and what you didn't do well, and ways to get better at being best.  A job that is difficult and unpleasant can bring out those hidden potentials you never thought you had. Poverty can help you realise how much of an economist you are by managing every single dime well even when you thought you could never work your  way around a certain amount of money. A quarrel with your spouse will teach you to be more patient, understanding and loving. And so on. So you see, nothing is as bad as it seems. All you need to do is to change yo

At some point in our lives, the majority of us need healing- spiritual healing, emotional healing and mental healing. Experience has thought me that you can never help someone who has drowned himself/herself in their own shattered perspectives, you know, trying to play the role of a healer". That is not your role!  I remember rendering a kind assistance to someone who was deeply in need,(I guess I was just being a "busy body") but the person started putting up a mean attitude towards me for whatever reasons known to her. I ignored her, as I was grateful for the privilege. Well, my point is, as much as each and every one of us is here on earth to solve needs, the truth is, you MUST always ask GOD to bring the right people to whom you are to help! There are people GOD has assigned you to help, not just anyone! Remember, wisdom is profitable to direct! Learn to discern who genuinely needs to be helped.

When you know you are kind to the people around you, and are making a positive difference in other people's lives (even if it's just being kinder to the person who opens the gate for you everyday), you will know that you are a positive force in the world and your good deeds will be rewarded by GOD! Find a way to make helping others a part of your weekly routine, no matter how small. The act of helping will not only benefit others, but it will glorify GOD and bring life to your purpose! You don't have to help someone in your community to feel the benefits of helping others. Sometimes, someone close to you, such as your mother or your best friend, will need your help as much as anyone.

Resolve to remain as strong, as determined, and as highly enthused during the darkest night of adversity as you are and will be during the sunniest day of prosperity. Do not feel disappointed when things seem disappointing, even though sometimes as humans we get uncomfortable with our situations, but quickly snap out of it and remind yourself whose child you are! Keep your eyes focused on the same brilliant future regardless of circumstances, conditions, or events. Do not lose heart when things go wrong.  Continue undisturbed in your original resolve to make all things go right... “The man who never weakens when things are against him will grow stronger and stronger until all things will delight to be for him. He will finally have all the strength he may desire or need. Be always strong and you will always be stronger!

Getting your children to open up to you can be daunting. You might get one word or two words response like "okay," "fine," "yes," "don't know" and sometimes you might be greeted with a loud silence. All these depend on the kind of relationship you have with your children.  I remember as a little girl, whenever I did something that may not necessarily be wrong, My mom would call me and say, "don't worry, tell me the truth" but before I could finish telling her exactly what happened, I would have received the worst beatings of my life. Because of my parents constant punishments even before hearing me out, I never opened up to them as an adolescent. Ever! Learn to build and strengthen your relationship with your kids. So to break barriers in communication with your children, here are some tips: Make yourself available, build trust and make it a daily routine to connect with them. Children tend to open up in casual